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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by aimuan(m): 12:39am On Jan 05, 2020
eni4real:
Na lie..
OP should marry someone of her class..
Leave the poor girl to marry a guy of her class too!!!
what do you mean by class? He's got certificate and the girl have non right? You need to Change your backward mentally.We won't go anywhere if we keep thinking in horizontal pattern.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nobody: 12:41am On Jan 05, 2020
aimuan:
what do you mean by class? He's got certificate and the girl have non right? You need to Change your backward mentally.We won't go anywhere if we keep thinking this horizontal pattern.
There is nothing backward about my mentality!!

If the sister terminate her appointment with immediate effect, we will see how far the love will go!!

OP should stop being desperate!!!

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by bethyz(m): 12:43am On Jan 05, 2020
The whole thing looks somehow. You dating her help she sees as sister now. Please let the girl concentrate and further her education. Forget those asking you to be a man. That girl will begin to see your sis differently when she start dating you. Are you ready to shoulder her responsibility. Pleases dont start talking about love cause of what your penis wants. Men mistake that for love.
Let her be .
Be her friend for now. Talk with her share her pain know who she is. You just came pounce on the girl and suddenly you want to date her. What level of date sef.
Whats your definition of date. Please be a brother and friend to her till you are ready to settle down

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Fhemmmy: 12:47am On Jan 05, 2020
eni4real:
There is nothing backward about my mentality!!

If the sister terminate her appointment with immediate effect, we will see how far the love will go!!

OP should stop being desperate!!!


Let's get real here . . what made you think that the termination of the slavery will NOT be the beginning of her waking up to do better things in her life? How long will a 25 year old lady continue to be a slave to the master and even serving a woman that beleive over her dead body will the lady be good enough to be a wife to her brother.
The househelp has no future with her present employer.
The lady needs to either learn a trade or find a better way to make something happen for her.
But the OP needs to get his priority straight first too
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by tomdon(m): 12:49am On Jan 05, 2020
Why do men's dicks control them?
Is it not clear for even the blind to see that it's a journey to nowhere?
So you even want a maid to your sister to now become her in-law cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by UkeziNero77(m): 12:49am On Jan 05, 2020
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landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nobody: 12:54am On Jan 05, 2020
Fhemmmy:


Let's get real here . . what made you think that the termination of the slavery will NOT be the beginning of her waking up to do better things in her life? How long will a 25 year old lady continue to be a slave to the master and even serving a woman that beleive over her dead body will the lady be good enough to be a wife to her brother.
The househelp has no future with her present employer.
The lady needs to either learn a trade or find a better way to make something happen for her.
But the OP needs to get his priority straight first too
Paying her salary, feeding her, housing her, is what you termed slavery..

Just because a desperate younger brother is fantasizing a future with her does notean she was enslaved under her boss..

She was just doing her job under Op's sister..

Just like a Gardener will do a job under his Oga..

I have never seen a lady picking interest in a school Cert Gardener working under her brother!!!

OP should look for someone of his class.. He should stop erroneously calling this girl 'intelligent'..
This girl does not need Marriage, She needs help..
If Op want to help, he should go ahead!!!

If Op want to attach condition of marriage, he should look elsewhere!!!
OP is desperate, I don't know why!!!
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by toprealman: 1:05am On Jan 05, 2020
Don't expect her to be this caring after marriage......if she carries on, you are a lucky man.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Fhemmmy: 1:05am On Jan 05, 2020
eni4real:
Paying her salary, feeding her, housing her, is what you termed slavery..

Any househelp in Nigeria is nothing but slavery and we all know it . . .Let;s call a spade a space and nothing here tells us that the sister isn't just using her and in return sending her to learn a trade. By the way, there are so many jobs in Nigeria that is slavery. Anything you are not happy doing or you are doing out of no choice is slavery

eni4real:

Just because a desperate younger brother is fantasizing a future with her does notean she was enslaved under her boss..
She was just doing her job under Op's sister..

