Thank God for opening up madam. Think quickly about my few questions.

Were you having this feeling before you marry your husband some years back?

Has he been doing this mouth action with you and he stopped?

Could you remember what lead your mind or feeling to this mouth action all of a sudden?

Have you discuss your feeling about having a mouth action done on you with your husband?

Don't you think that this fantasy about mouth action from your man or any guy out there could destroy you completely?......because once started, you will always ask for more.

I mean, it is good to have fantasy, but i think it should be positively and not on something that could wreck our home or jeopardize our happiness and those of our love ones too.

In my own candid advice, I think you need to concentrate more on your 4 kids than mouth action. If you are not busy or working, you need to engage in something that will reduce or take your mind completely off your fantasy on mouth action. Spend more time too with reading God's word (either the Bible or Quran) and pray more for your family too.

I think you are comfortable probably with all good things of life. But pray that you shouldn't be tempted in allowing the devil to destroy your home or your happiness, or afflicting you with illness.

I prayed the Lord will conquer the devil in your home and you will be free from his temptation and all his snares in Jesus name.

Shalom.

atheistandproud:
Personally I am tired of building women for other men. Those of you shouting Virginia Virginia. You must realise that many of despite being mature physically are not mature mentally. They only attain this maturity in their mid 30s. The problem is by their mid 30s many have made irrevocably binding decisions that makes it difficult to start a fresh life with them.

I have dated early 20s girls that woke up one morning and decided they were lesbian now, or feminist, or that they wanted a man who'll leave them text messages before they wake up, flowers by their bed, breakfast in bed, WhatsApp messages every hour etc. after like 3 years in a relationship.

As a man, don't fool yourself. Women are adventurous too. Your fellow useless men will chase their own fellow guys girlfriend/wives down shamelessly, without remorse. Nothing you do will ever be good enough.

I wish I had the power to erase memories. I swear I will. When your brain starts replaying unwanted movies for you. Leave women alone. Leave women alone. Make money. Everything will follow.

How do I make money

nwanneni:
32 years with 4 kids already and possibly still counting
Jobless aunty them.Na work you need,not advise or insult.
That man money go don suffer for your hand walahi.
I can't imagine myself marrying a woman that doesn't have any economic value.
Just stay at home,fùck missionary as usual,cook,clean,chop,born,get fat with stretch mark,tie wrapper,smell,go saloon to gossip,suspects me cheating,grow armpit hair and toto hair too,steal money,investigate and know.all my property and ration in her head,sleep,snore,fùck again and the cycle continues.
Spits!
I go just run that house or use you like rag,ode.

why are you wicket like this?

I can't give mouth action, never, but I can receive oo. Pvssy with all the shedding lining and moisture. Only God knows the type of chemical reaction going on there every minutes and seconds. I no mad reach that level.

oyaaa:
nice pic
U the one on red

Yes, thank you.

you don't want to cheat on your husband? Gigolizing no be cheating abi.
women and their sexual problem.

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

All these madness about sex is getting out of hand, you married discuss with your husband whatever fantasy you want that's all, four kids occupy your mind how to train them, at your age 32 yrs you sound a bit not matured this is something you and your husband will discuss, all this sex freaks

Kathleens:

God bless you, i really appreciate this. It will go a long way. I sometimes watch Bleep to see where I am they give mouth action. I will try and stop

Easier said than done. Sexuality is the most powerful of urges and very deep - like asking a gay man not to be attracted to men. Only one thing defeats it, and very easily - replace it with spirituality

healthserve:
The most important thing is what I want to hit on before this thread degenerates into a squabble. And it is take it easy on yourself. Your high moral standards and etiquette along with your principles, beliefs, values and self expectation has placed you on a pedestal where you expect yourself to act in a certain manner and form. So to win this war, you must first and foremost win the battle in your mind. Yes, every thing goor or bad in this instance is in your mind and to end this struggle the battle must first be won in your mind. Hence I recommend this tips:



1. You'll make new resolutions and you'll fail yourselves many times. But be prepared to forgive yourself before you fail. Being able to pick yourself back up and move forward is one of the routines you should embrace enroute your destination to get healing.


2. The mind is the largest sexual organ. Stop feeding your mind with crazy sexual stuff. Infact Place rules on yourself not be participate in anything sexual outside your hubby.



3. After you've forgiven yourself, adopt the belief that marriage isn't all sex sex and sex. And you'll sacrifice what you don't receive but stay contented. Mental contentment is one of the sure ways to deal with mental wandering. To win this war, you must treat yourself with love and kindness and not condemn yourself in anyway however bad, lest through your own cycle of thoughts you slip into being guilt tripped by your mind and loose focus on healing beyond scars



4. Try new things and fill up spare hours. Place yourself in a new fellowship or activity group where you'll use more of your free time to practice. The rule for change has always remained the same and one I recommend to myself many times is to replace a bad habit with many good habits and practice. Spend more time on activities to have your mind filled up.


