livebyday:


Bro I had a friend whose house girl was raped by someone like this and infected with hiv

The poor girl never said anything out of fear till she fell ill and was taken to the hospital!

It was when test results came out we confronted her she was just 13 , after a long cajoling and questioning we found out it was the husbands younger brother who has been molesting her for months

I still get so mad anytime I remember that incident

The little girl is late today

but what if the OP just made a stupid mistake and did not intend to rape her. You ask yourself that. Dont assume. Drop your contribution and move on. If he is a rapist, he will soon be caught, it is just a matter of time. So let matter rest

I honestly don't feel sorry for u. I think you deserve what you got. U call somebody com eat e say no, tell her to rest she no gree.. U nor fit use ur brain say she no want and make everyone dey their dey... U carry hand go dey put on top her body. Thank God say u nor dey Sanko by now. Use this take learn lesson for next time make u learn to mind your business and keep ur unnecessary kindness to your self...

AMI3:


i believe the guy may b innocent.

the guy must have sympathised with these reason:
she is a maid,
she did eat when she suppose to eat ,
relax when she suppose to relax
looking at her and her age being a maid is worrisome .

and the guy being a compassionate guy was just trying to extend the hand of kindness to her but she took it wrongly.

I hate working for people. even when rhe guy was begging hee

guy dis is exactly d scenario, d girl told me she hasnt eaten,
i was just having stupid compassion for her

sweetrace:


In Nigeria, being kind is treated as a crime.

You don't force your kindness on people

This is a lesson, always learn to mind your business

scantee:


The op could be saying the truth, i have witnessed lots of this kind story myself, some girls can be devil tool just to mess up your life.

#STRONGVILLAGEPEOPLE#

Bulshit... And why do you have to cross your boundaries.

It is good to mind your business and stay in your own lane as Nigerians will say.

arukwe123:
but what if the OP just made a stupid mistake and did not intend to rape her. You ask yourself that. Dont assume. Drop your contribution and move on. If he is a rapist, he will soon be caught, it is just a matter of time. So let matter rest

Bro think of this very slowly

Ask any married man around you ..

If your wife is working and you ask her honey come and eat once will you do it a second time? 99% will say no..

Now let's say you ask a second time and she say no again , will you ask a third time? No married man will ask a third time ..

Talkless of walking up to a total stranger you claim you met for the first time and placing your hand on her shoulder and saying for the third time come and eat

Not just eat from your plate o, not that she has her own plate but your plate and you ask a total stranger for a third time.this time upclose and with your hand on her shoulder?

This man is a pathological liar and he fondled her breast that was what made her scream !

He is used to doing it, it's definitely not his first time, he is the sort that uses authority to threaten a woman for forced sexual favors

I have seen enough cases like this to identify the patterns

Forget this man

arukwe123:
but what if the OP just made a stupid mistake and did not intend to rape her. You ask yourself that. Dont assume. Drop your contribution and move on. If he is a rapist, he will soon be caught, it is just a matter of time. So let matter rest

don't mind d guy,
hav said dat am not sex starved, if i want sex i can get it, am not ugly, dia are girls dat are ready to give me sex,

nothing will make me to tink of sex den

ambassadorgozie:


be serious guy, my mind didn't go dia at all

Leave story jare. sure you didn't intend to rape her, neither would you have raped her, but you wanted something something from her. Na sweet mouth you no get.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Y touch someone ur not close to. u messed up, she said she wasn't hungry, u should have let her be.
I m sure she is one illiterate house help.

I don't believe you one bit!

You don dey make suggestive moves before then, maybe you dey cut eye for her sef.
Why must you go and touch someone you are not familiar with? What kind of rubbish is that?? All because of what? You dey form useless "Mr nice guy" because you wanted something more.

MezieFresh:


Let's take this scenario out...

Let me even ask...
What is wrong in holding someone's shoulders... ?
If it was termed over stepping boundaries... That would sound better..

But sexual assault or rape?
For heaven's sake am lost...

But ladies do this... to guys and no one screams rape.

Beside the shoulder is not a private part...
One can tap you on the shoulder to get you attention.

This things are peculiar to different situations.

Ladies should stop all these false allegations.

