One of a woman’s greatest fears is to have a promiscuous husband. The simple thought of sharing your bed with another lady is heartbreaking.
Many marriages have crashed due to cheating, as the wife no longer trusts the husband, and could be scared of contracting diseases due to the nature of the man’s lifestyle.

Promiscuity has been a major challenge in most families, it leads to insecurities, hatred and above all divorce.
While studies have shown that several reasons lead to promiscuity in marriages but the primary causes are
1. Marriage due to the wrong reasons
2. Growing apart from your partner
A couple that married for the wrong reasons has little chance of finding bliss, even though it is found, it would require a lot of sacrifices.
But a marriage initially bonded by love and affection that experienced a major challenge like infidelity can bounce back depending on how the situation was handled.
It would be a good thing to act fast to rekindle the light you lost with your partner because the longer it takes, the farther you part until divorce starts knocking on the door.
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Absolute responsibility shouldn’t be the lady’s fate alone, but in situations like this, it is the woman that bears the burden mostly, I believe if you love your husband you wouldn’t mind reading through to have him all to yourself again.

12 ways to handle a cheating husband

Never stop loving him
Remember the love you shared and the affection you had together, believe he was misled and will get right back on track. Take advice from a counselor or a psychiatrist and handle the matter carefully, seeking help from friends is good, but be careful of the kind of friends you share your worries.

Talk to him
Tell him you know about his secret affairs, but that wouldn’t change the way you feel about him. Remind him how much he loved you before marrying you. Tell him it is fine if he doesn’t want to share the thoughts with you, trust me, you don’t want to know the details. This could be a good step because when you share everything with your spouse there’s a likely chance to find out if there’s a problem lurking around.

Quit nagging
Most ladies nag a lot and that keeps their husband away, the men stay out and eventually finds solace with a younger woman who is more caring, kind and has a listening ear. she sets aside to become that angel he wished he married and with little or no time, he starts considering giving her his name. be nice to your husband and don’t complain on everything, that might be all you need to keep him.

Appreciate him
Men loves to be appreciated, it could not be his fault that your Benz haven’t arrived yet, so be a dear and appreciate the transport fare he gives you every day to your place of work. He could be planning on something bigger for you, don’t ruin it by being ungrateful.
Remember, the side chick could be somewhere appreciating his kindness no matter how little it is.

Look good for him
Do away with the wrappers and dress sexily when he’s home. Go to bed with a sexy lingerie or night gown. Quit looking like a grannie unless you’re one. Men love things that appeal, so good measures should be taken to ensure he doesn’t prefer other women.
A lady that dresses to the husband’s taste has very little to be worried about. It is a known fact that kids take your time and energy, as there are lots of chores and little attention for yourself. But time management and proper planning is all you need.
Dress cute always, and watch how delighted he would be.

Pay attention
Listen to your husbands’ inner thoughts and conversations; he might not be blunt about the belly fat you’re accumulating, perhaps you would feel bad if he said it. a lot of things turn men off, find out the things your husband doesn’t like by asking him. it would go a long way in making your marriage lively.

Become his best friend
Mind his mood and know when he’s sad or depressed, he might be having some challenges and all he could need might be a listening ear, no matter what the problem is, be gentle and be his bestie throughout those difficult times, when he overcomes it, he’ll have you to thank for that.

Make him want more
Have you imagined the possible look on your hubby’s face when he’s back from work to find you lying sultry on the bed with the perfect skimpy outfit, make-up and a pair of hills, smiling and winking at him? Dude could be tired from the day’s work but what he’s seeing is more enticing than sleep at the moment. Adding a little spice in your relationship isn’t bad after all.

Learn good skills in the other room too
Take it up sometimes and teach your hubby you can be wild and gentle on bed sometimes whichever way he wants it. lying like a log of wood is a NO, and please the missionary style shouldn’t be all you know, remember it can be boring if that’s all you know.

Cook good food
A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach remember? Endeavor to make good delicacies he would fine divine. Good food makes him get home ASAP

Be romantic
Write beautiful poems and place it on the bed for him sometimes, take him out to the place he loves and whisper in his ears how much you love him. Remind him you would never want a different husband in your next life. Send the kids to your mother sometimes and spend some quality time with him.

Pray for him
This is the most important of all, take him to God in prayers and trust him to help.

I pity your daughters.

If she likes let her be romantisch, men will always be men.

Make I laugh

Needless to read all this, the more men are encouraging cheating in marriages, the more their wives are learning from them. Men are supposed to set good examples. Men are the ones destroying marriages.

ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!
the only way to deal with a cheating partner is to LEAVE his disrespectful/deceitful/unfaithful/untrustworthy self.

the above rubbish is just to try to please and lower yourself to such cheating animal...but that would NEVER solve anything because YOU are not the problem here....that cheating demon is!

Hmmmm,this your article is the 'red pant and bra' advise.

@Stanbic:

Your article is '12 ways to encourage/enable a cheating husband' which is fine if it is your thing.

Absolute trash . Stop deceiving people with this crappy nansensical article you've just written . I didn’t see anywhere in this silly article you wrote that gave the option of leaving to the spouse who was cheated on. Neither did I see anywhere you condemned the cheater for causing so much pain to their innocent spouse nor did you mention that their silly antic can even infect the innocent spouse with an STD. This is a new decade mate, hence, write articles that encourage marital faithfulness in a marriage arrangement and not one that gives the A-Z on how to handle a cheat.

Trash.
Pay him the exact dose of What he has been dishing out and watch out for the tremendous change.

MrBrownJay1:


- how will the above solve anything?
- what makes you think a cheated wife wants to go and sleep around?
- if they hate one another so much, why should they actually stay together?
- do you think that a man who has no respect for his wife/family would care if wifey cheats?

That's undercover ho advice.

