Don't forget the rule that says you should mind your business 80% of the time. You cannot help someone by force. You asked her to rest/eat the first time and she refused. You asked again, still she refused. Why didn't you let her be?!

You told her to come and eat? Eat where? From your plate?

You told her to come and rest? Rest where? You have a bed for her?

These questions are not without an intention.

Just let go and move on. If you try to take up this case, the above statements from you will keep you in jail for at least 6 months. There is no witness or recordings, but your words will be used against you.

ensamy:
Wetin carry you put hand for her shoulder. Na your friend or wifey ? Na small small e be wan start. From shoulder to breast to pussy. Go find another job and learn your lesson.

Forget that rapist liar

Who asks their wife to eat three times ? Maybe once or maximum twice!! But thrice? And to add salt to the lie he put his hand on her shoulder a third time ? Someone he said he just met ?

This guy is a rapist and a pathological liar

Acidosis:

Don't forget the rule that says you should mind your business 80% of the time. You cannot help someone by force. You asked her to rest/eat the first time and she refused. You asked again, still she refused. Why didn't you let her be?!

You told her to come and eat? Eat where? From your plate?

You told her to come and rest? Rest where? You have a bed for her?

These questions are not without an intention.

Just let go and move on. If you try to take up this case, the above statements from you will keep you in jail for at least 6 months.

Forget that rapist liar

Who asks their wife to eat three times ? Maybe once or maximum twice!! But thrice? And to add salt to the lie he put his hand on her shoulder a third time ? Someone he said he just met ?

This guy is a rapist and a pathological liar

Next time mind your business. Personally in such scenario I would think of the worst too. The lady was simply doing her job and you stressing her to rest and eat? Is she not old enough to know when she needs a break?

If it were a man, would have gone that far to persuade him to stop working?

Learn to respect people's stand next time.

You should be sincere to yourself at least once a year.

You moved close to her and your greatest mistake was that you touched her.

You kept telling her to rest, for like three times.
You even begged her to eat.

Are you her nanny or Manny ( a man nanny should be manny so I think)

Is she a baby?

Be sincere to yourself you were attracted to her. Simple.

If she was hungry she would eat and if tired she would stop and rest.

Are you a Manny

I blame you 100%. You are so insensitive and careless. No sane lady will accuse you of rape just like that. You don't know where the maid is coming from, maybe she's been raped before hence the panic when she probably remember how it began in the past.

Her telling you NO twice is enough reason for you to let that lady be. What exactly is your own if she doesn't wanna eat and rest. She's probably focus on the reason why she was at the office.

You may probably not have the mind of raping her but you sure do want to make her see you as a nice person or that she likes you which at the end of the day might be pointing to you wanting to date her.

You don't need a seer to tell you problem is looming but you ignored it. Someone you suggested eating and resting to twice and she didn't answer, you're to leave her alone.

Go search for another job man

livebyday:


Forget that rapist liar

Who asks their wife to eat three times ? Maybe once or maximum twice!! But thrice? And to add salt to the lie he put his hand on her shoulder a third time ? Someone he said he just met ?

This guy is a rapist and a pathological liar

A creep

I think u got sacked cos of the endless begging and crying.. that was a terrible mistake,bruv. u immediately started begging the yeye maid, trying to convince her otherwise. That’s messed up! Guy, a maid is a maid oh, not a boss. Why would u be begging somebody u can win with your words? You could have been like; are u an idiot? Rape this dirty u?? I would never bring myself down to do that rubbish! U stink! You’re ugly! To even think that I want to rape u is total foolishness. Go ahead and call the boss foolish woman that I was having pity for cos she’s not eaten since morning!” Matter for no reach where dem go dey sack u. Even she’s gone hard to report , you’d still have stood tall firing from all cylinders and tell your oga to call the police if that’s what she wants , but police must interrogate her maid too..

U caused that sack oh! Begging like a chicken. Person dey influential no mean sey u Na nobody. Your boss would have had to think again, but u just dey cry anyhow. Life isn’t fair. You’ve got to go out here and take whatever is yours . No do that mistake again. Unless u dey lie sha.

Bluepink:


Bro if it was your Madam working for that long and you told her to try and get some rest but she refused and insisted on getting the job down, would you even dream of reaching for her Shoulder when she was unaware working? Or you felt the maid doesn't deserve the same courtesy you would give to a superior?


Listen, The only thing to learn before you pick yourself up and find another job.

Respect others space. All these people here Telling you you did nothing wrong will lead you to bigger problems. Just accept this one is your fault and going forward you will know how to behave be it to a maid or Boss.

