Wow

When will africans stop all dis sterotypical perception about only sons n all dat. Dis is bullshit, nonsense

vizkiz:
Bro...It is no stereotype but the absolute truth.

The level of favoritism that goes into being the only son is astonishing!

You are likened to the “Golden egg” who will carry the family’s legacy (hence being a spoilt child). Don’t allow the 21st century’s manipulation that all child are equal deceive you. You will always get favored by your parents than your siblings.

This one you are complaining about being the only son, what do you want those of us who are the First born son to do?

Do you know the level of misconception directed towards our path? Abeg abeg no vex me this afternoon

BAAAHAHAHAHAHAAAHAHAA

True

VICTORCIZA:
The number one issue is that only son normally die earlier (don't get me wrong because it not your portion in ijn) reason is that the eyes of the enemies is always on them.
but when there plenty boys the enemies will be confused who to channel their arsenal first and most time it will be on the first son.

you made me laugh so hard, I nearly forget say I dey public...nairalanders won't kill me ooo.Lol

Dumdumfashion:
She is right to have those concers because it is basically what is obtainable. If you really like this girl go the extra mile to let her see your case is different if not free the babe Abey.

The post wasn't about me. Rather, I was using my experience to throw light on a widely held misconception.

frenzyduchess:
She is very right with her concerns it might seem like a stereotype but it's basically what is obtainable here in this part of the world.An only son is seens as the one to continue the family name hence all the attention is focused on him.whoever he ends up marrying will have to compete to continue that supply of attention he once had from his family.

Also his family will always want to keep an eye on their so called "heir" since it has always been that way for years , married will not make them back off.

so being an only son is now a curse 2 d extent of not getting married 2 dem Am demystified.

I concur

More sons more problems

Ladycewhy:
dated a first son ,Omo I felt like a second shadow o. I never even enter house na so so my people said this my people said that,like say me sef nor get people .

every only son is not d same. Change your mindset. 4give n 4get

Ladycewhy:
She sure is experienced with life lessons. She said the exact truth.Ladies avoid only sons for your own peace of mind, talking from my personal experience.

what about only child and also only son?

ademijuwonlo:


what about only child and also only son?

same thing sis.

Liposure:
every only son is not d same. Change your mindset. 4give n 4get

Things happen for us to learn ,I am only sharing my own experience. It doesn't mean I am holding a grudge.

sharone21:


Even if people say men are unemotional and some cruel, it can never be a guy with sisters especially youngest son. Also, they seem well nurtured, being in the midst of nurturers, they will be the last to behave indecently even for cases of men holding their 'crotch' publicly.

God bless u a thousandfold

I dont blame her
She feels you wont be able to stand up to the women in your house
A brother in my church just left a 3yr relationship because he couldn't stand up for his woman
Brother had 5sisters with the mom making it 6
Only son too

Women are threat to themselves in family circle... While Men sees drink buddies

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

That is not true

Your girl friend knows nothing about what she is saying

Am also the only son
I got five female siblings

Huzzling go nearly finish you. Stress! You need a great sense of responsibility. You need mental strength
Some matter go happen ehnnn. Those girls nor go fit jump follow you. Na only you go face am. Sometimes you will feel lonely. You go dey huzzle dey use your money for reasonable things for the house but their own money them go dey use am for all type of hair styles: braiding, twisting, Rihanna, bob Marley, buy weavon. Fix okuku hair styles. Them go dey fix nails even fix nails when dey show light in the night

The only thing i benefits is the unending love they do show me. They direct all their love towards me because girls actually don't love themselves!
Fear nor go let them talk for outside but na for house them dey show muscle!

stop saying niggar. It sucks

GBOKASINCHA:
dammmmnn niggar to nack bottle on top your head Dey hungry me

I guess I'm amongst the lucky ones who find that dude amusing. And it's mostly cuz of you guys who always complain about his overuse of the n-word

Liposure:
so being an only son is now a curse 2 d extent of not getting married 2 dem Am demystified.

I never said so.Its better to go into the battlefield with both eyes than with no eyes also a stone that is seeen from afar cannot blind your eyes.

Many women are ignorant of some things and it's better to lay all cards on the table so you know what you are getting into.

