Arthur21:
what is wisdom? Spewing gibberish like you do? Some people love kids.
I agree.
I agree he defaulted on this. So an error makes him a half man?then what will we call you? A-quarter woman is an exaggeration of your worth as you default in all criteria that makes up for being woman(looks,character, wisdom etc)
why should a woman choice on the number of children she wants cause your heartache. Are you wise yourself?
you are the one hopeless.

Funmi,if there is anyone I think of one nairaland it is you. Its a faceless forum and people's words should not be taken serious but I am worried for you that your words here are a reflection of who you are in real life(if that is it then it will be disastrous).
I will give you a 100k if you see a psychologist (not bad intention). I promise to do that on completion of a therapy with a psychologist

Mariangeles:

What is your problem really?
Why are you so bitter and angry and mad at the world? Hmm?
Na your body she take carry the belle? Abi she tell you say her children dey starve?

yeyeosoronga:


It's always advisable to plan your family according to your pocket, but OP hasn't mentioned they are struggling financially to look after their children.
They live in a separate house in the brother's compound.
You don't know the dynamics around the OP's family. The older brother may be the first son who by the customs of their land inherited all his father's property, and that may even be their father's property/land they are living on.
Anyway, the husband needs to understand now that there is a very visible, marked line between my property and my brother's property sha.

funmisticqueen2:
why are you being re-tarded like this.

It is my opinion, let me air it. Did I say she should kill her children? How many children do you have? 5? 8? 10? Why are you so pained about my post? That you don't like my opinion or see eye to eye with it doesn't mean I am bitter, or angry.

The only thing that truly gets me angry is people doing stupid SH¡T especially when they should know better.

I know what I see people suffer everyday that makes me say the things I am saying. Respect that and yourself too. Good day.

funmisticqueen2:
thanks so much. For speaking the way you did.

You don't have to agree with what I said. I guess MariaAngeles and Arthur21 can learn a thing or two from you about how not to be so An@l in thier replies

Chiomamoses:
I had no problem for her to have my baby with her but I had to stop when she start getting too attached with my baby to the extend of her asking to spend the night with my baby a baby that she is knows is breastfeed at night and she wanted to spend the night with her is that normal? If I don’t go to her for my baby when is time for her to breastfeed she won’t bring her to me I always have to keep going there which I feel like I’m a surrogate mother to my own baby and I wasn’t comfortable and I had to stop everything. We have 5 children in the compound why she is just want to be so attached to my baby and not with my other children?

Chiomamoses:
I had no problem for her to have my baby with her but I had to stop when she start getting too attached with my baby to the extend of her asking to spend the night with my baby a baby that she is knows is breastfeed at night and she wanted to spend the night with her is that normal? If I don’t go to her for my baby when is time for her to breastfeed she won’t bring her to me I always have to keep going there which I feel like I’m a surrogate mother to my own baby and I wasn’t comfortable and I had to stop everything. We have 5 children in the compound why she is just want to be so attached to my baby and not with my other children?

sassysure:

That is very insensitive of her.
I was shocked to the marrow.

A child she dont know his fate tomorrow?
A child that may open an unimaginable doors to her just because she used that child to do a selfless act.
We are Nigerian women and we know how we are.
Most of us that have kids unknowingly mock the rest who don't have any around us yet we pretend we sympathise with them.

That woman won't steal her child. Just an avenue to heal

If she dont know it, in hospitals, a woman who lost her child is allowed to go and stay with new born.
Why do doctors allow that?
Cos we are so self centered in this country, we sometimes behave worst than animals.

I lost a child once. Not my first but I was on constant supervision cos I nearly ran mad.
My friend parked all her family to my house and started going to work from my house.
When she came up with the idea, I was just nodding my head. She took over everything for like one month.
The day I screamed at one child for mistakenly pouring hot soup on his brother was the day she said I'm back and packed her family back to her house.
Let us show love.
This country is filled with artificial or eye service love that's why we are where we are today.

bukatyne:


YPP

sassysure:

That is very insensitive of her.
I was shocked to the marrow.

A child she dont know his fate tomorrow?
A child that may open an unimaginable doors to her just because she used that child to do a selfless act.
We are Nigerian women and we know how we are.
Most of us that have kids unknowingly mock the rest who don't have any around us yet we pretend we sympathise with them.

That woman won't steal her child. Just an avenue to heal

If she dont know it, in hospitals, a woman who lost her child is allowed to go and stay with new born.
Why do doctors allow that?
Cos we are so self centered in this country, we sometimes behave worst than animals.

I lost a child once. Not my first but I was on constant supervision cos I nearly ran mad.
My friend parked all her family to my house and started going to work from my house.
When she came up with the idea, I was just nodding my head. She took over everything for like one month.
The day I screamed at one child for mistakenly pouring hot soup on his brother was the day she said I'm back and packed her family back to her house.
Let us show love.
This country is filled with artificial or eye service love that's why we are where we are today.

Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

Mariangeles:

You noticed the way she made her points without being disrespectful? You liked that didn't you yeah? BE LIKE THAT!

sassysure:

That is very insensitive of her.
I was shocked to the marrow.

