I have a good friend I've been seeing and dating for a while with no intimacy involved. 80% of our meetings is usually in my crib, and some other days I take her out.


Days ago, after we both closed from work, I invited her over in the cool of the evening and I decided to make a move by initiating romance , she never resisted . I necked her , and I noticed she gets really ticklish anytime I slightly bite or lick her ear. I fondled and played with her bosom , whilst caressing her thighs and hands in slow motion. I was about getting down there when she stopped my hand . I tried and tried , but she was persistently saying "no" in a low tone. I knew if I had pressed, I would have had my way.

She told me she didn't want vaginal sex but she could please me in any way I want, inclusive of BJ . I obliged to non but insisted on the sex , until I later gave up. She is the first to ever resist my advances .

So I asked her today, minutes ago, on why she snapped, she said to me, she would hate me if she had sex with me and I would be the one falling and our friendship will become an avenue for just sex only . She's never had a consensual sex and she snaps out of the mood easily...
She never said why she would hate me , but asks me of my opinion if it's weird?

Ladies, is it normal to hate a guy after sex, or she doesn't find me sexually attractive?

You're an emotional thief. What does her decision have to do with your individuality.

Dude, you're stuck with your self-appraisals and self view of yourself.

Look out the window to regain clarity. You'll need it

hmmm LOGOBELT has no comments on this one. He disappointed the gods

Are you sure it's not your loose lips that's putting her off sexually? I mean, you've only gotten an appetizer but you're already blabbering on about it like a sex-starved teenage boy. I bet you're the type that screams like one of the 3 tenors as well, so the whole neighborhood can know you're "necking"

XhosaNostra:
Are you sure it's not your loose lips that's putting her off sexually? I mean, you've only gotten an appetizer but you're already blabbering on about it like a sex-starved teenage boy. I bet you're the type that screams like one of the 3 tenors as well, so the whole neighborhood can know you're "necking"

lol... I have a loose lip, really?

healthserve:
You're an emotional thief. What does her decision have to do with your individuality.

Dunno, maybe I don't know how to handle rejection , or I'm over thinking it.

Dude, you're stuck with your self-appraisals and self view of yourself.

Look out the window to regain clarity. You'll need it

hmmm. I appraise myself? How man?

Richnerd69:



lol... I have a loose lip, really?

Yes. Kissing & telling. You overshared, I expected to hear you moan or something.

XhosaNostra:


Yes. Kissing & telling. You overshared, I expected to hear you moan or something.

I don't kiss and tell, I'm just detailed. Almost No one knows me here , except for one.

well, You could still hear me, behind closed doors tho. Chances are high, you will likely pass out.

Richnerd69:


I don't kiss and tell, I'm just detailed. Almost No one knows me here , except for one.

well, You could still hear me, behind closed doors tho. Chances are high, you will likely pass out.

LMFAO. Go on with your bad self.

Richnerd69:


Dunno, maybe I don't know how to handle rejection , or I'm over thinking it.




hmmm. I appraise myself? How man?

She's not rejecting you. Neither are you sexually unattractive. She simply has psychological blocks that helps her stay in check so she doesn't just succumb to casual sex. If she wants to have sex,especially a first, the mental blocks telsl her it has to be spectacular and for good reasons.

She sees through you that you're trying to exploit your friendships to gain entrance and knows you'll be the hurting sorry if and after you've gotten it


Buy her a drink, she's smart. She's preserving your friendship and protecting your friendship bond from contaminants which you're bringing to the mix. If you want more than sex from her, she'll give it to you. While she may have some attraction, she's undecided about you because even you haven't defined what you want/your stance



Cc XhosaNostra

XhosaNostra:

LMFAO. Go on with your bad self.

C'mon ... So, this is your way of killing the vibe?
I don't bite . Swears

healthserve:




She's not rejecting you. Neither are you sexually unattractive. She simply has psychological blocks that helps her stay in check so she doesn't just succumb to casual sex. If she wants to have sex,especially a first, the mental blocks telsl her it has to be spectacular and for good reasons.

She sees through you that you're trying to exploit your friendships to gain entrance and knows you'll be the hurting sorry if and after you've gotten it


Buy her a drink, she's smart. She's preserving your friendship and protecting your friendship bond from contaminants which you're bringing to the mix. If you want more than sex from her, she'll give it to you. While she may have some attraction, she's undecided about you because even you haven't defined what you want/your stance



Cc XhosaNostra

Aptly put, Dr Phil

healthserve:




She's not rejecting you. Neither are you sexually unattractive. She simply has psychological blocks that helps her stay in check so she doesn't just succumb to casual sex. If she wants to have sex,especially a first, the mental blocks telsl her it has to be spectacular and for good reasons.

