Good morning Nairalanders..I have a little problem i want you guys to advice me on...my girlfriend is too stubborn..she’d never accept she’s at fault...she’d do something and keep expecting me to beg her even when she’s at fault..,she’d raise her voice at me even when I’m trying to correct her.,so last night i ask her if she’d let us go buy some fuel to put in the Generator...,she said she don’t know..,busy watching a movie on her system...I then have to go myself and come back home.....when I came back I then told her..I don’t like what she did tonight that I told her to let us go buy some fuel together that she wasn’t answering...she then start yelling at me with an heavy voice...saying different kind of things...if I’m tired of her I should let her know...that she has been looking at me with the way I’m doing that she’d never apologize...I just decided not to respond to her anymore...and I refuse not to eat what she cooked..she then start cursing herself that if I refuse not to eat the food....and if she cook for me again that she’s a bastard...I just turn deaf ears to her....cuz every words she’s saying to me is really provoking me..but I don’t just wanna respond to her...Nairalanders I really need your advice..,what can I do about this issue..she has been doing this several times...she gets angry soo easily..what can I do..�I really love her and I don’t wanna lose her...she’s a nice girl but that attitude of stubbornness and been angry is the only issue here..,don’t mind my grammars please..and thanks �

You are nothing but a typical sisi with very low self esteem....... and of course, she knows this...... there are good mannered ( though few) girls out there.... so if you like, you can kill yourself over a "tout"......... you have nobody but yourself to blame........


Ciao

Since this is her character (attitudes she displays consistently over time), you may not be able to talk her out of it.

Although the scenario you painted deserved a serious analysis.

1. Unteachable or incorrigible persons are serious problems for themselves and their partners.

2.Since you said she cooked. Having spent sometime in the kitchen preparing your meals, why would you want her to go get fuel for the generating set with you?

3. Truth be told, it seems you both are tired of each other.

4. Sit her doing and reflect on where you are coming from, where you are now, and the chance of you both journeying together forever.

I rest my case.

This continuous advise of "sit her down" is really old.
OP, this is who she is, this type may not change anytime soon.
So choose, your peace of mind over "love".
Expect a truck load of this after marriage.

Women sometimes act that way when they feel they have options. Take a step back or better still, mirror her behavior towards you. Give her some space.

chai

I'm yet to see a woman who isn't into emotional blackmail even my sister and my mother are guilty of that.
You offend them, you apologize and they offend you, they expect you to apologize also.

Well my advice is this. Relationship is like kitchen, when it gets too hot you get the fvck out.

yvelchstores:
This continuous advise of "sit her down" is really old.
OP, this is who she is, this type may not change anytime soon.
So choose, your peace of mind over "love".
Expect a truck load of this after marriage.

nice advice, leave the " sit her down" crew it has become their mantra, they always come up with a senseless advice

Pubichairs:
nice advice, leave the " sit her down" crew it has become their mantra, they always come up with a senseless advice

Thanks bro...this sit her down issue has become something else..when one sit them down they’d definitely wanna repeat what they have done again..and would expect a sit down issue again.

It is time to end the relationship!

Onyi22:

Where have you been Onyi?

Anything that takes away the peace of God from you is not good for you.
Be very careful of what you tolerate, we teach people how to treat us. Once she understands you can take shit without complaining, then she would turn you into septic thank.

You don't need this type of stress in your life

My guy, u don forget just na, maryam sander, abi u no know d story. This reminds me of Eunice that nearly stabbed me with knife, with all the house locked. Men, just quit an abusive relstionship, she will learn to beg. That's why I advice guys not to suck pussy.

Bro... I rear young wild animals for a living. Presently I have 8... all 6 weeks old... had them from birth... 7 tigers and one leopard. But the leopard is very stubborn.... I feed it well... bathe it ... groom it even more than the others... but to date... it just refuse to change its spots to stripes and be like the others. What should I do?...I love it so much.

Hi Lekside230,

Let's look at some of the issues you raised and analyse them one after the other.

Okay?

Alright, time to think critically:

1.) She expects you to beg even when she's at fault.
This is a big character flaw. A person with good values will apologize
when they're wrong. It is never right to apologize for another person's misdeed.
The problem here is not you but her.

Understand this-- you can never change anyone. Change comes from within.
You can't continue to tolerate shitty behaviour from someone and expect
that they will respect you. It is counterproductive.

Just like Planetx13 said, you are acting like a "sissy."
I don't mean that in a disrespectful or insulting way.
It was said to give you a strong reality wake-up.

