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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by maclatunji: 8:06am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Take time out to meet your child and your brother with his wife. Encourage the child to make the most of his bad circumstance and let him know that you will do your best (under these difficult circumstances) to reward good behaviour. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your brother, appeal to him to save you and your son from a painful outcome. I hope you help with finances with your brother- it's the least you can do under the circumstances. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Rejoice5000(f): 8:07am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:My dear keep begging him ur son needs ur Love and care.if possible start telling ur husband that ur son is a changed person now@12yrs he is still a child maybe he does not feed well there that's what pushed him into stealing believe me if that son is with you that rubbish statement of him stealing u won't hear it again am telling u out of experience. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by franchasng: 8:07am On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege:who told you the father of the boy is not in the country, did the op mentioned that ![]() Many white men will divorce because of this, not many of them will accept. The issue of how to handle extra kids each partner is bringing in if both are single parents has always been an issue in western unions, you should know this if you lived abroad 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 8:07am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Davash222: Olodo, I took that on Thursday. Does that look like a short person? I can’t be short, even if I detach my head. ![]() Davash222: Good boy. I might even be taller than you. God was merciful while creating me. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 8:08am On Mar 14, 2020 |
franchasng: The OP said the father is abroad. The childs father has chosen to move out of the country, and there's nothing anyone can do about that. He could be in prison, he could be dead or he could be enjoying the life of his head. Nothing you can really do about that, and until he comes back into the country you can't get the backlog of child support out of him. Custody automatically falls to the parent who is present, or should the child be taken to an orphanage when a parent is alive? The child has probably always lived with the mother anyway and she has always had custody till she married and decided to give others the responsibility of raising her child. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 8:09am On Mar 14, 2020 |
sweetdude001:Sounds as if the boy is already condem and should be thrown away. Are you a Christian? If yes, have you ever read the parable of the lost sheep? If the poor child was to be your biological child, would you say the same? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 8:09am On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:I've seen the straight legs on heels. Next. You call me Olodo next time, I'll cripple those legs!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 8:09am On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas: You have time. Slay mama ![]() |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 8:12am On Mar 14, 2020 |
franchasng: She mentioned that in an initial post. He's in italy or somewhere. I hope Corona locates him there, for abandoning his children. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by franchasng: 8:12am On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege:okay, I just saw where the op said the father lives abroad. Anyway, the husband made the mistake to me, he shouldn't have married her in the first place knowing how Nigerian system works; the boy's father will appear from nowhere after 25 years have passed and the boy will run back to his biological father leaving the stepfather empty handed and looking foolish for catering for him from childhood. This is Nigeria, so think Nigerian ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Filmdirect: 8:13am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Why didn't you step up and save him when the maltreatment started? Why keep him there that long, until it got to that point? Vyvyanvyvy: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 8:13am On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege: Thanks o. I need to have time, he said I escaped dwarfism. Haba! When I am not Ibkayee. 3 Likes
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by franchasng: 8:14am On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege:lol, unfortunately coronavirus doesn't kill black man cos we have enough vitamin D from years of exposure to sunlight ![]() Besides life must be tough for him in Italy cos Italy is a dead country for decades now, nothing happening there, no job, in fact I do pity most Nigerians living in Italy and some EU countries |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Rejoice5000(f): 8:14am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Believe me ur son is not a thief.keep begging ur husband to allow him stay with you please am feeling for that boy he is the same age with my son.please try ur possible best to train him by urself he needs ur Love don't brought him to this world to punish him please.and this type of kids are always great.and don't ever think of contacting his daddy.the issue here is ur husband keep begging him.he is ur husband u know how to enter him for him to accept him. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by franchasng: 8:18am On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:but he said you carry thunder for backside, that alone nullifies any other physical minus ![]() It's a big selling point oh, use it wella and you shall be dinning with Major Buhari ![]() ![]() But where is the pinchor let me look small abeg, for there is nothing better than looku looku ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Psoul(m): 8:54am On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege: The more you talk, the more you exposes your ignorance. You mean to tell me that in ur western country, the law will impose a child that is not urs to u cos the child needs shelter. Chaiiii. In that of ur western world, have u ever heard of "Authorization Agreement for Nonparent Relative?" Do you know that there is law for virtually everything over there. Do you know that there are so many things the law will restrict you from doing for and to a child that is not yours unless you have that Authorization Agreement? Well, I don't need to school u on this. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Midas01: 8:54am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Evenin custody cases, no court will grant custody of a child to an extended family member when both parents are still Ali and healthy. Why can't a child live with his own mother since the father is oversees? Where is your sense? The other family members of the father don't have their own lives to live or what? Sotland: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Filmdirect: 8:55am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Why are you so judgmental and condemning? She was asked for her hand in marriage and a promise to look after her and her kids, that means kids were discussed. What was wrong in her saying yes and believing the man? Why are you judging her instead of the man that lacks integrity? because you see her as rubbish for having two kids? Are they not human beings and have you never ever made a mistake in life? You are wicked. AroOkigbo: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Midas01: 8:56am On Mar 14, 2020 |
