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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Evercurious(f): 9:07am On Feb 24, 2020 |
OGA JUST BE REALISTIC ,LET GO OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW AND MOVE ON.. 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Dpaulie(m): 9:08am On Feb 24, 2020 |
You don’t have what it takes to marry a single mother that’s tolerance and understanding, you are pissed off because the innocent boy plays around? Continue beating him until you kill him with your nonsense beating, you sef pass beating? Come to my house and she how troublesome my five years old son is, yet he’s my best friend and I love him that way.. are u saying there’s nothing good about that little angel (the boy) with you? For me my “troublesome “ lil Em is the best thing that has ever happened to my life, and I’m very sure that ur girlfriend boy can never as troublesome as my lil Em 6 Likes 1 Share
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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Legitdimple(f): 9:09am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Oh dear op,haven't you heard of the word"terrible three" kids takes a lot of patience to nurture especially in their formative years from 2,3,and 4 years,they are extremely hype active at these age especially male kids. I'm worried about your relationship really,something does not add up,whose mum gets tired of a 4yrs old child? How stubborn can he be at this age that your girlfriend's mum cannot tame him? If she had birthed him,would she had given him up for adoption cos he's stubborn? As for your girlfriend,she wouldn't have taken several months to inform you she has a kid,not a way to start a relationship based on trust. In my own opinion I don't think this would work because you don't even love the child to start with beating him at this age is a no,no for me. Now I'm not judging you for not loving him you,cos he's not your biological child,where I'm worried is the fact that you like quiet house which I don't see you having when your own child is birthed,I pray you will be more patient with yours when that time comes,cos these kids ehn! They are like puzzles oh,it takes a great deal of patience to nurture them. @ op,I feel you should just end it now while you still can,better late than never! But just know you would be throwing away a relationship that may be difficult to come by,cos you're gonna take awhile searching for a girl who is not on any social media platform and also nice. Think these through pls and take your decisions,it is said that "he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches!!! 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by decub: 9:10am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:What I admire about your post is your sincerity when you said you can't look after another man's child. Well, it's your choice. If I may ask, do you really love this girl and do you also think she loves you too? If yes, then there's absolutely nothing wrong in loving another man's child and taking care of him especially when you love his mother; he's only an innocent child. You bring in another round of blessing when that child takes you as his father. However, you really need to sit this lady down and talk sense into her cos if she can't allow you train that child like you would train your own child, then it's better both of you part ways now that there's still time. Personally, I detest when you bring in a child to my home and in a bid to give him the best and what I feel is morally right, you turn around to play the emotional blackmail card. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Affamefuna(m): 9:11am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Nigerians and hypocrisy! most of u saying he should love and accept the child wont even allow the child into their home if in his shoes. The way the country is, it is so hard to cater for ones own children let alone adding another mans child to it. I will advise the op to follow his heart. He shouldn't for any reason sacrifice his peace of mind and sanity on the alter of love. If he can comfortably shoulder the responsibility, fine but if he cant i will advise he does the needful. It takes tolerance and understanding to handle ones own biological children and not every one is cut out for that esp when the child in question isn't their blood! 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Evercurious(f): 9:11am On Feb 24, 2020 |
MrSquint: And what happened to the child's biological dad? Pls.let's learn to choose our battles. Op doesnt want this battle . So let's just allow him 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by ehmmy11(m): 9:11am On Feb 24, 2020 |
samuelshosanya:the thing weak me the child is even living under his roof the guy na real Mr nice guy.. It's this kind of guy girls tell no sex before marriage 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by CAPSLOCKED: 9:12am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Omar09: YOU'LL OFTEN HEAR MOTHERS SAY "IF TO SAY NO BE ME BORN THIS PIKIN EH... " EVEN MOMS GET TIRED OF THEIR OWN ROUGH KIDS . I DON'T BLAME THIS MAN. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by fantastic1: 9:12am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:Do you teach? |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by alpee: 9:13am On Feb 24, 2020 |
I am a single mom and mine happened due to death of my spouse. Poster, if you know you can't love the child as you described, please let her go because the earlier the better. If you have a child today, he or she will run around and do strong head( this is synonymous with kids). It is well Chocolatte01: |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Omar09(m): 9:14am On Feb 24, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: My mama deh even talk for my side sef. Sometimes she go be like... I no sure say na me born you! Tueh! |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Enemyofpeace: 9:15am On Feb 24, 2020 |
If you want a happy home,forget about the lady and send her and her baby packing. Your marriage to her won't work 5 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Evercurious(f): 9:17am On Feb 24, 2020 |
decub: You re so right. But I bet you, the lady will never understand this.. If she.nor.her family members can't take care of the child, then give the child to his biological dad or find another way around it. Some other persons must not bear the consequences of her action and inactions 3 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by mkoabiola: 9:18am On Feb 24, 2020 |