She sees through you that you're trying to exploit your friendships to gain entrance and knows you'll be the hurting sorry if and after you've gotten it


Buy her a drink, she's smart. She's preserving your friendship and protecting your friendship bond from contaminants which you're bringing to the mix. If you want more than sex from her, she'll give it to you. While she may have some attraction, she's undecided about you because even you haven't defined what you want/your stance





Cc XhosaNostra

Exactly or perhaps invariably her actions displayed in words. She mentioned a few times about preserving the friendship and not taking it further than that. I'm not the usual type to define a relationship by telling my Intentions or asking one to be my lady. I just wanna eat, provide ur needs and everyone will be happy in the long run.

She said she would hate you? Because sex represents something to hate?

Okay. That’s a damaged girl.

Stay away from damaged girls. They complicate your life and expect you to feel guilty.

She should fix herself before being in a romantic relationship with any unsuspecting man.

If you like, you may continue your little games with each other. You may even swoop down as her saviour and try to fix her issues. Hehehe. When she’s done messing with you, you will come here to write another story that would probably hit FP.

XhosaNostra:


Aptly put, Dr Phil

It's Doctor Nostra actually

Richnerd69:



Exactly or perhaps invariably her actions displayed in words. She mentioned a few times about preserving the friendship and not taking it further than that. I'm not the usual type to define a relationship by telling my Intentions or asking one to be my lady. I just wanna eat, provide ur needs and everyone will be happy in the long run.

You will hate yourself years down the line I swear it. It's not like she can't give you. But you'll hate yourself. Forget the sex. Take the friendship bro. Never leave yourself where you'll be stuck between these two, f you want sex, never go for companionship. You caused all of this.let me talk like her. Shry you know

healthserve:



It's Doctor Nostra actually

Nooooo! I should be Mrs Doctor Serve or something along those lines Btw, I believe I've asked you this before, what username do you use to go by? I'm getting familiar vibes. I'm thinking this other guy that was a little odd & posted a lot of spiritual/religious stuff Can't remember what his name was now, but I hope you're not him lol.

XhosaNostra:


Nooooo! I should be Mrs Doctor Serve or something along those lines Btw, I believe I've asked you this before, what username do you use to go by? I'm getting familiar vibes. I'm thinking this other guy that was a little odd & posted a lot of spiritual/religious stuff Can't remember what his name was now, but I hope you're not him lol.

Ha

healthserve:




Hahahaha you're talking bout blackfyre. I ain't him but he types very similar. Bout familiar vibes I disturb you every now and then though wife diff monikers. Remember your comment about the two holes at a woman's behind as extra sets of eee she uses in spying on her partner


You should choose a okay Mrs. Doctor Steve aint bad.

Is he still around? Some people here can make you tilt your head to the side & squint a little. Anyway, I like Mrs. Doctor Steve PhD ofcourse & not some guy waving a feather duster. LOL!

XhosaNostra:


Is he still around? Some people here can make you cork your head & squint just a little. Anyway, I like Mrs. Doctor Steve PhD ofcourse & not some guy waving a feather duster. LOL!

Th.

She said she will hate you, she will hate you niyen. Leave it like that. Stop pressing and start enjoying BJ for now... Trust me, she will eventually bleep you and won't hate you. As long as you don't force anything.

healthserve:



That's why it puzzles me where you get the energy from when you keep going on and on. I Mena I watched you on the Xenophobic thread and I almost suffered abreakdown from thinking about how you had all that burst of energy fighting here and there.

Oh my world. You added a PhD behind the name. You're a head spinner

Can't tell about that dude. Though I must admit I fancy him by half. Not just intelligent,enigmatic, but very very controversial and unreserved on communicating his dispositions.

Lol, I have my moments when I get a little catty. I don't like it though because it's draining. My problem is, I don't back down. Shrugs.

You're sounding more & more like him, I'm suspicious Well, he's an interesting one.

XhosaNostra:


Lol, I have my moments when I get a little catty. I don't like it though because it's draining. My problem is, I don't back down. Shrugs.

You're sounding more & more like him, I'm suspicious Well, he's an interesting one.

