Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..

We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..

I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

She shouldn't abort it. Don't make decisions in a hurry, just because you are trying to cover a mess.

Carry your cross biko

People have indiscrimate unprotected sex and act surprise when pregnancy comes up..
Nawa..

Obviously, that's pure superstition.

Abortion remains illegal in Nigeria. Going on with this plan would only put the lady at risk: no qualified medic would accept to abort a foetus when there's no medical indication...so, only quacks would do this..

Sometimes, we tend to worry too much about what people would say about us. I think you shouldn't. Go get her tested as soon as possible; if positive, quickly start her on follic acid (one tab daily) and register her in an antenatal clinic immediately.

Inform your parents and face the consequences of your actions.

No one is born perfect. We all make mistakes. The difference is, some get caught and others don't.

Also note that engaging in unprotected sex exposes you to a lot of STDs. Avoid illicit, premarital sex as abstinence is the best protection. If you must, please use condoms.

Wish you the best.

sonsolo:
Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..
We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..




I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

Congrats oh. Invite her to visit pregnancy thread under health section. She needs to blend with her team mate and also get her folic acid . She needs to take the folic acid one per day to keep the baby healthy. Congrats once more, to become a father no they pass like this

Chairman here just said everything. But I'd like to add that you shouldn't cave cos of her superstitious beliefs cos If you agree to it now, It will be the tool she'll use to manipulate you badly for the rest of your life. And I say for the rest of your life cos she'll definitely use it to get married to you.

TONYE001:
Obviously, that's pure superstition.

Abortion remains illegal in Nigeria. Going on with this plan would only put the lady at risk: no qualified medic would accept to abort a foetus when there's no medical indication...so, only quacks would do this..

Sometimes, we tend to worry too much about what people would say about us. I think you shouldn't. Go get her tested as soon as possible; if positive, quickly start her on follic acid (one tab daily) and register her in an antenatal clinic immediately.

Inform your parents and face the consequences of your actions.

No one is born perfect. We all make mistakes. The difference is, some get caught and others don't.

Also note that engaging in unprotected sex exposes you to a lot of STDs. Avoid illicit, premarital sex as abstinence is the best protection. If you must, please use condoms.

Wish you the best.

Calm down! All na joke.
U jokingly asked n she "jokingly" told u she hasn't seen her period.
Hw will Dat pregnancy(dats if it's true) stop Dat oil company job? Lemme shock u it will open the door n oda doors if possible.
U guys had no biz knacking 2geda without protection if u both weren't ready 4 d outcome. Don't terminate Dat pregnancy(if it's not a joke) otherwise her village people will sit on ur oil coy job

remove that stuff at once if the test is positive, she is in 200lv, she is not aware that it will distort her own plans too.... and she should drop that superstition in her head, if she was so sure why then did she engage in unprotected sex... what was she expecting??


Guy lemme give you this free advice, dont allow her have the baby because both of you are not ready for it, listen now that simple agbo can still do the magic

Marry please.

You people should stop promoting ungodly lifestyles.

sonsolo:
Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..

We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..

I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

This may sound like a cliche, but I'll say it anyway. If you are not ready for a baby, then why did you have unprotected sex? Didn't your momma teach you that sex was for procreation? Now you're worried about what your church members will say and that makes it all the more hypocritical of you.

When others make mistakes, we are supposed to learn from them. But when we keep making the same mistakes over and over again, then we should learn to deal with the consequences alone.

Mister, if she says no abortion, then don't risk it as abortions comes with so many physical and spiritual repercussions. Both of you should sit down and have a long talk about it.

Let her keep the pregnancy while you offer your support. Since you're a corps member and out of school, then you should be able to shoulder some family responsibilities. As for your uncle, well, having a baby is the more reason why he should fix you up with a job.

Stop asking silly questions. There are many affordable brands of condoms in the market.

Are you crazy? Who do you want to leave her for? You better pack and own your property.

On the flip side, God really works in mysterious ways and as such, He hates ungodly lifestyles. If she abort and dies nko? See the pregnancy as a blessing.

Afterall, pikin go bring wetin him go chop from heaven.

I will advice you to keep the baby and bear the resposibility. You can still marry her fews year later.
Dont abort a baby that will bring spiritual cause and the wrath of God upon you.

