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My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by thalpy(m): 7:24am On Feb 23, 2020
I have a wife, and newly married. But my challenge is that she hardly get wets. She once told me that she was circumcised but I didn’t understand the disadvantage, thought it is same effect like a man.

We do have premarital sex (romance and pre-intimacy) for some time long enough to make her wet. But immediately we start having sex she dries up easily which makes it painful and somewhat not enjoyable to her after some time.

If she were to be a random girl, I won't care much. But she is my wife and I feel her pain. So I stop immediately and calm her down.

When we were dating we do fore play a lot but no sex until marriage now. I know you might say eating her p.... that works but saliva doesn't last and dries up. And am thinking what if she gives birth, giving a head might reduce too.

I know am not the only man in this trend. Many beautiful ladies out there are still in this shoe. I never knew cutting a girls clitoris has a big negative effect. Sex looks like war to them. Yes not the same to all but their sex life is not enjoyable to the fullest.

So I ask, to those that might have had this experience, is there anyway I can make her enjoy sex the more? Please not any rough discussion is accepted. I just don’t have that mind of seeing myself enjoy it alone when she isn’t. Now I have learnt my lesson, girl circumcision is bad. That's why most circumcised girls can stay without a bf, is not always self discipline is just lack of urge.

Please help. If you know anyone about it. And I browsed too i read they have difficulty too during child birth and they are prone to disease easily so how true is that? Just want to know all I need to know so precaution will be taken. Want to make her safe and happy. Thank you.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by BareFacedLies(m): 7:28am On Feb 23, 2020
How can you say you did not know she was circumcised till she told you?

If you're experienced enough you should be able to find out yourself.

There are some flaps that should be on the outer part of her pûssy, if they're not there then she's circumsided

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by daddytime(m): 7:29am On Feb 23, 2020
Wished she could be uncircumcised.

Sorry, I'm not very well versed on this topic.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by zexy2030(m): 7:31am On Feb 23, 2020
thalpy:
I have a wife, and newly married. But my challenge is that she hardly get wets. She once told me that she was circumcised but I didn’t understand the disadvantage thought is same effect like a man. We do have premarital sex(romance and pre-intimacy) for some time long enough to make her wet. But immediately we start having sex she dries up easily. Which makes it painful and somewhat not enjoyable to her after some time. If she were to be a random girl wont care much. But she is my wife and i feel her pain . So i stop immediately and calm her down. When we were dating we do fore play alot but no sex. Until marriage now. I know you might say eating her pussy that works but saliva dont last and dries up . And am thinking what if she gives birth giving a head might reduce too. I know am not the only man in this trend . Many beautiful ladies out there are still in this shoe. I never knew cutting a girls clitoris has a big negative effect. Sex looks like war to them. Yes not thesame to all but their sex life is not enjoyable to the fullest. So i ask. To those that might have had this experience is there anyway i can make her enjoy sex the more and please note any rough discussion is accepted. I just don’t have that mind of seeing myself enjoy it alone when she isn’t. Now i have learnt my lesson girl circumcision is bad. Thats why most circumcised girls can stay without a bf is not always self discipline is just lack of urge. Please help. If you know anyone about it. And I browsed too i read they have difficulty too during child birth and they are prone to disease easily so how true is that. Just want to know all i need to know so precaution will be taken. Want to make her safe and happy. Thank you.
yes my brother, they have problem having child birth and they get dried easily. Get her sweeteners and some aphrodisiacs, then learn to grind her gspot well, as for child birth, pls always prepare for cs.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by money121(m): 7:33am On Feb 23, 2020
When we were dating we do fore play alot but no sex. Until marriage now.

Disadvantage of no s ex b4 marriage suppose u already have s ex with her am sure by now u should have look for solution if u truely love her
But am 100% sure u will find solution here...
To be sincere is very painful and hurt

For that birth just gather Money for CS don't take risk ooo

May Almighty God protect and guide ur union...

My regard to madam

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by chatinent: 7:36am On Feb 23, 2020
There are things to be done before marriage: you don't just jump into marriage because Dicks and Toms are doing it.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Petyprincess(f): 7:51am On Feb 23, 2020
Wow!!! This is hard.
I thought this circumsission shit has been stopped a century ago undecided,if i was the girl i will definitely sue my parents!!

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by thalpy(m): 7:53am On Feb 23, 2020
BareFacedLies:
How can you say you did not know she was circumcised till she told you?

If you're experienced enough you should be able to find out yourself.