Tr

healthserve:



Trust me. I watched you guys slugged it out on and on for days and more and it took time for my jaw to regain it's right alignment. I felt this dude writes/types 98% me. It's gonna be a tough call proving I ain't him if my comments are placed against his....but here lies the difference, I don't press on people to prosetelyze them. Nah I ain't forceful one bit, Doctor Mrs

If you're him, you must be on some good meds lately
He's also a likeable guy though, so at least you also have that in common.

XhosaNostra:


If you're him, you must be on some good meds lately
He's also a likeable guy though, so at least you also have that in common.

Lol

healthserve:




You will hate yourself years down the line I swear it. It's not like she can't give you. But you'll hate yourself. Forget the sex. Take the friendship bro. Never leave yourself where you'll be stuck between these two, f you want sex, never go for companionship. You caused all of this.let me talk like her. Shry you know

lol. Trust me, I know I fvcked up.

Richnerd69:



lol. Trust me, I know I fvcked up.

What's your decision now?

You need to decide what you want. What do you want. The sex or your friendship

healthserve:


What's your decision now?

You need to decide what you want. What do you want. The sex or your friendship

I just started finding her sexually attractive, and I can't stop seeing her that way now. I want her real bad. But she's messed up , she told me a few things about her past , I won't want to bring them up here in case she happens to see this.

I might just have to give it time or let the attraction die.

Richnerd69:


I just started finding her sexually attractive, and I can't stop seeing her that way now. I want her real bad. But she's messed up , she told me a few things about her past , I won't want to bring them up here in case she happens to see this.

I might just have to give it time or let the attraction die.

You're a dodgy cat.


While you pose as genuine, I hate to tell you I ain't deceived. You scribbled plenty words to appear to be pristine but you're...very very..


Indecisive.


What do you want. Friendship or Sex? When you've properly discerned what you want, you'll be able to pursue it the right way

healthserve:



Lol have I introduced you to a white garment church since we both talk ? You and I have been talking before you came across him. I just hate to be static on a moniker. Once I chat up,spend a while I deactivate. And move on. When I feel I use anoda id


We've both seriously detailed the thread

Loooooool. Of course not.

Why do you do that, deactivate & start over? Sometimes it's the little things that say a lot about a person. I'm a keen observer of human nature lol. A natural psychologist From what you're saying, I'm getting unreliability & a tendency not to finish things one starts. Fickleness.

XhosaNostra:


Loooooool. Of course not.

Why do you do that, deactivate & start over? Sometimes it's the little things that say a lot about a person. I'm a keen observer of human nature lol. A natural psychologist From what you're saying, I'm getting unreliability & a tendency not to finish things one starts.

You read it

Richnerd69:
I have a good friend I've been seeing and dating for a while with no intimacy involved. 80% of our meetings is usually in my crib, and some other days I take her out.


Days ago, after we both closed from work, I invited her over in the cool of the evening and I decided to make a move by initiating romance , she never resisted . I necked her , and I noticed she gets really ticklish anytime I slightly bite or lick her ear. I fondled and played with her bosom , whilst caressing her thighs and hands in slow motion. I was about getting down there when she stopped my hand . I tried and tried , but she was persistently saying "no" in a low tone. I knew if I had pressed, I would have had my way.

She told me she didn't want vaginal sex but she could please me in any way I want, inclusive of BJ . I obliged to non but insisted on the sex , until I later gave up. She is the first to ever resist my advances .

So I asked her today, minutes ago, on why she snapped, she said to me, she would hate me if she had sex with me and I would be the one falling and our friendship will become an avenue for just sex only . **She's never had a consensual sex** and she snaps out of the mood easily...
She never said why she would hate me , but asks me of my opinion if it's weird?

Ladies, is it normal to hate a guy after sex, or she doesn't find me sexually attractive?

At first I thought I was reading an erotic novel. Bro you went too deep with the details. It wasn't necessary.

That is some manipulation playing itself right there. She doesn't want to have sex, but she does everything that will lead to sex, c'mon. Who keeps a goat and a tuber of yam together? She romances you, can give you a nice head, and all sort yet no sex. BTW what do you think is sex? Is it when there's penetration that it's called sex?
Have you asked yourself how she agreed quickly to give you head, if she didn't know how to do it, she wouldn't have suggested it. .. Bro that girl is not up sex and shouldn't be in a relationship. Ditch her, there are a million girls out there ready to Bleep you without giving a hoot about knowing you.

She's a damaged girl, don't put up with her.