5. What you feed your mind matters. In place of sexual arousing information, try spiritual affairs so the sector of your mind producing this thoughts would be flooded with light and you can fix the gaps within your walls and have the breech sealed.

Good points raised but that still cant solve d problems and constant desire for a coli lingua.
You skipped d part where she has to discuss with her husband abt her sexual needs, love making isnt just jumping on ur wife and pounding. It's more emotional than physical, abi isn't dat wat marriage is all about

32 years with 4 Kids,

Your husband, if on nairaland, should decipher your identity.

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

Don't feel bad about yourself. We all cheat but mostly in our head when idle.
Get yourself busy, i mean very busy,if it's not working then get a Love Machine.
Think of your husband while using it n never fantasize about any other man. Also stop watching porn.
Before you get one, discuss it with your husband n if na correct man him go understand n if not let it be your secret.

What is it in mouth action that guys can’t give?

You talk rubbish

genq:



Hahahhahahahaha. You must be one of the active NL misandrists on this section constantly insulting men and forming 'girl power' - Now you created another profile to confess your sexual frustration

This is why il never take women seriously on this forum. Sexually starved pigs!

Lmao!!!!

cerpvad:
This is what you get when you marry someone you aren't sexually compatible with.
File for divorce and get someone else who can fulfill your sexual fantasy.

When you read a teenager's comment you can tell.

This one thinks this is a nairamarley concert ..

Fountainofyouth:

NL won't allow photos of the actual thing (dog licking puna).
Your eyes would have popped out more than it already did.

nwanneni:
lol,at your age you still dey do "I have a friend".
A statement associated with failure worldwide.
I thought you wanted to tell me your age,the number of kids you have and the value you possess,not some third person crap any fool can concuct.
I turned 28 this year and boy I am grateful,atleast I afford not to use another person as reference,unlike you.
Face your website business in peace,university of liverpool and then?

Lmao!!!!

ednut1:
Cock and bull

So you know too

The only help i have for you is to come for my hammer head dick. let me give it to you hot and hot. you will like it and your life will never remain the same again. idiot you want to cheat on your husband, husband wey some people the find, them never get.

drunkpunk:


I can give you head for free. You'd pay a one time subscription fee of keeping secrets to yourself. Private chat me once you have the balls...

All these children are so shameless there should be an age limit to members of this forum!

At least 20 years so we don't have to read rubbish like this

nwanneni:
Yes,but you don't fantasise over sex if you are actively engaged,so much so that one is contemplating cheating.Its stay at home moms that do most of the cheating,trust me.
If she is all that you say at 32,trust me she won't have 4 children.
When did she finish school,serve,find a career,build it and have the kids then?
Or if she owns her own business like you might claim,I hope you know it takes even longer and doesn't tolerate excess baggage for someone that wants to succeed in it,especially kids.
Trust me,successful women that can afford to be independent can't have 4 kids at 32.It's a trait reserved for careless street skanks or stay at home moms.
If she is the one providing for the family like you say,make I bend!Provide fire.
She said to me and I quote;did I talk to you about "our" finances?bread winners usually talk in the first person singular.
"Our" is mostly used by dependants.
Defend her all you want,this woman makes no damn income,finish!

And I will be forced to insult u.

Why do u think u re perfect?
what bothers u about how other choose to live their lives?
Do dey come to ur audio mansion to beg for food.
Av u bn the one taking care of their children?
Do u hav sense at all?
You hav work u do and u re here insulting others abi?
Oponu alailero nie, didirin amukunmeko
U re the kind of person that suppress family member cus they are not as rich as u re.
Baba Olowo igbo.
which nonsense work u dey do wey u no go allow us hear word?
oniranu radarada oshi, is dis ur newyear resolution? insult people? Dont worry, ur cup will soon full if u dont knw jow to bridle ur tongue, u wil still insult those that wil inflict u and by den u wil b here shouting viĺage people.

nwanneni:
32 years with 4 kids already and possibly still counting
Jobless aunty them.Na work you need,not advise or insult.
That man money go don suffer for your hand walahi.
I can't imagine myself marrying a woman that doesn't have any economic value.
Just stay at home,fùck missionary as usual,cook,clean,chop,born,get fat with stretch mark,tie wrapper,smell,go saloon to gossip,suspects me cheating,grow armpit hair and toto hair too,steal money,investigate and know.all my property and ration in her head,sleep,snore,fùck again and the cycle continues.
Spits!
I go just run that house or use you like rag,ode.

Guy u are very wicked

nwanneni:
Audio 80%na.
It's 11pm,someone that has 4 kids and brings in the 80% income to take care of them and the household still has the ability to be here to defend her nymphomaniac tendencies.
Tell me,where do you get the energy from huh?
If you truly bring in the 80%,I can only imagine how malnourished those kids will look or perhaps and of course,this claim is bogus and highly false.
80% in monopoly money I guess.

Stay at home moms and lies sef

No mind them. They're always bringing imaginary 80% to there audio table. Bunch of liars!

