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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by kingspeter42(m): 1:39pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by younghartz(m): 1:40pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Once I know I'm an option,im walking out... On God! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 1:41pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
If I sense I am falling for a girl too much, I run because that means I would be at her mercy. I always prefer for the balance of power to me in my favor always. Chase money, never chase a bitch. Women will fvck you up if they sense that you love them. OP, run away from that relationship & hug your hustle. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by chukzyfcbb: 1:41pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
You my friend is one desperate Fella! There is no way you will win over a guy who - agrees to a no sex relationship - has houses and cars - lives abroad - who has already captured her attention and that of her Mom & Sisters (Dads no get problem) Bro even your own sister cannot leave such guy, you are fighting a lost cause! Your emotions are getting a hold of you because you come in contact with her at the office daily. That abroad guy will beat you to this game bruh, Your heart break is coming soon 14 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by BREYZ: 1:42pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Some guys Sha. I don't know what is wrong with some guys this 2020. You dey see red light, u still dey put head. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by safarigirl(f): 1:43pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
You came to seek advice on NL to break up with your ex, now you are back for more advice on whether you should move ahead with a new girl You will still return for advice when you want to break up with this one, and furthermore when you want to get engaged, and even more advice when you want to get married, it is still NLers that will tell you when to impregnate your wife and when to enroll your child in school If you are not mature enough to think for yourself, without seeking the advice of total strangers on your life decisions, then you are not mature enough to date at all. Like someone said, grow a pair and stop running to the internet for validation. Your Ex doesn't know what God did for her to remove such an adult baby from her life. When she finds a real man that doesn't need validation from virtual people, she will be thankful. 8 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by samsam2019: 1:44pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
I hope you have smashed her? That girl is going back to her man and you're just one brother wey..... |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Huchennar(m): 1:44pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
I just feel at the end you gonna lose all the 3points not even a draw. when you see someone physically and communicate regularly there is this affection that starts developing and this i think is happening between both of you. if she can still be so much affectionate about a guy she has not seen for years believe me you the moment they both set their eyes on each other the narrative will change and you'll just become a passer-by 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 1:44pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
chukzyfcbb: I can’t even date any girl in the same place I work. How do people do that sh!t? The OP is playing a losing game as that girl will smash his heart. OP is just an option. I can never give anybody the pleasure to have me as an option, I must always be the “prize”—even if the girl is from the village. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Sweeetheart(m): 1:45pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Erediauwa: Erediauwa I don't know who gave birth to you but I'm happy for them, they gave birth to an intelligent man I don't know why educated and learned guys fall in the hand of these disloyal dogs. just imagine a lady had a date but want to leave the guy for you, then what give you the confidence she won't later leave you for someone else ? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Egobe: 1:45pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
MrHighSea: Better Talk, Don't be an Option! If things go haywire,you won't like yourself. Love,but use your head Once again,Don't be an Option, Be smart. Be a Man 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Khomed: 1:47pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Mr Brother, Should I call this a self esteem issue or what. How do guys still go for ladies who tell you they have someone on the sideline? Why would you chose to be an option. Bros when and if the obodo oyinbo brother comes around this babe who follow forget all this your she lobe you I love am.... Yes she ticks all your boxes but calm down she also had made a choice earlier on with the obodo brother and her family is aware of the choice. With her actions its very clear you can't put this goat in your house cause when she sees another yam she would chow(I could be wrong sha ooo) or you also don't plan on going on courses or travelling that could cause distance between you both. Oga take a step back lemove lobe from your eyes and think deeply. The person that spoil another person own so his own would be better hmmnn I don't know the outcome oooohhjj 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 1:48pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
safarigirl: You completely avoided the subject at hand & adviced him not to seek advice on NL from his brothers who will never lead him astray. Why now? Is it because you know that guys here will not lead him the slaughter house that you girls always want guys to go to? Men are not robots who derive pleasure in getting hurt by women all the time. Let us all advice the OP objectively. NL is the best place to get advice on matters of the heart—excluding of course, delicate marital matters. 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Egobe: 1:48pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Huchennar: Bless YOU,bless You. The way the girl go break your heart without thinking twice en,fear go catch you. Women no get joy,even if you give them heaven and Earth., dem fit discard you anytime, anyhow. Forget love,we have seen it all. 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Carson110(m): 1:48pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Nawa 9 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by GT07115: 1:50pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Sikay19:If only u point out the errors and made corrections I would have love it , u claimed u didn't read it how come u are seeing errors? U got the message the dude is trying to put across anyway, beside I don't see much errors which can prevent one from not being able to peruse the write up, u have people who studied English on this platform and I believe u didn't , so stop the over sabi. U can never speak the language like the original owners nor will the original owner claim to be a professional in it , language we are meant to understand is dynamic English inclusive. If u know what's speech art theory and register in language u will learn not to pull people off their feet . The president of US Donald Trump made a mistake when it comes to his language usages which is English , if u claim ignorance of it I will bring it on this platform because I once did. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Uniquekriss(m): 1:50pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Bros leave all those yarnings, there's no crime in loving another person's gf, after all, u don't know or have any relationship with d supposed Yankee bf, no girl is single, if she's not in a relationship, she must have someone she admires or one who makes her happy without responsibilities. If ur feelings for her is genuine all u need do is dissuade her from further communications with d other guy, who knows if he even has her in his plans. Go and do introduction first if u can afford it, when she graduates in less than 1yr u tie d knots, by then your finances should have soared high like u want, I'm sure her parents would prefer u to d other 'invisible' bros and u have prospects that wouldn't take long to materialize. I've a pastor who is celebrating 14years of blissful marriage to a lady who was engaged to another man when he met her. He "disengaged and reengaged" her. Lol. Invite me to your wedding bros. |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by wintersnow(m): 1:50pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Lamanii22: I think you're the one for me.. I just feel it deep down.. Can I contact you privately? 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by bolayei: 1:52pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
