landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

chigoizie7:
Why do people keep misusing “ I am” as “ am” ?


At 29, you cannot ask your sister to tell you why you cannot date her.


Keep asking Nairaland, later you will call yourself a mature man.

And why are people seeing a 25 year old lady as just a housemaid?

That maid sef de dull ooh, at 25 she is still doing housemaid job. Her only hope in this life is to migrate from housemaid to a housewife.

Girls her age are learning skills to better their lives .

Skmoda360:

Na you be housemaid in the eyes of God...were old man.....

fineboynl:
Rules no 1, never date and marry anyone far below your status. No matter the feelings involved it doesn't always ends well. Go and ask or confirm from the rich they do know more than poor people do.

Except ofcourse God or powers from above tells you to. If you do hear from God.

Gbemishile1:
My guy na LIE,na free pvssy u dey find.this one no get class and u know say e no go hard for u to knack.leave all these love story for lawma

I stayed with one of my uncle's for like 4years and in between those times,they hired about 5 maids.the devil tempt me no be small,but I thank God I didn't attempt it,out of respect to my uncle and his wife.
I am very sure they would be calling the maid to one side to ask if I toasted her or was sleeping with her.
On one occasion while we were talking in the sitting room,my uncle's wife use style dey ask me if I dey hustle im maid,but I just laughed it off.
My guy,go outside and look for suitable and matured girl to marry.

aimuan:
If the sister knows her to be a bad girl why did she keep her as maid?eats food she cooked without fear?forget about knowing her, she is just being myopic. She thinks the girl will remain maid forever. Typical Africa mentality.

landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

victorian:





That's true.

The househelp will start misbehaving if the brother starts with this dating game thing and I believe sex will be involved.

The whole thing will just be messy

Honestly I don't subscribe to it.

Except the brother is ready to marry the help asap!

Then please start with meeting up with her parents for introduction and marriage rites as you are already falling in love , if not landmark86 ,Biko keep your third leg in your pants and remove eyes from her body.

Don't start what u can't finish. And don't cause a 3rd World War in your sister's home.
I've said my own o.

eni4real:
Introduction just like that??
I can't imagine a graduate marrying a secondary school drop out tho..
Why is this guy so desperate?
Can't he attract a lady that belong to his class??

He termed her 'intelligent'?? I laugh in Urhobo!!!

jay169:

What are you even saying

GhettoG1:
Well ur sis actually love you nd she probably foresaw d dangers ahead. First they re both living together bfr ur appearance which speak much about her being right.
Second don't b a full egbon, I'm sure once u get cordial with her then d nxt shii u gon wanna send her to school nd I'm very sure sey na tears go end am.

donstan18:
Your sister know her more than you do.

This is just like a guy telling his sister to stay away from one of his particular friend or a lady advising his brother not to date one of her particular friend.

She sure knows her more than you do, but if you feel you are too wise, then you'll have to choose between your sister and her housemaid.

donstan18:
Your sister know her more than you do.

This is just like a guy telling his sister to stay away from one of his particular friend or a lady advising his brother not to date one of her particular friend.

She sure knows her more than you do, but if you feel you are too wise, then you'll have to choose between your sister and her housemaid.

Larryslim:
Why would you sister decide who you date as man and also 29years of age?
Think and decide for yourself!

healthserve:
Pele woman wrapper. Its a woman that's telling you what to do. Why not ask your sister what are the reasons you can't date her beyond the she's a house girl logic. What a sad classist she is. Better be a man and take your decisions solely by yourself. Tell her you didn't chose her own
lover and there's a limit to her participation/involvement in your life and she shouldn't choose yours. If she'll make a good wife overlook the house girl stereotype. Mrs. ALAKIJA that owns oil Wells today was once like her. Shame on your sister if she doesn't have solid reasons beyond she's an house help. Not in our class.

XklusivGistBlog:


You spoke the word right out of my mouth.
Don't mind that foolish op. For all I know, he wants to take advantage of that girl. Foolish fool, you don't fall in love like dat.

sweetrace:


Please say what you know. Mrs. Alakija has never been and will never be like her. Mrs. Alakija got her first degree and masters before she was given the oil wells. That she did not school in Nigeria does not mean you should be writing what you don’t know about. That she was Mariam Babangida’s designer does not make her uneducated or half baked.

victorian:








As in ehn? Op don't even understand women.

felixation123:


House help??is that her name??

Advancedman:


You are wicked may your offsprings be in that girl situation

sweetrace:


Please say what you know. Mrs. Alakija has never been and will never be like her. Mrs. Alakija got her first degree and masters before she was given the oil wells. That she did not school in Nigeria does not mean you should be writing what you don’t know about. That she was Mariam Babangida’s designer does not make her uneducated or half baked.

madridguy:
One of the most dangerous place on earth to be poor is AFRICA. The elites hate the poor simply because they are poor forgotten no one knows tomorrow.

My dear OP, do you know what " Honor killing " means? I would advise you to leave the innocent lady alone before your sister kill or harm her.

Your sister is a proud and selfish woman. Forget the lady because if you ever go along with her, your sister may kill or harm her or never regard/respect her as a wife.

eni4real:
Na lie..
OP should marry someone of her class..
Leave the poor girl to marry a guy of her class too!!!

Nukilia:


Many today have married their class and are busy sleeping with little girls all over...

Nukilia:


Many today have married their class and are busy sleeping with little girls all over...