A child she dont know his fate tomorrow?
A child that may open an unimaginable doors to her just because she used that child to do a selfless act.
We are Nigerian women and we know how we are.
Most of us that have kids unknowingly mock the rest who don't have any around us yet we pretend we sympathise with them.

That woman won't steal her child. Just an avenue to heal

If she dont know it, in hospitals, a woman who lost her child is allowed to go and stay with new born.
Why do doctors allow that?
Cos we are so self centered in this country, we sometimes behave worst than animals.

I lost a child once. Not my first but I was on constant supervision cos I nearly ran mad.
My friend parked all her family to my house and started going to work from my house.
When she came up with the idea, I was just nodding my head. She took over everything for like one month.
The day I screamed at one child for mistakenly pouring hot soup on his brother was the day she said I'm back and packed her family back to her house.
Let us show love.
This country is filled with artificial or eye service love that's why we are where we are today.

Mariangeles:


You have the rights to your opinion, yes, but that does not give you the right to go about insulting people.
That is a married woman with children who you not only insulted, you included her husband.
You might as well have insulted the whole family.
You don't deserve any respect because you don't give it, so shut up and sit down!
You are intolerable and overbearing...I can tell...add a nag to that!
Oh! And by the way, you're the retárd with no class!

EricSmallz:
You are selfish sha. 5 kids? If you were my wife, I would instruct you to gift that child to that poor woman. 4 kids are more than enough. Do you want to eat some? And from the look of things, your husband is even broke o. He can't even afford to rent a house, but you are just giving birth like bird. What if God gets angry and withdraw the kids?

sisisioge:


Hian...the mention is too much biko. I didn't say dash out your child...I said allow your sister in-law to share in raising the child. That opinion remain mine!

Meanwhile, so glad you moved on from your own experience...some tackle such life's issue like a bull, others like a dog. If only we can all be bulls while dealing with life's issues...meanwhile, dont reply me...the mention don tire me abegi

funmisticqueen2:
keep on typing like an epileptic person.

I won't join in your foolishness any longer, lest you beat me with your experience with stupidity. Focus on your life and don't distract yourself with me.

Chiomamoses:
I had no problem for her to have my baby with her but I had to stop when she start getting too attached with my baby to the extend of her asking to spend the night with my baby a baby that she is knows is breastfeed at night and she wanted to spend the night with her is that normal? If I don’t go to her for my baby when is time for her to breastfeed she won’t bring her to me I always have to keep going there which I feel like I’m a surrogate mother to my own baby and I wasn’t comfortable and I had to stop everything. We have 5 children in the compound why she is just want to be so attached to my baby and not with my other children?

EricSmallz:
You are selfish sha. 5 kids? If you were my wife, I would instruct you to gift that child to that poor woman. 4 kids are more than enough. Do you want to eat some? And from the look of things, your husband is even broke o. He can't even afford to rent a house, but you are just giving birth like bird. What if God gets angry and withdraw the kids?

Ayofaks:
You're not a nice person madam OP. We know how these things are...no be Naija women again? You're only pretending to be nice, you can gloat in your mind all you want, God will definitely answer that woman's prayer.

yeyeosoronga:


The child is yours, OP. You have a responsibility towards that child, and you just have to do what is in the best interest of your child at all times. I feel sorry for your sister in law, but at all times, the best interest of a child (who has no say in any of this) should always be sought.
Dont let anyone on here try to emotionally blackmail you. Non of them will give their own children to anyone to keep or share.
What is the best thing for this child in all of this? Staying with it's mother or with it's aunt? Can the mother look after this child better than the aunt, or is the mother sick or facing some stress that will make her unable to look after her own child?
The answer is probably NO.
Let your sister in law play with the child, but when its time to feed, change her clothes, and other stuff needed to be done for the child etc you as a mother need to look out for your child.
Perhaps you could take time out of your schedule everyday (especially since you have other children to look after) to take your baby to spend time with her and you also help her around the house/keep her company before you guys go back to your own place. That's a possible option.
Show your support and be there for her in your own way
I know if you were living in another place, and not in the same compound, this whole matter will not even arise in the first place sef.
It's a bit if a sticky situation to be in.

Ayofaks:
You're not a nice person madam OP. We know how these things are...no be Naija women again? You're only pretending to be nice, you can gloat in your mind all you want, God will definitely answer that woman's prayer.

crackkhaus:

So Naija women are not nice?

crackkhaus:
@ chiomamoses, you did absolutely nothing wrong oo.. Na your pikin, na you born am.

It's not your responsibility to make another woman feel better for not having kids or losing a kid, that's the job of a therapist or psychologist.

Don't let anyone here blackmail you into thinking you're an evil person.
If you were living inside your own compound, will someone come from outside to start telling you to give her your child to spend the night with? Lmao

This stupidity is world-class, I never hear this kind thing before.

People are calling you selfish and insentive on top your own pikin again.. Haaa, nothing I will not read on NL.

Who raised all these broken people like this? Kai

Ayofaks:


Are you not a Naija man?

Chiomamoses:
Thank you my dear I don’t mind them because I know that I’m not evil I’m just doing what any mother can do in my shoes