I marry an Ibo girl God had blessed us with a child, her grand dad died in the village money was shear for her to pay because of the burial with other things she will buy for the family approximately #150,000 and my wife don't have that kind of money to pay because she is not working for now, I'm expected to pay for her being that she is married to me and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year, I'm from another tribe so my Ibo folks in the house if we are unable to pay or pay a little we can is there any consequences, please advise me

Hmmm.

Hmmm. You will not die. I am very sure of that one.

kelophili23:
and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year

I think the money was shared with respect to the strength of your income and the strength of others involved.

They think you have the money.

Bt the point is, u don't want to spend that kind of money for burial.

They will still help you if the need arises.

Thats the importance of having a family.

Just try and help...

kelophili23:
I marry an Ibo girl God had blessed us with a child, her grand dad died in the village money was shear for her to pay because of the burial with other things she will buy for the family approximately #150,000 and my wife don't have that kind of money to pay because she is not working for now, I'm expected to pay for her being that she is married to me and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year, I'm from another tribe so my Ibo folks in the house if we are unable to pay or pay a little we can is there any consequences, please advise me

Her grandfather died and she is asked to pay 150k being shared? How much are the children of the deceased to pay that a grand child is asked to pay 150k?

I wouldn't even disturb myself if I were you.

Sanchez01:

Her grandfather died and she was asked to pay 150k being shared? How much are the children of the deceased to pay that a grand child is asked to pay 150k?

I wouldn't even disturb myself if I were you.

The children will pay N1Million each.

125diCalcitriol:


I think the money was shared with respect to the strength of your income and the strength of others involved.

And that warranted them to ask a GRANDCHILD to contribute 150k?

They think you have the money.

Bt the point is, u don't want to spend that kind of money for burial.

They will still help you if the need arises.

Thats the importance of having a family.

Just try and help...

Even if he has the money, the mere thought of knowing the wife is a granddaughter alone is enough to not make him do a thing. Going by your logic, it means they shared the money based greed and bias.

A family who knows their child isn't working but deliberately ask her to pay 150k for her grandfather's wedding, with the intent that her husband will bear the cost clearly have no help to render the man their daughter is married to.

That kind of family don't come off sensitive to me.

Hmmm! This January , on top house rent school fees, please give them the one you can afford.

Guy try gather small money give Them, let them knw say pocket dry for now.
If na
20k to 50k try contribute tins hard

if you cant pay you CANT PAY... stop stressing about unnecessary rubbish and focus on your life instead

ojun50:
Guy try gather small money give Them, let them knw say pocket dry for now.
If na
20k to 50k try contribute tins hard

My thought exactly

125diCalcitriol:


I think the money was shared with respect to the strength of your income and the strength of others involved.

They think you have the money.

Bt the point is, u don't want to spend that kind of money for burial.

They will still help you if the need arises.

Thats the importance of having a family.

Just try and help...

Sincerely I can't pay that money base of strength of my income now because it affects my plan for this year negatively

They must be preparing for "one in town" burial for contribution as high as 150k going to married granddaughter.

I am very sure if they made this kind of contribution when he was alive the man might still be here today.

If you don't have don't pay......infact if you have don't still pay there are no consequences.

Use that 150k for something useful, may be send 20-50k for them to manage for the burial.

May be they will still expect you to come with your people and still bring something (may be cow) and other things on the burial day.

I am from the South-South,when my father died,the man i had my child with(a girl) was given a list and he did not give anything on the list,not even a dime and as it is in my place with that action,he has forfeited the rights to collect her dowry neither will he be recognised as her father so i will advise you find out the consequences of your actions.

That kind thing

So if he has money to take care of his daughter, he won't because tradition has said so...

Akuko Mike Ejeagha

Royalcity:
I am from the South-South,when my father died,the man i had my child with(a girl) was given a list and he did not give anything on the list,not even a dime and as it is in my place with that action,he has forfeited the rights to collect her dowry neither will he be recognised as her father so i will advise you find out the consequences of your actions.

