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Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 11:28pm On Jan 16, 2020 |
I was triggered to pen down this post because of a write up by a fellow Nairalander. Apparently, he had sex with his wife while sharing a bed with his sister in-law due to accommodation issues. He came online and wanted to know if there was anything wrong with that. After reading that post, I felt so disgusted and decided to address married people who think that they own the world and have the right to be 'indecent' just because they are married. My bone of contention is that, if that poster were not married to the lady in question, both of them could have restrained themselves and waited till they were alone. But alas, they decided to act like two despicable sex starved animals devoid of human control, simply because they are married! Welcome to the world of married people who think that: 1. "A married woman has the right to expose her 'mammary glands' in public all in the name of breastfeeding a baby". Whatever stops her from excusing herself from the crowd before breastfeeding her child? Of course, she has the right to do that because she is a married woman and her actions are negligible and justified! If a single lady mistakenly exposes her boobs in public, she will be called unprintable names and labelled a prostitute. 2. "Married couples have the right to watch porn cos it spices up their sex lives". Whoever told married couples that sex was meant to be spiced up? Nah! Ideally, sex was created for procreation and not for pleasure. In other words, no extra ingredient is needed to spice it up! So, if you think being married gives you the right to watch porn, while the singles are supposed to be watching 'cartoon films', then you should have a rethink! Bear in mind that porn is man made and stems from perverted minds of indecent movie producers. If it is wrong to watch porn as a single man, then it is also wrong to watch it as a married man. For those who believe there is a maker, you should bear in mind that during judgement, you will be judged individually and not as a couple. So, stop straying and committing atrocities in the guise of being married. 3. "Married couples think they can indulge in pleasurable sex almost on a daily basis even when they are not planning on making babies". This point is related to number two, but I need to hammer more on this. It's high time married couples learnt that God created marriage primarily for companionship, while the secondary aim was for procreation. Unfortunately, we have decided to rewrite this and now see marriage as a licence to have unlimited and pleasurable sex;while lambasting singles who indulge in sex. Let's assume there were two men;one is married and the other is single. The single man wants a child and decides to have sex with a woman strictly for that purpose. Afterwards, he restrains himself from having sex with her. The married man on the other hand isn't ready for kids, but indulges in 'pleasurable sex' almost on a daily basis. Who between the two men must have fulfilled God's purpose for procreation? The single guy of course! It's appalling that most young singles rush into marriage just so they can start enjoying sex. This is because, the world has been programme to believe that married couples are free to have 'pleasurable sex', while singles have no right to. Okay, since that is the general belief, all a single man needs to do, is to plan a fake marriage so he can enjoy all the sex in the world. And when he is tired of the lady, he divorces her and marries another while the sex continues. What baffles me is the way even the so called 'Men of God' have gone down the indecent route by preaching about 'pleasurable sex' during sermons. They even encourage women to practice different sex styles with their spouses. Then they turn around and forbid singles from indulging in sex, even when the sole aim of a single indulging in sex is for procreation. This shows that we have totally lost it! Pastors claim to be conversant with the bible, but they never remember the verse that says: "And she went unto her husband, he knew her, and she became pregnant". This shows clearly that the married couples in the days of Abraham and his contemporaries, strictly had sex for procreation and not for pleasure. Unfortunately, pastors forget to emphasize on this cos if they do, they will be giving themselves away and missing out on the opportunity of enjoying 'pleasurable sex' with their spouses and side chicks. Another instance to prove that sex was created for procreation and not for pleasure, was when God struck Anon dead cos he spilled his semen when he had intercourse with his sister in-law. It shows that any act of sex not geared towards procreation is anti-human and may incur God's wrath. 'Married couples', if you think you have the right to indulge in pleasurable sex cos you're married, then singles too have as much right as you. Bear in mind that if God were to judge 'pleasurable sex offenders', you will be number one on his list. Try to assimilate the fact that being married does not exonerate you cos you're also breaking the rules of sex originally created by God. 4. "Married people have more responsibilities and shouldn't be saddled with any additional responsibility". You might as well wear the tag: "Thread carefully, cos I am married ". That way, people will treat you differently cos you're a special breed for signing the dotted lines. What makes you think that single men and women don't have responsibilities? Being without a spouse or kid doesn't mean that they are useless. Their are many singles who cater for their siblings, parents, cousins and others. Just like your priorities are your wife and children, is the same way single men and women also have their own priorities. That two people have different priorities doesn't make one more important. I could go on and on, but I have to stop here cos I believe that I have passed my message across. Don't get it twisted! I'm not trying to condemn or castigate married people, but my bone of contention is that they should stop justifying their indecent actions and offences cos it wreaks of hypocrisy. The belief that they are entitled to certain rights and privileges simply because they are married, should be condemned in it's entirety and in all ramifications. After all, the difference between a 'married man' and an 'unmarried man' is the 'un', which seems insignificant cos it doesn't even form a complete word. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by cococandy(f): 11:38pm On Jan 16, 2020 |
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Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by FreeMejoor1(m): 12:05am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Nice point..fuVKING people..everything sex and keep increasing the population of this damn country..breeding poverty and pushing their kids to the street to fend for themselves.. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by Parablesonmarble: 12:38am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Op, please, are you preaching or correcting or motivating or what exactly are you trying to do? All I see up there is hasty generalization! What works for you is good for you and you are not answerable to anyone for it as long as you are breaking no law or causing any inconvenience to anyone! So, to you now, if a married couple have sex for recreation and not for procreation in the recess of their abode, they have broken the law and are trying to cause you sleepless night? I'm confused. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by ImaIma1(f): 12:55am On Jan 17, 2020 |
