First and foremost, it is disrespectful to be in a relationship/ have sex with your sisters house help in her own house.
First get and apartment and if you want to date her remove her from that position of house help to a more befitting job.

It's funny how non of you you guys could see the obvious picture.

Your sister is bi-sexual. She is either protecting you from making a mistake or she is downrightly jealous

chigoizie7:
Why do people keep misusing “ I am” as “ am” ?


At 29, you cannot ask your sister to tell you why you cannot date her.


Keep asking Nairaland, later you will call yourself a mature man.

And why are people seeing a 25 year old lady as just a housemaid?

That maid sef de dull ooh, at 25 she is still doing housemaid job. Her only hope in this life is to migrate from housemaid to a housewife.

Girls her age are learning skills to better their lives .

You do know that it costs money to learn a skill, right?

Except a lady has supportive parents, sells her body or has a job how will she learn this skill you are proposing?

generationz:

You do know that it costs money to learn a skill, right?

Except a lady has supportive parents, sells her body or has a job how will she learn this skill you are proposing?

It is hard, yes. I also know that life is not easy. But can you imagine yourself being a housemaid at 25?

Come on I am not saying that everyone has the same opportunities ooh, no, but I have seen people less than her age and even less educated as she is, straight from the village to the cities to hustle, they started very small just so they can atleast Feed. Life is not easy, but we have to start somewhere, soon she will be 30 and might no longer be reachable.

I have seen women with kids that started from selling satchet waters to selling cold drinks.


Unless the maid has resolved to just migrate from housemaid to housewife.

She might be there waiting for a help to come from somewhere, that help might never come.

All I am saying is that it is still too early for now to reposition her life.

I think your sister is just avoiding a hit and run episode..

If you want to date her, do that outside her work environment, because if anything happens and you put her or she put you in a family way your sister would be held liable. Try and find out about her very well, don't be deceived by outward acting, get to know her family.

chigoizie7:


It is hard, yes. I also know that life is not easy. But can you imagine yourself being a housemaid at 25?

Come on I am not saying that everyone has the same opportunities ooh, no, but I have seen people less than her age and even less educated as she is, straight from the village to the cities to hustle, they started very small just so they can atleast Feed. Life is not easy, but we have to start somewhere, soon she will be 30 and might no longer be reachable.

I have seen women with kids that started from selling satchet waters to selling cold drinks.


Unless the maid has resolved to just migrate from housemaid to housewife.

She might be there waiting for a help to come from somewhere, that help might never come.

All I am saying is that it is still too early for now to reposition her life.

Oh, Lord, please. You have seen, you have seen.


Also, I have seen girls who came straight from the village and started prostituting. I have seen girls with average to wealthy parents sell their bodies for latest gadgets and trips abroad.


Do you know if she has plans with the money she's making as a help?

Do you know if she is the breadwinner of her family?

Even the handwork you are talking about, how many people who are good at their crafts are making money like before let alone those who might not be so good.

You are just like the ops sister if you look down on her job and think being a help isn't noble.

It is men like you who will fall for insta messenger girls sending themselves to school with 10k prostitution.

In your mind you have found a classy girlfriend. You will even be feeding and clothing her while other men are using your girlfriend to cure konji.

Nothing wrong with a girl who uses her hands to sustain herself and you can't predict someone's destiny. Mercy Johnson was once an househelp.

maybe she is your sister's daughter. just saying..

chigoizie7:


It is hard, yes. I also know that life is not easy. But can you imagine yourself being a housemaid at 25?

Come on I am not saying that everyone has the same opportunities ooh, no, but I have seen people less than her age and even less educated as she is, straight from the village to the cities to hustle, they started very small just so they can atleast Feed. Life is not easy, but we have to start somewhere, soon she will be 30 and might no longer be reachable.

I have seen women with kids that started from selling satchet waters to selling cold drinks.


Unless the maid has resolved to just migrate from housemaid to housewife.

She might be there waiting for a help to come from somewhere, that help might never come.

