912:
Because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for others.

Just as your ex was helping you waste your money so also other people's girlfriends are helping them save money and making them more fulfilled in life.

The fact that you were not financially responsible enough when you had a girlfriend doesn't mean it's like that with everyone. Live and let live.

It's just a matter of not trying to impress anyone. Relationship is about being yourself not being someone else. Spending money to impress a girl or to stop her from sleeping with other people means you were not being true in the relationship.

donaldtruman:
I am writing this piece to encourage guys who are yet to come to the realisation that the major reasons militating against their progress in life is their devotion to women business.

I observed that for a while that I ve not had a relationship,I ve made a lot of progress in d areas of saving money & even gone far in the construction of my house b'cos I know how much I was spending to maintain my pretty ex girlfriend just to keep her & ensured she was not swayed by other men,which eventually happened.

I just keep wondering that if I ve saved this much after being relieved from a toxic relationship with just one girlfriend,what could be about d lives of guys who ve numerous girlfriends & bash around, spending on hotel bills,service payment,phones,clothes & other needs for these girls.

I doubt if they will ever progress in life b'cos these monies being spent in bits accumulates into millions which could ve transformed d lives of these guys.

Sometimes,when we complain about d irresponsibility of our leaders & governments,we somehow fail to acknowledge d fact that we re d architects of our financial woes & progress.

There is nothing wrong in having a girlfriend but unfortunately d Nig environment had made relationships almost transactional that a relationship is an investment without returns & u keep spending b'cos u don't want to loose d investment & even go as far as borrowing or committing a crime to please a woman or our sexual urge,except one is lucky to ve d responsible ones who are devoted to d relationship rather than view it as a means of survival.

I thought I could not survive without a girlfriend but I ve been able 2 & ve recorded a huge progress in my life which I could not ve achieved if I still had my ex girlfriend in my life.

The point is that guys who are yet to marry shld take advantage of their singleness to hustle in stabilizing their life.

No matter how small one is earning,if we re prudent with it,it will make a huge impact in our lives rather than spending it on pleasing or sleeping around with women.

Not just that but one will be critical in thinking & become creative in achieving set goals which is impossible when one is overwhelmed with girlfriends matter.

It is not a curse but we guys can never progress if we continue like this.

If in d process of hustling,we re fortunate to ve a responsible & an understanding girlfriend,good for us but If we don't, let"s keep on fighting for our future until we re ready to take our time to look for a wife & settle down.

We can't blame d opportunistic babes b'cos they don't put a gun to our head to give them money but it is us the guys that stupidly out of lust spend on them as they demand outrageously,thereby draining our future.

Guys,pls let's think about this.

I am so delighted about d changes in my life which has prompted me to share this.

U can try living a life without a high maintenance girlfriend(s),with a non golding digging girlfriend & free of promiscuity to experience my joy.

The fact is that women seem to be the major setback for us guys & even married men who are incapable of caring for their wives & children,not just bad leaders & government but we don't notice it.

Infact,d money we guys spend on women biz can be equalled to d budget of several states put together & it is our future & prosperity we re wasting.

Let's exhibit some self control and experience a great turnaround in our lives.

912:
Because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for others.

Just as your ex was helping you waste your money so also other people's girlfriends are helping them save money and making them more fulfilled in life.

The fact that you were not financially responsible enough when you had a girlfriend doesn't mean it's like that with everyone. Live and let live.

It's just a matter of not trying to impress anyone. Relationship is about being yourself not being someone else. Spending money to impress a girl or to stop her from sleeping with other people means you were not being true in the relationship.

912:
Because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for others.

Just as your ex was helping you waste your money so also other people's girlfriends are helping them save money and making them more fulfilled in life.

The fact that you were not financially responsible enough when you had a girlfriend doesn't mean it's like that with everyone. Live and let live.

It's just a matter of not trying to impress anyone. Relationship is about being yourself not being someone else. Spending money to impress a girl or to stop her from sleeping with other people means you were not being true in the relationship.

Adasun:
frm ur second paragraph,hw many of such scenario are we seeing

frenchtoast:
Your title is sensationalized but you've made some valid points.

These opportunistic babes don't put a gun to your heads, in fact many of you specifically seek these so-called slay queens out knowing full well what they expect from you yet come here to cry when you can't maintain them and are unable to keep up with the very same shallow things you enticed them with

Focus on yourself, personal and career development, goals etc and stop chasing after the 'slay queens' you know you can't afford. Abi no more 'normal' babes dey for Naija again?

frenchtoast:
Your title is sensationalized but you've made some valid points.

These opportunistic babes don't put a gun to your heads, in fact many of you specifically seek these so-called slay queens out knowing full well what they expect from you yet come here to cry when you can't maintain them and are unable to keep up with the very same shallow things you enticed them with

Focus on yourself, personal and career development, goals etc and stop chasing after the 'slay queens' you know you can't afford. Abi no more 'normal' babes dey for Naija again?

24kmagic:


Wetin do your other moniker?

zed7:
Most guys are like kids who want a flashy toy. Loads of easy going, responsible girls out there but guys prefer the flashy girls.
If guys were only dating the so called good girls, I'm sure the slay queens will fall back into line.

It's all demand and supply. Men started demanding for flashy girls in the late 90's early 2000's, with the advent of foreign music channels. Most girls who were average looking had to step up to be chosen. They had to bleach, wear skimpy outfits and outlandish makeup to look thr part.

The 419 era also made it easy for young guys to have access to cheap money, so if was no big deal spending crazy amount on a girl just to get to her pants. My brothers, na Nigerian men make Nigerian women to be what they are today.

When it comes to women, the ball is in the court of men. What we demand is what we will get. If we all go back to demanding the good girls, many of these flashy slay queens will revert back to factory settings.

After spoiling our girls, we now want to abandon them for team foreign girls. Let the process of reform start now.

donaldtruman:

I already mentioned that there is nothing wrong in having a girlfriend if one is lucky to get d responsible ones who are rare.

Most girls don't even start demanding until later in d relationship when they start telling all sort of pitiable lies to drain u.

So,would a guy refuse to assist.

Moreover,I never blamed d girls but d guys b'cos it is in our nature to do all we can to please a woman which is suicidal.

U re a nice girl or ve a responsible girlfriend does not mean all d girls are like that or u are d type that every guy will want to date.

D responsible ones are rare to find & we guys ve to be wary of d numerous irresponsible & gold digging ones we come across everyday.

At d moment, I even need a girlfriend & will appreciate u recommend one to me.

A responsible one that will not ve me as a means to an end.

Headlesschicken:
You forgot to add the health benefits attached with that also,cos most of this female folks share STDs like crusade flyer's...

Jodha:
He who finds a wife... finds a good thing and obtaineth favour from the lord...


My one cent....

pryme:


Better to live in a Wilderness than stay with a contentious woman.


We could use more than a cent from you.

Jodha:


"It is not good for a man to be alone ...I will make him a helper comparable to him"

pryme:


"And I find something more bitter than death:
the woman whose heart is snares and nets"