I have 5 children for my husband d last one is 7months my husband brother wife was pregnant wit her first child after waiting for almost 10 years we were all happy for them and couldn’t wait for him to be with us unfortunately on December 27 she delivered tru CS and lost d baby that same day is so painful for us as family we stay in the same compound the house belonged to my husband brother , I take care of her she start getting too attached to my baby she want to be with her all the time she will take her away from me and stay with in her house all day until I go for her for breastfeeding then last time she ask me if she can spend the night with my baby but I refuse making excuses for her not to be offended. For the past 1 week I have been avoiding her and keeping my baby inside d house making excuses she is sleeping or she is not feeling well and she ask my elder daughter to come take the baby and I refuse and she came asking me if she offended me I said no and lied my baby was not feeling well but she was offended and told her husband cos she has no child and I have stopped my children coming to her house my brother in law got angry and told my husband to warn me my husband cautioned me which I went to her and apologise even taught what she said is not true cos I do let my other 4 children to go to her house and I only stopped my baby going there because she is getting too attached to her and I know she is feeling so much pain for d loss of her baby but me too I need my baby I don’t like sharing her with anyone. For 3 days now she ceased talking to me and stop responding my greeting. Please am I wrong ?

Why are you staying in your husband's brother's house with 5 children?

We stay in the same compound but different house

Femsyn:
Why are you staying in your husband's brother's house with 5 children?

ok

Chiomamoses:
We stay in the same compound but different house

But you posted that the house belongs to your husband's brother.

Yes the house belonged to his brother we are living in different houses him in the biggest house and us in the smallest house

Mindlog:


But you posted that the house belongs to your husband's brother.

What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

Thank you for being honest with me

Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

. I couldn't have said it better. Nice one.

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Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

You are right, she needs to have therapy sessions with a professional.

Chiomamoses:
I have 5 children for my husband d last one is 7months my husband brother wife was pregnant wit her first child after waiting for almost 10 years we were all happy for them and couldn’t wait for him to be with us unfortunately on December 27 she delivered tru CS and lost d baby that same day is so painful for us as family we stay in the same compound the house belonged to my husband brother , I take care of her she start getting too attached to my baby she want to be with her all the time she will take her away from me and stay with in her house all day until I go for her for breastfeeding then last time she ask me if she can spend the night with my baby but I refuse making excuses for her not to be offended. For the past 1 week I have been avoiding her and keeping my baby inside d house making excuses she is sleeping or she is not feeling well and she ask my elder daughter to come take the baby and I refuse and she came asking me if she offended me I said no and lied my baby was not feeling well but she was offended and told her husband cos she has no child and I have stopped my children coming to her house my brother in law got angry and told my husband to warn me my husband cautioned me which I went to her and apologise even taught what she said is not true cos I do let my other 4 children to go to her house and I only stopped my baby going there because she is getting too attached to her and I know she is feeling so much pain for d loss of her baby but me too I need my baby I don’t like sharing her with anyone. For 3 days now she ceased talking to me and stop responding my greeting. Please am I wrong ?

You're brave for doing what is right.
You can't take one woman's child to console another.
God Almighty will bless her with a child of her own. She can also consider the option of adoption.

Your baby is 7months old, get your self a job or leave the house everyday so as to avoid all these extended family wahala.

For me personally I can never leave my child with someone else. What if she is breast feeding your baby? Sorry for what happened to her.. For me personally, let hell let loose, I can't leave my infant with anyone.

Thank you I was worried about it incase I’m wrong now I am feeling better knowing that am not doing anything wrong. Amen

Mariangeles:


You're brave for doing what is right.
You can't take one woman's child to console another.
God Almighty will bless her with a child of her own. She can also consider the option of adoption.

Thank you my dear this is what I worried about incase she breastfeed or does something bad to her out of jealousy I’m not saying she is a bad person but sometimes when people are frustrated it can lead to another bad thing

yvelchstores:
For me personally I can never leave my child with someone else. What if she is breast feeding your baby? Sorry for what happened to her.. For me personally, let hell let loose, I can't leave my infant with anyone.

Thank you I will

Bozzyironlady:
Your baby is 7months old, get your self a job or leave the house everyday so as to avoid all these extended family wahala.

Chiomamoses:
Thank you my dear this is what I worried about incase she breastfeed or does something bad to her out of jealousy I’m not saying she is a bad person but sometimes when people are frustrated it can lead to another bad thing

just play nice to her drama but at the end of the day, stand your ground on the little baby remaining with you.

Your speech are full of pride so be careful so that you don't destroy your future

You could dash her one since you have five .
That's what she is expecting.

Sexyliciousbri:
Your speech are full of pride so be careful so that you don't destroy your future

There's nothing like pride in her narrative.
There's just no other way to say it.

Vyolet:
You could dash her one since you have five .
That's what she is expecting.

That one na for Zeeworld e dey happen
Dash kor... When she no be KarDASHian

The best thing you can do is leave the house... If your husband refuses, you just leave with the children and go to your family house.. Or your mom's place...

Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

You're right too...

Sexyliciousbri:
Your speech are full of pride so be careful so that you don't destroy your future

I didn't see no pride...

Although,

"Your speech are full of pride" should be written "your speech's full of pride"....

Whew! You are so insensitive!

Firstly, you and your husband decided to be breeding children like rats since the cost of rent has been taken off your expenses right under the roof of the ones that housed you. Poor woman would die inside each time you pop out another baby like a rabbit while she keeps waiting unto the Lord...how insensitive of you.

Now she has lost her baby and using yours to console herself but nah...mama fruitful couldn't bear to share...whew!

If na me be her o...I will kuku tell my husband say seeing all these kids in the house is breaking my heart...you guys should give us space for a while...won't you guys just wonder if I'm wrong .
Iranu!

My dear if it was me I would have left this house long time ago but my husband don’t want to upgrade he want to live all of his life under his brother oo he want to be his slave staying in his house with rent free and working for him he don’t want to be a man and he doesn’t see anything wrong my family are in the village i can’t go back there

Lamanii22:
The best thing you can do is leave the house... If your husband refuses, you just leave with the children and go to your family house.. Or your mom's place...

Lol I can’t ooo my children mean a lot to me o
Pray that God will bless her with her own soon

Vyolet:
You could dash her one since you have five .
That's what she is expecting.

How is my post full of pride ? All I am doing is protecting my children and I have nothing against her

Sexyliciousbri:
Your speech are full of pride so be careful so that you don't destroy your future

If you must, let one of your grown up kids stay with her for now and not your baby, that will not help her situation. I think her attachment to your baby is unhealthy. The trauma may be messing up her mind and seeing your baby as a replacement cannot be overruled. God will visit her again, and this time, her testimony will not be aborted.

Vyolet:
You could dash her one since you have five .
That's what she is expecting.

Lmao. Really, who knows what the grieving mother is thinking?

yvelchstores:
For me personally I can never leave my child with someone else. What if she is breast feeding your baby? Sorry for what happened to her.. For me personally, let hell let loose, I can't leave my infant with anyone.

This was what crossed my mind. She may have breastfed the baby

It is well


Its Only God that knows why he do things in a certain way.