I am never in support of the OP falling for the lady because even the OP isn't sure if it is love or just a kongi out of control


eni4real:

Just like a Gardener will do a job under his Oga.. I have never seen a lady picking interest in a school Cert Gardener working under her brother!!!
So a woman that falls in love with her driver hasn't been seen before and what is the difference between that and a lady falling in love with the gardener?
The OP for sure needs to get his own act together first and know where and what he wanna do with life because someone like the OP will in the future see class that he is not seeing right now but i hate the fact that we have allowed the class to divide what is good.
But please note that because she is an househelp does not make her not intelligent, she is only a victim of circumstances and the difference between me and you and the househelp is luck and grace of God.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Babara1994(m): 1:08am On Jan 05, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:
I SEE WHAT YOUR PROBLEM IS. YOU WANT EASY ACCESS TO SEX, DON'T YOU?

OLE!
YOU DON'T WANT TO DATE HER, YOU JUST WANT TO EJACULATE. PLEASE MASTURBATÈ FREQUENTLY TO PREVENT CAUSING ISSUES BETWEEN YOU, YOUR SISTER AND THE MAID.
Lol grin
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by aimuan(m): 1:09am On Jan 05, 2020
eni4real:
There is nothing backward about my mentality!!

If the sister terminate her appointment with immediate effect, we will see how far the love will go!!

OP should stop being desperate!!!

The question is why should his sister sack her? What's wrong in falling in love with her maid?she is human and deserves to be loved..In life you never can tell what tomorrow holds.let me tell you a little recent story of my guy in Ghana. Six years ago he was sacked from his apartment simply because he could not afford to continue the House rent. luckily in 2016 he got employed by US base company as a junior software developer,and he relocated with the help of the company. As we speak he earns over $200,000 yearly.So my brother everyone deserve to be respected and treated as human inrespective of your educational background. An illiterate in 2020 can became a graduate in 2025.
Don't discriminate
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by aimuan(m): 1:16am On Jan 05, 2020
tomdon:
Why do men's dicks control them?
Is it not clear for even the blind to see that it's a journey to nowhere?
So you even want a maid to your sister to now become her in-law cheesy cheesy cheesy
And what's wrong with that?was she born as a maid?why can't you guys just understand that her predicament can change?
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by aimuan(m): 1:20am On Jan 05, 2020
Fhemmmy:


Any househelp in Nigeria is nothing but slavery and we all know it . . .Let;s call a spade a space and nothing here tells us that the sister isn't just using her and in return sending her to learn a trade. By the way, there are so many jobs in Nigeria that is slavery. Anything you are not happy doing or you are doing out of no choice is slavery



I am never in support of the OP falling for the lady because even the OP isn't sure if it is love or just a kongi out of control



So a woman that falls in love with her driver hasn't been seen before and what is the difference between that and a lady falling in love with the gardener?
The OP for sure needs to get his own act together first and know where and what he wanna do with life because someone like the OP will in the future see class that he is not seeing right now but i hate the fact that we have allowed the class to divide what is good.
But please note that because she is an househelp does not make her not intelligent, she is only a victim of circumstances and the difference between me and you and the househelp is luck and grace of God.

Thank you my brother.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nukilia: 1:20am On Jan 05, 2020
eni4real:
Never give up!!!

OP should stop being desperate... He should marry his class and should not complicate that girl's life!!!
Nigerians are the true definition of complications. Bodies of sand and dust forming class grin cheesy grin
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by alexola20(m): 1:27am On Jan 05, 2020
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nobody: 1:27am On Jan 05, 2020
landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.


Will you keep quiet?

What did you study sef?

Womanology?

Nonsense!!



Common, go ahead and date the pretty , caring, very neat and intelligent girl joor.

And don't mind your sister and her objection.

What if she's an house help? House help na sickness?

Your sister should even be happy you are the one dating the girl as that would make the husband shift his attention off the girl per adventure he had started nursing the ambition of touching her.

Ride on.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by DarkJeddi(m): 1:51am On Jan 05, 2020
donstan18:
Your sister know her more than you do.

This is just like a guy telling his sister to stay away from one of his particular friend or a lady advising his brother not to date one of her particular friend.

She sure knows her more than you do, but if you feel you are too wise, then you'll have to choose between your sister and her housemaid.
If she knows more about her than he does..

Then let her be considerate enough to explain the reasons why to him,beyond over my dead body.. shocked

The guy at least deserves to know.. angry
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by chukzyfcbb: 1:58am On Jan 05, 2020
chigoizie7:
Why do people keep misusing “ I am” as “ am” ?


At 29, you cannot ask your sister to tell you why you cannot date her.


Keep asking Nairaland, later you will call yourself a mature man.

