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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by RiddlesofFate: 5:02pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Attention. Attention. Attention. One or both parents must have at least 8 hours during the day around the growing child. Otherwise, they will seek it outside and might be influenced badly. Schools is just one part of education. The most important one is parenting - guiding the child during the growing years. Don't be too busy making money! Work your way around it, please. You both can't be leaving home 6 am or before and only spend night time with the kids. What are you working for when you have "lost" the child in the process? Everything isn't money and gift. They had TV in their rooms? Are you kidding me!? So, where was the parental guidance needed? Parental and emotional attention and connection is everything. You let boys and older girls jump in and fill that gap and therefore you "lost" the girl at around 10 years of age. The child needed to see you and her had as the perfect model. You were not really available and other bad influences (who wanted to exploit her by the way) gladly jumped in to play the role. Remember nature abhors a vacuum! 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by jaxxy(m): 5:04pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Queenellahrose: This happens when Ure not ur kids closet frnd, u buy them finer things of life bt that can not replace bonding, quality discussions and fun time. These are keys to ur children bonding with u and that’s when they can tell u what’s on their mind and be real with u. Ure busy making money while ur kids are getting rotten. Now U have a reality check u need to start working on them and reverse this negative attitude. 1st u have to have a candid discussion with them and know exactly what they have been involved in and how deep they have gone. Then u can start to help them out of it. Don’t shy from ur responsibility to bring ur kids up correctly or delegate it to other people. Also the niece is a bad influence bt also need reorientation to change. Who’s responsible for this both of u are and the first step is to accept ur fault and responsibility. The truth is that 80% of kids learn about life from external influences than their family or parents. Meaning they are at the mercy of whoever has the strongest influence on them while u the parents is sleeping on duty or shying away from ur responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Everrest9(m): 5:05pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Sorry for that..... But you can Adopt me as your son. 2 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Mrflyguy: 5:05pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Queenellahrose: Monitoring of kids nowadays is very important. You guys leave the house as early as 6am and leave the 2 girls all alone to fend for themselves. When they come back from school none of you guys is home . They are young and naive so guys will take advantage of their freedom to do all kind of nonsense . Please spend time with your kids , withdraw them from their present school and enroll them in a school close to your place of work where you can drop them in the morning and pick them when you close for work . Above all , please pray to God to direct your family . |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by MumuCountry: 5:06pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Look bad children will b3 bad children. It doesn’t matter whether they are in Ghana, Timbuktu or wherever. Why do nigerians like to so hypocritical? Are you saying children in Ghana are sexually exposed and those in Nigeria are not? I have children in Ghana and they are not “sexually exposed” as you want to claim. Greenbirth: |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by IamHonourable1: 5:06pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Form all indications,both of you don't actually know what it entails raising a girl child.Its not about buying or not buying expensive items for them.There's more to it.Start by sitting those girls down and talking sense into them. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by IamHonourable1: 5:06pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
From all indications,both of you don't actually know what it entails raising a girl child.Its not about buying or not buying expensive items for them.There's more to it.Start by sitting those girls down and talking sense into them. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by gbagyiza: 5:06pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
MartinCorridon: Let us be serious with our lives. She did not ask you to abuse her or her daughter, she only asked for good advice to correct the issue at hand. Wish her well so that it will be well with u. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by deltateam: 5:07pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
budaatum: I agree. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by WeRblessed(f): 5:09pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
She's practicing now so that when she gets into the higher institution in Nigeria she will become a pro. Uwa mmebi! |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Graxie(f): 5:10pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Disadvantages of being a working class mother. While boys on nairaland insult women who takes care of the home, we keep reading things like this from working couples. God please help me, help my family to be stable enough so that I can have time for these children you gave me. May I not be found wanted due to hardship and societal pressure. In fact, I am looking for stay at home job, the one I can be doing with my computer. I need help, my kids are getting to double age, I don't want to be in this situation. May God help you madam op, I am so scared now. God have mercy. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Farki: 5:15pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Happyguy201: Man I don't know what to tell you, a phone is a tool how you use it is up to the user but with all new technologies older people will always complain about it. Wayward children didn't start with phones and will continue until after they go out of style. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by kid7soccer(m): 5:15pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Am sorry to say this but your husband is right it's your fault. Your daughter is suppose to emulate you. Whether you husband feed them with cash etc you are suppose to create a balance. Even from your post I can tell the type of mother you are dear, how can you cry when your child is going astray. You should have started the beatings from the police station. How can you feel sorry for them. Let me tell you there are different kids, the one you talk to that will listen, the one you look at that will understand and listen, the one you beat to listen and the one you must go all Rambo on for it to sink in. Your daughter needs more than just heart to heart talk and most importantly start taking your parenting seriously the African way, Make sure you stop that nonsense dance class or whatever. From school to the house. Give her house chores to do. Queenellahrose: 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by sharone21(f): 5:16pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Happyguy201: 5:18pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Farki: i dont think you get what im saying . a 14 year old is a kid and therefore shouldn't be given a smart phone to use because that by the time she start doing Facebook and badoo she will become exposed to pedos and bad guys who are ready to take advantage ,. if you want to buy your kid a phone a 14 go ahead and do that happy parenting |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Clinghton: 5:20pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
