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Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Louisboy22(m): 8:11pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Too many weak men this our generation, our fathers marry many wife dey Bleep who dey choose to Bleep |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Baamm(m): 8:13pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
regardless of if you a Muslim or Christian... please marry a 2nd wife and your problem will be solved. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by NEEERD(f): 8:13pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Rapecase: As much as I might be regarded as unqualified to contribute to this matter (considering the fact that I am not married. Yet.) I think you need to let your wife know this. Have you sat her down to let her know this is exactly how you feel? Bear your mind to her. Let her know you don't feel loved enough by her and tender reasons why you feel so. Whatever she says or does would determine your next step. I hope this offers some help 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by armyofone(m): 8:13pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Asking for is not the same as begging now. No harm in asking- babes, can we do it today or you in the mood of some ....etc I think he has to meet with his woman in the middle. Not the "I want it 3 times a week" style. crackkhaus: |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by DMerciful(m): 8:13pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
See Nigerian man with liberty to marry as many women as he pleases crying like a sisi. You must have been drumming it into your wife's head that you are against divorce hence given her a sense of security to misbehave. File for divorce and divorce her. Get another wife who truly loves and respect you. Life is too short to be wasted on unhappiness. Besides your maid is there to run the hone. Rubbish! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by TYglobal: 8:15pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Divorce her and marry me.... case closed. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Stillthebest: 8:15pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
No you are not nut nor crazy. Marital case is complicated. The party who wears the shoes is the one who knows exactly what he or she is going through. Can you do something Keep looking at her. Dont demand for that sex again.dont ask her to lay the bed, don't ask for forgiveness. That's the solution. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by TheSociopath(m): 8:15pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Mstick: Senseless post 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by extremelygolden: 8:16pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Ijaycool: Read the whole story to understand better. There are other underlining issues Op mentioned. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by shogsman(m): 8:18pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Rapecase:You're too easy of a target ,she's having a field day with you because you're too soft,you've endured far too much,give her ultimatum or send her packing. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by extremelygolden: 8:18pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
ThreeBlackBird: Read the whole story to understand better. There are other underlining issues Op mentioned aside wedding anniversary. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by extremelygolden: 8:20pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
paparazzi1987: Your conclusion is wrong here. Read the whole story to understand better. There are other underlining issues Op mentioned aside wedding anniversary. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by extremelygolden: 8:21pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
ITbomb: Read the whole story to understand better. There are other underlining issues Op mentioned aside wedding anniversary. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Zoroaster: 8:21pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Most of the idiots that commented didn't read through.. Only the headines |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Rapecase: 8:21pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Flier:I am pretty sure I can comfortably pay your salary for the next 3 years. 100% sure of it and I don't even know you. Stop running your mouth. You don't know me. 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by crackkhaus: 8:22pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
armyofone:Asking oo, begging oo ..same thing.. it means my lips will be moving.. That's too much talk on top sex that I will still do the most work, abeg I no fit. My own is to make moves physically, do all the usual totori and if she doesn't respond...then that's that. Once or twice another time/day is enough to try again, but when it becomes a regular occurrence for her to always turn down my physical sexual advances, I know what time it is. Side-chic loading... To open my mouth to ask? Mbanu. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Blackybaby: I love the melody aspect. Bleep him till his prick bends, watch porn with him, let him use his prick to shift your womb as well, do any all the styles porn stars do in their movies, feed him well, respect him, pray with and for him and i promise he will worship you till his last breath. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by extremelygolden: 8:24pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Zoroaster: It's so disappointing that they're unable to read, yet they had the guts to call Op names with their low IQ comments. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by ednut1(m): 8:27pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Any sad marriage tale |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by 9ja4eva: 8:27pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Rapecase: Sad actually, but I think you should have a conversation with your wife. Table your concerns, and explain to her how her actions hurt you. Let her know you have the option to walk away if you continue feeling miserable. Also, someone here mentioned getting a loan in her name for her business. I think this is a great idea, and will drive her to be accountable and responsible, which could yield benefits in her interactions with you. Do not give up on trying, and know you always have a choice to walk away. Goodluck! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Nah by force to marry? You better remain a single mother or father so that you can have lasting peace. The federal ministry of women and men affairs warns that a married man is liable to die young. Either by the wife adding poison his food or by his wife trouble at home. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Christmasdon:When you bring your home problem to a forum like this, I'm sorry, the general public will air their view. And as I said, I never knew that anniversaries, birthday, Valentine and things like that matters to men. I thought it's only women that carries it on their head. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by armyofone(m): 8:28pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