Jobs are not so easy to come by but focus on it, register a gym to help with depression And hopefully you will get a job.

i know i made a mistake, dat influenced my pleadings,
tanx for d advice

ambassadorgozie:
i later begged my boss on whatsapp but all no avail

Bro your story does not add up. Who begs someone to come and eat. Na you dey take paracetamol for another person's headache?

Truth be told na Yash you wan Yash the girl but you did not envisage such resistance.

HarunaWest:
This OP is a blaady liar..He wanted to handle breast. Awon Press Club

Meanwhile, who else noticed the abbreviations and bad Grammar that OP text to his boss. You work for a lawyer and you send this kinda sh*** to her..I think this is the reason you were fired.

I'm telling you, typing this stupid shorthand for your boss.

livebyday:


Very well.said

He is a closet rapist .. he doesn't respect boundaries . His day of reckoning has come , Lord knows what some ladies have suffered from him in the past

Waste not your pity on this one

Your comment is the best

Lol, no mind me ojere, the op go don learn him lesson; the hard way though

In as much as we observe due diligence in our doings we must also pray against falling prey to traps ohh cos no matter how careful you are, anything can befall you at any time

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Next time you will learn how to focus on your job. na so u na dey start

elmagnifico411:
I think u got sacked cos of the endless begging and crying.. that was a terrible mistake,bruv. u immediately started begging the yeye maid, trying to convince her otherwise. That’s messed up! Guy, a maid is a maid oh, not a boss. Why would u be begging somebody u can win with your words? You could have been like; are u an idiot? Rape this dirty u?? I would never bring myself down to do that rubbish! U stink! You’re ugly! To even think that I want to rape u is total foolishness. Go ahead and call the boss foolish woman that I was having pity for cos she’s not eaten since morning!” Matter for no reach where dem go dey sack u. Even she’s gone hard to report , you’d still have stood tall firing from all cylinders and tell your oga to call the police if that’s what she wants , but police must interrogate her maid too..

U caused that sack oh! Begging like a chicken. Person dey influential no mean sey u Na nobody. Your boss would have had to think again, but u just dey cry anyhow. Life isn’t fair. You’ve got to go out here and take whatever is yours . No do that mistake again. Unless u dey lie sha.

i have no reason to lie,
tanx alot

AwkaetitiBabe:
A creep

Yeah

It's his type that rape his elder brothers house maid believing she will never talk out of fear of loosing her job

You asked her to eat thrice ?? Even married men don't pester their wife that much..

You nor asked her to come and rest? Where is it a hotel or an office ??

This guy is a serial rapist who has been escaping but this time.karma caught up with him

He deserves to be arrested

livebyday:


Well let me be blunt , you are uncouth , and a serial sex offender and I do hope your name gets into the sex offenders registry .

You don't deserve the job and I am glad it had been taken away .

Next time you learn to respect boundaries of ladies ..

This is something you have done in the past and gotten away with it.

Not in 2020.

Go and seek counselling there is something very wrong with you . Maybe from your secondary school days you used to molest girls ?

You claimed to be an Introvert, which is a lie because the way you went at a house maid you claimed you just met three times to east shows you are no Introvert.

You went a third time and boldly placed your had in her shoulder, another lie , you probably tried to groop her .

You should be locked away.

Cheers

why you carry this matter for head like this. I blame the OP for his stupid behaviour but dont conclude like that. You dont know him to judge like that. Drop your contribution and move on.

ambassadorgozie:


i have no reason to lie,
tanx alot

Hahahahahahahaahaha

Imagine this nonsense

Better go and seek forgiveness for all your past deeds so you may get a new job coming eventually or else you will wait a very long time

ambassadorgozie:
i later begged my boss on whatsapp but all no avail

Guy you are guilty. An innocent man fears no accusation cos I see no reason y you'd plead and cry. If your intentions were clear, you would have confidently shut her down.

Next time you'll learn to keep ur hands to yourself. Personally I would have landed you a defining slap

That's one of the hard thing about being a guy.

No one would have believed you if it were otherwise. Take heart!

Idimuguy:
I'LL BE ADVISING YOU, UNDER THE ASSUMPTION THAT YOU'RE INNOCENT.

First, just let it go.

More importantly, don't beg your former boss again.

Just send her something along these lines:

"I have since forgiven ..... and have decided to move on.

Come some day, time will unveil the truth and my innocence.

Thank you for the opportunity to work for you those past years and for all your impact.

I am far grateful. God bless you, ma."

After you send her don't call.

If she doesn't call or respond, don't bother.

If she responds too, read her reply and know what to do.

