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Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 3:11pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace:His lack of manners towards you didn't start today but while you were dating your husband. You should've spoken up then. Iwantpeace:It appears he has no respect for you. Your husband should do the needful asap and put him in check since you're unable to speak up for yourself. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by eyinjuege: 3:12pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Just cook enough food per meal, and leave no extras Stop cooking excess. Once you cook, dish your husband's own in a cooler and keep near your bedside. Dish your own and eat, and dish his own too. Shikena It might be more stressful cooking more often, but it will save you the stress of shouting Make stew/soup for a meal, and nothing more 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Ginaz(f): 3:35pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
cococandy: Nothing is the same sis. You may be very free and open cos that is you but with other people , you may need to use 6th sense without being told . 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by rain21(f): 3:42pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: Cos he thinks you have no probs since you never complained in the first place. He feels he's very free with you hence the attitude 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by iliyande(m): 3:54pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Not worth the stress and rants madam. I don't support the young man for spoiling or not washing dishes when used. My niece stays with us and he is very friendly with my wife and I love seeing them that way. He even cook what the family eats because he also is a good cook. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by olabrinks(f): 4:12pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
What you’re complaining about is really not a big deal. You’ll realise that marriage comes with much bigger problems along the line, this one is so inconsequential. ‘ he dips his hand inside my pot of food’ ‘ I don’t like him entering my kitchen’ ‘ he wants me to greet him first’ Humble yourself my darling. He is a part of your family, as long as he is not being totally disrespectful, you need to tolerate peoples personalities at least for peace to reign. If you’re cooking for everyone in the house, is it a necessity for him to ask you before he serves himself? Why do you want your brother in law to feel like a complete stranger in your house? You’re just creating unmeasurable headache for yourself. 38 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by sparog(m): 4:36pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
1StopRudeness: You have sense mbok 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by sparog(m): 4:37pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Foodqueen: More wisdom to you 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Marley147: 5:07pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace:you're are very difficult person yourself why are you counting how many times he eats why can't you be free & allow him to be free too mind you that he was in that house before so don't think it will be easy for you to control him easily doesn't his brother provide money for food its still too early woman you even said he is your husband's immediate younger brother what will happen if you greet him first why not to relax & enjoy your new marriage complaining of things that you should over look & enjoy your new home pls don't frustrate yourself cos you're doing so already 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Marley147: 5:18pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace:get out you're only trying to create problems for your self in your new marriage keep it up make sure you will get a very strong juju for to be able to dance the drum you're about to start cos marriage no be sugar time shall come when you & your hubby will also have issues just chase the people that can speak for you at that moment you think your people alone can do that. When they say get home training some of will refuse rather you receive friends training 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by GboyegaD(m): 5:26pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: I truly do not see any issue here. You may want to have an idea on how they grew up and the level of freedom they have when it comes to getting what to eat. If they grew up having no issues going to the kitchen to get what they need at anytime, then, I will suggest you let it slide and if you can't, learn to let it slide. If otherwise, you may want to let him know you are not comfortable with it in a respectful way however, it could be termed as you asking him not to visit but at same time to, you need your sanity. Over all, it is too less of an issue to bother too much over. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Marley147: 5:33pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Ginaz: |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by eyefordetails: 5:36pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
The first 12 months of a newly married couple living together should strictly be without any visitor staying with them. It's barely 3 months of marriage and you're having this kinda problem? It's too early ma'am. You prolly didnt discuss well with your spouse before marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by GboyegaD(m): 5:39pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: On the issue of how many times he has eaten, that one shouldn't be a problem. Except you guys don't have enough then, talk to him as a brother and make him see reasons on how you need him to understand the home situation at the moment. For the plates, let him know he did not do well. It makes no sense that he washed just his and left others and you would appreciate he washes all the next time. See him as you would see your younger family members. 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by GboyegaD(m): 5:40pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: Then, handle it with wisdom. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by drmikeadams(m): 5:43pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Charleys:. Them dey always use sex control and manipulate men |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by alexmakaay(m): 5:55pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Amanee: okay, she caused it.. but we can't dwell on that nowww.. what she needs now is solution. that's all 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 5:57pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Marley147:Hahaha this to much ooo. Girls too like friends training ooo. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by alexmakaay(m): 5:58pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Charleys:correct guy.. I feel you bro 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by alexmakaay(m): 6:00pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
