Michellekabod2:
frustrated? Nah. This is a public forum na..
I had an issue with the destitute called crackkhaus when : 1)He canceled out your post as illogical 2) He resulted to ad hominem
Just the two issues I had with him. Nothing more
I had an issue with Martinez when he lied SM aren't stigmatized.

i know

Blu03:
cos she's a married woman, she's now in the position to 'enlighten' us?
Does the ring in her finger give wisdom?
You and that lady are delibrately misunderstanding my post. Even martinez and astro got the message.

ignore them, they have selective blindness and lack insight. Married doesn't mean wiser, if not, most marriages will be happier.

Michellekabod2:

I think you are missing out the point here,the thread is about calling them names and stigmatizing them and not convincing anyone to date/marry them

exactly! Cc: omar09
This is my point.

Blu03:
cos she's a married woman, she's now in the position to 'enlighten' us?
Does the ring in her finger give wisdom?
You and that lady are delibrately misunderstanding my post. Even martinez and astro got the message.

You must be high on cool-aid.
Do I or that lady look like your regular romance section lot?

I read your introductory post clearly and saw the case you were making even more clearly.

Don't stigmatise single mothers.

And my response?
Single mothers are not the second coming, neither should they be pitied or praised. What you call stigmatisation is simply people's opinions, which you cannot legislate.

Therefore, a single mother owes it to herself to hold herself in high-esteem and overlook whatever ridicule she's getting because she does not deserve any pity.
Furthermore, she should endeavour she sticks to having long-term relationships/marriages with single fathers and stop thinking she is good enough for young unmarried men.

What I just did is called extrapolation through deduction, all from your post.
You will not understand this if your mental capacity isn't developed up to a certain level.

Michellekabod2:
frustrated? Nah.
This is a public forum na..

I had an issue with the destitute called crackkhaus when :
1)He canceled out your post as illogical
2) He resulted to ad hominem

Just the two issues I had with him. Nothing more

I had an issue with Martinez when he lied SM aren't stigmatized.

I wonder who is destitute between me and someone raising a bastärd.

Don't push me little girl.

Michellekabod2:
it seems you don't read posts online,you have not seen where people call SM losers and wh0r€s not because they were sleeping around? It is a general tag even to those that chose celibacy after childbirth

. Yes it's so because most of this single mothers don't practice what they preach. When one comes online showing all her vital organs for the whole world to see,how do you address such a person?

MJBOLT:

no wonder,you are more aggressive defending single mothers than feminism

— No single mum will ever concede that it's a smart move to avoid raising another man's kid when you could raise your own. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such.
— No single mum will ever concede that it is better to look for a fresh product in the dating market instead of another man's left over. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such.
— No single mum will be comfortable to allow her son marry a single mum because she knows the son could get a better deal; they know the risks involved; and he is short changing himself.

I could go on but I will reserve my points for my upcoming thread on why men should not marry single mothers. People will always argue selfishly in their best interest so it's not surprising when michellekabod2 is arguing the way she is arguing.

Blu03:
the red pill thread. I have no problem with mgtow. But you honestly don't believe that single mom's are stigmatized?

Single mom are stigmatized by everyone. The male and the female. The male who stigmatize single moms in the open and would do everything to avoid being with such unless she's rich are the players and red pill men. Those beta males, take it from me don't also like single moms. But being betas, they will lower their standards and principles just to have sex. And who is very easy to fuvk other than a single mom. If you found love and peace of mind with a single mom, by all means go ahead. But I will not lower my standards and principles for a leftover. A man's leftover.

crackkhaus:

I wonder who is destitute between me and someone raising a bastärd.

Don't push me little girl.

a bastard is better off than you.

I have focused on you and you alone and you result to bringing my family in?try harder crackkhaus,you may be successful next time in triggering me

Omar09:


Single mom are stigmatized by everyone. The male and the female. The male who stigmatize single moms in the open and would do everything to avoid being with such unless she's rich are the players and red pill men. Those beta males, take it from me don't also like single moms. But being betas, they will lower their standards and principles just to have sex. And who is very easy to fuvk other than a single mom. If you found love and peace of mind with a single mom, by all means go ahead. But I will not lower my standards and principles for a leftover. A man's leftover.

not my point. The question is do these men and women have the right to stigmatize them?