There are some flaps that should be on the outer part of her pûssy, if they're not there then she's circumsided



No difference. We just got married. And its like we are dating too. Its just that its now made known formally in chirch. So what would i have done if we were dating? is it not same thing i can still do now. Or you are saying breakup and even if i broke up someone will still marry her. So breakup is not a solution. And mind you she told me earlier and i confirmed when we started making love and no sex. Since i didn't see clitoris but didnt know it has huge potential effect. And for the childbirth you mean every circumcised lady gove birth through CS. Mehn that’s saddening.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by RoyalBlu(f): 7:59am On Feb 23, 2020
It's well with you both OP.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both parties.

Since it's this way now, please up your pre-intimacy time and get a good lube. KY jelly is highly recommended.

All the best.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Tunagee(m): 8:34am On Feb 23, 2020
zexy2030:

yes my brother, they have problem having child birth and they get dried easily. Get her sweeteners and some aphrodisiacs, then learn to grind her gspot well, as for child birth, pls always prepare for cs.

Bro, you be wizard o! You just described my partner. She had a CS birth also, and gets dried easily. I don dey find the clitoris for more than 6 yrs now. Does it mean she was circumcized?

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by nasirope: 9:29am On Feb 23, 2020
No doubt female circumcision is totally bad and condemnable. Thankfully, it is now outlawed and only being practiced illegally by some uninformed part of the population. It is our duty to educate this people and also expose them to law enforcement agencies since the now recognizes it as acre against the girl child.
However, I think that we should be careful to make sure that we give only factual information even while trying to pass correct message. I mean we should avoid some myths if we want all part of the poppulation to take us serious.
For example the saying that if a lady is circumcised she would have to prepare for CS during child birth is not exactly accurate. Most people above the age of 30 including many of us, our sisters and relatives were circumcised and they give birth normally.
Complcatioms during child birth can be due to several unrelated factors.

HOWEVER WHAT IS BAD IS BAD!!!
NO TO FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION!!!
BUT SPREAD THE MESSAGE IN A WAY THAT WILL APPEAR REAL .
THANK YOU!!!

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Phosphorus666(m): 9:32am On Feb 23, 2020
First of all, let me correct a wrong impression: circumcised women do have sex urge; it's just the associated pain that comes with sex that keeps them away from it.

Engage in more pre-intimacy with your wife. Touch other sensitive spots like the breasts and nipples. Use good jelly oil on her. I believe circumcision doesn't take away the center of gravity; locate it with your fingers and give her a good treat. Ultimately, visit a sex therapist if you can, and pray for the strength of the Lord God.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by franklingud(m): 9:32am On Feb 23, 2020
Tunagee:


Bro, you be wizard o! You just described my wife. She had a CS birth also, and gets dried easily. I don dey find the clitoris for more than 6 yrs now. Does it mean she was circumcized?
Stop looking for her clits Bro, it's gone forever.
But you can find the one inside her vag with your finger only if you know how.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 10:17am On Feb 23, 2020
Do you need someone to help you bang her very well? grin

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by thalpy(m): 11:54am On Feb 23, 2020
Tunagee:


Bro, you be wizard o! You just described my wife. She had a CS birth also, and gets dried easily. I don dey find the clitoris for more than 6 yrs now. Does it mean she was circumcized?

My brother yes o. How you take dey cope. Hope no be serious matter as google take talk am

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by thalpy(m): 11:57am On Feb 23, 2020
Phosphorus666:
First of all, let me correct a wrong impression: circumcised women do have sex urge; it's just the associated pain that comes with sex that keeps them away from it.

Engage in more pre-intimacy with your wife. Touch other sensitive spots like the breasts and nipples. Use good jelly oil on her. I believe circumcision doesn't take away the center of gravity; locate it with your fingers and give her a good treat. Ultimately, visit a sex therapist if you can, and pray for the strength of the Lord God.
Please how can center of gravity be located if you can just share. Thank you.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Nobody: 12:03pm On Feb 23, 2020
Now she has to invest heavily on sex enhancement a stereotypical topic which most people attribute to the male gender. Anyways, for starters, get her Spanish Fly. Plus she’s not only physically circumcised she could be psychologically traumatized too. Get her to open up a lot about her sex life and don’t be shy to talk about sensitive topics.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by herzernIsHere: 12:44pm On Feb 23, 2020
What's the percentage-range of circumcised women in Nigeria?

So, I know the menace I'm dealing with.

PS : No wonder Nigeria ladies hardly/barely request for sex.

We are damned. undecided

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by personal59: 12:55pm On Feb 23, 2020
It's a good post and also she won't like sex.
If you don't ask for Sex for months she won't bother nor feel the absence

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by personal59: 12:58pm On Feb 23, 2020
thalpy:




No difference. We just got married. And its like we are dating too. Its just that its now made known formally in chirch. So what would i have done if we were dating? is it not same thing i can still do now. Or you are saying breakup and even if i broke up someone will still marry her. So breakup is not a solution. And mind you she told me earlier and i confirmed when we started making love and no sex. Since i didn't see clitoris but didnt know it has huge potential effect. And for the childbirth you mean every circumcised lady gove birth through CS. Mehn that’s saddening.