1StopRudeness: will you shut the f**k up.. why is it that among the 12 there must be Judas?? you go worse pass that stupid lazy brother in law of hers 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 6:09pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
alexmakaay: U are mannerless... see how U are screaming shut up......because I have an opinion different from ur own.....I am a judas?? Please who did I betray?? see ..take ur condescending behaviour elsewhere... this is a public forum ... if u can’t maintain a civilized dialogue without insulting people and expecting counter opinions ... please deactivate ur profile 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by ireneidiva(f): 6:17pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Iwantpeace:Tell him not to dish food by himself. Tell him you will dish it for him. After cooking, store some in the fridge and keep your husbands own aside and give him his. If you are going out, make sure you keep food for him to eat when he is hungry and tell him. Example: I kept beans for you, you can eat it if you are hungry. Remind him to wash his dishes after eating. Wash your own yourself because it is your duty not his except he offers. Also try to be more tolerant and stop reporting him, he wont be there forever. 7 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 6:23pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva:With all this your advice, I guess the best thing for the guy to leave this house for you and who you are telling to treat him like a baby boy. 6 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by egopersonified(f): 6:25pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
In all you do, remember that boy will be called father tomorrow. Most young marriages experience this, just be wise. 7 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by ireneidiva(f): 6:26pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Meeyankee:When you live in peoples houses, follow their rules. He should go back to his father's house if he can't. Some people will tell you to go and dish your own food or cook whatever you like in their houses. So their house, their rules. Since this is what she wants, he has to comply. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by fatymore(f): 6:33pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Even when I cook, my fiance doesn't haul food from the pot... I do that not to talk of anybody... Just talk to him stylishly |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 6:33pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva:Their house,their house,keep on saying their house. are you sure you understand the story at all? Just note that the lady’s husband and his brother are coming from somewhere. This how some of your girls treat their in-laws like strangers.she for understand the relationship between his husband and his brother or better still leave the relationship back then. Come no be only wife get husband ok. The husband get parents and siblings too. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Lush100(m): 6:52pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
dear madam, u need wisdom. if ur hobby junior brother is not less than 20 or if he is older or same age range as u, u need to apply some caution. why? if your husband doesn't see anything wrong that he stays with you. if ur mother in law doesn't see anything wrong that he stays with you, you will have to find a way to make friends with him. it's from there u can then make it work for u. for your information, your husband may as well be tolerating his stay but maybe knows there's nothing he can do. brothers fight each other but they don't hate each other. you have to navigate this phase. this ur brother in law may be without a job, but u can't just ask him to leave, you may need his help latter, instead of focusing on ur brother in law, why not focus on your husband and make him increase the amount he gives u on food,( "like my dear, we go need more food money, I want to feed ur our brother so he will have cheeks, u know he gets hungry easily (in a jovial manner). make friends with him, u can then say" let's make deal, I serve u big meat, u wash ur plate in laughter, he will do it. 11 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by ireneidiva(f): 6:53pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
Meeyankee:Nobody is dragging the ownership of the grown man. He is now starting up his own nuclear family which comprises of him, his wife and kids. So any other person is a visitor to that home. It is not his house. It is the husband and wife's home. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nnemuka(f): 7:02pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
You people do not always have problems with inlaws when you are dating immediately then do small thing for una head church agbasia. You nolonger can endure what you were enduring before, even greeting that you do without being forced is now a big issue for you. Who says he must greet you especially if he's older than you 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by olabrinks(f): 7:02pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva:Are you married? I highly doubt it, I’m sorry. Because I don’t understand how you’re making such a big issue over food or kitchen issues. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nobody: 7:05pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva:I understand you but just note that elastic always get limit.but I also understand say supposedly you be the guy family you go talk like this ooo. 3 Likes |
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