You have too much sense. jesmond3945: |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Bishops10(m): 8:56am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:See ehh, I'm not married so I wouldn't know what to comment here honestly but one impression I must correct is calling your son a thief. Your son is never a thief, he's only 12. Listen, when I was his age, I did similar things not because I was maltreated but I just found myself doing them. I take meat from pot, I take mum's money without telling her, Las Las they will beat hell out of me. But now, I keep imagning how I did all those things cause I can't find myself doing them now, never. It's simply juvenile delinquency, little reprimanding will correct that and that's where you come in. Find a way and bring that boy in, once you leave him on the streets, he'll now become a thief. Please ma, take good care of that boy, forget about what most people are saying here, don't take it to heart. You're a strong woman. There's nobody without a mistake or problem. Shalom 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Midas01: 8:59am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Good one, I like this. That boy should live with you and should be shown love, otherwise will resent you in future and that cannot be reversed. Vyvyanvyvy: |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 9:03am On Mar 14, 2020 |
franchasng: The kind of men that will see my bumbum as a SP, are men who will put maximum pressure on my vagina. They won’t help me grow organically. If there is anything the right men do most times, it is to stereotype one as a bimbo. You’ll have to work twice as hard to show you are not mentally and physically slow. Not so much of a SP after all. I took it down...I am sure Davash222 now knows I am not short. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Sunrise258: 9:08am On Mar 14, 2020 |
I know myself very well, I cannot cope with a lady who's had kid(s) before. Apart from no room for such kid in my house, you mustn't let outsiders know I married you completely used. I hate it. I can't cope with it, no matter the love. This story portrays this woman as someone who's lived a rough life in the past. How can you born two kids for a man you know nothing about?! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by dominique(f): 9:08am On Mar 14, 2020 |
franchasng: Most of these "white" men that marry single mums legally adopt the kids, that's why Wikipedia puts Matt Damon's kids as 4 despite his wife birthing 3 for him. Rockstar Chris Daughtry not only legally adopted his wife's kids, the kids now bear his surname as well. I'm using this examples of A-list American celebrities because they married non-celebrity women and still adopted their kids as their own. Whites (Americans in particular) are more flexible and receptive towards single mums and the children borne by them. A far far cry from our egotistic Nigerian men who think they're doing women favour by marrying them and expect their wives to snap into two to please them even if means rendering her child homeless. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AngelJennifer: 9:18am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Bishops10: True. He is not a thief. I once stayed with a relative and also developed such habits due to hunger, but as soon as I am grown I can't even imagine taking what is not mine. Its truly juvenile delinquency 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by ibkayee(f): 9:20am On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:Lmao see this one, I am of average height thank you very much ![]() Lol anyone who calls poco short has definitely not seen her picture lol, that girl is an amazon ![]() |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Filmdirect: 9:21am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Agree with this. Many men here marry women with kids because they see value in people. Life is transient, not everyone is struggling for things that really mean very little. Nigerians are said to be religious but their religion dies with action. How any one that goes to church can see a little boy as nothing because he didn't come from his seed is beyond me. A human being God created! And we wonder why we are not blessed. We fight for every little crumb; who bares my name, is he a boy or a girl, how are my assets going to grow etc etc. Yet like all humans we live and die and everything is but dust. Foreigners (westerners) adopt, foster kids all the time. They are step fathers to boys and girls, and they do better jobs than the biological fathers. I know someone personally. Married a woman with three kids. Their dad was a dead beat. They love him and cherish him. He never had kids of his own. Now he is dealing with cancer, they are there taking care of him. He is dad! They are white! We, are seeing the boy as scum of the earth, a bastard and only as a son of another man. May God have mercy on our cold hearts. Yet none of you men had your mothers neglect you! Take your son home. Let the father go if need be. A man that cannot share your pain and want to comfort you at a time like this, to see you happy, will never be enough for you when you are down. He is not honorable. Don't apologize for fighting for your child. Don't cater to his ego and hurt feelings. That is a human he basically could see dead. Why are you even discussing this here? That is your blood. Do you need marriage that desperately? You are allowing yourself to be a victim. If you go to your son, fight for him, apologize to him, mark my words that boy will be your rock one day. That husband of yours will not. Question: would you still have a friend who spits on you at the lowest time of pain? No? Then why would you share your life with a man who is supposed to be your rock and yet spits on your pain? You don't have to divorce him. Just separate. Even God in the bible said, "Can a mother forsake the child she has bore? Though she might I will never forsake you." Note that God used the most deepest love to show how He couldn't. That's because for a mother to forsake a child is unnatural. Yet even with that He can do more and beyond. God put in a mother a deep sacrificial love in her for her children. Men: if a woman can neglect her child you should never be with her. The mere fact that this man wants her to do so, means he is evil. eyinjuege: 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Sotland: 9:30am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Midas01: Please I am not here to insult or be insulted "where is your sense?" I found this sentence insulting, so do withdraw it.. The best you can do is to ignore comments that are contrary to yours..Everyone to his opinion. In a typical African setting, the male child can still live with his father relatives. The lady coming to say that she doesn't have any of the former husband relative contact speaks a loud volumn, don't you think?.....why can't she take the child to his linage? Besides, how can a man leaves his family and exile himself in europe? This is only a side of the coin, since we don't really know what transpires, its really complicated.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 9:32am On Mar 14, 2020 |
ibkayee: Lmao. I just wan find your trouble. Average and short na the same thing na. ![]() Aww, thanks for the compliment. 2 Likes
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Shinto1(m): 9:39am On Mar 14, 2020 |
You don't have his contact or his siblings contact. Your story doesn't add up. Either you don't know who their father is. Shey this is why I refuse to marry any woman that has a child or divorced. Adding unnecessary pressure of the poor man. Olosho 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 9:40am On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:I’m not well convinced though. Your photos I’ve seen before depicts dwarfism with mighty bum bum. 1 Like |
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