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Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by nnekaike(f): 10:17pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
One thing I have learnt from marriage is that you cannot change a person,especially a bad trait,the person can only try and change if there is genuine love. Whatever trait you seeing now,might get worse or get better, just prepare your mind. 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by greggng: 10:19pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
mrbenjame: Your parents are not After your happiness . They are after the economic interest that comes with you marrying anyone . They prefer you marry a mad woman inasmuch as she brings money home . Don't listen to them if I were you i will settle with Benita cos she is certainly the wife material in this two scenario. Allow her continue her education and contribute to it whenever you 've... only a fool will settle for Susan....she is a big liability 2 Likes |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
olabrinks: olabrinks, take note of the OP's remark about Susan as quoted in the italicized below: ...So she took advantage of my care and always wanted me to serve her all the time. Even when she visits from school she would be operating her phone and watch me do what on a normal terrain she should assist me do. Anytime she offends me she would want to be romantic so I’d forget her wrongs just to calm me down. But I was suffering inside. I felt very weak emotionally and decided to take things easy. While it is true that "Nigerian men are too easy to fool", from above Susan didn't leave a good impression of herself within the 4 years. Some guys are a one-lady guy, which I think the OP is, if not he should have dropped Susan a long time ago, and opt for a lady that is more cultured for an African Man. Dem no dey use pity marry pesin because marriage na serious generational business. You're either qualified or not. Susan was seriously looking forward to the OP marrying her and she could enjoy shying away from one of her major duties if she is eventually married? The OP even tried cooking and doing the dishes before a supposed fiancee! An opportunity the lady should have used to understand his appetite and perfect her knowledge on the meals that the OP loves the most at different times. She was even "pressing phone", which suggest that the OP does not have a hold over her, let alone being feared (respected). That type of lady can do whatever she wants without remorse. After all, she's got no competitor, which I blame the OP for. At that level, she's already taken the OP for granted. Now, imagine when she is now made "Mrs", it wouldn't end there. She would also take his sexual appetite for granted amidst several other things the OP deems very important. In a nutshell, OP would be giving himself severe migraine by making Susan a marital option despite the long years of being "together", which is even a pointer that she wouldn't change. And OP already complained of "suffering inside", which can be translated as being sorrowful or having some sort of depression. Imagine him already experiencing that on someone that should ordinarily have brought him enormous joy. That "joy" is what even makes a man bear the financial pain and walk down the aisle with the lovely lady. Also, no matter how well-raised a lady is, the man that would marry her would still have his own assignments to do in her because life is dynamic. So it is wise for a man to select a woman that her dad and her mum have successfully done their own assignments in her. It is foolishness for a man to carry others' assignments over for himself. So he'd better continue searching for the right lady than marrying "migraine". Conclusively, while OP might focus on Benita for now, judging by the qualities he described; he she should be ready to accommodate her immaturity in various ways until she outgrows them. But if he is seriously looking forward to getting married within a year or two, I think he should look out for someone more matured with similar attributes, and maybe already out of school. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:20pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
frugal: That's a downside. I like having my kitchen to myself. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Clement111: 10:21pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
seems i have a little glimpse of what the OP mean for to seek for advice, "you see u've know the true charater of sharon and she is almost done, fine!, but for benita u can't conclude finally thats she is truly the angel sent to u from heaven, though she as bring u happiness which is the main key of life", my brother think carefully don't gamble, be a chess master. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:24pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
rawfact: You've said it all. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Mayflowa(m): 10:26pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
mrbenjame: I have never insulted anyone here for 10 years. Check my posting. But I am going to future-insult you right now. You're mad if you ever abandon Benita. To think Benita is that young and knows how to care for you is just awesome and unthinkable. Susan is not wicked but it is not in her nature to physically care for a man. She feels romance will put food on the table. No matter what, she will never change and your home will be dirty. Marry Benita. I repeat marry Benita or any other woman but not Susan except you wanna complicate your life. People like Susan will never forgive you after this competition is over. Run! Based on your story, you are mad to even think of choosing between good and bad! 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by greggng: 10:27pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Sarah20A: Benita is indeed a homely girl....she had good upbringing ..I don't blame Susan ....sometimes family play a role in ones character 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by slowice(m): 10:35pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
I don't know benita but am already salivating... I need a benita in me life right now lawd....guy check it again.. Find out more about benita from those that know her well and if it checks out well.... Go for the kill asap..... Do you read me! |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Beatswim: 10:37pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
There is a man of God in nigeria called prophet samson oluwamodede.. If u can see him.. He will inquire about the mind of God on this two ladies... If u judge by your instinct and physiological reasoning.. U will regret it bro. Be wise |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by MKULTRA: 10:38pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Rayhandrinni:And YorubaMerc is still at level 63 1 Like
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Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Mexyz(m): 10:39pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
daddytime:Hahaha... You just made me remembered that I have some of Nowamagbe's songs in my phone.. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Abolajihowells2: 10:39pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
mrbenjame: Are u the one getting married or ur family? If you are d one u choose d one u love. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Sarah20A(f): 10:39pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
greggng:I don't really blame her but I think she's a very selfish being.how can a man be cooking and serving her for 4 years ?and her conscience hasn't pinched her 8 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Omoshalewa04(f): 10:40pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