Yes, Her shoulder is her private property

Don't allow every Tom,dick and Harry touch ur girl child in every manner they chose, these days even boy child is endangered species in the hands of paedophile rapists

Yes, It cld be sexual harassment to touch someone on their shoulder especially if it's an opposite sex and they don't know you

Tapping on shoulder to get one's attention should not be a welcome idea especially when you barely know each other, in Lagos markets, people dey carry jazz touch people, be careful

If you tap me on my shoulder and I don't know you, I'd either shout at you or give you a very unpleasant response

ambassadorgozie:


dat was my ist time of seeing her

Your first time of seeing her and you are touching her shoulder where there is no other person? Are you kidding me? Even if you had no evil intentions...no nah brov

OP from your story it's clearly one of two things. Either:
1. The maid has suffered some form of sexual abuse in the past which has left her with a phobia and your seeming innocuous touch reignited a bad memory from the past, putting her on high alert, or
2. It wasn't her shoulder you touched.

ambassadorgozie:


be serious guy, my mind didn't go dia at all

Pray to your Lord to provide a better job for you.

If faced with the exact scenario, I probably would have sacked you, or at the very least put you on suspension without pay.

You displayed a worrying lack of professionalism, disrespect to the lady, and a serious lapse of judgement by walking all the way to touch her shoulder, after she had told you she was ok. As a man, I would have been quite irritated if a woman I barely know touched me like that.

People should learn to respect other people's space and body.

livebyday:


Bro think of this very slowly

Ask any married man around you ..

If your wife is working and you ask her honey come and eat once will you do it a second time? 99% will say no..

Now let's say you ask a second time and she say no again , will you ask a third time? No married man will ask a third time ..

Talkless of walking up to a total stranger you claim you met for the first time and placing your hand on her shoulder and saying for the third time come and eat

Not just eat from your plate o, not that she has her own plate but your plate and you ask a total stranger for a third time.this time upclose and with your hand on her shoulder?

This man is a pathological liar and he fondled her breast that was what made her scream !

He is used to doing it, it's definitely not his first time, he is the sort that uses authority to threaten a woman for forced sexual favors

I have seen enough cases like this to identify the patterns

Forget this man

my question is simple. What if he was not lying. What if he did not intend to rape her. You dont pass judgment by mere assumption. Many innocent people have been killed for this reason. How sure are you?

ambassadorgozie:


she was screaming, i was begging cos i shouldn't hav gone close to her,
adirom guilty

Life is a roller-coaster of lessons. I'm sure you've learnt something from ur experience. You go get another job OK.

excel101:
So you want to convince a grown up house maid you don't know from Adam, to eat or rest by putting your hands across her shoulder. OP, na big lie. I beg talk another thing.

Words on marble

livebyday:


Charms indeed

This one is a serial rapist ..Lord knows how many innocent house girls he has done this two since his secondary school days

But karma has come for him finally

Guy calm down joh. This one you hammering on such, hope u not a suspect. Na thief dey know thief

arukwe123:
my question is simple. What if he was not lying. What if he did not intend to rape her. You dont pass judgment by mere assumption. Many innocent people have been killed for this reason. How sure are you?

Bro in criminology there is what is called profiling and criminal behavioral analytics

It's all in the patterns. It is possible to profile a suspect from the accounts of the victim

I can bet my entire career if you do a background search on the OP you will find curiosly he has been in surroundings where a house girl was molested

This is definitely not his first time. I can bet if you speak to his employer you will hear details you are would not believe.

THE OP IS A RAPIST AND LOOKED FOR AN IN WHICH IS HIS MODUS OPERANDI. handle IF SHE DOESN'T REACT THEN HE PROCEEDS. BUT HE NEVER EXPECTED A SCREAMER

ambassadorgozie:


honestly speaking, i did not,
she wasn't dat appealing to me

She wasn't THAT appealing. But she was appealing a little bit abi?

Your story doesn't sound like it's complete.

How long have you worked for the woman if she trusts the maid of 2 years more than she trusts you?

According to you, you told the maid to rest and go find some to eat two or three times and she refused, why in the world would you move close to her and touch her?

Have you met her before somewhere? Have you had interactions before now?

Why the familiarity of actually moving close to touch her?

Your touch must have been inappropriate...and if not, touching her in a situation where just the two of you are alone??

An introvert will not bother to insist a second time, but you went ahead and insisted a third time and touched her even...?

