stupidity:
una just deh use marriage fear person.


I can’t use my money to marry someone and come to nairaland to start asking for advice. Before I pay that bride price, I’ll bring a contract for her to sign, “you must not torment me”

Dehindepgenius:


Maybe both parties should sign it. The thing about marriage though is that you can never tell what kind of issues will come up. But that attitude of 'using my money to marry someone ' is wrong in my opinion. Sounds like you are buying property.
@9ja007 please take out your phone number from the other post for security reasons.

stupidity:
whatever you spent money to acquire is your property.



Marriage Na scam o!!

God created woman to grow and live off a man.

Relationships, you’ll spend
You’ll pay bride price(her parents might even reject you after spending on relationships)
You’ll foot the marriage ceremony(most women wants expensive wedding, if you don’t have, go and borrow)
After the marriage ceremony, kids start coming(Na here the real spending Dey)

Then you start coming to nairaland to beg for advice because she won’t stop typing wrapper or she’s looking too beautiful and sexy for your liking.


Life itself is full of troubles abeg. It’s designed to give you troubles just to know nothing comes easy.

stupidity:
una just deh use marriage fear person.


I can’t use my money to marry someone and come to nairaland to start asking for advice. Before I pay that bride price, I’ll bring a contract for her to sign, “you must not torment me”

Dehindepgenius:
Hi guys. This one is strictly for the men, married ones especially. Single guys can drop in and learn though. I was inspired to start this thread by the large number of marriage issues seen on Nairaland. Perhaps if we men handle our end better, we'll be solving 50% of the problem right?

So let's talk, advice each other and learn. Issues with our wives, kids, money, jobs, families, intimacy...everything really. I would have loved to tag the married men on Nairaland but I don't know who is married or not. Anyone can help with this.

9ja007

Dehindepgenius:
Hi guys. This one is strictly for the men, married ones especially. Single guys can drop in and learn though.

Octopusssy:
Crackhaus, I sight you viewing like monitor spirit. Anything to contribute?

9ja007:




Thanks for your response and efforts put in place to commenced the above topic concerning challenges we the married men are facing.

I'm 100% available to learn and contribute.

Thanks for the advice to take out my phone number. I dont know how to go about it. Out of curiosity I just googled my phone number, my last post at nairaland and phone number came out and I dont like that.

Please any idea how I can take down my phone number from my previous post?

Dehindepgenius:
The thread is quiet. Maybe I should bite the bullet and set things rolling. I'll have to be vague though as my madam is a very private person.

So, about the fifth year of our marriage all hell broke loose and the devil decided to add jara for us. A close family member of my wife, out of jealousy decided to frame her and I bought the whole thing. The framing was very elaborately done sha, but that's no excuse. When my own family found out, they were enraged. Called me weak for not ending things asap. Meanwhile, my wife was newly pregnant and we both didn't know.

Thank God, the truth came out, thanks to the framing family member's precocious ten year old son. Meanwhile, I had already caved in to family pressure and contacted a divorce lawyer. The truth came out before I could proceed and I spent the better part of the rest of the year convincing my wife that I was sorry. She said she was mostly pained by the fact that I believed someone else over her.

Another thing I'm grateful for is that her dad never found out. Her mum did but she kept it to herself and just prayed. God bless that woman. Anyway, it took a while during which my eyes were opened to the fact that I was actually married to a very good woman. She forgave me me, then early the following year, she called me and said she was losing faith in our marriage and wanted out. Ha! Anyway, long story short we are good now and funny enough our marriage has come out stronger but I learnt some major lessons.

1. Trust your gut, and trust what you know about your spouse.
2. As a man, humility is not weakness. Admitting you are wrong is also not weakness.
3. Try as much as you can to keep third parties, family especially out of your marriage issues.