You need to start working on yourself as a man. Self development.
Take online courses that teach about self esteem, self image,
how to be an alpha man, etc.

2.) "She’d raise her voice at me even when I’m trying to correct her."
That's also part of the problem. She doesn't have respect for you.

Respect, as they say, is reciprocal. Raising her voice at you
on those occasions is also part of a character flaw in her.
Arrogance, inordinate pride, presumptousness, etc-- it is all part of it.

This is a fundamental character flaw that passes for a red flag.
It is not something you manage. You walk out of such situations.
Stay at your own peril.

3.) "If I’m tired of her I should let her know."
Issue 3.

She is tired of you. She's fed up with the relationship. Love has gone out
the window. I don't know much about the two of you so it will be wrong of me
to categorically say you never did her any wrong in the past that made her change.

HOWEVER, even if you hurt her in the past-- a person who is emotionally intelligent
knows how important it is to let go of past hurts and forgive and continue to love
the one they are in a relationship with.

Here's the thing, Lekside230-- she lacks emotional intelligence and good values.
These are not things you can impose on her. You can't change nobody. It comes from within.
It appears she isn't ready to change anytime soon.

Yelling, nagging, unwillingness to apologise are very solid instances of severe character flaw.

You don't deserve this nonsense in your life. Your sanity is very important.
She's becoming very toxic in your life. If you're not careful this will affect your
productivity at work and your interaction with women. You deserve better.

4.) "And if she cook for me again that she’s a bastard"

Lekside230, can't you see the handwriting on the wall?

What more do you want us to say?

To suggest that she's dating someone else?
I won't say that. That's not essentially the issue here.

The main issue here is that she is behaving inappropriately
and disrespectfully to you. If at all she is cheating on you
(which is highly probable from the scenario), that is a secondary issue
that is still worth thinking about.

Let's analyse her statement: She's using swear words at you.
She's threatening she will never cook for you again. Yes, both
of you are not married so you may not be entitled to her cooking for you
but for her to resort to threatening she will never do that again for you
in the throes of anger and malignant rage speaks volume about the kind of woman
you love!

It tells me that you need re-examining. You need to do a proper introspective analysis
and ask yourself why you don't want to overcome this door-mouth tendency in you.

You need to build your self esteem.

Settling for people who continue to abuse you speaks volume about you.
You need to work on your self so you can start attracting the right set of people into your life.

5.) "I just turn deaf ears to her....cuz every words she’s saying to me is really provoking me"

Being passive is also a problem, Lekside230.

Every relationship needs healthy communication to thrive. It takes two to tango.
It is very important that you understand the importance of speaking up and in a matured way.

Don't join issues with your girlfriend by raising your voice at her too.

She is already flawed character-wise. She may be goading you into provocation
so that you may one day slap her and then thereafter she will end up using that
against you.

It is obvious that it will take your girlfriend a long time before she can change. And it has to come from
within her. Nobody can change another person. It is volitional.

6.) "I really love her and I don’t wanna lose her."

You're "suffering" from codependency behavioral tendency.
You need urgent counselling with a therapist.

You can google "codependency relationships" to learn more.

The problem with codependency is that over time you become
addicted to toxicity. You develop coping mechanisms for it.

Toxic people can be dangerous. This is what they do:
they show you love one minute and the next they give you pain
and right after that they show you love again-- on and on
the cycle goes.

When you get enmeshed in this cycle your mind becomes messed up.
You become confused, too. Gradually you begin to settle for less-- you start accepting their
disrespectful behavior, you start tolerating their insults, you
start apologizing even when they are at fault, you start saying you love
them even when they are hurting you.

Lekside230, what more do I say?


IN CONCLUSION:
Don't just see this whole experience as proof that your girlfriend has issues.

You too have serious issues you need work on.

But to set yourself free walk out of that relationship now.

Want to know how to leave a relationship peacefully and still
retain your peace of mind and sanity?

Want to know how to start attracting the right people into your life?

Want to know what it takes to build your self image
and becoming a man of respect and start enjoying your love life?

If you need my assistance you can reach out to me via my bio.

I wish you the very best.

God bless you.

The Creative Luv Doc

This is the essence of dating, to find if you are compatible or not
It seems both of you are two parallel lines that won't meet, and for your sanity, choose peace of mind

CreativeLuvDoc:
Hi Lekside230,

Let's look at some of the issues you raised and analyse them one after the other.

