Davash222:

How is she independent when she’s still living with a man
If she’s independent, let her divorce the man and rent a house for herself and her kids. That’s what I call independent.
She’s begging a man to accommodate her son and you’re claiming she’s independent.

AreaFada2:


Lol. Don't be surprised if it was the man who funded the shop from which she says she pays 70% of the bill.

Women are just not cut out to contribute more to the household financially. If you like pay for her education, train, open shop for her, same thing.

To bring a difficult child you do not have the freedom to discipline like your own biological son is a nightmare. For any self-respecting man. I saw it around my neighbourhood growing up.

Blyzz:
Bro it a Favour. Taking care of another man's child when he's not financially buoyant, you think it easy? Who will marry second hand woman, unless the man has a kid elsewhere, then the marriage will be in a state of equilibrium.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He is not in Nigeria

letskeeptalking:


You foot 70% of bills in your house and yet you allow your husband to dictate to you what to do with your own son.

Madam, I don't think you are a serious person.

Personally I will rather be single than be with a man who will stand between me and my children. Even if I have to live in poverty. But you are financially capable, you just want to answer 'Mrs' at the expense of your child.

After bouncing him off relatives for years, you are now using your husband as an excuse to run from your duty.

Shame!

movement2020:
How old is your son?

How old is your daughter?

How many kids do you have for your new husband?

Where are the father(s) of the other kids?

Are you still in touch? If NO, what about his siblings? Are they much around?

Have you improved financially to accommodate your son?

xendra:
honestly this is what I thought when she said that. she just doesn't care enough, a woman that cares enough will not allow a title "mrs" come btw her and her childs well being

Amumaigwe:


@Bolded
This mentality may be why you are still single. Inninit?

liverpool72:
yeye likes

Mycommand:
If he is legally in the country where he resides in, tell him to file his son's immigration papers! That he is not in Nigeria is not a good excuse.

Oyindidi:
Lol, men hate independent women see as e dey pain you.

Modified
O ye Nairaland men! I like the taste of your tears, keep crying in my mention
I said what I said with my chest

M00N:

Gbenu s'oun ode

uruba23:

Yimu be doing as if you didn't steal when you are twelve.

xendra:
but if it was the mans child, your wide mouth will open to call women evil and unwilling to accept their husbands child as their own. Iranu

Viicfuntop:




He is 12. He is still a child. So what he stole? You think he just strted stealing because it was hereditary

Richy4:


I disagree with u sir. That man can count what he is benefiting from that relationship without you and I knowing it. Remember he was aware of the wife's situation before he agreed to it.. We can't speak for him at the moment.. only him can speak for himself

Vyvyanvyvy:

Thanks am going to pick him up this Sunday I will bring him to the house and let him do his worst. I pay the rent if he is not happy then he has to leave me with my children . This thing has been stressing me my bp is already high which is not good for my pregnancy I need to be alive for my children and I won’t let him stress me anymore

M00N:


You be ashewo

Oyindidi:
Hahahaha.... E pain you. Ashawo na insult?

xendra:
another mumu misogynist

M00N:

Idiot
You are nothing more than a baby mama

Davash222:
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.

Shifi1:
take him to his father na

Vyvyanvyvy:

I foot 70% of the bills , I pay my daughter school fee including my first child with my husband I pay half of her school fee ,all my son need is a place to stay, my husband won’t be the one paying his school fee

M00N:
The boy father reject am, uncle reject am, auntie reject am, you now want a innocent man to accept him

Oyindidi:
This will make your balls(ego) bigger I guess. You go cry hot blood for my mention

Oyindidi:
Lol, men hate independent women see as e dey pain you.

Modified
O ye Nairaland men! I like the taste of your tears, keep crying in my mention
I said what I said with my chest

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.