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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Idimuguy: 5:38am On Jan 18, 2020
I'LL BE ADVISING YOU, UNDER THE ASSUMPTION THAT YOU'RE INNOCENT.

First, just let it go.

More importantly, don't beg your former boss again.

Just send her something along these lines:

"I have since forgiven ..... and have decided to move on.

Come some day, time will unveil the truth and my innocence.

Thank you for the opportunity to work for you those past years and for all your impact.

I am far grateful. God bless you, ma."

After you send her don't call.

If she doesn't call or respond, don't bother.

If she responds too, read her reply and know what to do.

Pray hard over this issue. Ask God to vindicate you. Be specific in naming the time when you want him to act.

You'll be surprised in 30 days time, or more or less your madam will call you and apologize that they've found the truth.

If this happens, ordinarily you should be suing for defamation. However, just let it go too when that time comes.

But first, start with the text message.

Also, if she calls you back to resume duty, I'll advise you turn it down POLITELY.

Right now, your dignity as a man is all that matters.

You'll get a better job.

Keep hope alive.

God wants to elevate you.

If you need further assistance, DM me.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by BecaciaBarbie(f): 5:54am On Jan 18, 2020
HarunaWest:
This OP is a blaady liar..He wanted to handle breast. Awon Press Club

Meanwhile, who else noticed the abbreviations and bad Grammer that OP text to his boss. You work for a lawyer and you send this kinda sh*** to her..I think this is the reason you were fired.
Grammar

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by skedman(m): 6:54am On Jan 18, 2020
It is so obvious that you attempted to rape her
From your WhatsApp message you accepted that fact because you begged for forgiveness
She declined your offer to rest but you ensure you put more effort by getting closer to her and putting your hands on her shoulder
Was she sick or tired ?
Why force her to rest or were you done with the cleaning work?
Why touch her when you no she is a housemaid ?
You made an attempt and opted for part B but unfortunately you lost

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by coldFLARES1(m): 7:00am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


guy dis is d truth, i know wia to go if i want sex
Paddy, the haste with which some bad/unfortunate cycles go to completion would marvel.

For me, it was absolutely insensitive and inappropriate not to have judged the situation correctly before proceeding to wrap your hands around her shoulders all in a bid to persuade her to eat with you. Haha!

I take lessons from experiences and would not have done what you did in 2006! So, don't fight your sack after all no be you create the job and no be you go pay yourself salaries. Take the lessons and continue with your life. Las Las, you go dey okay.

Sorry for your loss. All shall be well!

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 7:11am On Jan 18, 2020
coldFLARES1:
Paddy, the haste with which some bad/unfortunate cycles go to completion would marvel.

For me, it was absolutely insensitive and inappropriate not to have judged the situation correctly before proceeding to wrap your hands around her shoulders all in a bid to persuade her to eat with you. Haha!

I take lessons from experiences and would not have done what you did in 2006! So, don't fight your sack after all no be you create the job and no be you go pay yourself salaries. Take the lessons and continue with your life. Las Las, you go dey okay.

Sorry for your loss. All shall be well!


tanx very much

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 7:16am On Jan 18, 2020
Idimuguy:
I'LL BE ADVISING YOU, UNDER THE ASSUMPTION THAT YOU'RE INNOCENT.

First, just let it go.

More importantly, don't beg your former boss again.

Just send her something along these lines:

"I have since forgiven ..... and have decided to move on.

Come some day, time will unveil the truth and my innocence.

Thank you for the opportunity to work for you those past years and for all your impact.

I am far grateful. God bless you, ma."

After you send her don't call.

If she doesn't call or respond, don't bother.

If she responds too, read her reply and know what to do.

Pray hard over this issue. Ask God to vindicate you. Be specific in naming the time when you want him to act.

You'll be surprised in 30 days time, or more or less your madam will call you and apologize that they've found the truth.

If this happens, ordinarily you should be suing for defamation. However, just let it go too when that time comes.

But first, start with the text message.

Also, if she calls you back to resume duty, I'll advise you turn it down POLITELY.

Right now, your dignity as a man is all that matters.

You'll get a better job.

Keep hope alive.

God wants to elevate you.

