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Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by CsRockefeller(m): 3:06pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Olunmercy56: Cc eni4real The irony of life is one might not rush and still end up with a terrible partner. 3 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by pek(m): 3:10pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
InDistress One thing is very obvious, you don't want advise. You only came here to pour out your heart. I say this cause of your last paragraph. Feel free to come back here when you have HIV/AIDS or one of the numerous mistresses begin to see you as an intruder. But one thing I will tell you with 100% certainty is that your husband has a child outside which he may or may not be aware. 2 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Nobody: 3:10pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Mtchewww!!! Seun should charge a fee for every marital talesbymoonlight on Nairaland... 1 Like |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
CsRockefeller:Well, that's unfortunate!! We can always wish ourselves goodluck.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Nobody: 3:26pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Olunmercy56:Best of Luck! 2 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Daisy17: 3:26pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
InDistress: What is more important, your health and emotional well-being or what people would say/your parents feelings? I know it is harder for women in Africa because of the society and the belief that women should tolerate all forms of rubbish in marriage, but you need to put yourself first. What do you think you are teaching your children? That it is okay for a man to cheat and disrespect his wife and for the woman to tolerate abuse? There are so many kids from broken homes who have become upstanding members of society. We should do away with the notion that broken homes are not good for kids. What matters is how the parents handle the separation. You seem to be able to take care of yourself, go ahead and be independent. Who knows what the future holds? Maybe your husband will see your new independence as a wake up call of what he has lost and then you can use this to dictate the kind of relationship you want with him. He will continue his philandering ways because he knows you will tolerate the disrespect. Be strong and put yourself first, marriage should be enjoyed and not seen as a life sentence. 2 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by blujoi(m): 3:31pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Madam, your story is heartbreaking. It’s clear the man doesn’t have any respect or love for you. For your own peace of mind, quit monitoring him or trying to know his whereabouts. Focus on giving your children the best of life and find something to engage you. Since you are not comfortable divorcing him due to personal reasons, insist on him using protection when he wants sex from you. It’s unfortunate but your man doesn’t give a damn about his actions, so just leave him to do as he likes maybe one day he’ll come to his senses. For now direct your energy to your kids and towards growing your business. 2 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Olunmercy56(f): 3:51pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
CsRockefeller: God forbid |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by djon78(m): 3:58pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
InDistress: There is a section of this forum you will see these types of op husbands kind of men. Where they discuss sleeping with tons of wayward women, and glory about it. Most of them will end up like this ops husband if they don't change there ways. Men like these always never end well. They carry so many evil karma around. @Op you will have to seriously look out for yourself especially now he is exposing you to sti. 1 Like |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by CsRockefeller(m): 4:04pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Olunmercy56: God forbid? Yes. But, since the days of John the Baptist, the Kingdom of God suffereth violence.... |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by CsRockefeller(m): 4:05pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Olunmercy56: Sorry, I didn't mean you in particular, I was supposed to use "one" I've modified it. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by djon78(m): 4:22pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Keemsleek005: You never see anything. I have a childhood acquaintance who will fly to UK for a weekend to sleep with his oloshos especially one Jamaican young single mother living in those London council flat. This is a guy in a day can sleep with three different women. I know guys that import all those East African girls into nija or import them to Dubai. That's normal runs for them. 4 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Tripitaka: 4:28pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Keemsleek005: These things happen. They happen a lot too. Any man who sleeps with prostitutes is gone and may never stop. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Stillthebest: 4:44pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Worst thing is that he involves in serial unprotected sex and it is very dangerous. He is a chronic "brostitute" a "pro in the stute" You might have to separate with for a while him since he isn't wise enough to be protected. He also is careless and dirty. Only a dirty man will sleep around with all these serial girls of these days. He needs prayer. He is addicted. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Nobody: 5:26pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
