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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by monsieur55: 9:55pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
vichaz10: 1 Like |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Rukkydelta(f): 4:57pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Yesterday was world's introvert day And it was a "parte after parte" for me Yeah I partied in my thoughts and it was delightful 5 Likes
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babtoundey(m): 6:22pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Rukkydelta:In your thoughts.. lol |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Chibuchris: 6:45pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
vichaz10: Happy I have someone like me because sometimes I think I am weird. I can stay 3 hours just thinking of how sweet and fun the kind of life i want, just fantasy. It get to some point I start feeling serious headaches I just force myself to sleep. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by TeeBabss(m): 7:06pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by cheesmooth(m): 11:17pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
I am an introvert but I'm shocked by the stories I'm reading here. Alot of you actually need some psychological help, you're timid and a social misfit, probably due to abuse during childhood or something. Introvert isn't timidity, neither is it being afraid of others. It's about enjoying your own time but interacting with others when need be. Inability to interact with others at all is a psychological problem. One should seek medical help for such a problem. Introverts have friends and partners. I'm married and have couple of friends and loads of acquaintances. I mostly spend time with myself but I don't also run away from people. I don't think a lot of you guys here are introverts. You are socially awkward. What I may term s social misfit. Please seek help quickly. I also noticed people talking about being trampled on. I don't talk much, hardly interact deeply with acquaintances, neighbours, colleagues, workers etc but I notice I'm very highly respected. It seems nobody wants to offend me. They talk to me with so much respect, even those older than me that it baffles me. I still don't understand why. This has made me disregard the notion that quiet people are trampled on. The reverse has always been the case for me. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Sard(m): 9:57am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Gaggi: Well articulated! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by madbuk: 10:56am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Gaggi:Alot of people have made some points just like you have,giving their own evaluation of who an introvert is or not but without the use of judgmental terms. You can be blunt in your utterances but tagging people misfits and all..smh I'm not disputing the fact some introverts may actually need psychological help no doubt, but the fact that you're different doesn't make you any better.. Everybody na king for him lane introvert or not. Read the book : The road less traveled by M. Scott Peck Go through his therapy sessions of some of his patients, how he evaluated them to get to the root of their neurosis. At no point was he judgemental about his patients condition tho he was firm and blunt on some occasions he never tagged them social misfits.. You'll be a bad psychotherapist uncle... ![]() No be fight ooo ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by madbuk: 11:35am On Jan 04, 2020 |
DivineGrace123:Introverts think their words through before they utter them. We don't use terms we wouldn't want people to use on us because we are sensitive. What he terms respect is what happens when one carry's with them an air of mystery which people don't understand yet, which is what he seems to portray at the moment. When they see the person behind the smoke screen, take a seat, a bottle coke and a bucket of popcorn and watch how the disrespect and jabs start to come at him, that's when he'll know if he was really respected. Humans would always fear what they don't know..what they respect is the air of mystery around you not YOU!!!!! A little lesson for him, be vulnerable and open for a week or two, let's see if he won't be tested/disrespected. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Ftheophilous(m): 2:03pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
With the way the members of this thread went for Gaggi's head on a pike shows that indeed most of us here are proper introverts. A real introvert is empathetic, sensitive, compassionate and is able to imagine himself in one's shoe - I'm sure y'all already know this. Therefore, with the knowledge that this is obviously an introvert lounge, for introverts, and filled with introverts where words get embedded in our thought and can drastically change our perception of our self and surrounding, such words from him are completely unrefined, crude and lack thorough thoughtfulness...."a bit harsh"? "No. Not really". "I'm actually saying this with an understanding tone", lol. Not to mince words, whatever Gaggi said, however brutal, is simply the truth. Some of us here have discussed certain features about our self that mirrors an introvert's trait but isn't necessarily an introvert's. The best thing is to read far and wide about these traits, to know more about them, and learn how to overcome them or to meet with people with similar issues and learn how they managed theirs as we are doing here. I've said it before. An introvert isn't timid, silent, reticence or laconic by nature. It is more as a result of choice. 4 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by oyetpel(m): 5:08pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