Okay?

Alright, time to think critically:

1.) She expects you to beg even when she's at fault.
This is a big character flaw. A person with good values will apologize
when they're wrong. It is never right to apologize for another person's misdeed.
The problem here is not you but her.

Understand this-- you can never change anyone. Change comes from within.
You can't continue to tolerate shitty behaviour from someone and expect
that they will respect you. It is counterproductive.

Just like Planetx13 said, you are acting like a "sissy."
I don't mean that in a disrespectful or insulting way.
It was said to give you a strong reality wake-up.

You need to start working on yourself as a man. Self development.
Take online courses that teach about self esteem, self image,
how to be an alpha man, etc.

2.) "She’d raise her voice at me even when I’m trying to correct her."
That's also part of the problem. She doesn't have respect for you.

Respect, as they say, is reciprocal. Raising her voice at you
on those occasions is also part of a character flaw in her.
Arrogance, inordinate pride, presumptousness, etc-- it is all part of it.

This is a fundamental character flaw that passes for a red flag.
It is not something you manage. You walk out of such situations.
Stay at your own peril.

3.) "If I’m tired of her I should let her know."
Issue 3.

She is tired of you. She's fed up with the relationship. Love has gone out
the window. I don't know much about the two of you so it will be wrong of me
to categorically say you never did her any wrong in the past that made her change.

HOWEVER, even if you hurt her in the past-- a person who is emotionally intelligent
knows how important it is to let go of past hurts and forgive and continue to love
the one they are in a relationship with.

Here's the thing, Lekside230-- she lacks emotional intelligence and good values.
These are not things you can impose on her. You can't change nobody. It comes from within.
It appears she isn't ready to change anytime soon.

Yelling, nagging, unwillingness to apologise are very solid instances of severe character flaw.

You don't deserve this nonsense in your life. Your sanity is very important.
She's becoming very toxic in your life. If you're not careful this will affect your
productivity at work and your interaction with women. You deserve better.

4.) "And if she cook for me again that she’s a bastard"

Lekside230, can't you see the handwriting on the wall?

What more do you want us to say?

To suggest that she's dating someone else?
I won't say that. That's not essentially the issue here.

The main issue here is that she is behaving inappropriately
and disrespectfully to you. If at all she is cheating on you
(which is highly probable from the scenario), that is a secondary issue
that is still worth thinking about.

Let's analyse her statement: She's using swear words at you.
She's threatening she will never cook for you again. Yes, both
of you are not married so you may not be entitled to her cooking for you
but for her to resort to threatening she will never do that again for you
in the throes of anger and malignant rage speaks volume about the kind of woman
you love!

It tells me that you need re-examining. You need to do a proper introspective analysis
and ask yourself why you don't want to overcome this door-mouth tendency in you.

You need to build your self esteem.

Settling for people who continue to abuse you speaks volume about you.
You need to work on your self so you can start attracting the right set of people into your life.

5.) "I just turn deaf ears to her....cuz every words she’s saying to me is really provoking me"

Being passive is also a problem, Lekside230.

Every relationship needs healthy communication to thrive. It takes two to tango.
It is very important that you understand the importance of speaking up and in a matured way.

Don't join issues with your girlfriend by raising your voice at her too.

She is already flawed character-wise. She may be goading you into provocation
so that you may one day slap her and then thereafter she will end up using that
against you.

It is obvious that it will take your girlfriend a long time before she can change. And it has to come from
within her. Nobody can change another person. It is volitional.

6.) "I really love her and I don’t wanna lose her."

You're "suffering" from codependency behavioral tendency.
You need urgent counselling with a therapist.

You can google "codependency relationships" to learn more.

The problem with codependency is that over time you become
addicted to toxicity. You develop coping mechanisms for it.

Toxic people can be dangerous. This is what they do:
they show you love one minute and the next they give you pain
and right after that they show you love again-- on and on
the cycle goes.

When you get enmeshed in this cycle your mind becomes messed up.
You become confused, too. Gradually you begin to settle for less-- you start accepting their
disrespectful behavior, you start tolerating their insults, you
start apologizing even when they are at fault, you start saying you love
them even when they are hurting you.

Lekside230, what more do I say?


IN CONCLUSION:
Don't just see this whole experience as proof that your girlfriend has issues.

You too have serious issues you need work on.

But to set yourself free walk out of that relationship now.

Want to know how to leave a relationship peacefully and still
retain your peace of mind and sanity?

