How Do I Make My 4years Old Son Understand Or S He Still Too Young

Happy Sunday my fellow Nairalanders. Sure we all are cool?

Sorry to bother you all but I have been worried since what transpired between myself and my son who will be 4yrs by June this year.

I was not able to go to church today due to the fact that I just came back from travel very late yesterday night.

So I was asleep when my wife and my two sons left for service. I woke up around some minutes after 12 noon and decided to wash some of the undies I wore during my journey.

As I was doing that, my wife and kids came back and my son rushed straight to my room shouting daddy daddy, when I answered from the bathroom and he came in and saw me washing, the question he asked me has been making me uncomfortable.

He said "Daddy, why are you washing? Are you a girl? Before he could finish that my wife walked in and said to him, Don't worry, very soon you will start washing your clothes by yourself but what got me more worried was his reply. He told my wife that he won't wash his cloths that it's girls that are supposed to be washing.

Honestly, I'm worried, will he out grow this mentality?

I need a wide coverage, please.

Movies.... Cartoons.... Stories..... Girls always do the chores. Use your washing machine often and allow him help while you're doing it. It should pan out.

Congratulations though, your son is an alpha male. Guide him well

Where did he get the mentality from?

Cut off the source and replace it by feeding him with what you want him to be.

The replacement is key. Nature abhors a vacuum.

Shibaraba:
Movies.... Cartoons.... Stories..... Girls always do the chores. Use your washing machine often and allow him help while you're doing it. It should pan out.

Congratulations though, your son is an alpha male. Guide him well

.. Thanks bro,I will start engaging Him on such task. But is he not too young to understand? I don't want to rush him.

bukatyne:
Where did he get the mentality from?

Cut off the source and replace it by feeding him with what you want him to be.

The replacement is key. Nature abhors a vacuum.

.. My sister honestly I can't tell. I'm even planning to go to their school tomorrow to find out.

Lol, I'm tempted to ask where he learnt that from.

crackkhaus:
Lol, I'm tempted to ask where he learnt that from.

.. Walahi me sef dey ask my myself. Na nature?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. My sister honestly I can't tell. I'm even planning to go to their school tomorrow to find out.

Wash again in front of him and ask him why he thinks only a girl should wash.

No need to go to his school till you ascertain the source is his school.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Walahi me sef dey ask my myself. Na nature?

Well at least he has seen you washing, so he's subconsciously going to start forming a new opinion that boys also wash.

Is this based on the fact that nl males are everywhere in romance section instead of the females?

bukatyne:


Wash again in front of him and ask him why he thinks only a girl should wash.

No need to go to his school till you ascertain the source is his school.

.. Ok.I will.Even my wife is worried because I'm the kind of man that doesn't allow anybody to do my laundries.

Just correct him and he will do the rest in school if it's where he got that weird idea from.

Example does it all the time. Seeing is always the best teacher

crackkhaus:

Well at least he has seen you washing, so he's subconsciously going to start forming a new opinion that boys also wash.

.. I pray so. If not,e go hard am o

Our kids live in an indomie generation. Most of them are super smart. I posted a video made by one of my sons recently on YouTube and the likes i received were amazing. Nobody really teaches them those stuffs the say or do at times.

I think the onus is on you to let him know that he needs to help out too when it comes to chores, to assist his wife when he grows to that stage. Teach him too by making him do it while you watch. My sons started bathing themselves, washing their socks and brushing their teeth from age 4 and now, they are all grown to do chores. We used to supervise them at first. I wash all my boxers and singlets because I feel nobody else can wash them as clean as I want them to be especially my singles and boxers. At times, I wash my clothes too, though through the washing machine and I do call them to watch me do that. Now they can do all that by themselves.

Don't simp your son, he's right. Just teach him that just as it's a woman's responsibility to take care of those house chores, men also have a responsibility to take care of the home finances.

fairfora:
Our kids live in an indomie generation. Most of them are super smart. I posted a video made by one of my sons recently on YouTube and the likes i received were amazing. Nobody really teaches them those stuffs the say or do at times.

I think the onus is on you to let him know that he needs to help out too when it comes to chores, to assist his wife when he grows to that stage. Teach him too by making him do it while you watch. My sons started bathing themselves, washing their socks and brushing their teeth from age 4 and now, they are all grown to do chores. We used to supervise them at first. I wash all my boxers and singlets because I feel nobody else can wash them as clean as I want them to be especially my singles and boxers. At times, I wash my clothes too, though through the washing machine and I do call them to watch me do that. Now they can do all that by themselves.