If you need further assistance, DM me.

boss thank you very much, i know is hard to believe but am innocent,
sex didnt com to my mind at all
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 7:20am On Jan 18, 2020
skedman:
It is so obvious that you attempted to rape her
From your WhatsApp message you accepted that fact because you begged for forgiveness
She declined your offer to rest but you ensure you put more effort by getting closer to her and putting your hands on her shoulder
Was she sick or tired ?
Why force her to rest or were you done with the cleaning work?
Why touch her when you no she is a housemaid ?
You made an attempt and opted for part B but unfortunately you lost

i am well exposed to know d consequences of rape, sex has not been my problem, am not sex staved, tell me why i will rape someone, bros am not mad

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by melexchi(m): 7:22am On Jan 18, 2020
What happen to people minding their business, ND u call urself and introvert buh u're holding someone's shoulder bro even if she dnt charge you for rape she can charge you for sexual assault

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by SmileDance(f): 7:35am On Jan 18, 2020
When a lady says no, she means no
You have no right to put ur hand on her shoulder, guy you are a stranger to her. OK, maybe rape is too big but what happened according to ur story is sexual harassment.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by SmileDance(f): 7:36am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


i am well exposed to know d consequences of rape, sex has not been my problem, am not sex staved, tell me why i will rape someone, bros am not mad
OK, its not rape but sexual harassment.
When a lady says no, it is no.
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Carinaflo(f): 7:43am On Jan 18, 2020
This your behavior is one behavior that I still find difficult to understand, and a lot of guys are guilty of this.
Guys should know that not every girl you see is interested in making small talks with you and you have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to touch/place your hands on someone you barely know.

The girl was on her own, someone you have never had any interraction with, you started forcing her to come rest and eat with you, even when she made it obvious that she was not interested in whatever you were saying you decided to pressure her more and you had the audacity to place your hand on her shoulder .
What exactly were you trying to achieve
why would you put your hand on her shoulder
You over stepped your boundaries. Someone like me would have given you a dirty slap before reporting you.

I understand your boss's action, she is a woman and a lawyer, she judged the situation from a woman's point of view and believe me as a woman, when a guy touches you without your consent it is an abuse. what you did was very wrong.

So quit pleading with her, just go and search for another job.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 7:48am On Jan 18, 2020
Carinaflo:
This your behavior is one behavior that I still find difficult to understand, and a lot of guys are guilty of this.
Guys should know that not every girl you see is interested in making small talks with you and you have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to touch/place your hands on someone you barely know.

The girl was on her own, someone you have never had any interraction with, you started forcing her to come rest and eat with you, even when she made it obvious that she was not interested in whatever you were saying you decided to pressure her more and you had the audacity to place your hand on her shoulder .
What exactly were you trying to achieve
why would you put your hand on her shoulder
You over stepped your boundaries. Someone like me would have given you a dirty slap before reporting you.

I understand your boss's action, she is a woman and a lawyer, she judged the situation from a woman's point of view and believe me as a woman, when a guy touches you without your consent it is an abuse. what you did was very wrong.

So quit pleading with her, just go and search for another job.
we have been having a general discussion before the touch,

have stop begging her, trying to move on

tanx dear
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 7:49am On Jan 18, 2020
SmileDance:
OK, its not rape but sexual harassment.
When a lady says no, it is no.

didnt know it will escalate to dat,

tanx

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Carinaflo(f): 7:53am On Jan 18, 2020
Idimuguy:
I'LL BE ADVISING YOU, UNDER THE ASSUMPTION THAT YOU'RE INNOCENT.

First, just let it go.

More importantly, don't beg your former boss again.

Just send her something along these lines:

"I have since forgiven ..... and have decided to move on.

Come some day, time will unveil the truth and my innocence.

Thank you for the opportunity to work for you those past years and for all your impact.

I am far grateful. God bless you, ma."

After you send her don't call.

If she doesn't call or respond, don't bother.

If she responds too, read her reply and know what to do.

Pray hard over this issue. Ask God to vindicate you. Be specific in naming the time when you want him to act.

You'll be surprised in 30 days time, or more or less your madam will call you and apologize that they've found the truth.

If this happens, ordinarily you should be suing for defamation. However, just let it go too when that time comes.

But first, start with the text message.

Also, if she calls you back to resume duty, I'll advise you turn it down POLITELY.

Right now, your dignity as a man is all that matters.

You'll get a better job.

Keep hope alive.

God wants to elevate you.

If you need further assistance, DM me.

From the story he told, he may not be guilty of rape but he is surely guilty of sexual harrasment.
Guys do not have the right to go about placing their hands on random ladies.
The society needs to educate young guys, we should let them know that touching someone you don't know is a form of harrasment.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by helinues: 8:15am On Jan 18, 2020
You are not telling the truth..

How about sexual harassment?

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by AlphaStorm: 8:15am On Jan 18, 2020
I cant stress this enough.
Always have a recording device on you. Never engage in any "funny" play with female co-workers. If possible, keep it official and do not mingle with female co-workers.Dont go beyond a handshake when it comes to female co-workers. This is 2020 , get a sexual consent form.
#metoo is real. Ask Morgan freeman and Bill cosby they'll tell u. Its better to be called a woman hater at work than to loose ur Job cos e no easy to get job these days.
OP, let this be ur watchword in 2020. I pray God provides u a better job.