Martinez39s:

— No single mum will ever concede that it's a smart move to avoid raising another man's kid when you could raise your own. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such. — No single mum will ever concede that it is better to look for a fresh product in the dating market instead of another man's left over. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such.
— No single mum will be comfortable to allow her son marry a single mum because she knows the son could get a better deal; they know the risks involved; and he is short changing himself.

I could go on but I will reserve my points for my upcoming thread on why men should not marry single mothers. People will always argue selfishly in their best interest so it's not surprising when michellekabod2 is arguing the way she is arguing.

Are you daft? Where have I advocated for men to marry single mums before? Do you reason?

Martinez39s:

— No single mum will ever concede that it's a smart move to avoid raising another man's kid when you could raise your own. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such. — No single mum will ever concede that it is better to look for a fresh product in the dating market instead of another man's left over. I dear michellekabod2 to concede such.
— No single mum will be comfortable to allow her son marry a single mum because she knows the son could get a better deal; they know the risks involved; and he is short changing himself.

I could go on but I will reserve my points for my upcoming thread on why men should not marry single mothers. People will always argue selfishly in their best interest so it's not surprising when michellekabod2 is arguing the way she is arguing.

.. They should work on their self esteem and stop disturbing people. Or better still,they should go and vent their angers on the guys that put them in such situation.

Michellekabod2:
a bastard is better off than you

At least we agree on the bastārd part, so in what way would someone with this title be better off than I am?

Humour me please.

Michellekabod2:

Are you daft? Where have I advocated for men to marry single mums before? Do you reason?

Swerve jare.

Martinez39s:
Swerve jare.

answer simple question....don't dodge it

funmisticqueen2:
ignore them, they have selective blindness and lack insight. Married doesn't mean wiser, if not, most marriages will be happier.

The annoying part is that the very married woman hasn't put down anything relating to my post.
The message is don't insult single moms. You do not know her story...
I asked a question none of them have answered. Why do you judge single mothers? Her refusal to have an abortion or abandon her kids?
Whatever her choice to carry such a heave load, the responsibilities left by the man, don't stigmatize her.
Let her be. It's ironic single dads are portrayed as saints rather. Victims of women

Blu03:

It's easier to condemn what one doesn't know than for him/her to take time and effort to understand it.
A single mother, a woman who brings up her children without the support of a male partner or husband, is more than often stigmatized by the society. By individuals who ought to understand the struggle she faces and the helplessness of her situation. Afterall, being the provider is no easy feat.
Any married man can testify.
There are several reasons why certain women end up as single mothers.
Rape
This isn't something that is new to any of us. Most women have been sexually abused by men. And coupled with the traumatic experience, they got pregnant.
Love
A decent lady is swept of her feet by a sugar coated tongue. She has sex with her deceptive lover who absconds the moment he finds that she's pregnant.
Violence
A woman who is married to an abusive partner might wisely decide to leave him for both her safety and that of the kids.
Deadbeat fathers, etc
The honest truth is that these women chose, against all odds to raise their children. Is that the sin we so ignorantly judge? A woman's love and dedication for her children. A woman who sacrifices everything especially her youth and takes up the responsibilities of a man. A woman who refused to either have an abortion or abandon her kids.
Derogatory words are used to refer to these women. While single fathers are sympathised with. Same as widows who had no control, single mothers are women who didn't plan their fate.
To most, a woman raising her kids alone is simply the repercussion of her mistakes and not the effect of a man who couldn't handle the heat of having responsibilities.
Most men beat their chest and when asked what they have to offer, proudly state that as a male, he is the foundation on which a proper home is built. As the head, his utmost duty is to protect and provide for his family. Do these men not the error of the ways of their mates? Or the woman must take the fall, even for the sins of a man.
It leads me to ask the question. Is the problem loving a man? or the refusal to have an abortion? or to run away leaving behind helpless children with no parents?

All are quite easy to do. A mother's conscience and love prevents her...

Mind you, women who abandon her children are not fit to referred to as humans.

society does really need to stop the stigmatization of single mothers, but it is going to be very hard to do. The stigmatization damages the psyche of every one of them out there, making the best of the cards life dealt them.

