MarianaTrench:


Sign it or forget about the relationship!

Casalinda:



I smile reading this.. thanks for seeing things and understanding where I am coming from. Well I got some condition line up already but on the second hand I dnt want our love to be based on monetary gains... it even worst the mom is on his side and it got me asking if she knows his status Well I am in touch with female lawyer friends of mine and we working on something

Casalinda:


So my own feelings as a lady are not important

funmisticqueen2:
He wants it to be based on monetary gains. That's on him, not you. he refuses to see that you love him. He now sees you as desperate. That's why he is misbehaving.

That you love him doesn't mean you will tolerate his bad behavior. Pls consider my proposal and factor it in.

Either that, or two of you tear your prenups

Casalinda:



What about me?? Nobody is talking about me and what I want as well

Casalinda:
Hello guys, so you guys are already familiar with my story. Some of you are probably tired as to you all it might all seem as a joke.(well I am no joke here my stories are real and every detail and lines are no lies)

So I got proposed too, days back. I pen it down here and I received a lot of backlash, was called names and even call attention seeker. Well I dnt blame anyone as I would had felt same if I were to be the one reading. But this things I write here are my story in as much I might not get my write up and sentence correct. I’m only trying to tell you all that this is my reality and there are no jokes


Now after that has been said. I got proposed to by my positive partner after we had a quick breakup and settled. Now it happen he is asking me to sign a Prenup!! I have not taken out time to read what is inside. But I feel it is stupid for him to put me inside a box knowing I have given up so many things already.

I don’t want to sign any Prenup as it’s not in our tradition here in Africa. I have told him a thousand time that I am not with him because of his money but because I genuinely love him regardless.

Please what do I do at this point?? I am a little confuse has he is doubting my love I have for him. Now he feel I’m not in love with him and that I am playing or lying to him.

budaatum:
So, I've read some of your threads and I do not agree that you "genuinely love him regardless".

How can you possibly "genuinely love him regardless" and be posting all you been posting asking those who don't know you nor "love him regardless" what you ought to do?

If you love him regardless you'd love him regardless and do what you want to do regardless of what Nairaland thinks you should do.

You know what your heart says you should do Casalinda so stop being Casandra and do it regardless!

biGDhAp:
.. yeah .. that's what the prenup is for, if you do mean it, then sign it

yvelchstores:
Two scammers scamming each other. You thought it will be easy ba, no dear. Time to prove your "true love".
Why is this even a question, I thought your love can cross seven seas.
Aunty if you really use those jaruma products then you are a money pirate!
Good thing your target is as smart as u.

Chai, pity your fellow woman na.

Powersurge:
The way ladies skim guys ehh! If you love him as you claimed, then signing the prenup shouldn't be a problem. because you are not coming for the money. You are just coming for who he is. Right?

Person go see millionaire and say she loves him for who he is. Biko why didn't you love Bro Taju, the mechanic, the way he is?

My happiness be say the guy smart.

ngozi20:





Hi, I agree with everyone telling you to obtain a lawyer. The reality is that all relationships do not last and he has to protect his investments. With all do respect, are you bringing anything to the table financially? If not, just make sure the prenup is fair. If you agree with the terms, then sign and live happily ever after. Funny that you bring this topic to the table because I think I would do the same if I married someone that's not bringing anything to the table but I don't live in Nigeria. The laws are extremely different here. He has to be fair and you need to have a rainy day fund. You should also do a stipulation that if you remain married for over 15 years, the prenup should be modified. Please use your money wisely and build with your husband . Don't just spend all of his money on materialistic items. Invest! Good luck with your union and everything will be ok. Remember, every responsible lady should have a rainy day fund. Calculate your bills for 6 months to a year and let that be your goal for savings. You will need plan B if this union doesn't work or if your husband should fall on hard times. I hope this advice is helpful.










quote author=Casalinda post=86537793]Hello guys, so you guys are already familiar with my story. Some of you are probably tired as to you all it might all seem as a joke.(well I am no joke here my stories are real and every detail and lines are no lies)

So I got proposed too, days back. I pen it down here and I received a lot of backlash, was called names and even call attention seeker. Well I dnt blame anyone as I would had felt same if I were to be the one reading. But this things I write here are my story in as much I might not get my write up and sentence correct. I’m only trying to tell you all that this is my reality and there are no jokes


Now after that has been said. I got proposed to by my positive partner after we had a quick breakup and settled. Now it happen he is asking me to sign a Prenup!! I have not taken out time to read what is inside. But I feel it is stupid for him to put me inside a box knowing I have given up so many things already.

