OK OP, maybe it's better for her husband to dey kpensh her than you her brother doing so.

Nor mind me, but unless she has knowledge of something seriously sordid about the housemaid her outburst is not justified.

I see no logical reason why she cannot transition from housemaid to her family member/sister-in-law.

But be warned OP, many "poor" people are very humble. But once they get a foot into a comfortable place, they take a mile and show their true colour.

Look beyond beauty, neatness and intelligence. Take your time. If you still feel she is the right lady for you, good ahead dude.

We are in the 21st century.

Op Op Op, how many times I call you, leave your sister house help alone i take God beg you,I sense konji somewhere, I don talk my own.

uuzba:

The guy was waka-ing his own O.
... when suddenly he came across this hole in the ground...
... and he fell inside the hole. The hole was full of the love....
That's how he just "Fell in Love".....

Uncle that's how love use do to do. If you're not careful, you can even fall in love with crase woman at the corner of the road.

Lol....

donstan18:
Your sister know her more than you do.

This is just like a guy telling his sister to stay away from one of his particular friend or a lady advising his brother not to date one of her particular friend.

She sure knows her more than you do, but if you feel you are too wise, then you'll have to choose between your sister and her housemaid.

It's nothing mysterious or complex

It is simply that the sister cannot countenance going to the househelps family to ask for the househelps hand in marriage. Neither can she imagine her as a sister in law with all the rights and benefits this might imply. It has zilch to do with her brothers welfare.

Truth is, we also run an education and occupation based caste system in Nigeria.

The maid is a human being Oga. If only your intentions are honourable. No do corner corner things. If the girl have good character, with all the other qualities you listed, why not? Your sister must really be wicked. If we check na she go de choir for church, tueh! Things wey God dey see for humans eh?

victorian:





That's true.

The househelp will start misbehaving if the brother starts with this dating game thing and I believe sex will be involved.

The whole thing will just be messy

Honestly I don't subscribe to it.

Except the brother is ready to marry the help asap!

Then please start with meeting up with her parents for introduction and marriage rites as you are already falling in love , if not landmark86 ,Biko keep your third leg in your pants and remove eyes from her body.

Don't start what u can't finish. And don't cause a 3rd World War in your sister's home.
I've said my own o.

Ija yen ma le gaan... It would be so messy... Like a confused war...

My guy, leave her alone.. There are so.many fishes in the ocean.. Once you start dating her, it might not end up so well as you are still staying with your sister and she(the house help) might see it as an advantage to start disobeying your sister and vice versa.

iPrevail:
Get your dirty claws off that helpless girl and allow her to focus on her job. You are being disrespectful to your sister, and if she says she doesn't want you near her maid, oga stay the fvck off.
Go establish yourself first then come back and fall in love with the maid

Don't mind the guy, he should be man enough to get out there and look for a girlfriend and not his sister maid

Na long throat dey worry u. So, all d skool wey u go, u no see yr class..just a few days wey u stay yr sister house, u won fk d poor lady, to later abandon her

u just want to create a lifelong family issue

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

I just hope you wont complicate matter for this girl. The best you can do for her is to encourage her to further and until then let her be.

healthserve:
Pele woman wrapper. Its a woman that's telling you what to do. Why not ask your sister what are the reasons you can't date her beyond the she's a house girl logic. What a sad classist she is. Better be a man and take your decisions solely by yourself. Tell her you didn't chose her own
lover and there's a limit to her participation/involvement in your life and she shouldn't choose yours. If she'll make a good wife overlook the house girl stereotype. Mrs. ALAKIJA that owns oil Wells today was once like her. Shame on your sister if she doesn't have solid reasons beyond she's an house help. Not in our class.

Apt

Lamanii22:



Right... I really hope they can be together...

If the guy is genuine with his intentions, his sister can stop him for long. It's only a matter of time before she gives in, after all he's mature enough to shoulder responsibilities.

You are old enough to make decisions for yourself, and you can only consider advice from others. Why would your sisters say "NOT WHEN I'M ALIVE" ehnn there's life after......