Op abeg don't kill yourself, support with whatever you have, I'm sure the money is a mere formality

I like to think this is a joke. A grandchild ke? Maybe you have been showing off.
You will not die and nobody will do anything abt it.

Support if you have and if not face front.

Royalcity:
I am from the South-South,when my father died,the man i had my child with(a girl) was given a list and he did not give anything on the list,not even a dime and as it is in my place with that action,he has forfeited the rights to collect her dowry neither will he be recognised as her father so i will advise you find out the consequences of your actions.

So village people will tell a man he can't collect dowry and will not be recognised as the father? They must be joking !!!!

If I'm the husband, they cab rest assured they will not be attending my daughters wedding, gone are the day when you invite the entire extending family to occasions

kelophili23:
I marry an Ibo girl God had blessed us with a child, her grand dad died in the village money was shear for her to pay because of the burial with other things she will buy for the family approximately #150,000 and my wife don't have that kind of money to pay because she is not working for now, I'm expected to pay for her being that she is married to me and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year, I'm from another tribe so my Ibo folks in the house if we are unable to pay or pay a little we can is there any consequences, please advise me

Just make the little contribution you can make - even if na 20-50k

We Igbo people can load ourselves with problems.

Grand daughter taxed N150k? There is no consequence, just contribute whatever you feel comfortable with.

Royalcity:
I am from the South-South,when my father died,the man i had my child with(a girl) was given a list and he did not give anything on the list,not even a dime and as it is in my place with that action,he has forfeited the rights to collect her dowry neither will he be recognised as her father so i will advise you find out the consequences of your actions.

Nonsense. I hope you no longer collect money for her upkeep from him since this is the case.

The Op said he married an IBO lady. In Igbo tradition no matter poor the family is, I repeat nobody will ask a grand daughter to contribute money for her grandfather burial.
In order hand, if the granddaughter is rich, she can contribute at her own discretion. Chikena
.
The Op may be an aka gum set of people and the wife want to use this avenue to play smart on him.

Grand daughter to pay for burial kwa? Aboy freestyle those people if you don’t have money or give them 20k if you feel like giving anything

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Nonsense. I hope you no longer collect money for her upkeep from him since this is the case. Oga,everything is not about money moreover,the tradition did not start with neither end with me.

Royalcity:
I am from the South-South,when my father died,the man i had my child with(a girl) was given a list and he did not give anything on the list,not even a dime and as it is in my place with that action,he has forfeited the rights to collect her dowry neither will he be recognised as her father so i will advise you find out the consequences of your actions.

..
Your own case was worse..
The man never put money for your head and u expect him to come and do burial...

kelophili23:
I marry an Ibo girl God had blessed us with a child, her grand dad died in the village money was shear for her to pay because of the burial with other things she will buy for the family approximately #150,000 and my wife don't have that kind of money to pay because she is not working for now, I'm expected to pay for her being that she is married to me and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year, I'm from another tribe so my Ibo folks in the house if we are unable to pay or pay a little we can is there any consequences, please advise me

She got a share of 150k for grand dad burial

What will be her share if it where to be her own father give

Give what you have and don't promise any thing or balance

Next time, they will reduce their budget and share to your side

okeke6969:
The Op said he married an IBO lady. In Igbo tradition no matter poor the family is, I repeat nobody will ask a grand daughter to contribute money for her grandfather burial.
In order hand, if the granddaughter is rich, she can contribute at her own discretion. Chikena
.
The Op may be an aka gum set of people and the wife want to use this avenue to play smart on him.

Uche gi di ya

It's even the grand dad not her dad... There shouldn't be any consequence jare

They value tradition more than Jesus Christ. Tradition as a thief, killer and destroyer comes with series of dreadful consequences. Reason, they fear tradition more than God.

She better pay, else...........

Lamanii22:
It's even the grand dad not her dad... There shouldn't be any consequence jare

But inheritance (properties) are not shared amongst the females according to their tradition. Why sharing burial bills to a female? Very useless and hypocritical tradition!

Only Jesus Christ will save us all from the ancient stronghold of the man-made tradition inspired by Satan.