madbuk: i love the bolded. I think not being close to people, make them not to know me and that's why they respect me. Although, i have always know that being too close to people will make them know you well or treat one like trash. I just love this thread anytime i read updates from people. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by oyetpel(m): 5:13pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Ftheophilous: Most people are bearing their minds out, so of course there will be some weird things about them, and they didn't hesitate to share it. They probably know its an issue, but maybe saying out here and getting advice might just help them. If we go Gaggi way, no one will share their deepest thoughts here again, in case they might be judged or condemned. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 6:51pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Apologies if I came across as harsh. I'm also an introvert but some things I'm reading here does not strike me as introversion. If a person is antisocial or has esteem issues, he or she shouldn't hide under being an introvert. In the words of ftheophilous, which I perfectly agree with: I've said it before. An introvert isn't timid, silent, reticence or laconic by nature. It is more as a result of choice. Some here are even depressed and saying they are no good. Poor self esteem is not a trait of an introvert. There is a thin line between an introvert and an antisocial person. Let's learn to differentiate both. 5 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Kintomadit(m): 6:55pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
You are on point bro. I’m even scared to interact with my siblings. I think that’s way beyond introvert o |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Ftheophilous(m): 7:56pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Gaggi: Well spoken, and of course on behalf of us all, apology accepted. An anti social person can seem like an introvert, but as you said they are separated by a thin line. While an anti-social may be apprehensive of new social situations, an introvert is just not much interested, preferring(not abhorring) his sanctitude( his personal time) to think and map out plans etc. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Ftheophilous(m): 8:06pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
oyetpel: ....Aren't we all weired one way or the other, introvert or not. ....That's why I said sharing your problems here might just make you meet someone with the same and is or has been able to manage his. ....true. But bear in mind that this is a faceless forum where you can choose to reveal your identity or not, so sharing your deepest and most intimate thoughts will just be considered normal here in this thread. Therefore, don't feel shy. Share away while help comes knocking. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by oyetpel(m): 9:33pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
DivineGrace123: Wrong, a child in that class can be grow up to be shy and timid, an event can change the personality of such a child. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Hakeem12(m): 9:52pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Currently where I intern, I say hi to the guys there and just go about my business. That's been the routine since I got there till few days ago. I listen to their conversations when I'm not busy, and I got to understand what each person likes, how they think and their favorite topics of discussion. You pick up a lot just listening. I struck up a chat with one of them three days ago, we talked for hours and guy was like..."you are a very good conversationalist" if that's even an English word. He then said his initial assumption about me was that I was an arrogant person, but that now he knows better. He said he also thinks I'm a good listener cos others in the office seems like they just want the other person to shut up so they can also talk. My boss for example likes to think of himself as the most brilliant person in the office, he hates it when anyone tries to show they know better than him. But it seems no one seems to know this, I discovered that just within three days of starting. But then there are situations where I wish I had joined in on a conversation, said something better and all. But I think the pros outweigh the cons for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Ftheophilous(m): 10:26pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
oyetpel: You beat me to it. It is true that the environment plays a role in shaping one's future behaviour, but it has little or no effect on one's personality. I believe a person's personality controls the way he understands his environment. While the environment contributes significantly to a person's wealth of experience, it does little or nothing on that person's innate character. For example, growing up in the ghetto made me tough and vastly experienced at a young age. I literally wake up and sleep to the smell of hemp and marijuana. At a young age, I've already started handling hard drinks and drugs but believe me when I tell you that I can't drink even though I know all kinds and sorts of drinks. With my cool demeanour and gentlemanlike attitude, people find it difficult to believe that I can even speak pidgin english or the idea that I'm actually a ghetto kid. Maybe all this made me bold, direct and unafraid to air my views, but I know that I'm an introvert because I'm one to analyse my surrounding before I act. I'm not a brute, an insensitive or a shallow person. I also very much like my alone time This is just an example, so this is by no measure a means to generalize. There are many other examples I can give but let me wait for others. 1 Like |
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