Easy to spot.

They always want females to be at the receiving all the time, they never want us to fight for ourselves, and when the enlightened ones fight, they automatically call them feminists or men haters, why the hell will any sane human do the above nonsense to a cheating husband

crackhaus:

That's undercover ho advice.

Easy to spot.

And when it's been done to a ho husband, how is that a problem?

why did the man get married to one woman in the first place if he knew he was a public tap? if you don't know what marriage or family means then remain single

Graxie:
I pity your daughters.

How exactly?

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!
the only way to deal with a cheating partner is to LEAVE his disrespectful/deceitful/unfaithful/untrustworthy self.

the above rubbish is just to try to please and lower yourself to such cheating animal...but that would NEVER solve anything because YOU are not the problem here....that cheating demon is!

Thank God this is coming from a man. It gives me joy that there are still great n disciplined men out there who will call a spade a spade.

The only tested and trusted remedy to a cheating husband is leave him. Walk away with your kids before he infects u with stds or evn kill u so he can marry whoever he's cheating with.
This is 2020, women must borrow sense and stay away from people who have such mentality as ops towards marriage.
The man cheated n the woman is d one at fault? Lord have mercy!

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!
the only way to deal with a cheating partner is to LEAVE his disrespectful/deceitful/unfaithful/untrustworthy self.

the above rubbish is just to try to please and lower yourself to such cheating animal...but that would NEVER solve anything because YOU are not the problem here....that cheating demon is!

Oh nice, dump his ass and you think that's the solution? And then you find someone else whose ass would be dumped too and on and on and on - dumping people's ass because they are unfaithful. The only way to be happy is to have no expectations because when you do have expectations then I'm scared, you'll always be disappointed. God's chief creature who was made a little lower than the angels has become a little better than the devil. My point? That is not the solution. Nt all. There's no guarantee that the next person would be better, not at all.

Fountainofyouth:
They always want females to be at the receiving all the time, they never want us to fight for ourselves, and when the enlightened ones fight, they automatically call them feminists or men haters, why the hell will any sane human do the above nonsense to a cheating husband

Sorry, em, i don't get you. What is she supposed to do? Flee at every slight evidence of unfaithfulness?

Kamani8:

Thank God this is coming from a man. It gives me joy that there are still great n disciplined men out there who will call a spade a spade.

The only tested and trusted remedy to a cheating husband is leave him. Walk away with your kids before he infects u with stds or evn kill u so he can marry whoever he's cheating with.
This is 2020, women must borrow sense and stay away from people who have such mentality as ops towards marriage.
The man cheated n the woman is d one at fault? Lord have mercy!

Cheating is an action word. When do people leave their cheating spouse?

Blackmiserable:


Sorry, em, i don't get you. What is she supposed to do? Flee at every slight evidence of unfaithfulness?

I'd say run as far as your legs can carry u until the man in question borrow sense. STDs are real

Blackmiserable:


Oh nice, dump his ass aand you think that's the solution? And then you find someone else whose ass would be dumped too and on and on and on - dumping people's ass because they are unfaithful. The only way to be happy is to have no expectations because when you do have expectations then I'm scared, you'll always be disappointed. My point? That is not the solution.

Would you give this same advice if the woman is the cheating partner?
I need answer pls

Kamani8:

I'd say run as far as your legs can carry u until the man in question borrow sense. STDs are real

You didn't answer me. I mean when is she supposed to flee. Yes or no. Immediately she discovers her husband's unfaithfulness?

Kamani8:


Would you give this same advice if the woman is the cheating partner?
I need answer pls

In marriage, I encourage fleeing, but certainly not before repeated dialogue. I don't understand why a man or woman would flee at the slightest evidence of a cheating partner. Makes sense?

I was wondering where the “red pant and black brassiere” crew went. It’s been a while since a blatant and fearless thread like this one.
Now what they mostly do is type in circles and eventually come back to their basic point which is to blame the woman, attack anyone who encourages the woman to leave him or pay him back in his own coin and of course exonerate the man.

Don’t forget the fear mongering too. “Another woman will take your home “.

Blackmiserable:

Cheating is an action word. When do people leave their cheating spouse?

If u have evidence. And there's no concrete explanation as to why it happened and a conviction that it won't happen again.
Infidelity is the only reason that has biblical backing to seperate from one's spouse.
It's dangerous living with a cheating spouse. He can kill u to clear way for the outsider.

cococandy:
I was wondering where the “red pant and black brassiere” crew went. It’s been a while since a blatant and fearless thread like this one.
Now what they mostly do is type in circles and eventually come back to their basic point which is to blame the woman and exonerate the man.

Fearless thread indeed.

The OP is looking for talk.

As usual

Kamani8:


Fearless thread indeed.

Kamani8:


If u have evidence. And there's no concrete explanation as to why it happened and a conviction that it won't happen again.
Infidelity is the only reason that has biblical backing to seperate from one's spouse.
It's dangerous living with a cheating spouse. He can kill u to clear way for the outsider.

Wait first sef, are you married? There's almost always no concrete explanation as to why people cheat except that we have sinful remains that draws us to lust. It's that simple. So it's your own conviction that determines the future of the marriage? Once a cheat, always a cheat. Dead wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong for goodness sake.

rain21:
why did the man get married to one woman in the first place if he knew he was a public tap? if you don't know what marriage or family means then remain single

I called someone a semen dispenser, he didn't like it

Blackmiserable:


Wait first sef, are you married? There's almost always no concrete explanation as to why people cheat except that we have sinful remains that draws us to lust. It's that simple. So it's your own conviction that determines the future of the marriage? Once a cheat, always a cheat. Dead wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong for goodness sake.

Provide examples of repentant cheating husbands Oga, please make sure they have been married for longer than 20 years.