Biafrareform:


Okay she is 20.

rOsy247:


lazy broke ass boyfriends should stop lamenting when their girlfriends find better option o

Biafrareform:


Sincerely speaking I am amazed at the level of what girls do now a days . I am just confused as to what came over them .

The way I am seeing it, if this babe is really into married men and she isn't willing to cut tiers then I will surely find it difficult to trust ladies again .

While we were in school, she was a a different girl . She changed completely within a space of one year and I am so sad about the development.

Should I leave this babe, it will take me a very long time to trust any babe again honestly

successful35:
Give her the yoruba demon treatment. Promise her marriage and be using her for sex. Use her until you build house. After building your house, start treating her like trash. Na she go frustrate and dump herself.

This is how yoruba guys treat unfaithful women. Nai make he nor good to date or marry Yoruba girl when done reach 30 years because most of the time, she has been given the yoruba demon treatment. After such treatment, the babe dey turn fetish instantly.

Run oh

Vortex369:
Of what use are you to her OP. She gave you 6k from her hustling not nysc, slowpoke.

Just having a dick is not enough. Dont you rhink marrying you will be a curse to her.

I strongly recommend she leaves you

Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

Alzirida:
Stop checking on people's phone.

Stop looking for clue to know if ur relationship is ideal. If u find one, it will cut the trust. If u didn't see, u won't stop searching until u see.

If u are a busy person with self esteem, u will not have time search for who the hell ur spouse is eyeing.


Pls quit the relationship. If u go ahead it will never end well.
Get a new person. This time not because the new person is different ....manage that one, don't look for clue of cheating

shortgun:

Guy, let me tell you the truth that no one have told you.
You see girls,....yes I mean girls these days. They have all learn bad things.
I don't know what came over them...yes all of them oo.

That your girl is a saint if I tell you what other people's wife/ gfs are doing you will go n apologize to her.
my concern is that she doesn't truly love you.stop deceiving yourself she doesn't love you.

From her response I can see that she's not into you or she's on a revenge mission for what you did to her b4.
My final verdict is for you to fleeeeeeeeeeee.

Biafrareform:
[s]Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it. [/s]

Fountainofyouth:



Yes I like her bluntness cos she didn't cook up lies or deny it, didn't you see that? Or are you blind? Do you prefer the one that will lie her way into marriage and continue fvcking the married man? Quote me with sense next time.

Biafrareform:


Okay, she doesn't send me money . I do the sending . She just sent that 6k after she received her allawee to help sort some stuff.

Well I get your point . I want to move past this, bit also want to make it right if is possible for her . Cos to me , everyone deserve a second chance

Korllami007:


My brother, just marry her and I promise you that we'll be here too to give you advice or read your own story how your 4 kids are not yours.

Bro, we got your back.

stickle:
If you love her, fight for your love. People make mistake. Tell her to decide who she wants. If she chose you then she should cut the string with others immediately.
A year break in your relationship may have given room for all of this but you know her better and also understands the situation better than us.
Go with your mind but not until you have prayed about it.

Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

AreaFada2:
@OP,
See ehn, you are just looking for excuses to marry a LovePeddler.
If you don't mind sharing your wife with married men all over town, please go ahead. Just keep some money aside to do paternity test on future kids.
If the idea of kids born in the marriage not being yours appeal to you, great. Congrats in advance. You can even take up a new hobby of joining swingers club.

That 6k she sent you might well be from her married man, who knows?

eni4real:
OP will do Paternity test and still blame himself for doing it because the test shows that he is not the biological Fathers of the kids

OP is living in a Fool's Paradise!!!

Biafrareform:


Seriously, I am just reading all the comments here with so much surprises. Is obvious Naija guys don't have trust for ladies again .

I know this girl wella before we break up.
What I don't really is what transpired while we were apart.

I am not in the right place to judge her past, but all I want is a sincere heart for change . If I don't get that, I will walk away

LilMissFavvy:
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.

eni4real:
Is this how you respond to all men in your life when they don't agree with you?? Bad habit tho

She was caught red handed.. If she lied, it makes the matter worse!!! It will make her look like a fool .
You seem to have tolerance for cheating.. Don't worry, your cup will soon be full!!
Op deserves better!!!

fulaniHERDSman:
You are dealing with an audacious whorre. Flee now and spare your future kids the agony of a harrlot mom.

RisenPhoenix:


Of course there is a prime; biological as well as psychological. For women above 21, their sexual value is diminished the longer they age, they have likely had multiple sexual partners, from secondary school mate through park tout to sugar daddy. Most would have had at least one abortion, sometimes more. Their multiple sexual exposure would have eradicated any modicum of honesty, modesty or contentment with one man. And they would have perfected the art of pretence and emotional manipulation which all women seem to be born with. And their ease of manipulating men for money would have given them an attitude of disrespect towards all men. Plus they will be more confident in using gutter language indiscriminately. Plus they have a higher risk of giving birth to unhealthier children as they approach their 30s. Yet the amount of food they will eat among other expense outlay to their husbands remains the same.

How can those women still retain their worth and value to a man who wants to marry them? It is like contemplating between buying a 2020 brand new high spec model of vehicle and a 1980s overused model at the same price. Which would you buy, honestly?

RisenPhoenix:
You are weak. What is there to analyse again? She's having an affair, wrecking a marriage, yet you are the one to blame for not trusting her? She wants to turn you to mumu; trusting the untrustworthy. Nice girl my backside.

Any woman that you wany to marry should be <21 years old. Anything more than that and having passed through university, is bound to have an odorous history that will haunt her and whoever marries her for the rest of their lives. Be warned.

rOsy247:


It's better to date a married man than dating a lazy broke ass boyfriend whose contribution in her life is 0%. It will soon be signed into bill. It's criminal offence.

Relationship is not Poverty reduction program yet you want sex plus other cares coming from her abi. Broke ass boys be there talking about that when your fellow men take good care of their babes. No wonder lots of you keep committing suicide.