Who want some head?

Kathleens:


Thank you, i have not heard any discussion with him. He thinks he is the best. He is not really good in MouthAction but the penetration he is good

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Madam sit him down and talk. Let him know how u are dying to have that for long, he will do it both of u have left sweetest part of pre-intimacy.
.lack of good communication have suffered many marriages don't let yours b 1. It's something simple when well communicated

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

Not everyone likes to put his mouth down to there
Personally I don't believe a mouth shud go down there

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, I went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby although I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

I guess you knew that in posting this you would receive insults and you were prepared to go on nevertheless. That takes courage and shows the prospect of hope. Masturbation is a chemical dependency. No different from taking drugs. You need to understand that in order to see the challenge in its proper perspective. Orgasm or even the thought of orgasm releases pleasure chemicals into our bodies. After a while, It is no longer you doing what you do, but the chemicals forcing a response. You have a responsibility not to allow it to sweep you down the river. You said you have stopped breastfeeding - you probably have tons of estrogen in your system

If you do go on to find yourself a lover or gigolo or whatever, your sexual desire will move from lust to attraction to attachment - and the brain chemical released at each stage ( lust, attraction, and attachment) is completely different. So you will simply get more addicted - instead of two drug testosterone and estrogen, you will be adding dopamine, serotonin, Norepinephrine and oxytocin and the mess will be greater. Please read this article - http://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2017/love-actually-science-behind-lust-attraction-companionship/ Weaning oneself off such drugs is something I can't answer precisely because I suspect that it depends on how you are uniquely wired, the extent of time you have been exposed, the type of chemicals involved, and the degree to which you have immersed yourself in the fantasy. As someone who has been married for many many years, I can tell you that while frequency may decline, sexual satisfaction will not necessarily decrease with time in marriage because the oxytocin - trust chemical is far stronger in a marriage than it is in a one-night stand. Oxytocin allows for exploration, adventure, and risk because of the level of trust it brings about - no kiss and tell, no mockery or whatever.

Getting your husband to do what you want is not the first and final step. Instead, increase the attachment and trust relationship (Oxytocin, Vassopresin)between you and your husband. If you don't do this, you will be using him to fulfill a fantasy and this is wrong on so many levels. Four children make it difficult ( I have five) but it is not impossible to find time to be adventurous together - allure him, seduce him again but do it slowly and allow yourself to go free of mental paradigms such as " as a mother I cannot" ( The wedding bed is undefiled) You didn't get to where you are in one day and you won't get out in one day. Be patient.

Work out - preferably with another woman ( who is happy in her relationship/marriage)and take control of your body. Be your own fantasy - the fit high energy and successful woman.
Become an authority or an expert in something. Men are drawn to powerful women and there is a proven coherence between what a man is sexually prepared to do with/for a "successful" and empowered woman and what he does with a woman who "appears" unsuccessful. A lot of men fantasize about a sexually dominant female - who yields to them after service and effort.

This situation can make you if you choose that route. All the best.

*Edited for errors*

fowlyansh181:
What is it in mouth action that guys can’t give?

baba, na fear of bacteria

nwanneni:
32 years with 4 kids already and possibly still counting
Jobless aunty them.Na work you need,not advise or insult.
That man money go don suffer for your hand walahi.
I can't imagine myself marrying a woman that doesn't have any economic value.
Just stay at home,fùck missionary as usual,cook,clean,chop,born,get fat with stretch mark,tie wrapper,smell,go saloon to gossip,suspects me cheating,grow armpit hair and toto hair too,steal money,investigate and know.all my property and ration in her head,sleep,snore,fùck again and the cycle continues.
Spits!
I go just run that house or use you like rag,ode.

Dammn! Oh my ribs. Been rolling on the floor with mad laughter

nwanneni:
32 years with 4 kids already and possibly still counting
Jobless aunty them.Na work you need,not advise or insult.
That man money go don suffer for your hand walahi.
I can't imagine myself marrying a woman that doesn't have any economic value.
Just stay at home,fùck missionary as usual,cook,clean,chop,born,get fat with stretch mark,tie wrapper,smell,go saloon to gossip,suspects me cheating,grow armpit hair and toto hair too,steal money,investigate and know.all my property and ration in her head,sleep,snore,fùck again and the cycle continues.
Spits!
I go just run that house or use you like rag,ode.

You think she doesn't have economic value. Do you know that a lot of persons get paid to do those things you mentioned. If you are so busy you would be willing to pay someone to do those things for you so don't think that a housewife does nothing. I guess when you get married to your full-time career woman, you will employ someone to help with what you think is not work, you will even put your kids in crèche and pay your money for them to take care of them yet you think it has no economic value. Think again man, be exposed.

PrimadonnaO:


What has she done to you? Do you even know who she is?

You're a very badly behaved person.

My sixth sense tells me you're the Op


Nothing do you sha! Just have a heart to heart talk with your husband and get things sorted out. How do you expect him to know what you want without telling him??