from what I understand you've been self sufficient for a long time without that thing you call a husband,what I don't understand is why you stay back in the house with him knowing it's not safe?what are you waiting for?let me tell you somthing and you better listen good,if you are scared to live because of what people would say believe me long after you are gone if they are alive they would still say what they want to say about you your husband and your marriage,for your children's sake live that house before he gives you somthing nastier than herpes,if you could hack his what's app what makes you think he can use that as an excuse?what if he tells you all those messages where not typed by him?is it not possible for that to happen?for him to deny?and tell you he was set-up by friends?what excuse are you waiting to hear?for the respect of your kids live that house immediately. 4 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by CHoccolaTE: 5:27pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: The story is possible, I have seen a couple of men real life that while not as promiscuous as Ops hubby, they have absolutely no interest in making their marriages work. Won't provide Won't do housework Just want to be useless because they married a hardworking woman. It's not far fetched. 5 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by JONNYSPUTE(m): 5:33pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:.. Just that I found it difficult to believe that one man could be so mean. Yes men cheat but to this extent? Well,nah she know. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Alfather: 5:38pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:the devil dick you know is better than the angel dick you dont know. Am happy you aren,t geting marriad |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by grafixdon: 5:43pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
I'll not advice you to divorce him. Children needs parental care. Both of you need to raise the children together. Stop checking his phone if you don't want to die young, what you don't know will hardly kill you. Focus on yourself and children and let him live his life the way he wants. He'll come around, there's absolutely nothing you can do to change him, you can only pray for him. Pls watch 'war room' and thank me later. I wish you well 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by ifeteminikan: 6:01pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
[quote author=engrchykae post=87409873]why won't you mind your business? You are advising them to break up,what about the children? She should stop behaving like a mother to the man and start behaving like a girlfriend to her husband. Some women forget how to be a girlfriend,sister and ashawo to their man. When you behave like a mother to a man,you became counterfeit because his biological mother is the original mother. She should switch to girlfriend status to her man and the man will turn to boyfriend chasing her. Women sef quote] i love this advise jare my sister, There's a line you dont cross in marriage, DO NOT BABYSIT your man. you are not his mother. You need to learn when to stop been too attached and starts giving some spaces for the other party to take up their responsibility, My dear you do not even need to keep advising, nag or shout but your actions starts speaking louder than voice, WISDOM WISDOM WISDOM. The man will be the one chasing you because he will starts wondering the reason for the sudden but peaceful change in character. You do not have to become a shadow of yourself because you are married and do not have to be or beg to be your Husbands tagalong every time. Dress up from time to time and go out on a long trip with your kids without calling or checking to know where he is ... o my God.. Prayer is not everything- Most married women needs to take some lessons from this so called side chicks on how to keep a man Biko, old school style does not work for this modern day men. MORE WISDOM when it comes to Finances( you need to start playing along and bring only what wont hurt you to the table especially when you are with an irresponsible man and Health- This one cant be compromised for me, i dont know about you). You need to live and have a life outside your marriage woman. 1 Like |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by engrchykae(m): 6:17pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
[quote author=ifeteminikan post=87416609][/quote] actually am a guy not a woman. When you start acting like our mum,we will change it for you. A man will buy you things and instead of thank you,we will hear,bia okey,it's like Everytime you have small change you will be looking for what to buy,bla bla bla. Keep up your shape with exercise and model for your man. Raise the volume of the music and dance in the parlour while he watches from the room. Some women think the man married them for them to make his life miserable. Your man wants to talk with you and your response will be "you eh you are talkative"imagine. Night vigils won't help stupid women oh. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Alfather: 6:40pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:it is true, when you are talking sense i know |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by SweetCunt97(f): 6:53pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
grafixdon:What is the man even teaching the kids? He's not around most time sef. 5 Likes |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by xendra: 7:42pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
you have obviously accepted this cross, as all the signs were there from the beginning and are still glaring; so why complain now stay and continue to suffer so that people wont talk, or leave and feel free no matter what haters say. the choice and decision remains yours |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by ednut1(m): 8:21pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Another fake story |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Pearl05(f): 8:48pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Just sell the man |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by grafixdon: 9:35pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: That's solely depends on his wife, if she choose not to let the children know about their father wayward life that's would do the family some good. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by fredopareto(m): 9:45pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Separation is wat u nid not divorce... Zero ur mind...b prayerful |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by Chamber2000: 11:29pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
InDistress:How will your Dad feel if your husband gives you HIV? Stop living your life for others and take charge of it. Hapu nwoke nzuzu ahu aka. |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by MPESA(m): 11:35pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
jesmond3945: 1 Like |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by csamii: 11:45pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Dem force you stay the marriage ni!? You no sabi wetin divorce be? Since you can take care of the kids why risk your health staying with him? |
Re: I Married The Most Irresponsible Man Ever by MPESA(m): 11:45pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
pek: Na by force to give advice, you just concluded that the man MUST have a child outdside knowingly or unknowingly..... Even with 100% certainty na wa for you o o... BTW are you quenching fire or you are putting on one |
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