pocohantas:


Shebi we've had this discussion before. You were doing shakara for me that time when I ask you shikini question.

Lol i no do shakara oo

RisenPhoenix:


Lol. Look at someone damaged by Hollywood, Bollywood and Nollywood telling me I'm damaged by Ubunja's miseducation. My friend, I found out the true nature of women before I was 16; probably before NL even existed.

My old neighbour sits outside his house the whole day on a cane chair until his maiguard takes him inside the house in the evening. Where he even gets his food; I have no idea. His wife has been in the States with her grown children who have never invited their father to my knowledge. I never saw him pick a phone call from the wife and children that he squandered his money and youth on. Another old pensioner neighbour is constantly being ridiculed by his loud wife because he can no longer bring home the cash. If you see how this once proud man is broken, you will pity him. If not for the fact that he owns the house and the shop which she uses to sell stuff, I am sure that his wife would have left him since.

Is that the kind of companionship you wish for me? No thanks. Forget that nonsense about smiling old married couples vacationing in Hawaii. It's a myth.

It's not a myth. I personally know an inseparable couple who are in Love like they met yesterday. They cook together in the kitchen, giggle like kids and travel to see their grandkids together.

The Key is to marry your friend. Marry who you enjoy her company even without doggy and big ass. The problem is that these days, our generation, we're too too shallow...Men chasing ass over personality, women chasing gold over substance... So marriages these days are just shallow and sham unions.

Forget the Baby Mama, Baby Daddy hype. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING....Daddy, mommy and kids no be family. It goes way beyond that. You need to experience it to know it.

Adam and Eve 's case is an isolated one. After them, there have been many cases of couples that have lived happily till the end. Furthermore, if Adam had not been lonely, God would have not provided a companionship for him.
Your miseducation has so much caused a lot of damage to so many Nairaland guys that most of them have got effrontery to come out to spit on the institution of marriage. Don't you think it is high time they started unlearning the toxins you have fed them with?

ubunja:
in that case Adam was a failure until Eve was made for him. Funny how its Eve who ends up separating Adam from God, Eternal Life and Paradise. Smh.

As long as men base their happiness and success on women they're screwed for ever and ever.

God bless you abundantly for this insightful remarks bruh

Kaycee54321:
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It's not a myth. I personally know an inseparable couple who are in Love like they met yesterday. They cook together in the kitchen, giggle like kids and travel to see their grandkids together.

The Key is to marry your friend. Marry who you enjoy her company even without doggy and big ass. The problem is that these days, our generation, we're too too shallow...Men chasing ass over personality, women chasing gold over substance... So marriages these days are just shallow and sham unions.

Forget the Baby Mama, Baby Daddy hype. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING....Daddy, mommy and kids no be family. It goes way beyond that. You need to experience it to know it.

Kaycee54321:
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It's not a myth. I personally know an inseparable couple who are in Love like they met yesterday. They cook together in the kitchen, giggle like kids and travel to see their grandkids together.

For every one couple you name where the husband is happy, I can name 10 that aren't. I live in a new estate with plenty of pensioner neighbours. The couple you just mentioned are an aberration.

Kaycee54321:

The Key is to marry your friend. Marry who you enjoy her company even without doggy and big ass. The problem is that these days, our generation, we're too too shallow...Men chasing ass over personality, women chasing gold over substance... So marriages these days are just shallow and sham unions.

Forget the Baby Mama, Baby Daddy hype. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING....Daddy, mommy and kids no be family. It goes way beyond that. You need to experience it to know it.

Continue reading Cosmopolitan, Vogue and all those girly magazines. This comment sounds just like an extract from one of them.

Says the man whose signature reeks of undue appetite for prostitutes. It is evident that it is the prostitutes that will be there for you by your bedside when all your energies are gone by age 70 and above.

bluefilm:


Don't waste your energy.

That guy or girl cerpvad is already screwed forever and ever.

RisenPhoenix:


For every one couple you name where the husband is happy, I can name 10 that aren't. I live in a new estate with plenty of pensioner neighbours. The couple you just mentioned are an aberration.



Continue reading Cosmopolitan, Vogue and all those girly magazines. This comment sounds just like an extract from one of them.

Lol. Bruh, I don't read teeny feel good magazines.

What I'm telling you is hard fact. There's nothing macho about looking down on people with stable families or claiming that all women are trash and hence baby daddy is the answer.

