I think that ur statement is highly wrong of what u are saying .... Am only son to my family as well.... Nothing like pampering here.. I only gain love from my siblings oh...

Ladycewhy:
it's not like I am against only sons but you have be the type to overlook alot of interference.from third parties and even not mind being sidelined in critical decisions . It's just what it is bro.

it is well

AxelandRed:


Another stereotype. What about Abia men?

Abia men are fair.

Anambra men are dangerously loyal to their mothers, family and culture.

I am not a fan of stereotypes, but some have elements of truth in them. No matter how hurt something like Peeress gets.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

That is not true

Your girl friend knows nothing about what she is saying

Am also the only son
I got five female siblings

Huzzling go nearly finish you. Stress! You need a great sense of responsibility. You need mental strength
Some matter go happen ehnnn. Those girls nor go fit jump follow you. Na only you go face am. Sometimes you will feel lonely. You go dey huzzle dey use your money for reasonable things for the house but their own money them go dey use am for all type of hair styles: braiding, twisting, Rihanna, bob Marley, buy weavon. Fix okuku hair styles. Them go dey fix nails even fix nails when dey show light in the night. Them go dey mix expensive cream

The only thing i benefits is the unending love they do show me. They direct all their love towards me because girls actually don't love themselves! No household chores for me. I can wake up at anytime and eat.
Fear nor dey let them talk for outside but na for house them dey show muscle!

No wonder you had to be a real niggarr by fire, by force, by hustle. Stay blessed ma niggarrr

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

That is not true

Your girl friend knows nothing about what she is saying

Am also the only son
I got five female siblings

Huzzling go nearly finish you. Stress! You need a great sense of responsibility. You need mental strength
Some matter go happen ehnnn. Those girls nor go fit jump follow you. Na only you go face am. Sometimes you will feel lonely. You go dey huzzle dey use your money for reasonable things for the house but their own money them go dey use am for all type of hair styles: braiding, twisting, Rihanna, bob Marley, buy weavon. Fix okuku hair styles. Them go dey fix nails even fix nails when dey show light in the night. Them go dey mix expensive cream

The only thing i benefits is the unending love they do show me. They direct all their love towards me because girls actually don't love themselves! No household chores for me. I can wake up at anytime and eat.
Fear nor dey let them talk for outside but na for house them dey show muscle!

Only son dey mumu too

I have confirmed it from you

pocohantas:


Especially the Igbo ones,
Especially the ones from Anambra. Izzôu no vex o.

They are ready to kick you out of the house because of their family. Naija men have serious issues balancing their nuclear and extended family. The kinda questions and comments that comes out of their mouths, gives you a clear picture of their mindsets.

I have an only brother and he was showing these traits. His gfs didn’t like me and I always wondered why. Till the mumu opened his mouth to tell me he told his gf I will always come before any woman, because we grew and suffered together. I told him to face his babe o, make e no come dey disturb my own guy.

Mumu woman

pocohantas:


Abia men are fair.

Anambra men are dangerously loyal to their mothers, family and culture.

I am not a fan of stereotypes, but some have element of truth in them. No matter how hurt something like Peeress gets.

Of course since you are from Abia state and possibly a man in your life is from Abia state too, Abia men would be fair in your opinion for now while Anambra men and men from other Igbo states would be unfair in your opinion. The usual you. When a situation favors you you become pro man in your life comes first before family, but when it does not favor you you start your usual all men are scum and no man can come first before your family. Such a hypocritical thing.

The truth is that some only sons are totally Genius!
Am a born hussler shaa. If I love a lady, I don't care what my parents even think of her!
Am always on my grind 247. Not even close to mum in anyway at all though I know she loves me but I no too send the love.
It's a matter of mentality. Am the only son and nothing dey happen!!!

Thegamingorca:



Mumu woman

Na Peeress get that one.

Long time no see.

MarianaTrench:


Last children are the most useless!

So shall ur last child be to u.

Women and their wild thoughts, they know things before you see them. General over-typical assumption is bad, same reason it is bad for government to label all successful male youths as yahoo.