I'd like to believe your story but... something tells me this isn't all of it.

livebyday:


Bro in criminology there is what is called profiling and criminal behavioral analytics

It's all in the patterns. It is possible to profile a suspect from the accounts of the victim

I can bet my entire career if you do a background search on the OP you will find curiosly he has been in surroundings where a house girl was molested

This is definitely not his first time. I can bet if you speak to his employer you will hear details you are would not believe.

THE OP IS A RAPIST AND LOOKED FOR AN IN WHICH IS HIS MODUS OPERANDI. handle IF SHE DOESN'T REACT THEN HE PROCEEDS. BUT HE NEVER EXPECTED A SCREAMER

ok. Just mind what you say online. Have a good day

Well the mistake had been made. Op I'm sorry that u learnt your own mistake in a hard way.
U went too far by trying to put your hand on her shoulder, U can only do that to somebody u know. To me that maid was a totally stranger. What u did, i normally do it but with people that are not strangers.
Secondly, we live in a strange and evil world, who knows if the whole was a set-up, maybe from a colleague.

o.p you are a big black liar..
you have no intention to rape her, I BELIEVE YOU FOR THAT..but you have other hidden intention, mayb you like her, wanted to befriend or date her, using her house maid condition to take advantage of her thinking she is ignorant or dnt have sense but you ended up deceiving yourself..

you use mouth tell person something for her own sake and good but she decline, that nonsense in between your legs and your silly act of concern still push you go touch her..

or

lemme guess, lemme guess hhhmmmmmm.....

she wore a short skirt shaking her bumbum and you thinking it was a green light and you wanted to confirm the green light by touching her, only to be disappointed it was a shinning and glittering red light with loud alarm
hahahahahaahahaha.....

o.p i believe you nvr wanted to rape her but you had other intention as i earlier said..

and stop calling yourself introvert...
introvert hardly convo with a lady they jst met, we dnt force convo, we show less concern, AND WE HARDLY TOUCH LADIES we dnt knw

arukwe123:
but what if the OP just made a stupid mistake and did not intend to rape her. You ask yourself that. Dont assume. Drop your contribution and move on. If he is a rapist, he will soon be caught, it is just a matter of time. So let matter rest

Op is not a rapist. He just wanted to use his charm on a cheap target that backfired we are all guys do we know all this formats. He should have remained professional.

Whether truy or false. This is how some people's new year has started on a bad note.

This story seems unlikely or some missing pieces...

You've never met the girl before and she just chose to turn you to the enemy and set you up?

You asked her to eat once that was enough, why be persistent.

You never ever get into someone's physical space too closely or even touch them, nooo, you don't do that, except na your paddy.

Please why did you kneel to start begging o, begging and begging as if you were guilty of something. Once you are not guilty of something, you supposed fit talk with your chest na.

You acted like you were guilty, that's if truly you didn't touch her inappropriately.

Good luck in your future search.

Basher8583:


Op is not a rapist. He just wanted to use his charm on a cheap target that backfired we are all guys do we know all this formats. He should have remained professional.

but the other guy was 100% sure OP intended to rape the maid.

The WhatsApp message u sent can be used against u. It looks like u actually raped her

But putting my hand around a lady waist does not means rape na. there's nothing in story that suggest rape. Sexual advances maybe.

I really need someone to give me definition of RAPE I beg. Seems touching is now rape

DAVE5:



Bros there is no proving his innocence here, any body would stand on the girl's side on this case

Innocence is in the mind, action is the result

He asked her to rest, she refused

After an hour, he asked her to rest again, she refused AGAIN!!!

Then he stood up, from where HE was resting and eating while she was minding her business, then he went close to her(why), then he put his hand on her shoulder(who send am, for what reason, is she his girlfriend/wife, if she no eat how e take affect am)

Is that how you walk around putting your hands on every opposite sex's shoulder even when you are barely know each other

For crying out loud, she is a girl, they were alone, they are not friends according to his story, women are more fragile than men, he could overpower her.

What if he went beyond her shoulder, women bress no far from their should ohh

I would raise concerns against you if you came close to my daughter and put your hand on her shoulder even after she refused your advances several times

His continued intentions after "shoulder touching" are still only known to him alone while his actions has made a statement


I get at least five female workers, I dey fear to dey alone with them, when one was in my office, I purposely tried to leave the office door open so all cld see and I dey quick quick dismiss long talk