Want to know how to start attracting the right people into your life?

Want to know what it takes to build your self image
and becoming a man of respect and start enjoying your love life?

If you need my assistance you can reach out to me via my bio.

I wish you the very best.

God bless you.

The Creative Luv Doc

Thanks very much brother..you don’t just know how happy I am as I get this your write up...you’re filled with sense...wow!!thanks very much..have never regret coming here at all...please can I get your WhatsApp number?bro.�

Girlfriend or wife! I think its already writing on the wall "teke teke mene mene..." if love involve and you can control your anger; you can make it mother of your unborn child but if reverse is the case, my broda! Japa

You created a thread at 4:00 in the morning! Bro. I feel your pain.

Ask yourself. Can you continue like this for the next 1 month, 1 year, 5 years, 20 years? Cos she won’t change and you have to decide if it is something you are willing to put up with, in front of your children.

Many ladies are like that. They don’t apologise. They expect you to move on. Well, that’s what you should do. Move on, out of this toxic relationship.

Don’t deceive yourself. She is not a good girl. She is toxic. She builds up strife and frustration in you. She knows she’s wrong but her ego will never allow her to apologise.

Leave that toxic relationship.

Did u said NICE GIRL,Na dis type fit forget knife for ur belle oo.

CreativeLuvDoc:
Hi Lekside230,

Let's look at some of the issues you raised and analyse them one after the other.

Okay?

Alright, time to think critically:

1.) She expects you to beg even when she's at fault.
This is a big character flaw. A person with good values will apologize
when they're wrong. It is never right to apologize for another person's misdeed.
The problem here is not you but her.

Understand this-- you can never change anyone. Change comes from within.
You can't continue to tolerate shitty behaviour from someone and expect
that they will respect you. It is counterproductive.

Just like Planetx13 said, you are acting like a "sissy."
I don't mean that in a disrespectful or insulting way.
It was said to give you a strong reality wake-up.

You need to start working on yourself as a man. Self development.
Take online courses that teach about self esteem, self image,
how to be an alpha man, etc.

2.) "She’d raise her voice at me even when I’m trying to correct her."
That's also part of the problem. She doesn't have respect for you.

Respect, as they say, is reciprocal. Raising her voice at you
on those occasions is also part of a character flaw in her.
Arrogance, inordinate pride, presumptousness, etc-- it is all part of it.

This is a fundamental character flaw that passes for a red flag.
It is not something you manage. You walk out of such situations.
Stay at your own peril.

3.) "If I’m tired of her I should let her know."
Issue 3.

She is tired of you. She's fed up with the relationship. Love has gone out
the window. I don't know much about the two of you so it will be wrong of me
to categorically say you never did her any wrong in the past that made her change.

HOWEVER, even if you hurt her in the past-- a person who is emotionally intelligent
knows how important it is to let go of past hurts and forgive and continue to love
the one they are in a relationship with.

Here's the thing, Lekside230-- she lacks emotional intelligence and good values.
These are not things you can impose on her. You can't change nobody. It comes from within.
It appears she isn't ready to change anytime soon.

Yelling, nagging, unwillingness to apologise are very solid instances of severe character flaw.

You don't deserve this nonsense in your life. Your sanity is very important.
She's becoming very toxic in your life. If you're not careful this will affect your
productivity at work and your interaction with women. You deserve better.

4.) "And if she cook for me again that she’s a bastard"

Lekside230, can't you see the handwriting on the wall?

What more do you want us to say?

To suggest that she's dating someone else?
I won't say that. That's not essentially the issue here.

The main issue here is that she is behaving inappropriately
and disrespectfully to you. If at all she is cheating on you
(which is highly probable from the scenario), that is a secondary issue
that is still worth thinking about.

Let's analyse her statement: She's using swear words at you.
She's threatening she will never cook for you again. Yes, both
of you are not married so you may not be entitled to her cooking for you
but for her to resort to threatening she will never do that again for you
in the throes of anger and malignant rage speaks volume about the kind of woman
you love!

It tells me that you need re-examining. You need to do a proper introspective analysis
and ask yourself why you don't want to overcome this door-mouth tendency in you.

You need to build your self esteem.

Settling for people who continue to abuse you speaks volume about you.
You need to work on your self so you can start attracting the right set of people into your life.

5.) "I just turn deaf ears to her....cuz every words she’s saying to me is really provoking me"

Being passive is also a problem, Lekside230.