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being an only son brings about much responsibilities

It may not be correct to generalize about only sons but I understand where your girlfriend is coming from.
I have a friend who is an only son. This guy is over 35 years but he is still searching for a wife. Some of the girls he wanted to marry were not approved by his sisters. He wants to marry someone who acceptable to his sisters. From this background, it is very clear that his wife will be a house maid in her husband's house because the sisters will be the one running the show. The guy may not always stand for the wife.

Ladycewhy:
Things happen for us to learn ,I am only sharing my own experience. It doesn't mean I am holding a grudge.

i know. But lets stop all dis only son mata. its mundane. Not a big deal.

vizkiz:
Bro...It is no stereotype but the absolute truth.

The level of favoritism that goes into being the only son is astonishing!

You are likened to the “Golden egg” who will carry the family’s legacy (hence being a spoilt child). Don’t allow the 21st century’s manipulation that all child are equal deceive you. You will always get favored by your parents than your siblings.

This one you are complaining about being the only son, what do you want those of us who are the First born son to do?

Do you know the level of misconception directed towards our path? Abeg abeg no vex me this afternoon

AxelandRed:
While I was out on my first date with my girlfriend, she asked me how many sibling I have, to which I replied. She then proceeded to ask the number of males and females. Then I told her I only have sisters. That moment, her face dropped because we were already Into each other, I could tell she was disappointed.

She tried to hide this, but I noticed. This was Probably because that wasn't the first time I would be getting that reaction from people especially women the moment I tell them I'm the only son of my parents.

I queried her on her sudden change of mood and she told me that she has had unfavorable relationship experiences (twice) in the past with only Sons and has vowed never to try it again. She reasoned that only Sons are too clingy to their families, overpampered, emotionally needy and dependent on their families and hardly have a mind of their own. She also accused the families of always trying to pilot the affairs of the guys even to the extent of making life changing decisions for them.

When i was young, I also had friends who thought I was pampered, showered with extraordinary love and care and that my parents can't turn down any request from me. But the truth is that I never got any special treatment from my parents. The same curtain wire, broom, hanger my mom used to whip my sisters, she also used on me.

My point is that it's unfair to lump people together and label them. If an only son happens to be clingy, it has nothing to do with his status. He would have still been that way if he had 10 brothers.

Mehn, she was kinda right, i can really attest to those claims

Liposure:
i know. But lets stop all dis only son mata. its mundane. Not a big deal.

But it's the truth na. Many ladies will tell you same.

I love your potential girlfriend, if you know, you know. Experience is the best teacher.

daewoorazer:
U may not be pampered, but having a lot of ‘iya oko’ is a red flag for ladies......

A lady is a cancer to another .... that’s how women reason....even nowadays, ladies hardly keep female friends

But this is truth and reality... Only son with females surrounding him is a no no for intelligent and well exposed ladies.

The sisters will weigh u, to know if u reach their standard.
Any little thing u do. They will validate their doubt.. It is seriously a big issue.


ladies prefer all boys family, to family of many girls.

Women see themselves as obstacle to another...

Ladycewhy:
when? After three children? That was a red flag and I knew it would only get worse.Dont want to sound cliche but marriage does not change people .

There is no perfect relationships tho!
Unless if there were other 'red flags' or maybe he was not good enough for you

VICTORCIZA:
The number one issue is that only son normally die earlier (don't get me wrong because it not your portion in ijn) reason is that the eyes of the enemies is always on them.
but when there plenty boys the enemies will be confused who to channel their arsenal first and most time it will be on the first son.

I use to fear dating them only son too, I react same way your girlfriend reacted too.I fear that once they are successful them village people and extended family enemies can do away with them and no one to protect the wife and kids. Or if they die premature, no grown Male like brother in law to protect the family. My dad died not too long but with plenty brothers like that, we don't look for who to represent us when a man is needed. If na only son, na to pray make nothing happen to him till children old and you both go almost same time. Na my own opinion oh.

ursullalinda:
My dear i understand you....is just that we all unconsciously judge according to what we see happened to others.....a family friend of ours married an only son.....After having four daughters through CS .....the family was still mounting pressure on her to give them a heir ......she stupidly dared the fifth one and narrowly escaped death.....funny enough the guys family still didn't appreciate her effort rather they wished her death so they can take a second wife.....after that I vowed never to marry an only son.....But I have nephew's who are only son's and i wish someone marries them.....So OP don't take it personal is just a stereotype believe

linda, i wish u change ur mindset. being an only son is not a curse.