AxelandRed:
While I was out on my first date with my girlfriend, she asked me how many sibling I have, to which I replied. She then proceeded to ask the number of males and females. Then I told her I only have sisters. That moment, her face dropped because we were already Into each other, I could tell she was disappointed.

She tried to hide this, but I noticed. This was Probably because that wasn't the first time I would be getting that reaction from people especially women the moment I tell them I'm the only son of my parents.

I queried her on her sudden change of mood and she told me that she has had unfavorable relationship experiences (twice) in the past with only Sons and has vowed never to try it again. She reasoned that only Sons are too clingy to their families, overpampered, emotionally needy and dependent on their families and hardly have a mind of their own. She also accused the families of always trying to pilot the affairs of the guys even to the extent of making life changing decisions for them.

When i was young, I also had friends who thought I was pampered, showered with extraordinary love and care and that my parents can't turn down any request from me. But the truth is that I never got any special treatment from my parents. The same curtain wire, broom, hanger my mom used to whip my sisters, she also used on me.

My point is that it's unfair to lump people together and label them. If an only son happens to be clingy, it has nothing to do with his status. He would have still been that way if he had 10 brothers.

I never got preferential treatment being the only male child. My mum is a no nonsense woman she no send if ure the only male child or not. I am grateful today, all her training helped me.

I was never clingy to my family, never!

Now happily married with kids.

pocohantas:


Na Peeress get that one.

Long time no see.

Long time no see indeed

SmartyPants:


Historical data and a number of scientific studies do not support this assertion.

Oga please can elaborate on this a little bit. It seems I have something to learn from you.

My brother, if only son is this my type eh, I prefer being the 6th son of a 6th wife. Anwụọla m anwụọ

She is right, 99 percent are like that. The parents,especially the mum interferes in major decision making

Simplebeauty:
;





Do you know I can buy over your existing loans?

How?

Okikaneseokwu:

So shall ur last child be to u.

E pain am well well

haaryobhami:
I wish I had a big bro or at least big sister

me na first born and only son..with only a sibling. sister.. I just dey look upon God. and my dad just died 3 yrs ago.

@ op,
What were you thinking when you chose to roll with the jewel of the family, the only eye that saved a man from being described as blind, and the continuation of a lineage?

Choices beget consequences. An only son is, put short, the last hope of a family, especially in Igboland. By nature of his position, he should be tough, tactful and diplomatic. And if his parents(and himself, for he too must train himself positively to withstand pressures and make intelligent decisions) are wise enough, they would employ every positive means towards ensuring that he gets the best all-around training in life, for his position is highly critical. The thing is that women of these days want to reap where they have sown next to nothing. If you love him, you should help him become better. With time he would see you as more than a wife. You'd become an indispensable ally to him. But that is only possible if you have something worthwhile to offer in his life. At this stage, if the only thing you can think of is competition with his sisters and mother over his resources, affection and attention, then you're not the best thing for him. Don't add to the young man's pressure abeg.

I also understand that only sons tend to be clingy to their families. You are somehow lucky that his father is still alive, and would help him in decision-making. What about some whose father have left to the great beyond? Now after struggling with the mother and sisters to survive and live decently, you expect to now come and own him absolutely? because you are who? Can't you even smell your own insensitivity and selfishness? If you really love him, the best thing to do is to work your way to the heart of his family too. And the process is quite easy, if you are not a bad, self-centered woman. With time they would get accustomed to the situation and you'd own him like you want to. They would even be the ones to remind him when he starts getting unnecessarily clingy and nostalgic that he now has a wife he needs to take good care of.

Finally, I understand that some only sons are weak and unnecessarily clingy. But I also understand that some of us feel a great sense of responsibility and are doing our best to face unusual pressures of life as well as balance our relationships between the many people who are serious stakeholders in our lives. All we need is proper understanding and help where necessary, not unreasonable competition with others over who's supposed to earn our attention and affection the most.

MarianaTrench:


E pain am well well

vizkiz:
Bro...It is no stereotype but the absolute truth.

The level of favoritism that goes into being the only son is astonishing!