You sound pained and bitter about something but you made some valid points. Indecent exposure should not be hidden under the umbrella of marriage. Lactating mums can cover up but they just choose to bare it all. Having sex with an inlaw sleeping on the same bed is just low and shameful. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by ireneidiva(f): 3:00am On Jan 17, 2020 |
1 and 4 are true. The rest are rubbish. |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by zed7: 3:43am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Go and get married jor and leave grammar or let married people be. 1 Like |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by Gloriagee(f): 4:33am On Jan 17, 2020 |
So wa ok |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by LewsTherin: 5:15am On Jan 17, 2020 |
With all the rubbish posted on Nairaland I have honestly never seen a thread dripping with so much bile and bitterness as this. But then, this is Nairaland and you're probably just trying to be controversial so well done mate, well done. 8 Likes |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by Nnefada: 5:35am On Jan 17, 2020 |
My dear op, U see that your number one, there's nothing anyone can do about it. When duty calls, you just have to obey diligently and on time. I was once in a bus traveling from east to Lagos with my elder sister and her baby, about an hour into the journey, my niece started crying. The mum prepared cereal but the baby refused to eat but continued to cry. A guy sitting beside us got irritated and began to yell at my sister to throw that 'rubbish' (the cereal) away and breastfeed the poor baby. She had to shamefully put away the food and breastfeed her baby and at last there was peace again. What I'm saying is that sometimes these women are left with no choice than to breastfeed (publicly). Though the breast could be covered with a piece of cloth. On married folks having 'pleasurable' sex. Oga I beg, don't use your own hand to condemn your self. Thank you 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by Vyolet(f): 5:49am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Nawa o, so sex in marriage is now for procreation and not for pleasure. This OP's beef for married people is something else. 17 Likes |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by ATTemi: 6:02am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Go back 2 bed. It is too early! 1 Like |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by Sanchez01: 6:32am On Jan 17, 2020 |
A Nairalander sought to know if making out with his sister-in-law on the bed was bad. The deed had been done and I'm sure he asked because his restrictions prolly does not cover that area. And then you, a supposed human with a meaningful job decides to rant over what has happened and dish out an epistle nearly 12 AM on some other person's case! And then there is the issue of authenticity of the story in itself but you thought married people are entitled? Let's all pray for meaningful jobs that will make us focus on our lives and not brood over people's cases all day long and rant about them when half of Nigeria has slept. It is way too early in the year. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by irunoko(m): 6:38am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Some people like the clown above will not like this your post op Some even have sex in the presence of their little kids/ in the same Room with them so who is their sister-in-law that they cannot have sex in their presence? I hope you have worn a mask because they're coming for your head 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by crackkhaus: 6:53am On Jan 17, 2020 |
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Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by emmaodet: 7:17am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Sanchez01: 1 Like |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by NoToPile: 8:43am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Link to the initial thread please. |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:03am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Parablesonmarble: When you read, try to digest some more. I said, married people shouldn't hide under the guise of being married to perpetrate some distasteful acts. |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:04am On Jan 17, 2020 |
irunoko: I am ready for a showdown. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:06am On Jan 17, 2020 |
NoToPile: https://www.nairaland.com/5632708/it-wrong-make-love-partner |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:14am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Sanchez01: I don't brood over people's cases, but rather try to analyze issues when it pops up. And I wouldn't do so if he hadn't come online to share what was supposed to be a private matter. For what it's worth, the point raised about married people isn't a generalization. They always feel a sense of entitlement. And it is what it is! |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:15am On Jan 17, 2020 |
irunoko: You're right on point! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:24am On Jan 17, 2020 |
LewsTherin: I wasn't expecting to get a pat on the back from the married folks. You know as well as I do that the points I raised are valid. If you feel it is dripping with so much bile and bitterness, then that must be because the acts perpetrated by married people are disgusting. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:30am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Vyolet: Dear, if you go the biblical way, the bitter truth is, sex was never created for pleasure, but for procreation. But I guess no married couple would want to accept that fact because of the pleasure it gives them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:35am On Jan 17, 2020 |
zed7: The last time I checked, I didn't mention my marital status in the post. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:37am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Livescores: All garbages were once assets. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:39am On Jan 17, 2020 |
ATTemi: We are not in the same geo-location. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by TheSourcerer: 9:46am On Jan 17, 2020 |
We4all:you do have good points though 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:57am On Jan 17, 2020 |
Nnefada: Thanks for your input! But why didn't your sister express the breast milk into a sterilized bottle before her departure? She knew she had a baby, but was not proactive enough to come up with a back up plan in case the baby rejected the cereals. The truth is, most parents know next to nothing about parenting and think they can just jump right into parenthood. Like I said in my post, it is wrong and distasteful to expose boobs in public all in the name of breastfeeding a child. What about kids who lost their mothers during childbirth? How do you think they cope? As for your last point: Well, no one wants to be told that sex wasn't created for pleasure. But that doesn't change the fact that it is, what it is! |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by We4all: 9:59am On Jan 17, 2020 |
ireneidiva: You think so, cos number 2 and 3 contains your most cherished act;SEX. |
Re: Married People And Their Sense Of Entitlement! by COURVOISier(m): 10:01am On Jan 17, 2020 |
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