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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Gcool2(m): 2:35am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Mmm qtx: |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by InvertedHammer: 2:43am On Feb 03, 2020 |
/ Everyone spends a lot of money planning for wedding but nobody spares a moment to plan for marriage. OP: Your case is the norm in this make-believe era of social media. Welcome to reality101. Her love for you is dead and buried. The more you remain in this union, the closer you walk to the grave. It is inevitable. \ |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by cbaba: 3:52am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Did you steal the 3M? Why is it so hard for u to understand that she is not an investment? So you don't have other girls crazy about you? How would you feel is she was your sister,being forced into marriage like a 13 yr old Hausa girl? Are u that dumb? You better wake the fuc.k up b4 u damage your mental health. PULL OUT THEN Take a stand & work on the only thing you can control. ...YOURSELF! |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by iflyndy: 4:15am On Feb 03, 2020 |
I am not of d opinion u let her go,firstly consider her age at d onset of marriage ,ladies within ds age bracket (18-26) will always act dat way. Shes still within d bracket of youthful exuberance,she feels live revolves around her and she can do anything she pleases,the thought of having to bend to the rules and satisfying d desires of someonene is frustrating.secondly u r from different backgrounds ,I wont lie to u if I tell u wont face this turbulent times especially with such statements for lyk 2yrs,u will v misunderstanding until maturity sets in on her own side. Thirdly ,try not to be to rigid in ur decisions,allow her face sometimes the consequence of her action from dere she would learn.*she still much interested in you that's y she told her sister to stay away from her marriage,only if u understand d way some women are wired all dese na initial gra gra,exercise patience,try give her space and u will see her drooling for u |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Ybutterfly: 4:26am On Feb 03, 2020 |
hybrid77: DiVORce DiVORce DiVORce DiVORce |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Enemyofpeace: 4:28am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Pls can you give me her number for me to call her and advice her? |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by favour32(m): 5:16am On Feb 03, 2020 |
The only solution u get na to divorce. Officially separate from her. The ultimate aim for life na to make ya sef happy. Anything wey go be cog in the wheel of ya progress to make you,make you surgically remove am ASAP. Nor send society say dem go laf you oo. Society go laf wella when you nor happy. Apply the m.m r you go dey fine wella. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Lovelypet28: 5:42am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Brother let her go to her daddy's house, her eye go soon clear. We women are like that, you pple are still finding ur way in this early marriage, disagreements will come in. I say again if you send her packing her head go clear. Goodluck |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Henrypraise: 6:09am On Feb 03, 2020 |
hybrid77: my brother women tell lot of lies, once de are tired wit a relationship, u may not have forced or hurry her, but maybe her little brain is inventing stories and she is trying to stick to them. just let her be. count ur loses n move on... I suggest u give her one last nice fu*k at night den u either send her packing the next morning or u move out the next morning... severe any financial benefit she gets from u n cease accepting sexual favours from her... it's only a pity u didn't get a child out of d union. anyways count ur loses n move on... her brain isn't matured enough to cope with marriage. I broke up wit my 21yr old girl last week, I hate complains n nuisances... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by orisa37: 6:31am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by rflamz230(m): 6:35am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Well, if you ask me I will tell you all your answers are in that text message she sent. Make her feel like she's part of the family and not someone you own(being bossy), unless when necessary, avoid third party interference in your marriage and always give her that space when she demand it. I think what you both need right now is a break not a divorce. You can't tell me you don't have feelings for someone you dated for 5years oga. Shae na movie una act all along nae. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Mkez(m): 6:48am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Hastalavista bro. over 3 millions for marriage of her choice yet not satisfied to see you as husband? after 5 years of dating? this are set of girls who later regret in the future. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 6:59am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Tonyfx: Well, quarrel is usually common at the early marriage life except that his wife wasn't really mentally ready. She looks like someone who wants to get out. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Onyiiet(m): 7:00am On Feb 03, 2020 |
I think both of you shouls speak to either of these people. Research tem and see who fits your needs the most. 1.Marriage Matters International - https://www.marriagematters.com.ng/ - If you want to go to a usual counseling set-up with professionals. 2. Temple's Counsel -https://templeobike.com - if you and your spouse want to speak to a licensed and experienced individual counselor and psychotherapist. 3. Psych NG - http://www.psychng.com/appointment-schedule - If you want to get psychoanalysis with your spouse. Any of them will work for you. Emperorx: |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Onyiiet(m): 7:01am On Feb 03, 2020 |
I think both of you should speak to either of these people. Research them and see who fits your needs the most. 1.Marriage Matters International - https://www.marriagematters.com.ng/ - If you want to go to a usual counseling set-up with professionals. 2. Temple's Counsel -https://templeobike.com - if you and your spouse want to speak to a licensed and experienced individual counselor and psychotherapist. 3. Psych NG - http://www.psychng.com/appointment-schedule - If you want to get psychoanalysis with your spouse. Any of them will work for you. Emperorx: |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 7:12am On Feb 03, 2020 |
qtx: Why this mentality among Nigerians? Why this belief or mindset among Nigerian Christians? Why? I'm not saying divorce should be their first option or the only choice as misunderstanding and quarrel usually marks the beginning of most marriages because couples are still trying to integrate. But if a marriage is not working after trying everything, divorce is better than letting the wife kill her husband and she in turn get death sentence or vice versa. Whether Christians or Muslims, divorce is better than death by murdering my friend. Divorce could be a solution, death is not. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by manontree: 7:17am On Feb 03, 2020 |