Every relationship needs healthy communication to thrive. It takes two to tango.
It is very important that you understand the importance of speaking up and in a matured way.

Don't join issues with your girlfriend by raising your voice at her too.

She is already flawed character-wise. She may be goading you into provocation
so that you may one day slap her and then thereafter she will end up using that
against you.

It is obvious that it will take your girlfriend a long time before she can change. And it has to come from
within her. Nobody can change another person. It is volitional.

6.) "I really love her and I don’t wanna lose her."

You're "suffering" from codependency behavioral tendency.
You need urgent counselling with a therapist.

You can google "codependency relationships" to learn more.

The problem with codependency is that over time you become
addicted to toxicity. You develop coping mechanisms for it.

Toxic people can be dangerous. This is what they do:
they show you love one minute and the next they give you pain
and right after that they show you love again-- on and on
the cycle goes.

When you get enmeshed in this cycle your mind becomes messed up.
You become confused, too. Gradually you begin to settle for less-- you start accepting their
disrespectful behavior, you start tolerating their insults, you
start apologizing even when they are at fault, you start saying you love
them even when they are hurting you.

Lekside230, what more do I say?


IN CONCLUSION:
Don't just see this whole experience as proof that your girlfriend has issues.

You too have serious issues you need work on.

But to set yourself free walk out of that relationship now.

Want to know how to leave a relationship peacefully and still
retain your peace of mind and sanity?

Want to know how to start attracting the right people into your life?

Want to know what it takes to build your self image
and becoming a man of respect and start enjoying your love life?

If you need my assistance you can reach out to me via my bio.

I wish you the very best.

God bless you.

The Creative Luv Doc

I learnt a lot from your post. God bless you for this advise. You are indeed a life coach. I love your advice

The only thing you need now is peace of mind and you can only get that by throwing her out of the house.

She's been looking for a way to cut you loose

pfadom:
Since this is her character (attitudes she displays consistently over time), you may not be able to talk her out of it.

Although the scenario you painted deserved a serious analysis.

1. Unteachable or incorrigible persons are serious problems for themselves and their partners.

2.Since you said she cooked. Having spent sometime in the kitchen preparing your meals, why would you want her to go get fuel for the generating set with you?

3. Truth be told, it seems you both are tired of each other.

4. Sit her doing and reflect on where you are coming from, where you are now, and the chance of you both journeying together forever.

I rest my case.

at your number two she cooked doesn’t stop her from accompanying the guy to go buy fuel. It’s part of bonding it’s not like he sent her to go buy, he requested she accompanied him. If she doesn’t want to go she can politely decline and not snub him.

kokanepyramid:
at your number two she cooked doesn’t stop her from accompanying the guy to go buy fuel. It’s part of bonding it’s not like he sent her to go buy, he requested she accompanied him. If she doesn’t want to go she can politely decline and not snub him.

Thanks
For your response bro...thats just it.

These are the reasons why men develop HPB, the person you are dating isn’t giving you peace of mind yet you stick your neck in. Stop begging a woman repeatedly she will take you for granted. Free this girl and regain your sanity in one piece.

Nice one, extremely creative

CreativeLuvDoc:
Hi Lekside230,

Let's look at some of the issues you raised and analyse them one after the other.

Okay?

Alright, time to think critically:

1.) She expects you to beg even when she's at fault.
This is a big character flaw. A person with good values will apologize
when they're wrong. It is never right to apologize for another person's misdeed.
The problem here is not you but her.

Understand this-- you can never change anyone. Change comes from within.
You can't continue to tolerate shitty behaviour from someone and expect
that they will respect you. It is counterproductive.

Just like Planetx13 said, you are acting like a "sissy."
I don't mean that in a disrespectful or insulting way.
It was said to give you a strong reality wake-up.

You need to start working on yourself as a man. Self development.
Take online courses that teach about self esteem, self image,
how to be an alpha man, etc.

2.) "She’d raise her voice at me even when I’m trying to correct her."
That's also part of the problem. She doesn't have respect for you.

Respect, as they say, is reciprocal. Raising her voice at you
on those occasions is also part of a character flaw in her.
Arrogance, inordinate pride, presumptousness, etc-- it is all part of it.

This is a fundamental character flaw that passes for a red flag.
It is not something you manage. You walk out of such situations.
Stay at your own peril.

3.) "If I’m tired of her I should let her know."
Issue 3.

She is tired of you. She's fed up with the relationship. Love has gone out
the window. I don't know much about the two of you so it will be wrong of me
to categorically say you never did her any wrong in the past that made her change.