#Peace #

NB: Do NOT include that firm in ur CV as work experience ooooo. It might work against u.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Orpe7(m): 8:15am On Jan 18, 2020
Next time learn to mind your business
If she no rest or chop na your belle?
Oga park well
You had intentions, atleast if not for that very moment, maybe later
You wanted to play the long game, be nice to her now, gain her trust, then knack her akpako later

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Sacchi1162(m): 8:16am On Jan 18, 2020
Minding my own business is my own new decade resolution because it seems even people that don't know you just hates you

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 8:16am On Jan 18, 2020
AlphaStorm:
I cant stress this enough.
Always have a recording device on you. Never engage in any "funny" play with female co-workers. If possible, keep it official and do not mingle with female co-workers. This is 2020 , get a sexual consent form.
#metoo is real. Ask Morgan freeman and Bill cosby they'll tell u. Its better to be called a woman hater at work than to loose ur Job cos e no easy to get job these days.
OP, let this be ur watchword in 2020. I pray God provides u a better job.

#Peace #

GOD bless u
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 8:16am On Jan 18, 2020
If I am accuse wrongly, I always stand my groud and fight. How can I be crying and begging of something I know am innocent about.


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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Stanzar7: 8:17am On Jan 18, 2020
StrongandMighty:
Let's hear her own side of the story first..
Una too dey lie for this forum

He said he is depressed. Can't u just give him words of encouragement and move on..
Tomorrow now u will hear another news and u will b happy...

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Stanzar7: 8:18am On Jan 18, 2020
tommyken:
If I am accuse wrongly, I always stand my groud and fight. How can I be crying and begging of something I know am innocent about.


.


Me too..
I have been accused before, though not on rape.. I stood my ground. Even ready to fight

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Alvin007: 8:20am On Jan 18, 2020
Lawyer wey get secretary, maid...and influential...wey no get CCTV for office...mtcheww...A quick review of what transpired, on CCTC, would've helped solve this case.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Alphafeezay(m): 8:20am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


tanx dear,
i can't be so daft to tink of such


You are overstepping your boundary here calling someone dear, you like to dey overstep your boundary and also the lady might be a victim of rape so the trauma still hunting her.


Learn to mind your business and keep space from strangers.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Mac2016(m): 8:20am On Jan 18, 2020
His mistake; he kept begging like he actually did it or planned doing it....But the girl was faster with her suspicion.

Eat, am not eating se wa did problem... Nigga wanted the babe pussy so badly and the babe saw that from afar

Many events led to that spot but nigga skipped the lead up events.

I actually believe his intentions were not pure initially... But the babe didn't wait enough to get the right accusation since she sensed his motive

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by tammie24: 8:21am On Jan 18, 2020
Your begging was too much that's why it seem as though she was tell the truth

In a situation like this you don't beg
Just stand on your word and damn the devilish girl to hell
She may have even been threatened by you as per the job or maybe she didn't like you
These things do happen

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by TOPCRUISE(m): 8:21am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.
In otherwords; An introvert forming Mr nice guy in his first day of work decided to put his uninvited hands on a Lady to convince her.
You think every lady will like you for being nice. That moment you understand more about women is the moment you mind your business

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Stanzar7: 8:21am On Jan 18, 2020
Orpe7:
Next time learn to mind your business
If she no rest or chop na your belle?
Oga park well
You had intentions, atleast if not for that very moment, maybe later
You wanted to play the long game, be nice to her now, gain her trust, then knack her akpako later

OK we have heard. One day u will cry ur cry here. I will b waiting then

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 8:21am On Jan 18, 2020
Alphafeezay:



You are overstepping your boundary here calling someone dear, you like to dey overstep your boundary and also the lady might be a victim of rape so the trauma still hunting her.


Learn to mind your business and keep space from strangers.

noted with thanks
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by StrongandMighty: 8:22am On Jan 18, 2020
Stanzar7:


He said he is depressed. Can't u just give him words of encouragement and move on..
Tomorrow now u will hear another news and u will b happy...

What if the narration he gave is totally different from what happened??

I can't judge a case one sidedly, the outcome is always bad

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by odogwu9(m): 8:22am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.
You asked her to come and rest small and eat..she refused.. And kept u on persuading her..na wa for u o ..As an introvert u claim..u no suppose even call her come chop. This is gross stupidity from you. I suggest u move on..

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 8:23am On Jan 18, 2020
Lamanii22:
That lady was sent from the pit of hell... Damn... No evidence, no nothing... Sometimes it's good to be mean sef... Too much kindness isn't good... I'm really sorry you were accused wrongly and sacked all at once.. The lord would provide a better job for you Hun..
most people don’t need compassion. In this world one needs to be hard to succeed sometimes.

If anyone want to enter fire let them enter

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