And why are people seeing a 25 year old lady as just a housemaid?

That maid sef de dull ooh, at 25 she is still doing housemaid job. Her only hope in this life is to migrate from housemaid to a housewife.

Girls her age are learning skills to better their lives .
are you aware that some nanny in this Lagos earn 50-60k monthly and still get fed by the home occupants?

they do it for a while save up and start something on thier own
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nobody: 2:19am On Jan 05, 2020
If her tautau can take ya prink, you're good to go
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by generationz(f): 2:23am On Jan 05, 2020
LINTUNE:
best advice so far kiss
Thanks.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by gr8tone: 2:32am On Jan 05, 2020
Davash222:

There’s no stigma here... we’re all house maids in the eyes of God.
It is more honourable to be a housemaid before God than man. Man will stigmatise you unlike God.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by uchyno123: 2:43am On Jan 05, 2020
The question here is do you really want to date this lady for real or you want to take advantage because you have access to her based on the present circumstance.

The qualities you said she possesses cannot swing your sister opinion in your favor because whether you like it or not her reason(s) might just be what I stated above.

She is not saying no to you because she is her maid but sometimes in life it is only safer to maintain the traditional way of how things are done so that you dont end up chewing more that you bargain for.

Bros, go out and there and get yourself a girlfriend, Las Las, she will be alright.

Peace.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by hope4nigeria(m): 3:13am On Jan 05, 2020
landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.
in the real sense, you may just want to take advantage of the poor girl, fvvck her and run, tell me the truth.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Nobody: 3:26am On Jan 05, 2020
Davash222:
The Oga of the house nko, I mean your sister’s husband? Hope he’s also seeing the pretty, caring, neat and intelligent 25 years old house help
As if you read my mind.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by LegendaryLover(m): 3:40am On Jan 05, 2020
Davash222:
There’s no stigma here... we’re all house maids in the eyes of God.


come bia mind urself oo. speak for urself ... me am child of god, which one is house maid of god again
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Ilekokonit: 3:41am On Jan 05, 2020
landmark86:

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

The same way the house help was born is the same way we were all born and she surely comes from a family that love and miss her as we speak.

Your sister is not more human than the house help.

Does your sister know what the future holds for her own children finance wise ?

If you love the lady, you will have to go with your heart and move out of your sisters house, get your own place no matter how small but preferably very far from your sisters place to protect your woman and then go for the woman you love.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by wany(f): 3:41am On Jan 05, 2020
landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.
You sound classless and cheap,common dude who act this way,just getting to your sister house ,and the next thing boooooom you got eyes on her maid.can't you find ladies in your social class.
Let your cheapness not put you in a mess the respond/action of the maid to you is not love but gratitude.once you upgrade her I bet you ,you will not like the new her. undecided
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by iomoge2(f): 4:03am On Jan 05, 2020
My uncle married our maid
Awkward
But with time it became normal
She was the best maid we had
It pained my mum cos they were doing hide n seek until pregnancy occurred

They have been married for close to 25years.
Happily married

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by bobolaga: 4:17am On Jan 05, 2020
I did not believed you are graduate,if it is not close range babe,you can,t find another girl,to date not even to married her,if you like to marry her no problem but the language date it sound bitter to me,now you wanted to turn her to your fairly used type before you will go and marry another lady.
Remember that servant can become master,but master can not become God,the lady can not be your sister house help for ever.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Roon9(m): 4:17am On Jan 05, 2020
Davash222:
The Oga of the house nko, I mean your sister’s husband? Hope he’s also seeing the pretty, caring, neat and intelligent 25 years old house help

U wan just start war
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Mutemenot(m): 4:19am On Jan 05, 2020
Yes, it's bad in the sense that you do not portray sign of respect and maturity to your sister. How can a dog eat the bone placed on its neck We men are so selfish that anything in skirt under the same roof becomes attractive, sexy, bla bla. Once you chop the food now, you will varnish....
If you like her, get your own apartment, n go pay her bride prize,
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by SmileDance(f): 4:27am On Jan 05, 2020
GermanMelania:
No there is nothing wrong. But remember your sister may continue to want to treat her likw a househelp and maybe other members of your family as well. Unless you get liver to stand uo for her, my friend free the girl. Like they say in yoruba you can survive having a terrible spouse, but what you want survive are terrible in-laws
couldn't have said it better

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