cococandy: Shocking coming from you. Your views have always been a bit more balanced than this The bossy claim has no grounds. An unproven allegation which can clearly be analysed to be false. He stated she is rude and even her parents are against her. Her messages paints a picture of a woman that disrespects her husband This is a man that has assisted this illiterate through school. If the claim that she pushed up the wedding bill to N3m is true doesn't this show a woman that is manipulate? Doesn't it show a woman that was scheming to ensure he balks and doesn't go through the wedding on account of the high cost?? Which same bride attempts to delete her fiance's purse if she planned living with him after the wedding If he is bossy would he have obeyed her and paid for the high cost society wedding given his low income industry as a medical professional. N3m for a wedding is still extreme for a doctor in nigeria She has someone else and all these claims is an attempt to shake tables and bail 4 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Tonyfx: 7:19am On Feb 03, 2020 |
My brother, I really feel bad for them if only people can understand the concept of marriage all this unnecessary drama wouldn't be happening. maasoap: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by udwise123: 7:19am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Why do think I know her( Mfon obong) |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 7:21am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Temptee101: Marry your soul mate, you will never regret. The best thing that has ever happened to me is my marriage. May be people whose marriages are working should start posting here too so that the singles wouldn't be thinking that all marriages out there are like this. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Resurgent2016: 7:24am On Feb 03, 2020 |
hybrid77: There are a lot of marriage-ready ladies looking for a life companion to settle down with, why did you settle for one who isn't ready? You have to give her time, she's right. Many of her peers in school are likely not married, give her time. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by DeRay98(m): 7:40am On Feb 03, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy: The bolded is very valid. Many young ladies nowadays use love to manipulate young economically bouyant guys to obtain what they want and then come up with drama to push the ignorant guy away ones they got what they wanted. This guy has been fooled and he went blow N3m for a scam lover... |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Shugavee(f): 7:46am On Feb 03, 2020 |
CsRockefeller:lol like it or not,, our weapon is our mouth !! If u not ready to get used to that fact ,, just know u are not ready to hv a woman under ur roof!! |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Etizz: 8:02am On Feb 03, 2020 |
If it is easy for her to divorce after 3months, why not stop the marriage before it happened? I don't blame the guy that much, she should stand on her ground if she is not ready ,instead of allowing him to spend N3m for marriage and 3 months time you can comfortably say its not possible anymore,..... This is someone who took care of her during her education, why not ask the guy to stop taking care of her education, why not say she is not ready for the guy to pay her bills during school days, why not stop the guy from throwing money on her, or she thinks he's running a charity? I saw in his write up where he said he has project to take care of thereby, marriage should not be a distraction, same reason I got married early January,.... Guy I would advice u both come to an agreement whether to divorce or not, this time don't force her, if she wants divorce, let her go, the money spent is the only thing that waste and u can recover more than that..... Thanks |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:07am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Peemonny: She had no choice because my man was the one paying her tuition fee and and all other fees. Lol. May be you missed that part. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:15am On Feb 03, 2020 |
fastjett: No amount of money, efforts and/or time is worth getting murdered or becoming hypertensive for. If it should come to worst, Op should count his losses and move on. It has happened to some men before him and they survived, they eventually married human beings |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Donbosco46: 8:22am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Well from the look of things you bribe the mother because that’s what those mother like or most of them a man who can give them money as IN-LAW she see say you get money and she pressure her daughter to marry you. The girl know perfectly well that you given her mother money and buy things for her i said and I quote the girl your wife is still want to consider or see the reason to love or marry you but she never see but because of the pressures she accept. My advice now don’t divorce her she has plan if you divorce her she go happy self just give her time make she land finish. She get another guy wey she like but the guy never get money to marry her. Don’t take back your bride price she can never marry another man. If worse come to worse marry another woman in our tradition a man can marry more than one her eye go clear with that her bad mother she don’t care about the happiness of her daughter but money. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:24am On Feb 03, 2020 |
ITbomb: Easier said than done. The fact that she's singing that she was forced into marriage has defeated every other logic to blame the husband. You guys should fear God before putting the blame on the op. How many of you can even do what he did, how many of you can endure sponsoring someone's daughter through higher institutions in the name of "my future wife". He devoted not only his money but also his time. He wasted too much fvcking time on her, he deserves better than this from her. And you guys would always make it look like getting a third party involved is a mistake. No, it is not. Third party involvements have saved many marriages. 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:26am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Kekereekun123: Lol. Imagine the money and time he wasted on her. Even if she was a small girl five years ago, why would she still remain small girl after five years in a relationship? 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:28am On Feb 03, 2020 |
alphaNomega: That's it. Zero experience! Look at where he finds himself now. Local boy. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Liodins: 8:28am On Feb 03, 2020 |
femalecobra: You’ve said it all madam As for being bossy, that trait has always been there, just that the lady was pretending for the sake of her education. So OP your woman has told u wat she wants her man to be like, so to say your marriage can still work if only u can work on the things she need u to correct abt yourself. It’s only gonna take time. Thanks |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by maasoap(m): 8:32am On Feb 03, 2020 |
Ishilove: Five years in courtship. What has she been doing in between? Lol. If a lady who has been in a single stable relationship for five years is not ready but still want to EXPLORE, I wonder when she's going to be ready and what is actually left for her to explore. The truth is that some people don't know what they really want and some don't know when to quit at all. A divorce is rather hasty. A trial separation is what you two need to get your priorities right. She needs space so GIVE HER THAT SPACE. If she comes back, all well and good. If she doesn't, take it as one of life's experiences. Separation just three months into the marriage? Space just three months into the marriage after five years of courtship? If she comes back, all well and good, really? Why must everything be about her? It has been about her since five years ago, through the school, marriage ceremony spending was still about her. Now, she deserves separation and space to roam the South, East, North and West and then comes back to settle down with the mumu husband. That's even if she wishes. You're funny man. |
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