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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 11:13am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Psoul: Let me school you a bit about legal guardianship or authorization agreement Perhaps if this man in question has proven himself worthy enough to act in the best interest of this child, the mother might consider having him as a legal guardian/have him sign your authorisation agreement. But so far, he has failed. Such agreements even if signed, can be TERMINATED at any point by the parent who allowed the agreement in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 11:17am On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: It's wrong for you to tag someone an opportunist just because you heard one side of the story, we Yorubas regard such judgement as a wicked one. I want to let you know that women could be very selfish when narrating their side of a story. Who knows the kind of agreement they had hitherto? When a woman is desperate to be wifed by a man they'll promise to do whatever you wish just to make you marry them, afterwards they switch. Don't believe her story too much to the point where you'll start blaming the man. It's not easy to father two children from another man. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by martowskin1(m): 11:22am On Mar 14, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 11:28am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Filmdirect: Many Nigerians male or female derive pleasure in molesting children at every point. They will abuse a child and still find a way to blame the child. And then hide under the guise of culture... |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by femi4: 11:41am On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII:Not all kids have that privileges of being trained by their parents. Some developed good characters from what they hear and see others do. Don't use that has an excuse 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 11:49am On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII:Dear, the real father have a family even if he is based in Italy. The man will always come for his children now or later so will the children. I read everything oga 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by sweetdude001(m): 11:56am On Mar 14, 2020 |
Expensiverichyb:All I am saying is DAT she needs to be patient and calm about the whole thing, her husband owes her nothing, as much as we want d boy with his mother, doesn't mean u make d other children lose d relationship with their father. All she is shouting my son, she needs to put d other kids into consideration too. The parable doesnt say u lose 3 all because u want to gain 1 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by jelel6: 11:59am On Mar 14, 2020 |
martowskin1: Where the biological father is is not the issue presently. She accepted that situation and lived happily with her children before they met. Then a man comes along and all of a sudden, a 12 year old boy can't even live with his Mom again simply because OF A Marriage! Which society except ours would tolerate such Nonsense? You're talking about boarding school. So, during the holidays, he's supposed to follow the principal to his house? Who told the man to marry a single mom of he knows he's going to be unable to live with the children? He's not doing anybody any favours. What story can the man tell? That he's actually asking the woman to bring home the boy she's the one refusing Assume for a second, the situation was reversed. Say, I'm your friend with a 10 year old child but the mother is no longer in the picture. I'm young and wanted to marry a new wife. But I tell you that the lady says she cannot have my young child around the house when we marry. Are you REALLY going to tell me to marry and FEEL HAPPY to move my Little girl to live with Uncle's and Aunties? Really? You can advise a friend looking at them in the eye? You mean you will do that yourself? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Cherrygold7029(f): 12:01pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Bring the boy to me 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by martowskin1(m): 12:11pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:13pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege: God bless you real good for this response. Honestly, some of the people commenting here, have wickedness flowing in their bloodstream. I know a high court judge who was raised by his step-father. The step-father had other kids, and treated this guy equally with his other children. He spent good money to educate him, and sent him abroad to study. He turned out to be very successful. When the step-father died, the guy was so sad. He spent good money to care for the man when he was ill until he died, and later joined his siblings, in giving their stepfather a befitting burial. I know many industrialists and powerful business men who were brought up by relatives and not even their biological parents, who turned out well. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 12:14pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Mandelus:So because his biological dad has family and I should abandon him with them so they could maltreat him worse than my sister in law. If his family did care about my children they should have come looking for them none of them has bothered and why should I be bothering myself looking for them? I know his family house but am not going and none of my children will go and stay with any of them. At this moment all My son needs is me his mother he doesn’t need anyone else 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by franchasng: 12:20pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Davash222:blood of Zakaria 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 12:21pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Cherrygold7029:Thank you . Have already sort out the problem, he will be home with me tomorrow 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:23pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
GamalNasser:Go back and read the story from beginning and stop asking silly questions. The boy's biological father is in Italy. His relatives are nowhere to be found. Chai! Why do you people like jumping into the middle of a story instead of reading through all the pages, to get the facts? Haba?! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Mstick: 12:28pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
I read a comment of yours castigating women and how they treat their helps and all that and in this thread you're supporting a man that is refusing to allow his wife's child and the half brother of his own kids a home and a family unit just shows how desperately wicked and biased you're. The truth is you may think nairaland comment is just for "fun" but you don't know who's reading and digesting the words you and your likes write on here. So many homeless kids and you see nothing wrong in this young child being a statistic. You say you're married right?! You may think you've got your sh8t figured out but you never know the tide of life. Take it from me. franchasng: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by delishpot: 12:31pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