Don't marry a lady because of baby, be sure you guys are compatible. You can decide to raise the child as Co parents.

If it happens to be positive keep the baby and don't say anything to your family yet until your uncle help you with the job after all you're not the person carrying the pregnancy so that won't stop you from working. Don't forget to contact Nifeseun for beautiful baby items

Go and marry her legally . before it becomes obvious that she is pregnant , tell your mum about it. women know how to handle situation like this . Never doubt statement unless you are ready to face the consequence. You are too young to die now.
if you can not work in offshore company as your uncle as promised, you can onshore if you are alive.
keep the pregnancy to avoid weeping and crying in 2020. I'm not a prophet but that child is a blessing

For the fact you already told her you are expecting job in an Offshore company, that alone would make her want to keep the baby. I am not supporting abortion in any way. Na you come...so when the baby comes, carry him/her very well. Congratulations in advance. Safe delivery to your baby mama

I will try as much as possible never to find myself in this awkward situation.

I will either abstain ( which is very unlikely) or use protection.

I no want born bastard abeg.

But OP...

Any girl that cannot abort for you doesn't love you. Does that mean she can't die for you?

Fake love every where.

TONYE001:
Obviously, that's pure superstition.

Abortion remains illegal in Nigeria. Going on with this plan would only put the lady at risk: no qualified medic would accept to abort a foetus when there's no medical indication...so, only quacks would do this..

Sometimes, we tend to worry too much about what people would say about us. I think you shouldn't. Go get her tested as soon as possible; if positive, quickly start her on follic acid (one tab daily) and register her in an antenatal clinic immediately.

Inform your parents and face the consequences of your actions.

No one is born perfect. We all make mistakes. The difference is, some get caught and others don't.

Also note that engaging in unprotected sex exposes you to a lot of STDs. Avoid illicit, premarital sex as abstinence is the best protection. If you must, please use condoms.

Wish you the best.

thanks for your advice.. We have done the test already and the doc said it will be ready in 2-3hrs time.. So we are going to await the result before concluding on a possible solution..

24kmagic:
I will try as much as possible never to find myself in this awkward situation.

I will either abstain ( which is very unlikely) or use protection.

I no want born bastard abeg.

But OP...

Any girl that cannot abort for you doesn't love you. Does that mean she can't die for you?

Fake love every where.

don't blame any girl if they refuse my brother.. The fault is from me, I should have used protection. Probably withdrawal method is not a good idea

jidamsel43:
Go and marry her legally . before it becomes obvious that she is pregnant , tell your mum about it. women know how to handle situation like this . Never doubt statement unless you are ready to face the consequence. You are too young to die now.
if you can not work in offshore company as your uncle as promised, you can onshore if you are alive.
keep the pregnancy to avoid weeping and crying in 2020. I'm not a prophet but that child is a blessing

thanks very much for your input. The child will really be a blessing but not at this time..

sonsolo:
Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..

We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..

I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

@bold, did you forget this before?
No offense tho.
The did has been done, just accept your faith, don't remove it.
Look for better alternative. Don't be heartless completely

Are you one of those boys who support abortions when they impregnate their girlfriends and then hope to marry a virgin when it’s time to settle?

Graxie:
Don't marry a lady because of baby, be sure you guys are compatible. You can decide to raise the child as Co parents.

No be lie.

MoonandStar:
If it happens to be positive keep the baby and don't say anything to your family yet until your uncle help you with the job after all you're not the person carrying the pregnancy so that won't stop you from working. Don't forget to contact Nifeseun for beautiful baby items

Thanks soo much for this, God bless u, may God grant all ur heart desires ma.

nifeseun:


Thanks soo much for this, God bless u, may God grant all ur heart desires ma.

What are we sisters for?

Between Amen to your prayer.

MoonandStar:


What are we sisters for?

Between Amen to your prayer.

Thank u sis

She should not abort it... You can't make a decision already... Relax... Relax.. And as for the trad stuff.. I take traditions seriously oo.. I can be very modern and adopt the western culture but my traditional beliefs can never change....

Graxie:
Don't marry a lady because of baby, be sure you guys are compatible. You can decide to raise the child as Co parents.

Digging it for 8 months and they not compatible huh?

Is It Just Me Or Is This Place Full Of Women supporting The Unknown Pregnant Girl.

Hail The Sisterhood!