HOWEVER, even if you hurt her in the past-- a person who is emotionally intelligent
knows how important it is to let go of past hurts and forgive and continue to love
the one they are in a relationship with.

Here's the thing, Lekside230-- she lacks emotional intelligence and good values.
These are not things you can impose on her. You can't change nobody. It comes from within.
It appears she isn't ready to change anytime soon.

Yelling, nagging, unwillingness to apologise are very solid instances of severe character flaw.

You don't deserve this nonsense in your life. Your sanity is very important.
She's becoming very toxic in your life. If you're not careful this will affect your
productivity at work and your interaction with women. You deserve better.

4.) "And if she cook for me again that she’s a bastard"

Lekside230, can't you see the handwriting on the wall?

What more do you want us to say?

To suggest that she's dating someone else?
I won't say that. That's not essentially the issue here.

The main issue here is that she is behaving inappropriately
and disrespectfully to you. If at all she is cheating on you
(which is highly probable from the scenario), that is a secondary issue
that is still worth thinking about.

Let's analyse her statement: She's using swear words at you.
She's threatening she will never cook for you again. Yes, both
of you are not married so you may not be entitled to her cooking for you
but for her to resort to threatening she will never do that again for you
in the throes of anger and malignant rage speaks volume about the kind of woman
you love!

It tells me that you need re-examining. You need to do a proper introspective analysis
and ask yourself why you don't want to overcome this door-mouth tendency in you.

You need to build your self esteem.

Settling for people who continue to abuse you speaks volume about you.
You need to work on your self so you can start attracting the right set of people into your life.

5.) "I just turn deaf ears to her....cuz every words she’s saying to me is really provoking me"

Being passive is also a problem, Lekside230.

Every relationship needs healthy communication to thrive. It takes two to tango.
It is very important that you understand the importance of speaking up and in a matured way.

Don't join issues with your girlfriend by raising your voice at her too.

She is already flawed character-wise. She may be goading you into provocation
so that you may one day slap her and then thereafter she will end up using that
against you.

It is obvious that it will take your girlfriend a long time before she can change. And it has to come from
within her. Nobody can change another person. It is volitional.

6.) "I really love her and I don’t wanna lose her."

You're "suffering" from codependency behavioral tendency.
You need urgent counselling with a therapist.

You can google "codependency relationships" to learn more.

The problem with codependency is that over time you become
addicted to toxicity. You develop coping mechanisms for it.

Toxic people can be dangerous. This is what they do:
they show you love one minute and the next they give you pain
and right after that they show you love again-- on and on
the cycle goes.

When you get enmeshed in this cycle your mind becomes messed up.
You become confused, too. Gradually you begin to settle for less-- you start accepting their
disrespectful behavior, you start tolerating their insults, you
start apologizing even when they are at fault, you start saying you love
them even when they are hurting you.

Lekside230, what more do I say?


IN CONCLUSION:
Don't just see this whole experience as proof that your girlfriend has issues.

You too have serious issues you need work on.

But to set yourself free walk out of that relationship now.

Want to know how to leave a relationship peacefully and still
retain your peace of mind and sanity?

Want to know how to start attracting the right people into your life?

Want to know what it takes to build your self image
and becoming a man of respect and start enjoying your love life?

If you need my assistance you can reach out to me via my bio.

I wish you the very best.

God bless you.

The Creative Luv Doc

1. What is she doing in your house when una never marry and if na visit she come visit then 'kick her out' when she has sense she can contact you.
2. Why do you have only one GF? Why do you have GF at all.. at this point in life you should be able to count at least 5 close female friends who you can call up to your crib to keep you company if another one is messing up.
3. Stop being an idiot and take a stand.

pfadom:
Since this is her character (attitudes she displays consistently over time), you may not be able to talk her out of it.

Although the scenario you painted deserved a serious analysis.

1. Unteachable or incorrigible persons are serious problems for themselves and their partners.

2.Since you said she cooked. Having spent sometime in the kitchen preparing your meals, why would you want her to go get fuel for the generating set with you?

3. Truth be told, it seems you both are tired of each other.

4. Sit her doing and reflect on where you are coming from, where you are now, and the chance of you both journeying together forever.

I rest my case.

I love ur points but will like to redress point number two. Haven cooked the meal for the night is not a guarantee to be rude.
She can simply say, baby am tired, just help us in getting the fuel. Haven said this, this young man will never be angry again.
My view