How old is Benita?? You said she's still in her 100 level... If you are in a hurry to settle down, look elsewhere bro or have a heart to heart discussion with Benita if she's ready for marriage. But if you are not in a hurry, study Benita wella cos school dey change some people. She might change.. My opinion. All the best. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by vikstandon(m): 10:51pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
How sure are you Benita is ready to settle down now... Sometimes these year one (100 level) girls (ladies) be like bird wey dey find tree to perch, if they find nest Oluwa e don give them bread spread butter join. Give more time to Benita... At least additional 1-2 years, observing her to see her maturity and also know if she is ripe for marriage. If I be you...I go delete Susan immediately. Truth be spoken, I no dey expect her to wash plate or garments for you. But serving herself some portions of food she didn't cook and cleaning up after eating is a mark of a homely girl... Leave a place better than u met it, is my ideology for life. I hate people so inconsiderate... She does not value time, so spends into ur own time. Baba the decision also lies finally with u... Pray to God for help... Benita might also be a chameleon about becoming a viper if not well observed. That journey hard o...na God go help us finally sha. Women be like law book and constitution. You no fit memorize am finish...you can only quote and cram. 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by domido(m): 10:51pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
emmydiamon:You are wise. A bottle of chilled beer for you |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Nickymichy(m): 10:52pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
My guy forget any advice wey some yeye people go advice u...looking at Benita..what are u seeing?.. Is it a lady DAT will later betray u or ur future wife...sometimes what we are seeing even people close to us can't see it...b positive and go for d one DAT will give u rest of mind...forget all d stuff ur friends were telling u..I met my wife when she was in level one..now we are married wix twins as our first issue...God bless u man |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Norland4life(f): 10:52pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
EmpressT: Please allow me to help out with Susan @op be ready to overlook,endure and suffer for the rest of your life over her shortcomings Susan is team"I will never allow any man turn me into his house girl" but you will wish to turn him into your ATM machine Some young girls of these days no longer want to humble themselves with little things a woman is predisposed to....... |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Goalnaldo(m): 10:53pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
gracevile:abi oh. Shoot your shot jare |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Sweeetheart(m): 10:53pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
this is the code; if you really love Susan, you won't have any affectionate/feelings for Benita, you fall in love with Benita because feelings had exhausted in your heart for Susan? the thing is why punished your heart? the other side of this is, what if Benita fall in love with another guy before she graduated and she started misbehaving, what would be of you? is not easy for a working class to date an undergraduate, I wouldn't advise any working class that want to live long to date an undergraduate, I was a victim before this is what you should do, sit Susan down let her know why Benita is getting your attention, try and see If you'll convince her to change her nonchalant attitude, give her like 3months if she will change without reminding her of anything. if she doesn't neither her nor Benita should be relied on. get a better substitute for Susan, I mean graduate like her. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by smartleo(m): 10:54pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
daddytime: U dey sing abi? Kontinue |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by 77up(m): 10:56pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Sorry pls but something tells me that none of them is your wife, be prayerful. Susan is using your emotions against you and binta abi wetting you call am, hummm a girl at 100 level and you are not in school with her , only God know what will happen before she graduate. Never rely on anybody too much even if things go left , you won't be too down emotionally and don't forget, be prayerful. |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Goalnaldo(m): 10:57pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Yaba4sure:probably she's doing her IT in his office but then again do 100 level students do IT? |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by kosmos95(m): 10:58pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
My guy my advice for you is that, try and sit Susan down talk to her sense let her know her duty as a wife to be, give her some days to change her altitude, and if she refuse to change, shows some love to miss Benita but don't rush down to marriage decision yet, watch her for a while.devil u know for a longtime is better than angel you just met, |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
NONE OF THE ABOVE |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by reaky(m): 11:06pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
☺️ Benita all the way Your happiness is important |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Joystark(f): 11:07pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
It's obvious you love the Benita nau. Any advice telling you to settle with Benita, you respond with a "Thank you". The ones saying you should date her a while longer, you really with a "hmmmm" |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Bukfab(f): 11:15pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Well,to me Benita might be pretending to get you nd Susan might be testing ur love for her....Wen i was dating my hubby,i don't cook for him wen i go to his house,is not dat i don't love him,I was only testing his love den....My No den was No nd Yes was Yes,only to knw his standard....Ladies can pretend to be wat we are not oooo. So guy,be wise in ur decision nd pray to God to direct u,not ur family....Becos ur family won't stay in d marriage (home) wit u. 1 Like |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by Larryslim(m): 11:17pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
You're just looking for a woman that will work for you, and do your chores. If you truly love Susan, talk to her about it and help her with her flaws. What if, just what if Benita is not showing you her real character? What if you wife her today, and she shows her true character of even being worse than Susan? You need to think more, this time with your head and not your stomach! |
Re: 2 Women In My Life, Which Should I Marry? by jubrilELsudan: 11:20pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
YOU NIGERIANS AND YOUR PRIMITIVE MENTALITY. GETTING MARRIED DOESN'T MAKE YOU RESPONSIBLE. MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE AND NOT AN OBLIGATION. ANY WOMAN CAN PRETEND TO BE DESIRABLE. THEY CAN PRETEND TO WASH YOUR KIDNEYS SO AS TO LOOK WIFE MATERIAL. THE FACT THAT YOU CAN EVEN POST THIS CRAP AND ASK US TO CHOOSE BETWEEN THE TWO FOR YOU WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY CLEARLY PROVES YOU ARE NOT MATURED ENOUGH FOR MARRIAGE. BUT SINCE YOU ASKED, MARRY THE ONE THAT LETS YOU HANG HER ON THE CEILING AND FVCK HER IN ALL HOLES TSETSEFLY STYLE THEN LETS YOU SHOOT YOUR HOT CUM IN HER MOUTH.
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