Marriage is not for everyone, true... But there are people who are so damn happy in their marriages that if there's a next time, they'd do same exact thing.

Well, our personal experiences define our values sha. Perhaps, your environment, all you've seen are sad and unhappy unions... It's hasty generalization to conclude that a great percentage of marriages are bound to end in gloom because of your personal experiences or observations. The World is a big place.

Bruh, true, I can understand your points but those cases you mentioned are isolated cases because there are billions of couples in the world today who are happily living together with their children and families. Your aim is supposed to be on the positive side of the box as you plan to to make your life easier and better. Don't give up on life. You can surely make it

RisenPhoenix:


Lol. Look at someone damaged by Hollywood, Bollywood and Nollywood telling me I'm damaged by Ubunja's miseducation. My friend, I found out the true nature of women before I was 16; probably before NL even existed.

My old neighbour sits outside his house the whole day on a cane chair until his maiguard takes him inside the house in the evening. Where he even gets his food; I have no idea. His wife has been in the States with her grown children who have never invited their father to my knowledge. I never saw him pick a phone call from the wife and children that he squandered his money and youth on. Another old pensioner neighbour is constantly being ridiculed by his loud wife because he can no longer bring home the cash. If you see how this once proud man is broken, you will pity him. If not for the fact that he owns the house and the shop which she uses to sell stuff, I am sure that his wife would have left him since.

Is that the kind of companionship you wish for me? No thanks. Forget that nonsense about smiling old married couples vacationing in Hawaii. It's a myth.

Kaycee54321:



Lol. Bruh, I don't read teeny feel good magazines.

What I'm telling you is hard fact. There's nothing macho about looking down on people with stable families or claiming that all women are trash and hence baby daddy is the answer.

Marriage is not for everyone, true... But there are people who are so damn happy in their marriages that if there's a next time, they'd do same exact thing.

Well, our personal experiences define our values sha. Perhaps, your environment, all you've seen are sad and unhappy unions... It's hasty generalization to conclude that a great percentage of marriages are bound to end in gloom because of your personal experiences or observations. The World is a big place.

They SAY they'll do the exact same thing. There is a difference.

Conclusions are based on observation not on happy clappy feminine magazines. Like I said, for every genuinely happy union where THE MAN is happy, I can probably name 10 where he''s not. Based on that alone, I cannot recommend marriage as a solution to old age loneliness.

cerpvad:
Bruh, true, I can understand your points but those cases you mentioned are isolated cases because there are billions of couples in the world today who are happily living together with their children and families. Your aim is supposed to be on the positive side of the box as you plan to to make your life easier and better. Don't give up on life. You can surely make it

Billions? Lol. Wake up and smell the roses. I really wouldn't want to take alook at where that figure was pulled out from.

In my opinion, the worst type of deceit is self-deceit.

RisenPhoenix:


They SAY they'll do the exact same thing. There is a difference.

Conclusions are based on observation not on happy clappy feminine magazines. Like I said, for every genuinely happy union where THE MAN is happy, I can probably name 10 where he''s not. Based on that alone, I cannot recommend marriage as a solution to old age loneliness.

I don't even understand our discourse again. Never said marriage is a solution to any form of loneliness. I'm coming from the angle of people saying that marriage is wack and being a baby daddy (which basically means depriving ones kids of the necessary family atmosphere) is the Macho thing to do.

Nevertheless, whatever rocks your boat, man.

Currently, Statistics put the population of the world at some over eight billions. So it won't be an overstatement to say billions of couples are happily married in the world
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Billions? Lol. Wake up and smell the roses. I really wouldn't want to take alook at where that figure was pulled out from.

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Kaycee54321:



I don't even understand our discourse again. Never said marriage is a solution to any form of loneliness. I'm coming from the angle of people saying that marriage is wack and being a baby daddy (which basically means depriving ones kids of the necessary family atmosphere) is the Macho thing to do.

Nevertheless, whatever rocks your boat, man.

I am explaining why men don't want to venture into marriage. And someone was citing loneliness and regret in old age.

Yes. The only reason to go into marriage is to give kids a stable home environment. That was my reason. As for old age companionship, perish the thought.

Jewessgratitude:



You guys should speak for yourselfs.
I don't know why you're making it look like its a taboo for an eligible spinster to be on the lookout for a man to marry. Should I be looking out for a woman? Or cant you see you're beginning to sound off?