Liess my wife gave birth without cs and with ease self thank to Almighty Allah

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Mcslize: 1:00pm On Feb 23, 2020
thalpy:
I have a wife, and newly married. But my challenge is that she hardly get wets. She once told me that she was circumcised but I didn’t understand the disadvantage thought is same effect like a man. We do have premarital sex(romance and pre-intimacy) for some time long enough to make her wet. But immediately we start having sex she dries up easily.

Get a KY-Jelly water based lubricant from a certified Pharmacy shop.

It's N1000.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Mcslize: 1:06pm On Feb 23, 2020
Tunagee:


Bro, you be wizard o! You just described my wife. She had a CS birth also, and gets dried easily. I don dey find the clitoris for more than 6 yrs now. Does it mean she was circumcized?

The clitoris is not a hidden organ. Still looking for it for good six years hahaha that's one hell of a hunt. The hunt continues.

But on a real note, the clit is very very conspicuous. Quite visible. It stands like male organs too when stimulated. It looks quite like a rod like shape protruding outer the "sweet in the middle".

Just part the cookie into two, and look inside you will find it looking like a small rod under.


Happy searching!

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by ObiaboAdoka(m): 1:21pm On Feb 23, 2020
Can u enjoy food without tongue?

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Lamanii22(f): 1:26pm On Feb 23, 2020
money121:
When we were dating we do fore play alot but no sex. Until marriage now.


For that birth just gather Money for CS don't take risk ooo

May Almighty God protect and guide ur union...

My regard to madam



Great comment... This is front page worthy too...

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Nobody: 1:34pm On Feb 23, 2020
u did not know this when dating her? how come its a problem now? abi na no sex before marriage dating una do? grin grin anyway its ur cross u better carry it.at least some ppl say sex is not everything in marriage cheesy

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Unik3030: 1:41pm On Feb 23, 2020
Phosphorus666:
First of all, let me correct a wrong impression: circumcised women do have sex urge; it's just the associated pain that comes with sex that keeps them away from it.

Engage in more pre-intimacy with your wife. Touch other sensitive spots like the breasts and nipples. Use good jelly oil on her. I believe circumcision doesn't take away the center of gravity; locate it with your fingers and give her a good treat. Ultimately, visit a sex therapist if you can, and pray for the strength of the Lord God.
u are right about them having sexual urge but bro they get pissed off when u dig, I met a girl like that during my service year. The babe dey enjoy pre-intimacy like say tomorrow no dey but d moment I start digging na war, the babe that have been moaning b4 will start saying "Oga oya release make u stand up".i just had to let go cos I can't cope n it seems I dey disturb am anytime I dig. since then I dey avoid people like that.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Phosphorus666(m): 1:46pm On Feb 23, 2020
thalpy:

Please how can center of gravity be located if you can just share. Thank you.

Lol. Did I really said "center of gravity"? What a term! Lol. What I meant to say, actually, was G spot. Basically it's located within the vagina, but it's exact spot differs amongst women. I noticed that some women don't like being fingered, but if your wife isn't averse to it you can use your finger (a finger or two) to caressingly probe the roof of her vagina. In some women, the center of gravity is further down the vagina tract, in some others it's outer. Your wife would indicate when you find because she would feel differently. You can watch You Tube videos to see how it's done. I like you. You certainly care about your wife. I like you really. Take things easy, but make sure you don't put pressure on your wife. It would drain her.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by proclinician: 1:48pm On Feb 23, 2020
Use a vibrator?

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by OmoDavido(m): 1:48pm On Feb 23, 2020
No wonder some girls no dey ever ask for sex or even enjoy sex self. Nawao.

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by proclinician: 1:51pm On Feb 23, 2020
thalpy:

Please how can center of gravity be located if you can just share. Thank you.

Haha. For the culture

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Re: My Wife Is Circumcised And It's Affecting Our Sex Life by Phosphorus666(m): 1:54pm On Feb 23, 2020
Unik3030:
u are right about them having sexual urge but bro they get pissed off when u dig, I met a girl like that during my service year. The babe dey enjoy pre-intimacy like say tomorrow no dey but d moment I start digging na war, the babe that have been moaning b4 will start saying "Oga oya release make u stand up".i just had to let go cos I can't cope n it seems I dey disturb am anytime I dig. since then I dey avoid people like that.

It's just about the pain. Apart from circumcised girls, some other girls also feel pain when you sex them. There are several reasons for this: they aren't very sexually active, your penis is larger than what they are used to hence their vagina would need some time to adjust, you didn't initiate enough pre-intimacy before you went digging, etc.

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