But I believe that with continuous education, especially of the girl child, the stigma should be reduced.

In the cases of an unmarried or raped single mothers, no woman should be blackmailed by society to have a child she didn't want, under the guise of conscience and love. She is trapped and should have the luxury of choice to prevent that mistake from happening in the first place.

Let's not lie, most single mothers do have more regrets than others, their life course has been altered by a male orgasm that lasted less than 5 mins.

We also should not condemn those that abort or dump the babies at birth. Not everyone is strong enough to withstand the trauma of raising a child they don't want. It is better than raising a child with hate and resentment.

For single mothers as a result of deadbeat dads and widows, there's already Nothing they can do, but carry their cross, but society won't discriminate.

Not every woman is strong enough to become a voluntary pariah and laughing stock. It is not our place to judge when a woman is asked to bear the fall for an action she didn't commit alone and the decisions she takes after.


By the way, ignore the narrative that single moms don't remarry. It is a fat lie and red pill propaganda. Good men exist out there.

Prevention is always better than cure, be ruthless in vetting the men who come into your life, your heart and especially in between your legs. It is better to be single and lonely than a statistic.

Blu03:
The annoying part is that the very married woman hasn't put down anything relating to my post.
The message is don't insult single moms. You do not know her story...
I asked a question none of them have answered. Why do you judge single mothers? Her refusal to have an abortion or abandon her kids?
Whatever her choice to carry such a heave load, the responsibilities left by the man, don't stigmatize her.
Let her be. It's ironic single dads are portrayed as saints rather. Victims of women

Married women like sassysure are no better. They are our biggest enemies and the biggest perpetrators of the stigma. Let's not lie, a lot of single mothers are better off than most married women.

She is the biggest low value desperate pickmesha of them all.

Blu03:
not my point. The question is do these men and women have the right to stigmatize them?

Everyone has the right to one's opinion and stigmatizing is fairly an opinion. But one should remember "before you ask if another has the right to stigmatize you, avoid that which will make you be in the spot with stigma".

So yes. If it will reduce the rate of single moms, yes everyone has that right to stigmatize whatever one wishes.

Blu03:
The annoying part is that the very married woman hasn't put down anything relating to my post.
The message is don't insult single moms. You do not know her story...
I asked a question none of them have answered. Why do you judge single mothers? Her refusal to have an abortion or abandon her kids?
Whatever her choice to carry such a heave load, the responsibilities left by the man, don't stigmatize her.
Let her be. It's ironic single dads are portrayed as saints rather. Victims of women

Which ever one chooses also comes with big responsibilities. A woman will be stigmatized of she chooses any of the bolded.

But all these could be avoided by
1. Making the right choice (for those who are married and divorced). Always be certain of the man you are marrying. He doesn't change over night. He has always been that way, but you failed to figure him out.
2. Always use protection, for those in relationships. It will save you a ton. If your partner says he wants sex without protection, don't let him as you will be the one to bear the consequences. Take your stand. Protection or no sex.

sassysure:

Only on nairaland.

Don't use this place to judge.

It may be a 12 yrs old behind that username.

I learnt women are called olosho or hoe here.

So we have to separate real world from illusions.

Also, sometimes we ladies deserve such names check out our so called actresses and Instagram queens.
I just saw one on the front page nakid.
Watch Nigerian movies, the men will dress like human being while the ladies will dress like 3nd class prostitutes.
Common!
If we portray ourselves like respected adults we will be respected.

Maybe, you in particular. Cos, upon all the news ladies see on internet about fraudsters, kidnappers, ritualists, drug peddlers, rapists, cultists, politicians squandering money etc, no lady has ever generalised any type of name for these men. But somehow, you think you deserve to be called a hoe or whatever by online riffraffs cos of some few misguided ladies.

Blu03
Sup b

crackkhaus:

I wonder who is destitute between me and someone raising a bastärd.

Don't push me little girl.

this is low, especially for you. Please apologise.