The fact that majority of you are here to flirt away your lives doesn't mean there no decent men out there who still have sense and understand God's purpose for their lives to marry and obtain His blessings.

If we check those of you always coming here to bash women, youll likely be all these dry looking men we avoid in real life. Yes! So what's the boast about? Na una type?

Babe biko Preach! Preach!! Preach!!! Nah them dey often open yeye threads up and down to bash and talk trash. If you ain't married as a man,no one takes you serious in any gathering.they will always wave your talks away cos you never keep woman for house.this is Africa and marriage is a yardstick in measuring so many things about an adult. In Igbo we call them okokporo and old okokporos often gets senior okokporo kolanut during traditional marriage and nah subtle insult be that

RisenPhoenix:


I am explaining why men don't want to venture into marriage. And someone was citing loneliness and regret in old age.

Yes. The only reason to go into marriage is to give kids a stable home environment. That was my reason. As for old age companionship, perish the thought.

So, will you marry at all?

To give your kids a stable environment to grow?

Hisduchess:


Babe biko Preach! Preach!! Preach!!! Nah them dey often open yeye threads up and down to bash and talk trash. If you ain't married as a man,no one takes you serious in any gathering.they will always wave your talks away cos you never keep woman for house.this is Africa and marriage is a yardstick in measuring so many things about an adult. In Igbo we call them okokporo and old okokporos often gets senior okokporo kolanut during traditional marriage and nah subtle insult be that

Gbam!

cerpvad:
Currently, Statistics put the population of the world at some over eight billions. So it won't be an overstatement to say billions of couples are happily married in the world

And of the 8 billion, how many are of marriageable age? then how many have actually married and still remain so? and finally, how many of those are actually happy?

Kaycee54321:


So, will you marry at all?

To give your kids a stable environment to grow?

I am married and have kids. What happens to the marriage after my kids grow up and are no longer in need of a stable environment is anybody's guess. I've already set up my finances so that I will not have to rely on anyone on retirement. Emotionally, I am content to be on my own and need no companionship; especially not from a woman.

RisenPhoenix:


I am married and have kids. What happens to the marriage after my kids grow up and are no longer in need of a stable environment is anybody's guess. I've already set up my finances so that I will not have to rely on anyone on retirement. Emotionally, I am content to be on my own and need no companionship; especially not from a woman.

Ouch. Little wonder. Would have said one or two things if you weren't already married but interested in marriage.

Nevertheless, friendly advice, try to build a solid relationship with your family. I don't know the kinda woman you're married to....But if you will defend her if you see a male or female assaulting her on the road, then I suggest you try solidifying your relationship with her and the kids.

I understand emotional gra gra. It's a tough world and one has to be strong and prepared. But if you're going to be soft, Big man, be soft for family. Like I said, I don't know the relationship you have with your Missus, but I have a strong feeling that it could be better.

It's worth it if done right. Peace.

Kaycee54321:
Most boys here talk like products of broken homes. Why will you be abusive and saying things like 'smelly pussy' to a Lady you have never met?...Probably their Dadas didn't treat their Mamas right. It's a vicious cycle which should be broken ASAP.

And that cycle is a terrible one.anyway alot of them are teenage boys who just started using android phones

Jewessgratitude:



You guys should speak for yourselfs.
I don't know why you're making it look like its a taboo for an eligible spinster to be on the lookout for a man to marry. Should I be looking out for a woman? Or cant you see you're beginning to sound off?

The fact that majority of you are here to flirt away your lives doesn't mean there no decent men out there who still have sense and understand God's purpose for their lives to marry and obtain His blessings.

If we check those of you always coming here to bash women, youll likely be all these dry looking men we avoid in real life. Yes! So what's the boast about? Na una type?

can we talk ?

Kennedyiheme:
why do you ladies always say men who reject marriage are not matured or are small boys.??.. you don't think its normal for men to reject the marriage union?.. wakeup.. sensible men are waking up... nobody wants to deal with a womans problems... you just cant accept the fact that men aren't rolling over heels for women anymore... why should i suffer for a vagina with alot of body counts that its now loose as hell.. please keep it, if you say there are some men out ther willing to marry, why are alot of women single... you better face the reality, you might be single forever

Young man, you are very wrong. I don't know your age but from your thread, I don't think you have gathered enough experience in life to gain emotional maturity. The reason why many ladies are still single has nothing to do with the mindset of men of your kind. The main reason is tied to the fact that many young men are not financially placed to furnish the cost of marriage and family upkeep.