nawa ooo. D gal doesn't do social media at all. If u cant love d child u can't marry d mother. It not a rocket science |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Enemyofpeace: 9:18am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Evercurious:moreover,if the boy's father is still alive, there is the possibility of the mother going to him to collect tithes because once debe always debe 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by vickydevoka(m): 9:21am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Abfinest007:Loooooooooooooool. Not only single mum. Bros nothing lyk love in marriage. It's understanding n loyalty. Relationship is not marriage ooo. Me n my galfriend hardly have issue in our relationship. Infact I can stay a whole day without calling her ,she is my best friend. But wen I marry her things might not be the way the were, in most cases they lady start showing up her real character especially wen she don drop on for u 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by lastchild: 9:22am On Feb 24, 2020 |
kels2010:so you can take, love and raise another man's child while the father it somewhere mocking you with his friends, na waa o, OP, run as far as your leg can carry you, listen to me, the love that girl has for you is shared between you and her son, the more the child is growing the more she's finding comfort in him not you Secondly, your own children won't see that boy as their own since he will be older than them and will want to treat them as elder Bros, they won't totally accept that Like you said before , I can never love another man's child like my own, that boy is a total stranger to you Run run run 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Sarang(f): 9:22am On Feb 24, 2020 |
ubunja: Are you just negative or stupid? Cos she had a child at a young age and so? |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by 4djustnation(m): 9:22am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea: Sorry to digress from the main topic. Hope you will get a useful advice. By the way, I need your service to advertise my business. Are you in Lagos? If yes, let's talk. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Sarang(f): 9:23am On Feb 24, 2020 |
LOGOBELT: She is so stupid. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Chidonc(m): 9:24am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:Baba make we discuss offline. Is your pm working. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Sarang(f): 9:25am On Feb 24, 2020 |
daddytime: You are so wise |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Liberty4life: 9:26am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Well many people are still training others today in the name of philanthropist, or abduct and train, you can't love your girl and hate her child, try sit down and discuss with your girl, since she is a good girl, learn to love the boy, open ur heart, he is stubborn because of lack of a dad presence in his life, what if you go for another girl and she could not conceive or she raises attitudes that you can not tolerate? Children this days are too stubborn, your own child might be too tough, so learn to curdle him, your girl will even be nice to you, your problem is that you are still too young and have not seen the other side of life, and also you're thinking what will people say, she got pregnant and delivered, what of girls who have done abortion 20x, and still claim holy, be wise brother 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by descartes400: 9:26am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea: A true african man! 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by namiji2598: 9:27am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:please bro, I will like to know more abt the Facebook sales of followers and likes, please drop ur whatsapp number for me, help a brother Or should I send u a mail? |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Sarang(f): 9:30am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Dpaulie: It’s cos it’s not his son Humans truly are monsters we see How can someone hate a kid!! |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by ugbanante: 9:31am On Feb 24, 2020 |
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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by lucky4west: 9:32am On Feb 24, 2020 |
it is not easy raising another man's kid...please for peace and comfort u can quit the relationship, it is not every thing we can cope with... 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by kapelvej: 9:33am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:Don't get me wrong. Imagine the father of the boy is somewhere focused and making money, you are busy with his child who is disturbing your sanity and your business which needs a quiet environment. Tomorrow your wife's ex becomes mega richer than you, I am sure your wife will be the one to first be making you feel lazy. Moreover, the boy will pack his load and go to his father. Women should stop being superwomen, children will ever go and look for their father 3 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by olagbemi118(m): 9:36am On Feb 24, 2020 |
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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by samuelson06(m): 9:37am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea: Your thoughts about taking care of another man's child maybe synonymous to your age. Grow up bro. What's wrong with taking care or raising another man's child? Every child needs love. Every child is your child. Why can't you love unconditionally as we are admonished to do in the Holy Book? Why so selfish at your age? What guarantee do you have that your biological child would grow up to become what you want in a child? Stop this please. Repent of your thoughts about that child and accept him into your life wholeheartedly. That may be your opportunity but if you choose to reject him then be rest assured that you have a case with God. This very wrongdoing would rub off on you sooner or later. You talk as if you can control the outcome of life but you are only but a man. And if you want to make sense of this life, the best you can do is go God's way else you mess up your life with your selfishness. If you like, send both the mother and the child away or you keep them but remember, whatever choice you make, you'll reap the reward here on earth. A word is enough for the wise. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by olagbemi118(m): 9:37am On Feb 24, 2020 |
ubunja:this is the summary of the whole thing. Get some sense |
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