Blu03:
Cc: 4cks
Well, i get the '...wanting to meet their biological father...' point.
But not every adopted child would do that. If the kid is loyal, he/she would realise that family isn't all about blood but the person(s) who has/have stood by him or her.
Again, before marrying any woman, single mom or not, one has to first study her character...
But the message i'm trying to pass isn't "Guys marry a single mom" but "Guys stop hating on someone who's already going through alot"

Your analogies is just annoying........irrespective of the circumstances you want to justify.........you shouldn't be caught dead in the wrong place......that life for you


Single father pays his bill and the bill of any woman joining him......but the irony of your agitation is advocating for men to keep accruing unreasonable liability all in the name of being fair....and making men feel ridiculously wicked for refusing to be part of a problem they know nothing about.


And I guess even you won't nurse the idea that you husband is extending his scarce resources to cater for a single mom......you won't even agree his is being generous.....


Stop sponsoring a nonsense idea......las las its woman that will scatter this world with entitlement mentality

Michellekabod2:
a bastard is better off than you.

I have focused on you and you alone and you result to bringing my family in?try harder crackkhaus,you may be successful next time in triggering me

you shouldn't have replied in anger. He should not have said what he said. Pls be the better person and apologise too. This is beneath you.

Omar09:


Everyone has the right to one's opinion and stigmatizing is fairly an opinion. But one should remember "before you ask if another has the right to stigmatize you, avoid that which will make you be in the spot with stigma".

So yes. If it will reduce the rate of single moms, yes everyone has that right to stigmatize whatever one wishes.

what's your body count? How many stds have you had? How much have you spent in curing them?
You aren't in the position to judge anyone. Neither am i.
I can refer to you as nothing but a broke community dick.
What stops me? Common sense.
I'm no better. I've made crazy mistakes because of my rocky childhood. Who the fvck am i to throw a stone at you?
Stigmatizing never helps. I was called a bastard because of something out of my control. My mother, a woman whose husband ran away at night because he was tired of his responsibilities, was slut shamed. I ain't bitter tho. Thats what stigmatization causes. Hate and anger.

funmisticqueen2:
this is low, especially for you. Please apologise.

No problem.

I'll do that ONLY AFTER she apologizes for the names she's been attaching to my moniker, not a single moment before.

Dande55:

Maybe, you in particular. Cos, upon all the news ladies see on internet about fraudsters, kidnappers, ritualists, drug peddlers, rapists, cultists, politicians squandering money etc, no lady has ever generalised any type of name for these men. But somehow, you think you deserve to be called a hoe or whatever by online riffraffs cos of some few misguided ladies.

Gbam. Ignore her desperation for male validation.

Omar09:


Everyone has the right to one's opinion and stigmatizing is fairly an opinion. But one should remember "before you ask if another has the right to stigmatize you, avoid that which will make you be in the spot with stigma".

So yes. If it will reduce the rate of single moms, yes everyone has that right to stigmatize whatever one wishes.

only low lives stigmatize. Homophobes,misandrists/misogynists,tribalistic people etc don't have the right to do so.

Keep supporting stigmatization,it never ends well with those that propagate it

crackkhaus:

No problem.

I'll do that ONLY after she apologizes for the names she's been attaching to my moniker, not a single moment before.

it doesn't you cost anything to say sorry. But it matters a lot to the other party. Be the bigger person.

Dande55:

Maybe, you in particular. Cos, upon all the news ladies see on internet about fraudsters, kidnappers, ritualists, drug peddlers, rapists, cultists, politicians squandering money etc, no lady has ever generalised any type of name for these men. But somehow, you think you deserve to be called a hoe or whatever by online riffraffs cos of some few misguided ladies.

Oh, this is nairaland and they are always called out with numerous different names.

And then, read my submission very well.

A lady, who decide to go to a studio, snap picture half nakid or nakid and post on social media has a mission and those that love such mission will contact her for that which is prostitution.
As simple as abc.

If u condone such because of so called freedom of expression, be ready to accept the backlash.
Do your prostitution codedly and let us be,but don't insult our senses and cry wold when we call you out.

Like 4 days ago, I saw a picture of dino melaye where he wasn't dressed appropriately and people called him out.
What is bad is bad.
Don't ever support that.

crackkhaus:

No problem.

I'll do that ONLY AFTER she apologizes for the names she's been attaching to my moniker, not a single moment before.

at least I didn't mention your family.
You started it,the insults,from the "please just shut up" to bringing up my relationship status. You started the ad hominem