Alfather:
If i tel u a story of a barister who got marraid to a barrister, u would change your orientation

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.

Coolcalmcollect:
Why are most Nigerian men scared or feel unsecure of their successful wives or gfs?
I once had a friend who broke up with his gf cos she had a first class while he has a 2.2 saying she will be more successful and thus she won't be submissive.
I've heard stories of men forcing their bright future wives to become housewives cos they fear she will soon start earning more than them.
Most men feel it isn't until they earn more than their wives they can earn submission from her, they forget like respect, submission is earned via love. When you love your wife and show it to her, she will be submissive on her own.
Please leave that woman to reach her full potentials, if not for anything for your kids, so they can have rich mom to boast of. Mrs awoshika, Mrs alakija etc doesn't have two heads.... Allow her grow.

Coolcalmcollect:

it's a lie....

Coolcalmcollect:

I don't need the orientation of an insecure man. what joy will it give most men to knowingly limited the potentials of their wife....to be what the wife pray against in church. smh

Farki:


MrBrownJay1 has already said it but let me add my own.

I was thinking about this topic this afternoon and something just came to my head, some women will use their position as the main breadwinner as an axe over the man's head. So a woman can be rude, condescending and belittling justifying it by saying how she earns more.

Some will even be insulting their husbands asking why they aren't like Mr X or Mr Y at work who shower their wives with expensive gifts and most men hate hearing those things.

In this Nigeria where women who don't have anything are forming shakara what will a woman of high status will now do.

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.

MrBrownJay1:


Sadly the issue here has nothing to do with women, and all to do with the r/ship that Nigerians have with money. In Nigeria MONEY IS EVERYTHING so we can't blame ANYONE for using that as a mean to be in control in their lives....MEN do it all the time, and there is no issues with it, why should it be a problem when women do it?! So many women settle for good for nothing useless men because of money, so many women are used and abused because of the little monetary gain that these men bring to these poor deluded women's lives... No wonder so many dudes out there are quick to say (to other men):" make money and women will come"

We have to be honest with ourselves and certanly shouldn't expect this issue to be a good thing if men have money but negative if women do the exact same thing. That's the definition of being hypocrites.

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.

MrBrownJay1:


Sadly the issue here has nothing to do with women, and all to do with the r/ship that Nigerians have with money. In Nigeria MONEY IS EVERYTHING so we can't blame ANYONE for using that as a mean to be in control in their lives....MEN do it all the time, and there is no issues with it, why should it be a problem when women do it?! So many women settle for good for nothing useless men because of money, so many women are used and abused because of the little monetary gain that these men bring to these poor deluded women's lives... No wonder so many dudes out there are quick to say (to other men):" make money and women will come"

We have to be honest with ourselves and certanly shouldn't expect this issue to be a good thing if men have money but negative if women do the exact same thing. That's the definition of being hypocrites.

Farki:


I'm just stating my personal experience. I rarely see a woman actively choose to be with a man who earns less. When such happens there tends to be some resentment because the man isn't 'on her level'.

CAPSLOCKED:


when a man is rich, his partner is rich as well, in most cases.. as he'll always want to give her the good things of life.
when a woman is rich, well, if she's not going to abandon her poor partner for a richer one, then she must make sure he regrets life everyday for the rest of his days.

not here to argue. just stating the fact which is easily observed in our everyday world.
this is the main reason most men will never be comfortable with a more successful partner.

CAPSLOCKED:


when a man is rich, his partner is rich as well, in most cases.. as he'll always want to give her the good things of life.
when a woman is rich, well, if she's not going to abandon her poor partner for a richer one, then she must make sure he regrets life everyday for the rest of his days.

not here to argue. just stating the fact which is easily observed in our everyday world.
this is the main reason most men will never be comfortable with a more successful partner.

MrBrownJay1:


Bro, sadly that's because you believe that these women being in bondage and controlled with money, is a good thing for women....but the minute these women do the same to men, it's a different matter.

Rich men don't bring nothing to poor women's life but a warm place where they will become slaves...let's not kid ourselves.

Coolcalmcollect:
Why are most Nigerian men scared or feel unsecure of their successful wives or gfs?
I once had a friend who broke up with his gf cos she had a first class while he has a 2.2 saying she will be more successful and thus she won't be submissive.
I've heard stories of men forcing their bright future wives to become housewives cos they fear she will soon start earning more than them.
Most men feel it isn't until they earn more than their wives they can earn submission from her, they forget like respect, submission is earned via love. When you love your wife and show it to her, she will be submissive on her own.
Please leave that woman to reach her full potentials, if not for anything for your kids, so they can have rich mom to boast of. Mrs awoshika, Mrs alakija etc doesn't have two heads.... Allow her grow.

emmaodet:


And the Bigger Question is - HOW DO YOU KNOW A WOMAN WHO GENUINELY LOVES YOU? In a world full of pretense.

Well it can be difficult [but not impossible] to know for sure. However, if she shows more interest in your pocket than in you, or you find yourself in a situation whereby you feel obligated to spend your money in order to “win her affections”, then such a woman can't really be said to have genuine love for you. For such women, being in a relationship is more of a business transaction wherein their heart is auctioned off to the highest bidder.

Dunno if you get my point.

AfroKnight:


The first sentence says it all.

When a man has money, he and his wife both have money. When a wife has money, she has money.

Anyway, I don’t care and have never cared about the wealth of my babes.

One thing I know is even female workers prefer male bosses to female ones. This is because most females cannot handle success. They are not gracious with it and I believe it is because they were raised by society to measure their success against men. Their achievements only make sense when compared with those of men.

In the end, by the woman’s design, a woman’s success or achievement is nothing if there is no man to measure dicks with.

Coolcalmcollect:
Why are most Nigerian men scared or feel unsecure of their successful wives or gfs?
I once had a friend who broke up with his gf cos she had a first class while he has a 2.2 saying she will be more successful and thus she won't be submissive.
I've heard stories of men forcing their bright future wives to become housewives cos they fear she will soon start earning more than them.
Most men feel it isn't until they earn more than their wives they can earn submission from her, they forget like respect, submission is earned via love. When you love your wife and show it to her, she will be submissive on her own.
Please leave that woman to reach her full potentials, if not for anything for your kids, so they can have rich mom to boast of. Mrs awoshika, Mrs alakija etc doesn't have two heads.... Allow her grow.

bukatyne:


Then be with someone who lacks the capacity to be 'more successful' or 'better than' you.

Because of you both are doing your thing diligently, God can decide to favour either/ both part(ies) at different capacities.

You should also note that a number of men expect their women to behave somehow so they create atmosphere for such with their insecurities.

Alfather:
If i tel u a story of a barister who got marraid to a barrister, u would change your orientation

justnock:
It baffles me. I always subconsciously seek out women I perceive to be smarter than myself for serious relationships. If you are beautiful, can challenge me intellectually, make me smile, and keep it real. I am all yours.

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.

Farki:


I'm just stating my personal experience. I rarely see a woman actively choose to be with a man who earns less. When such happens there tends to be some resentment because the man isn't 'on her level'.

Wantedmiller:
is this a story or your opinion?

Remove that "most" joor and be serious with life.

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.