Don't conclude on issues just because someone woke up one day and decided to write some stuff without taking cognisance of prevailing societal factors.

Jewessgratitude:



Lol... I will not be a single forever. I'll soon post my wedding pics here and you'll see it live! Ok?
You have chosen that part so be it unto you.

Real men dont reason the way you do. It because you're not a real man, thats why you have a poor and weak mentality.
Real men dont argue with women and that is why you're backing out cos uoi can live with your fellow woman as you'll have troubles cohabiting like you rightly said. Only sissies like you would support this post.

As for me, I will marry a real man who can handle me like a real man should.

Tot I was talking to a man though.

Real men don't argue with women, what do you mean by such a statement?

Rapmoney:


Young man, you are very wrong. I don't know your age but from your thread, I don't think you have gathered enough experience in life to gain emotional maturity. The reason why many ladies are still single has nothing to do with the mindset of men of your kind. The main reason is tied to the fact that many young men are not financially placed to furnish the cost of marriage and family upkeep.

Don't conclude on issues just because someone woke up one day and decided to write some stuff without taking cognisance of prevailing societal factors.

American men too are not financially stable?... its simple, men aren't getting married because there are more cons than pros...

Hisduchess:


Babe biko Preach! Preach!! Preach!!! Nah them dey often open yeye threads up and down to bash and talk trash. If you ain't married as a man,no one takes you serious in any gathering.they will always wave your talks away cos you never keep woman for house.this is Africa and marriage is a yardstick in measuring so many things about an adult. In Igbo we call them okokporo and old okokporos often gets senior okokporo kolanut during traditional marriage and nah subtle insult be that

lol no one cares if a man isn't married... we aren't like women.. why do you people lie so much in this group... i know we just revealed the hard truth that you will remain single forever.. i understand, i was in your shoes, I'd react the same way you did.. its okay life is unfair..

officialbet78:
We are about to win again tonight.. Place your bets with every assurance of winning.

I want to place a bet

Lol.

I just can't fathom;
1)why some men are deluded into jubiliating they are more advantaged than women as regards to eschewing marriage. Its from an archaic lens off course
2)why some ladies are worked up over men decision to avoid marriage. Is it by force ?

RisenPhoenix:


For every one couple you name where the husband is happy, I can name 10 that aren't. I live in a new estate with plenty of pensioner neighbours. The couple you just mentioned are an aberration.



Continue reading Cosmopolitan, Vogue and all those girly magazines. This comment sounds just like an extract from one of them.

y r u so bitter about marriage? If other people marriages r bad doesn't necessary means yrs will b too.

pocohantas:


It is a whole lot easier to talk about toto, than read books.



Amen

lol...crazy

cerpvad:
Adam and Eve 's case is an isolated one. After them, there have been many cases of couples that have lived happily till the end. Furthermore, if Adam had not been lonely, God would have not provided a companionship for him.
Your miseducation has so much caused a lot of damage to so many Nairaland guys that most of them have got effrontery to come out to spit on the institution of marriage. Don't you think it is high time they started unlearning the toxins you have fed them with?

loneliness by itself wasn't going to cost Adam his life, home and relationship with God. But companionship has done that.

Look at the mess that Prince Harry has got himself in by marrying a divorced woman, Megan! She found him a prince and has succeeded in taking him out of the Royal family and making him just another guy in Canada. Wake up. Women will separate you from your destiny. Truly women are destroyers of Kings. Saith the Bible.

Its isolated. It's 1 in a million. But 1 is too much already. Cause we only have one life.

ubunja:
loneliness by itself wasn't going to cost Adam his life, home and relationship with God. But companionship has done that.

Look at the mess that Prince Harry has got himself in by marrying a divorced woman, Megan! She found him a prince and has succeeded in taking him out of the Royal family and making him just another guy in Canada. Wake up. Women will separate you from your destiny. Truly women are destroyers of Kings. Saith the Bible.

Its isolated. It's 1 in a million. But 1 is too much already. Cause we only have one life.

the harry guy is an example of simp men.. acting like babies, letting a woman control you... lol.. she didn't even take his name, thats a red flag and a huge disrespect to the royal family