All I am saying is that it is still too early for now to reposition her life.

I have never seen so much nonsense written in my days on Nairaland.

Have your head in mate.

generationz:


Oh, Lord, please. You have seen, you have seen.


Also, I have seen girls who came straight from the village and started prostituting. I have seen girls with average to wealthy parents sell their bodies for latest gadgets and trips abroad.


Do you know if she has plans with the money she's making as a help?

Do you know if she is the breadwinner of her family?

Even the handwork you are talking about, how many people who are good at their crafts are making money like before let alone those who might not be so good.

You are just like the ops sister if you look down on her job and think being a help isn't noble.

It is men like you who will fall for insta messenger girls sending themselves to school with 10k prostitution.

In your mind you have found a classy girlfriend. You will even be feeding and clothing her while other men are using your girlfriend to cure konji.

Nothing wrong with a girl who uses her hands to sustain herself and you can't predict someone's destiny. Mercy Johnson was once an househelp.

He is talking so much thrash.

Most Nigerians keep shouting handwork and still a poverty capital country.

The guy you quoted thinks everything just falls in place according to his theory of life.

“Imagine you are 25 and a house maid?”

Mate doesn’t even know older people do such jobs to survive abroad. I don’t blame him. He is all in his head and thinks he is educated about life.

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branch here in Akure, Ondo State.
I stay in my elder sister house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.
To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that have never dated before, just that it never work well while I was in school.
The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she cudn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.
She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also take her as a sister not an house help.
Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an invent and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.
She called me in and ask what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but wish I cud date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

Just sad that at 29, you don't seem to have developed a mental maturity commensurate with your age.
If you haven't by now realized why your sister is right not to support your annoyingly puerile behaviour, then you're much slower than envisaged.

madridguy:
One of the most dangerous place on earth to be poor is AFRICA. The elites hate the poor simply because they are poor forgotten no one knows tomorrow.

My dear OP, do you know what " Honor killing " means? I would advise you to leave the innocent lady alone before your sister kill or harm her.

Your sister is a proud and selfish woman. Forget the lady because if you ever go along with her, your sister may kill or harm her or never regard/respect her as a wife.

Everybody is not as heartless/demonic as muslims involved in "honour killing"

If you truly love her you can convince your sister.



If I were in your shoes and knowing my sister I'd know how to convince her. Dont ever give up on a good girl no matter the circumstances. Good girls are like diamonds. Very rare

Omo Iya, if e sure u say na love u get 4 her and no be say u wan chop her ponmo, tell her ur feelings bro, she self fit lyk u, gege shey gege niyen...... All za bezt

madridguy:
One of the most dangerous place on earth to be poor is AFRICA. The elites hate the poor simply because they are poor forgotten no one knows tomorrow.

My dear OP, do you know what " Honor killing " means? I would advise you to leave the innocent lady alone before your sister kill or harm her.

Your sister is a proud and selfish woman. Forget the lady because if you ever go along with her, your sister may kill or harm her or never regard/respect her as a wife.

Pls stop this its only in Africa stuff.
The world all over people suffer the same fate.
It is not just Africa.
Class exist everywhere even if you are rich there are some European families that won't accept you .

Princess Diana family are also Muslim?

Lee29:


Everybody is not as heartless/demonic as muslims involved in "honour killing"

Op, the first thing is the girl has to stop being a housemaid, it will require a lot of time and patience tho, if u can afford accommodation for the girl then get one for her, she can start learning a trade or something, you don't need Permission from ANYBODY to date a 25year old. about ur sister, she just doesn't like the fact that her housemaid would become her sister in law

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branch here in Akure, Ondo State.
I stay in my elder sister house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.
To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that have never dated before, just that it never work well while I was in school.
The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she cudn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.
She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also take her as a sister not an house help.
Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an invent and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.
She called me in and ask what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but wish I cud date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

maybe she's protecting her from you, maybe she's scared you will break her heart

Davash222:
The Oga of the house nko, I mean your sister’s husband? Hope he’s also seeing the pretty, caring, neat and intelligent 25 years old house help

Davash222:
The Oga of the house nko, I mean your sister’s husband? Hope he’s also seeing the pretty, caring, neat and intelligent 25 years old house help

In fact, let me edit my comment, I just went through your post history and wasnt surprised at all.