Pray hard over this issue. Ask God to vindicate you. Be specific in naming the time when you want him to act.

You'll be surprised in 30 days time, or more or less your madam will call you and apologize that they've found the truth.

If this happens, ordinarily you should be suing for defamation. However, just let it go too when that time comes.

But first, start with the text message.

Also, if she calls you back to resume duty, I'll advise you turn it down POLITELY.

Right now, your dignity as a man is all that matters.

You'll get a better job.

Keep hope alive.

God wants to elevate you.

If you need further assistance, DM me.

best post ever.

Lamanii22:
That lady was sent from the pit of hell... Damn... No evidence, no nothing... Sometimes it's good to be mean sef... Too much kindness isn't good... I'm really sorry you were accused wrongly and sacked all at once.. The lord would provide a better job for you Hun..

In Nigeria, being kind is treated as a crime.

livebyday:


Yeah

It's his type that rape his elder brothers house maid believing she will never talk out of fear of loosing her job

You asked her to eat thrice ?? Even married men don't pester their wife that much..

You nor asked her to come and rest? Where is it a hotel or an office ??

This guy is a serial rapist who has been escaping but this time.karma caught up with him

He deserves to be arrested

Lolzz.. I think he overestimated his charm

arukwe123:
why you carry this matter for head like this. I blame the OP for his stupid behaviour but dont conclude like that. You dont know him to judge like that. Drop your contribution and move on.

Bro I had a friend whose house girl was raped by someone like this and infected with hiv

The poor girl never said anything out of fear till she fell ill and was taken to the hospital!

It was when test results came out we confronted her she was just 13 , after a long cajoling and questioning we found out it was the husbands younger brother who has been molesting her for months

I still get so mad anytime I remember that incident

The little girl is late today

ambassadorgozie:


guy dis is d truth, i know wia to go if i want sex

The same line we always give any girl we want to cheat... Sex is impulsive at times. I no believe u at all

This is the one reason why it's highly risky to become informal and jovial with ladies except she's your sibling or spouse. These superhumans can bring you down from the sky to the grave within a 60s.

If only you had maintain strick formalities...
If only you had faced ur business...
If only you had shut ur mind against her feelings...
... this problem won't have happened.

Lesson learnt bro... thanks for sharing ur experince. May God help us.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Lolzz.. I think he overestimated his charm

Charms indeed

This one is a serial rapist ..Lord knows how many innocent house girls he has done this two since his secondary school days

But karma has come for him finally

I honestly don't feel sorry for u. I think you deserve what you got. U call somebody com eat e say no, tell her to rest she no gree.. U nor fit use ur brain say she no want and make everyone dey their dey... U carry hand go dey put on top her body. Thank God say u nor dey Sanko by now. Use this take learn lesson for next time make u learn to mind your business and keep ur unnecessary kindness to your self...

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Since you can't see woman and remove your eyes, your village ppl really discovered your weakness and they have used it to do new year for you.

Na by force to chop? To eat is not important.

If you like no go start fasting and praying for God's intervention so that u can be vindicated.

MrBrownJay1:
if this story is true, then you only fell into a trap that was set just to sack you, free of charge!

as for that useless lawyer you call "ex boss", who was quick to believe that you tried to rape her maid, i weep for Nigeria.

Wetin consign Nigeria for this useless case of a man that can't mind his business. So the housemaid does not know where to get food when hungry abi. He asked the first time and she politely declined. Why then force her to eat.

Keep crying for Nigeria oh. Cry cry Bush baby

UnknownQueen:


You took the words outra my mind and mouth, Some people deserve no pity, Some people will not even bat an eyelid even when they see you dying, but here is someone trying to shiw innocent care, With this, ill be meaner to people... the world deserve and eye for an eye something.

i believe the guy may b innocent.

the guy must have sympathised with these reason:
she is a maid,
she did eat when she suppose to eat ,
relax when she suppose to relax
looking at her and her age being a maid is worrisome .

and the guy being a compassionate guy was just trying to extend the hand of kindness to her but she took it wrongly.

I hate working for people. even when rhe guy was begging hee

AwkaetitiBabe:
Guy you are guilty. An innocent man fears no accusation cos I see no reason y you'd plead and cry. If your intentions were clear, you would have confidently shut her down.

Next time you'll learn to keep ur hands to yourself. Personally I would have landed you a defining slap

she was screaming, i was begging cos i shouldn't hav gone close to her,
adirom guilty

The housegirl has her boss eating from her palm. It may be diabolical or simply knowing what buttons to press to get her way. Either way, you need to forget about them and focus on getting another job. I know you think you need her recommendations, but you can get another job without it.