I don’t want to sign any Prenup as it’s not in our tradition here in Africa. I have told him a thousand time that I am not with him because of his money but because I genuinely love him regardless.

Please what do I do at this point?? I am a little confuse has he is doubting my love I have for him. Now he feel I’m not in love with him and that I am playing or lying to him.

SoftChordz:
Dont mind women and their mind games. she doesn't truly love him that's why its hard for her to sign it, she wants the leverage so that in the future she can cash in on it. I'm glad the guy is smart unlike many guys, u see how women act? shesnnow sayingnits him that doesn't love her and shitt. Casalinda u should sign the prenup if u have no plan to run with half of his shitt after divorce. I love him and dont care about his properties my assss. its 2020 bitchhess, sign it or forget the marriage. Men can't let u ruin them like u all have been doing.

Powersurge:
The way ladies skim guys ehh! If you love him as you claimed, then signing the prenup shouldn't be a problem. because you are not coming for the money. You are just coming for who he is. Right?

Person go see millionaire and say she loves him for who he is. Biko why didn't you love Bro Taju, the mechanic, the way he is?

LilMissFavvy:
Even if you get a lawyer, will you tell them that the man has HIV? Of course you won't tell them, and so nobody really knows that you have taken a health risk by marrying this man. His mom and sibblings may not even know his status. So everyone will feel you are selfish for not signing the prenuptial aggrements. In your previous messages, you mentioned how this man is the ''very best you have ever met'' believe me, he is acting like the ''best of best'' because of his HIV status. He has a health challenge and needs to ''up'' his character towards the opposite sex.

Since his family, lawyers, etc do not know his health status, they will see you as greedy if you do not sign it. I cannot understand why he has brought this prenuptial aggrements at this time, does he want the marriage to be on hold again? He is not mentally ready for marriage. The first step to take is to read the document, thats if your story is true anyway.

funmisticqueen2:
Actually, that prenup is a sign of lack of trust. The man is lucky he found someone who is negative to marry him and he is fvcking up, big time.

SoftChordz:
Not really lack of trust but rather insurance dear, and she can she can get hers too win win.. everyone should go with their stuff if the ship capsize. No one cheating anyone. Prenuptial agreement is not bad.
He loves her its just an insurance, just like car insurance, house insurance and more. Protecting each other. It isn't an issue unless she has other ulterior motives for their future.

funmisticqueen2:
Actually, that prenup is a sign of lack of trust. The man is lucky he found someone who is negative to marry him and he is fvcking up, big time.

funmisticqueen2:
Actually, that prenup is a sign of lack of trust. The man is lucky he found someone who is negative to marry him and he is fvcking up, big time.

funmisticqueen2:
His insecure antics are killing that love real fast.
I pity her, truly. For the Future bullshit she's going to have to put up with in the marriage with her HIV positive manchild.

Godoverevery:
my dear we are in a world were no one is sure of true love anymore..look around see how love birds Go from u d love of my life before marriage...fast forward years later....I wish I never met you...den divorce each other.
He is insured ... don't blame him is just d world we are in now were divorce favour the women more..... some men are scared and I think he feels u marrying him becos of wat he has.
imagine a lady is gonna divorce u and u must still pay her every month while she enjoy her life with another man.
just let him know u aiin't gonna sign that and if he insists walk away if u can't do it.

But please check yourself very well first...is there anything u doing or saying that is making him feel insecure with you..... cos sometimes we are the root of our problems but take solace in blaming others.

Teespice:


I hope what you said will still be the same thing if roles are reversed.

Godoverevery:
I regret even commenting in d first....turn out d Op is kinda delusional. Go check her new thread.