chibuike65:
Not having sufficient financial, though am working but am dead scared that salary will not be enough to start a family really don't want to suffer someone's daughter and I plan to give my wife the best attention she needs and the children when the start coming, but no enough money get me scared of marriage, I want an average family not suffering and smiling, but I see people that I have more pay than them get married but I don't won't that

bukatyne:


The first step is to be the right woman to the kind of man you are interested in.

It would automatically sieve some guys that don't meet your specifications away.

Annstar:
my dear I have been doing that..

I just pray he shows up soon

addictiv:
The fear of loosing the initial attraction along the line and the marriage turning to a brother/sister kind of relationship where we no get attracted to each other and just cohabiting and focusing on work and kids

Hamachi:
Singles drop your fears about marriage and let the married ones clear your doubts.

Me: Cheating and fear of marring my enemy

Davash222:
My only fear is getting married to a Nigerian girl and no one can clear my doubt about that.

Aldebarann:
I am not family oriented. I don’t want to appear like I don’t care about her family

Blakjewelry:
My only fear is the unnecessary partying and noise making

OcVoice:
My fear is her not supporting me, cheating on me and then falling out of love!

PrimadonnaO:
I won't say I have any marriage phobia per se... not even the common fear of hubby cheating. Nahh, I don't fear for that. Because somewhere deep down in my heart, I know God will lead me right...

If there's anything I'll count as fearful, it will be the thought of having a badly behaved child. But I guess raising the children right from day 1 should fix that...

Expensiverichyb:
My own fears are:
1. Marrying someone who will not understand me.
2. Someone who wouldn't trust me.
3. Someone who can't easily let go of little thing.
I can't stand someone keeping malice with me. So scary

Winneygirl:
Maybe scared that I might not marry someone who's my true friend.
I believe friendship remains where love fades.
Maybe if I marry someone whom we connect on a friendship level, then maybe we'll build a family centered on love, truth and finding happiness in the little things in life.

rain21:
I think if he turns out to become a monster and hits me __in other words_domestic violence

Moji12:
The ONLY fear i v is death of spouse which is inevitable.

drmikeadams:
fear of marrying a vandalised ,packaged runs geh

Annstar:
my fear is finding the right man

chibuike65:
Not having sufficient financial, though am working but am dead scared that salary will not be enough to start a family really don't want to suffer someone's daughter and I plan to give my wife the best attention she needs and the children when the start coming, but no enough money get me scared of marriage, I want an average family not suffering and smiling, but I see people that I have more pay than them get married but I don't won't that

vickydankal:


This is just battle of the mind. Overcome it fast, else fear of dying, parent or family members dying will start creeping in. Prayers is vital here.

vickydankal:


Every woman wants to support a man with a vision. Make sure you marry an intelligent and God fearing lady and that fear will die a natural death . For cheating this is what one aspect me and you don’t have a final say, all you could do is pray and do your best to satisfy your woman and hope she doesn’t chop cassava in the next garden

vickydankal:


To be frank with you, raising Godly children is the work of grace. Check many pastors children misbehave. Train up a child in the way he should go....should is the word not must go.

You can only do your best and pray for your kids. No matter what you do, training your kids is not Solely dependent on you. There are factors like peer pressure ; societal influences, religious beliefs, exuberances etc could water down whatever doctrine you must have inculcated into your child

vickydankal:


Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday happy birthday
Happy birthday to you
Hip hip hip hurray

It is a must ooo. My husband has never celebrated birthday in his life, I force him to organize for the children and mine yearly. He has refused to celebrate his; I pray for God’s blessings I will surprise him this year.

Start adjusting your mindset towards partying and children’s noise. It will come and by age it will also pass. Don’t forget you did same

vickydankal:


Just like my husband, he doesn’t seem to care about his family and mine. But I fine a lot ways to cover that shortcomings. I call and sends gifts for his family and mine in his name. And they appreciate it, to them my husband is a very busy man. My husband can leave the house just so he won’t have to say more than greetings to family members.

Who you will marry will play a huge role here, understanding and patience. One day you will cone alone just like my husband

Blakjewelry:
I love children and I don't bother about their wahala. In fact am great with them but that marriage day is the very day I wish to avoid by any means necessary

vickydankal:


Lolzzzz
In one area or the other we are all damaged goods. Runs girls or not. You need peace of mind and other qualities you may desire in a woman you may want to marry and many runs girls possess these attributes.

This is not to defend runs girls. But many runs girls will make a better wife than some cover up Mary Magdalen girls we see in churches.

If you are a runs girl, repent and turn a new leave. Else you end up as an even paper .

Unless you married her a virgin if not runs girl and your wife may have a thin line separating them. So make up your mind what you want. Tear rubber Vg or better wife?

vickydankal:


If I could, I will not forget and forgive my husband for our wedding and reception took about 3 hours. Yes 3 hours. We were already at the hotel when people were calling and asking for directions and where we were.

You could do a wedding if few guests at the beach and also consider wedding on odd days. Like Monday or Wednesday.

Aldebarann:
Your husband is blessed to have you, ma’am. Actually, it is not that I do not care, i am not just one who calls or visits people, not even my siblings. Hopefully, she won’t run out of patience before I catch up.

Thanks for the compliment

I can relate to the other issues raised .At a time, I thought either my husband was adopted or his family never showed him love. But after few years of marriage I found out it was his nature. You can’t imagine, I will plan dates on calendar who he will have to call, when, what time etc And then he hates calls. You can call 100 times he will not pick but can easily reply asking you to send sms and busy”

but now a lot of improvements has been made. What I noticed was the problem was physiology and emotional suppression over the years. That’s emotions not expressed from childhood, schussing children down, shut your mouth, don’t cry etc were triggers to this. Bottled feelings . Glory to God for the gradual changes . So you can change, once you can a patient and understanding woman, certainly you will break limits in that area.

Blakjewelry:

LOL seriously if I can have my way, it's just straight out of the registry to reception. White man style, but our ladies no wan hear that one

OcVoice:
My fear is her not supporting me, cheating on me and then falling out of love!