I think she has been affected by the MARLIAN virus. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by franchasng: 5:22pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Sighs, girl child, very scary thing to have as a parent today. I love female kids a lot but I am just so scared of having one, God please help me so that I won't commit murder by killing my own daughter because I really don't trust what I would do to such daughter and the boys involved. God please help me, if I must have a girl child please help me put fears and decency into her medulla because I know its not always by the strictness of their parents that makes a child decent but Gods grace ![]() Op, send that your niece back to Nigeria asap so that her parents can handle her foolishness whole you handle your daughter's own!!! |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Yg5652(m): 5:25pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by abdullkabar(m): 5:26pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Its really tough these days to parent a child, they have too much around to make them loose focus I tell you |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Houseofglam7(f): 5:28pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
unbitchable:This girl ain't good bro. I can tell you that fo sho. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by ABCthings: 5:31pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
crackkhaus:true 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by DKM123: 5:32pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Story tellers everywhere. Smh. All for views. What decent woman who leaves for work ad early as 6am daily and writes so intelligently takes up their family issues concerning her daughter to a misogynistic site as nairaland full of agberos, touts and Marlians for solution. NONE. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Farki: 5:34pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Happyguy201: How about you teach your children about proper Internet safety and etiquette. In the next 4 years the child will be an adult and if they can't learn to be careful online then you aren't doing your job as a parent. If you like give them torchlight phone for calls only just don't blame technologies for bad parenting. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Celense(m): 5:37pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
You live the house by 6am & your hubby virtually lives before you. What do you expect of a teenager that lacks motherly care/proper home training. That must be tough. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by victorazyvictor(m): 5:42pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Queenellahrose: This is unspeakable! |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Rebuke: 5:44pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Chidinso1(m): 5:46pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
This is not time to apportion blame but to provide a better solution to this seeming difficult issue but not one difficult. Let's start with this. The word of God speaking in Proverbs says, "Spear the rod and spoil the child". The question now is how often Was The rod used in her upbringing? The rod here is not even stick or Canal...but the word of God. Your daughter can be restored to her state of right and just leaving only with what she was created with which is the spoken word of God and the spirit of God. As she is now, her mind has been conformed to a certain system of leaving which to her it is right and good. It takes the ability of the seed of the word of God planted in her now to transform her from the conformity of her own right thinking. And this can only be done through the word of God. This word of God is the illuminating light of Christ Jesus the son of God as written in John 1:1. Only this word can set things aright and give comfort and restoration to her lost soul and the lost peace in the family. The psalmist speaking in psalms 23:4, He said "....thy rod and thy staff they comfort me". Still talking about The word of God which is Jesus Christ. MA, locking her inside without locking the word of God in her heart will make no difference. Rather it will give her an Avenue to have time to restrategis her plan of living when freed. The best you can give her now is love. The best you can give her now is Christ if you really have him in you. The best you can also give to your husband now is your voice of prayer and love. For a praying woman is a prevailing woman. And a loving woman is a living woman. Stop thinking and let God be... (Be careful for nothing, but by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6). Cast all your burdens upon the Lord for He cares for you. Finally when Jesus sets in in your family rest assured that peace will set in. Know that nothing missing, Nothing broken when Jesus comes in. Just give him A chance. Thanks Ma. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Obiesie1994(m): 5:50pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
its well even in d well |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by LyfeJennings(m): 6:00pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Hmmmmmmm This one loud o May God help U |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by TruthSpeaker: 6:01pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
You can’t turn a bad girl good. But when a good is going bad, she is gone forever and you will mourn forever. Well after all said and done, this isn’t time for the blaming game. Father’s often pamper their daughters too much and when things go bad, they tend to shift the blame. We have not heard his part of the story though. The current punishment is cool. But I bet you, the slightest opportunity they get they will go for a dick again. Don’t be surprised they begin to skip school to go for nailing with those bad boys. Getting them nearer to God might be a remedy. Then for your husband, try to make peace with him, if not a side chick will begin to get the better part of him or he will become addicted to prostitutes. You sound as if the dude is doing good financially. I wish you the best. My only daughter wouldn’t end like this IJN, AMEN. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by MartinCorridon: 6:06pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Drakkernoir: Do you quote when not referred to, just to seek attention? And yes, she would soon be an olosho if the mum doesn't buckle up. Only someone with a microscopic IQ wouldn't see that. |
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