.. Thanks bro I will do as you ve just said.Like me, I do my laundries by myself except the ones I intend taking to the dry cleaners.So I'm wondering where he got this idea.

RisenPhoenix:
Don't simp your son, he's right. Just teach him that just as it's a woman's responsibility to take care of those house chores, men also have a responsibility to take care of the home finances.

.. It's not about simping. I do chores but I'm not a simp.Sometimes I even do the cooking if my wife is not disposed. That does not make me a simp bro.

JONNYSPUTE:
I'm wondering where he got this idea.

From nairaland I guess?

You're asking us?

nlPoster:





From nairaland I guess?

You're asking us?

.. Lol. You dey joke abi? 4yrs old? Nairaland?

Shibaraba:
Movies.... Cartoons.... Stories..... Girls always do the chores. Use your washing machine often and allow him help while you're doing it. It should pan out.

[s]Congratulations though, your son is an alpha male. Guide him well

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JONNYSPUTE:
.. It's not about simping. I do chores but I'm not a simp.Sometimes I even do the cooking if my wife is not disposed. That does not make a simp bro.

Such concern about wanting to change his mind shows a simp mentality. It IS the wife's chore. Tell him that he's right about that but a man can help out with the chores ONLY IF HE WANTS TO, while a man's real chore is about making money for the family.

Otherwise, your approach will empower his wife to make him wash her undies in future and he'll have you to thank for that.

RisenPhoenix:


Such concern about wanting to change his mind shows a simp mentality. It IS the wife's chore. Tell him that he's right about that but a man can help out with the chores ONLY IF HE WANTS TO, while a man's real chore is about making money for the family.

Otherwise, your approach will empower his wife to make him wash her undies in future and he'll have you to thank for that.

. Ok bro .Thanks alot.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. I pray so. If not,e go hard am o

No cause for alarm bro, he has already seen you washing and your wife don already tell am say him sef go begin dey wash his own clothes.

crackkhaus:

No cause for alarm bro, he has already seen you washing and your wife don already tell am say him sef go begin dey wash his own clothes.

.. Thanks bro. I was worried because kids of nowadays,get spoilt easily and we might not be there to direct and guard them. He needs to learn and understand life for his own good.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Thanks bro. I was worried because kids of nowadays,get spoilt easily and we might not be there to direct and guard them. He needs to learn and understand life for his own good.

True that.
You can only do your best to instill the values you want to, and hope they turn out exactly as you desire.

crackkhaus:

True that.
You can only do your best to instill the values you want to, and hope they turn out exactly as you desire.

.. Thanks bro.

JONNYSPUTE:
Happy Sunday my fellow nairalanders. Sure we all are cool?

Sorry to bother you all but I ve been worried since what transpired between myself and my son who will be 4yrs by June this year.

I was not able to go to church today due to the fact that I just came back from travel very late yesterday night.

So I was asleep when my wife and my two sons left for service. I woke up around some minutes after 12 noon and decided to wash some of the undies I wore during my journey.

As I was doing that,my wife and kids came back and my son rushed straight to my room shouting daddy daddy, when I answered from the bathroom and he came in and saw me washing,the question he asked me has been making me uncomfortable.

He said "Daddy,why are you washing? Are you a girl? Before he could finish that my wife walked in and said to him,Don't worry,very soon you will start washing your clothes by yourself but what got me more worried was his reply. He told my wife that he won't wash his cloths that it's girls that are supposed to be washing.
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Honestly,I'm worried,will he out grow this mentality?

Lalssticlala,I need a wide coverage,please.

If he's old enough to ask such questions, give him you socks to wash.

Mariangeles:

.. Why you dey open teeth? Na serious matter be this o.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Lol. You dey joke abi?

Yes, I was joking.

JONNYSPUTE:
. Ok bro .Thanks alot.

Are you serious? What are you thanking him for? He's sounding so sexist! How is laundry an exclusive female chore, biko nu?

PrimadonnaO:


Are you serious? What are you thanking him for? He's sounding so sexist! How is laundry an exclusive female chore, biko nu?

.. So what do you suggest I do?. His explanation was clear.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. So what do you suggest I do?. His explanation was clear.

After you and your wife have explained to him that doing the laundry is a chore both male and female should be able to do very well, make sure he sees you as many times as possible on your subsequent laundry sessions.

If you find your neighbours doing their laundry or spreading their clothes, show him. But very importantly, start getting him to take care of his own laundry... washing a handkerchief, his boxers/pants, etc. A child can always be re-psyched.