Damn Niga, how can you date your sister's house help? That's some fuvk up predator shiit.

If Nigerian men are put to the extremely scrutinizing test on sexual misconduct that's raving the western world, most of our popular and successful figures would have been disgraced I swear.

Guy, you shouldn't date your sister's house help. You would hold all the Aces and that's bad for a relationship. Leave that girl alone. If you're sincere and honest with your intentions, let your sister relive her of her job. You take care of her while she's living with her parents.

Don't fuvk up that girls life with your predator instinct I beg you. Fine, neat, caring girls full everywhere way no be your sister's help.

This got nothing to do with your supposedly superior class or status.

*sighs*

Can you imagine what OP is asking us?
Ain't these questions better directed to your SISTER? How can you be 29 years old and still feel you need someone's permission to date?

*walks out of thread*

CAPSLOCKED:
I SEE WHAT YOUR PROBLEM IS. YOU WANT EASY ACCESS TO SEX, DON'T YOU?

OLE!
YOU DON'T WANT TO DATE HER, YOU JUST WANT TO EJACULATE. PLEASE MASTURBATÈ FREQUENTLY TO PREVENT CAUSING ISSUES BETWEEN YOU, YOUR SISTER AND THE MAID.

..

If your intensions towards her are good. Then go ahead.
Your sister is no different from that lady if she too is an "employee of labour ". What the girl is doing is a job and not slavery cos she can leave at any time just like your sister is also labouring somewhere and collecting pay. So she has no right to reject the girl. Its her mind set that is worrying her.

Get your apartment fast.
Tell the girl to resign. Open small biz for her or let her learn a skill. Then date her and see where it leads to.
Le me know whether if shes in her shop, your aunt will still see her as a maid.

FROGMAN101:


He is talking so much thrash.

Most Nigerians keep shouting handwork and still a poverty capital country.

The guy you quoted thinks everything just falls in place according to his theory of life.

“Imagine you are 25 and a house maid?”

Mate doesn’t even know older people do such jobs to survive abroad. I don’t blame him. He is all in his head and thinks he is educated about life.

That's one thing i dislike about Nigerians. They are easily fooled by appearance and stereotypes.

landmark86:



Can u pls state ur reason

Its ur life, ur pocket, ur responsibility , if shes worth it then go for her

I Think you should ask your sister, the reason she reacted that way

generationz:
First and foremost, it is disrespectful to be in a relationship/ have sex with your sisters house help in her own house.
First get and apartment and if you want to date her remove her from that position of house help to a more befitting job.

So that later,it will end in tears

SmileDance:
Op, the first thing is the girl has to stop being a housemaid, it will require a lot of time and patience tho, if u can afford accommodation for the girl then get one for her, she can start learning a trade or something, you don't need Permission from ANYBODY to date a 25year old. about ur sister, she just doesn't like the fact that her housemaid would become her sister in law

You may live to regret the bolded,if you ever try it


Use your head

If you value what your sister has to say, then have a dialogue with her.

Let her list you reasons why you shouldn't go ahead with her. She clearly thinks she's not the best option for you and you might want to hear her reasons.
She might have a good reason why you shouldn't.
If she doesn't provide a good reason either, ignore her and go on with your voyage.

Bro, ignore your sister and go after your happiness. Go for the girl and help her in anyway you can, you ain't a kid anymore don't let your sister pressure you into giving up on what you feel for her House help, shes human too and needs love irrespective of her social status.
#Let Love Lead#

Bro, ignore your sister and go after your happiness. Go for the girl and help her in anyway you can, you ain't a kid anymore don't let your sister pressure you into giving up on what you feel for her House help, shes human too and needs love irrespective of her social status.
#Let Love Lead

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