eziokwu! Ezigbo mmadu!! crackkhaus: |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by 989900: 8:29pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Seems fabricated; if true, mumu is your first name, wait, your last name too. From the bottom of my heart, you're a disgrace to all mammal males. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Rapecase: 8:29pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
calabardick:I am seven years older. She was not a single mom I fend for the family 100%. |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by tomdon(m): 8:30pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Mstick: Afi Alfa mails na
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Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Samakus(m): 8:31pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Jeez! This is exactly my girlfriend and I actually have a good plan for both of us early next year. I have to think this through again. I don't know why some people find it extremely difficult to apologize when they're wrong 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by pawn89(m): 8:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
You mentioned you have two kids at the moment, when did you start noticing these changes ( am assuming it wasn't like this at the start of your marriage yes ? ) Sometimes, it could be a case of your wife experiencing postpartum depression, ,in which case you need to deal with very differently and with sensitivity 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Itcanbefixed: 8:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
I tell people that during courtship, most of the time, the parties involved are just pretending, this is because, both parties, are trying as much as possible to show their good side. Reality of who we really begins to show 0 - few years down the line. The way we handle this reality is how well our relationship with our spouses will progress. In relation to this matter, sometimes we need to change ourselves to see the change that we desire in others. This new part of your wife may be as a result of hidden traits that spouses fail to pay attention to during courtship. For most marriages, you will hardly escape this occurrence. I did not escape this in my marriage There are so many things that will be required for a proper advice to be given on this matter, honestly, it will be difficult to just blame your wife for all you have mentioned without getting her own views. However, I will try as much as possible to try to use the closest possible examples. 1. Does your wife express satisfaction after you both have sex (I asked this, because if she doesn't enjoy it, she would not see the need for it) - Solution : Please go and learn techniques to please your wife if she doesn't, wives will tell their husbands if they enjoy sex one way or the other, if she has not been saying so, please go and learn! Also, there is a need to ask her if you are satisfying her in this regard, asking does not do any harm, It's your marriage, I ask my wife regularly, it was from our discussion that I discovered that I needed to up my game, now I get regular thank you e.t.c note: I don't use sex enhancement drugs, burantashi e.t.c (No pride intended) just fruits that I learnt on google through simple searches like "fruits / foods that aid sex e.t.c 2. Not all Humans Believe in Giving Freely: Some women perceive giving freely as waste of money, some like to put a value and calculation to every single kobo you give. This should not be counted against her because the kind of training she received for the over 18 or more years before you guys got married is different, families, environment etc of couples are different, trust me, not all signs are seen during dating or courting. Solution :If you try to forcefully bend a dried fish, It will break, however, by applying techniques such as soaking in water and been gentle, you will eventually be able to bend the once dried fish. Marriage involves the act of trying different methods to make it work, if you try one method and it does work try another method. With time and constant discussions , you wife may begin to accept that charity is an acceptable way of life. 3. House Chores / Keeping the House Tidy / Making of Bed : Not all marriages are the same, not all women are the same, not all men are the same, It is easier to tolerate your wife than trying to make her suddenly become what she has not been trained to be by upbringing. Solution :Used to complain about my wife not making bed, not keeping the room tidy etc until I came to the realization that what I ever say or do concerning this will not change my wife, this was causing some much friction until I decided to start doing this my self or just look the other way. Believe me, I have more peace and we fight less because of this, dont mind people that will call you all sort of names for trying to save your marriage, cos if I dont tell you "how will you accuse my wife of these things". If you cannot live with the flaws of your spouse, it may be difficult to have a peaceful home, cause only you can tolerate not fix your wife. 4. Third Parties : I dont know who involved pastors, elderly women etc in your martial issues, but not all women like third parties to hear about their flaws or weakness, some of the new attitudes of your wife may be because of this. Solution : Try as much as possible to discuss your marital issues alone without a third party. Even if you have to do this, it should be only for the purpose of advice from trusted people that will not give you advice to destroy your home, preferably without the knowledge of your wife to avoid issues, but with time you will learn how to apply right actions without consulting anyone. 5. Your marriage is still fixable ! you have to change yourself to see the change that you desire in others. I hope this helps! 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Lastmankc(m): 8:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Mstick:You need a brain transplant asap.someone is talking about is predicament and you are here saying rubbish. Why una no get sense for nairaland like this? 1 Like
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Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Flier: 8:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Rapecase:Post your account balance and I will post mine, I bet your entire family don’t have 1/10 of what I have in my account beside I don’t work for anyone I employ people like you Find better things to do with your time and stop fighting over wedding anniversary It disgust me when I read about a full grown man fighting over unnecessary things |
Re: My Wife Forgets Our Anniversary - Does She Love Me? by Wayne4uall(m): 8:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Fedrams: Hw will u feel if ur wife don't remember ur anniversary when you asked her |
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