So people like you dey spoil the girls wey we de hope to marry for naija mind, after we don invest and take care of them your type go just start telling them that we have other girls and the whole a bird in hand worth a million in the Bush nonsense. Let me advice you to advice the girl. Tell her to stay away from you and you do same if you claim you love her. The guy is younger, built houses, has a business, lives abroad that means he can take her abroad after marriage, their children lives are certain unlike the uncertainty in Nigeria. The guy is not as educated but I am sure he has some education and I bet my balls he is more exposed than you because he has seen the world and and how diverse it is, that alone pass that your IT degree or java that anyone can learn on YouTube. My guy you don't stand a chance against the guy except the girl na mumu or here village people dey on her case. Nigeria and this I am very educated nonsense. Se na those Nigerian universities una de call school or those yeye secondary school. Higher education is specific to a career can a doctor build bridges? So you sabi IT him sabi business that does not make you more educated. Only advice I have for you is in the ten commandments.. Leave another man wife alone 7 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by safarigirl(f): 1:54pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
uninspired07:NL is filled with children, premature boys that think everybwoman is out to get them and their imaginary money. Most people on this romance section especially, are teenagers. Anybody looking for petty advice on Romance Section multiple times, is not old enough to be in a relationship. So, he does not have anyone offline he can confide in, it is strangers that barely know the intricacies of the relationship that will tell him what to do? I did not even read most of his rubbish, and woe betide me I waste advice on such a clueless person. The rest of you can keep forming Dr. Phil, he obviously needs all the attention he can get ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Tumbulum: 1:56pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
I didn't read all the story but from the little I red so far,I came to a conclusion that the girl is naïve. |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 1:56pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Uniquekriss: Will the OP will be able to cope when the girl starts disturbing him or acting funny after she finds out that OP is not as rich as her abroad based bobo? The issue with these girls do not end even after marriage. They will keep tormenting men till we die. The only marriage you can enjoy is one where your woman surrenders to & respects you naturally, not one where you had to fight for her attention before marriage. That means you will be fighting for the rest of your life. The lifespan of men is short when he has to keep living up to the expectations of his wife. 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by chukzyfcbb: 1:56pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
uninspired07:. He already revelaed to the girl that he needed marriage after a few visits, now the babe is using him to play ball....She heard the word marriage and put up the good girl mode and now a brother can't think clearly. I am sure he can't identify her flaws and see if it's something he can live with, he saw a lady who shares the same interest with him in Tech and felt he had seen an angel. It will end in tears, lol |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by safarigirl(f): 1:57pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Carson110:lol, see advice. This is the advice some people are looking for here, sleep with her two or three times, that is how your daughter will be slept with and dumped by an idiot. Later, one unfortunate woman will procreate with this one. God help women |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ijabiken1(m): 1:58pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
ultimate77:hope u av Bleep the girl,if nt forget it o,bcus that guy that as everything, if he Bleep her b4 u then Oyo lowa |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 1:58pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
safarigirl: While you might be right in some of your submissions, it is undoubtedly true that what most Nigerian women look out for in relationship is money. We can’t shy away from that. And contrary to your beliefs, it’s not all members of the romance section that are teenagers or young people. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by profstar(m): 1:59pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
kazyhm: @ bolded, biggest mistake a guy can make, she will "act" 'wife material' for you till you guys get married and then permanently 'retire' from acting. ![]() Sometimes she might not even be playing you intentionally, but human subconscious has a way of taking the wheel once desire is attached, desire here is marriage 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by uninspired07: 2:00pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
chukzyfcbb: He should run away. He shouldn’t even try to sleep with the girl. He should just run & go secure the bag while looking for a less beautiful & more homely girl. Unless, he wants to keep fighting for her love the rest of their marriage. |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Uniquekriss(m): 2:01pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
bolayei:no be only another man wife. So many notable Nigerians school here and prosper too, life isn't all about so much money, happiness matters, d abroad bf may not know her too well and may be unable to balance their differences cos they didn't really court, if this IT guy actually was celibate for 1year, bros, he's a husband material for any good woman, na ur type dey dump woman here for donkey years and she gets to her thirties then later disappoint her. If u have a woman u are planning with and u are over there, once u make small money, send home so your people can marry her on your behalf and she meets u over there if not, facebook love is your case. (Matchmaking) |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by benjijosh(m): 2:04pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
The abroad guy is a built man. On the other hand, you are a guy with a promising future. She's faced with the fact that she has a man that would give her anything she wants but her happiness and future is at stake to some extent while you are a man yet to be established (from her view) but her happiness and future is 100% with you in her life. Should you do anything extra like getting a car to impress her?? Nopes, don't even dare. Let her love you for who you are. Is she going to leave you?? Well, there's a 50% chance she will leave you for the other guy and her excuse will be that she doesn't want to hurt him after all the years. What do I think you should do?? Be yourself, the best version of yourself. Love her genuinely. Don't go extra to win her over(buying her things to impress her). And also, prepare for a hard landing cause your plane could come crashing if the guy returns anytime soon but in the case your love grows with your girl and the said man is not back to take her for himself, do the needful. Propose marriage to her. Love comes at some cost. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by TGON(m): 2:04pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Ifakiland:true talk my niggi.....ghost (lead actor in power) taught me alot of life lessons......hw he handled women was especially impressive..... o.p you shud watch n learn......women aint worth all dese hassle.....peace bro 3 Likes |
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