She b ogbanje nii ?

Call ur sister ask her d main reason why she don't want you to date her...marriage is a life time commitment.

Don't marry her, don't ask her why, move on with the girl, please listen to your sister, she knows better, don't pick up family hatred because of a woman. Please.

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

indoorlove:
If the guy is genuine with his intentions, his sister can stop him for long. It's only a matter of time before she gives in, after all he's mature enough to shoulder responsibilities.

Right... I really hope it is genuine and he isn't trying to make a smart move on her... The sister would give in eventually if he stand on his grounds...

very bad , talk to your third leg, u know hr doesn't have sense . I quess he is the one asking this question

madridguy:
One of the most dangerous place on earth to be poor is AFRICA. The elites hate the poor simply because they are poor forgotten no one knows tomorrow.

My dear OP, do you know what " Honor killing " means? I would advise you to leave the innocent lady alone before your sister kill or harm her.

Your sister is a proud and selfish woman. Forget the lady because if you ever go along with her, your sister may kill or harm her or never regard/respect her as a wife.

To the bolded, you should add "the poor also hate the poor simply because they are poor".

..you are doing that because your sister is the one feeding, clothing and taking care of her. If she were to be someone's else househelp, you wouldn't foot the bill rather you will look at her as a drop out and illiterate.

You just want to terminate that girl future and happiness. Clap hands for yourself.

You are 29(a matured adult) ,a graduate ,you have used lots of adjectives to qualify the girl,now someone is saying no ,and you want advice?love is a beautiful thing,and love is blind, tell that to your sister .no one knows tomorrow, she maybe down now but tomorrow .....(only God sees the future )

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

You've every right to fall in love with her.

Your sister is just exhibiting that classic symptom of Nigerian women in which they believe their househelps are lower than vermin.

At 29 you're a grown-ass man, so nut up or shut up.

Why would you sister decide who you date as man and also 29years of age?
Think and decide for yourself!

Headlesschicken:
Why do u Motherphuckas always like to be complicating sh!t,of all the gals in the world why yuh sisters help huh?.... I thought this stupidity ended wiv 2019 buh obviously u Motherphuckas never learn..

You spoke the word right out of my mouth.
Don't mind that foolish op. For all I know, he wants to take advantage of that girl. Foolish fool, you don't fall in love like dat.

OP, you lack tact.

While there’s nothing wrong with dating an house help but you did not consider her situation.

Go ahead if you love her
And bear whatever comes after



Just think well before you shake that table

Lamanii22:




Ija yen ma le gaan... It would be so messy... Like a confused war...

As in ehn? Op don't even understand women.

You are living under her roof so your rights are limited. Get your own place and be your own boss.

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

You are a fresh graduate don't mean u should be a fresh fool too. Idiot. I know ur type. You wanna take advantage of the poor girl... Foolish graduate.

SmileDance:
Op, the first thing is the girl has to stop being a housemaid, it will require a lot of time and patience tho, if u can afford accommodation for the girl then get one for her, she can start learning a trade or something, you don't need Permission from ANYBODY to date a 25year old. about ur sister, she just doesn't like the fact that her housemaid would become her sister in law

It just doesn't seem right, even if it was his sisters FRIEND.

Have you hear about boy code, girl code?

[quote author=landmark86 post=85487290]Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation.


My brother feel free to date her. Most successful rich men in the society today that has long lasting marriages, married local girls . Im even searching for a genuine Local girl to date . For all this I too Sabi girls wey don open eye scatter

No there is nothing wrong. But remember your sister may continue to want to treat her likw a househelp and maybe other members of your family as well. Unless you get liver to stand uo for her, my friend free the girl. Like they say in yoruba you can survive having a terrible spouse, but what you want survive are terrible in-laws

Am very sure your face will clear after nacking her...

I don't think it's a genuine love but infatuation

The reason you claim to love her is cos you're lonely and you see her everytime close to you.

Your sister know better and doesn't want you to hurt her maid.