You are likened to the “Golden egg” who will carry the family’s legacy (hence being a spoilt child). Don’t allow the 21st century’s manipulation that all child are equal deceive you. You will always get favored by your parents than your siblings.

This one you are complaining about being the only son, what do you want those of us who are the First born son to do?

Do you know the level of misconception directed towards our path? Abeg abeg no vex me this afternoon

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.You're deceiving yourself

shogsman:
You just have to rope yourself into every situation you lying cunt

He's a big liar

AxelandRed:
While I was out on my first date with my girlfriend, she asked me how many sibling I have, to which I replied. She then proceeded to ask the number of males and females. Then I told her I only have sisters. That moment, her face dropped because we were already Into each other, I could tell she was disappointed.

She tried to hide this, but I noticed. This was Probably because that wasn't the first time I would be getting that reaction from people especially women the moment I tell them I'm the only son of my parents.

I queried her on her sudden change of mood and she told me that she has had unfavorable relationship experiences (twice) in the past with only Sons and has vowed never to try it again. She reasoned that only Sons are too clingy to their families, overpampered, emotionally needy and dependent on their families and hardly have a mind of their own. She also accused the families of always trying to pilot the affairs of the guys even to the extent of making life changing decisions for them.

When i was young, I also had friends who thought I was pampered, showered with extraordinary love and care and that my parents can't turn down any request from me. But the truth is that I never got any special treatment from my parents. The same curtain wire, broom, hanger my mom used to whip my sisters, she also used on me.

My point is that it's unfair to lump people together and label them. If an only son happens to be clingy, it has nothing to do with his status. He would have still been that way if he had 10 brothers.

Nothing spectacular about that, everyone has their preference in life.
The same way some people have reservations for the following people;
First daughters,
People from humble backgrounds
Only child,
Single fathers,
Single mothers,
Orphans,
Children from divorced home.

To me it shouldn't be an issue but then everyone can't have same reasoning.

Apus:
I wish I could say the same for myself. The opposite is the case with me.

Never felt the privilege of being an only son.

I think it depends on individual families and style of upbringing, hence shouldn't be generalised.

You're not alone, many families don't show preference in some cases they are harder on you because they don't want you to feel privileged in any way, its for your good.

You are a mummy s baby nw

Lol African reasoning lasan. D bitter truth marriage is not for everyone if u can't tolerate some little shit.

All these problems mainly exist among the Igbo tribe, they are the ones who over pamper their male kids all the time because only males inherit from their parents according to their custom. Deal with your issues in your customary courts, Nairaland is fast becoming boring by posting all these Igbo man made issues, everyday.

Mizwisdom:
All these problems mainly exhist among the Igbo tribe, they are the ones who over pamper their male kids all the time. Deal with your issues in your customary courts, Nairaland is fast becoming boring by posting all these Igbo man made issues, everyday.

Cc; Peeress.

See food.

daewoorazer:
U may not be pampered, but having a lot of ‘iya oko’ is a red flag for ladies......

A lady is a cancer to another .... that’s how women reason....even nowadays, ladies hardly keep female friends

Very correct i find it very difficult to cope with them.
I have male friends we insult ourselves and coutinue what we are doing but ladies Chaaaaaiiiii , you be wondering what you have done wrong sef when you are sure you didn't do anything wrong.
One of my female friend , could you imagine I went on a job search and introduced her, we angered we will go together but she went behind me when I went to her so that we go together she pretend as if she was not interested again not knowing that she has submitted her application already.
My childhood friend told me that she had a dream where she hit me with door and I fell , then she came physically to apologise , I don't understand how possible that can be.

pocohantas:


Cc; Peeress.

See food.

Lol, nothing preferential in my family, nothing like only son, thank God I'm not Igbo

Britishcoins:
To be a first son is not an easy task, in fact you will climb the highest mountain and do more dangerous tasks to ensure ur family is on track...

I know what I have passed through to ensure that my siblings are all fine....
But God is always our strength even in the desert God always provides lakes for me the first son

And then when a wife comes into the picture, they might feel she's coming to reduce their portion