franchasng: That is your reasoning. Many women who marry such men don't like sharing. They scheme and plan behind each others backs to have his total attention and dedication. Don't be deceived if a woman decides to marry a second hand husband, she knows exactly why she is doing it and it's not simply because she is wired to marry and share him. Men in some communities around the world practice polyandry (excuse the spelling) where 2 or more men marry 1 woman. That men don't share women is a cultural thing. Hence you find some cultures where they see no qualm in an 80 Yr old man having sex with an 8yr old child cos he has "married" her. Culture ingrains what is acceptable or not in people. If you grew up in a place where men are groomed to just be sperm donor and have nothing more to do in life, you will accept it as natural and if you even try to reject it and deviate, you will be punished and forced to tow the line and that is how women have been conditioned from birth by our culture and societies. And yes, I would not advise women to bieve that they are same as men in biology but they are as valuable on earth as any man hence the equality in both. My daughterd are equal in value as my sons. Yet they are different in build. That is a fact every woman should know and teach her kids. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:32pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
AFONAMARO: He knew she had kids before the marriage, and even promised to allow them stay in their home, afterwards. So what do you mean by why should "he shoulder another man's responsibilities?" Is he mad? Why did he agree to marry a single mother in the 1st place, when he knew he could not shoulder her responsibilities? Shioor..... useless stepfather! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Ishilove: 12:39pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:There's an aura of briefness around you |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:40pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Mandelus:He will come back.... in what shape, in what year or in what form? Are you the one going to bring him back? What makes you even think his family will even accept the boy, and will not treat him badly? So should she throw the child into the street, until the so-called useless father comes back? Why are you people so clueless?? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 12:41pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:41pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
femi4:Yes, provided the people who trained them have their best interests at heart and do NOT maltreat them. That is why this stepfather's refusal to allow the mother bring her child in, is reprehensible! Period. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:42pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
martowskin1:Both men are bloody useless cowards. Totally unstable idiotts. Are you happy now?? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AFONAMARO: 12:43pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: He changed his mind. It happens. She should sort her son out without trying to play the emotional game with him. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:45pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
eduman365:Oga, he is an opportunist. Why did he MARRY her, when he knew she had two kids? He cannot deny that he didn't know about the existence of the kids. He had the opportunity to marry a woman WITHOUT kids, but he chose this one. Why?? In Yorubaland, a lot of people bring up children who are extended family members, and they turn out well. Yet, this stepfather is refusing to allow his own wife's child live inside their home. Does he expect her to abandon him on the streets? He is just so selfish.....and yes, he is a clueless opportunist. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:48pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
AFONAMARO:He changed his mind knowing the destiny of a whole human being that is still a child would be affected. He is a useless man....may people change their minds about doing good things for him, whenever he is in need. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Ishilove: 12:49pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
pocohantas:No ugliness at all o. Your skin is as smooth as caramel, your face oval, thine buttocks, gargantuan. You have an aura beauty and briefness 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 12:51pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: When issues get complicated, the woman must find a way to placate the husband into accepting the boy to live with them, but she must also reason along the man's line of thinking... When you quoted me initially you saw what I suggested; taking the boy to a boarding school and having him come home during the holidays. The neighbours are already used to calling baba this, baba that, when another child comes into the equation, questions will arise. I am not against the poor little boy staying with his mother, just trying to see things from the man's perspective. You keep calling him an opportunist, whereas the woman never mentioned that he couldn't feed himself. There is no crime in your wife paying more for family expenses if she has more. Men from this side of the world have been told they must be financially superior to their wives or never marry her and that is why a lot of single ladies find it hard to find a husband, and if they eventually find one who earns lower, the society, people like you will tag them opportunist and gold diggers... It is very unfair. No wonder African men die earlier... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 12:52pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: Hmmm. That's life for you. It's just sad some of us are so wicked towards each other and it seems to be more prominent in this younger generation. Or perhaps it's youth and the inexperiences of life making people say what they know nothing of? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 12:56pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
oodua1stson:Stop talking like a daft person. There are men that have 5 kids, and still marry other women who will come in to take care of such kids. Too many examples of this abound, especially in Muslim families. Even if a man has 3 kids outside, the wife has no choice, but to accept them as long as he told her BEFORE the marriage, about those kids. Go and check. Such things are common everywhere in dis Naija. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by pocohantas(f): 1:00pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Ishilove: I am not TALL, but I am definitely not short or average. I went to represent my boss at a meeting on Thursday, took this pic. Do I look short? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 1:02pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
eduman365: All this long grammar will not change the fact that the man is an opportunist. He AGREED before the marriage, to allow both kids live with them, and even allowed the woman to bring in her daughter. If he was not an opportunist, why did he agree to such terms before marriage? There was something the woman had, that he wanted. He wasn't in love with her. If you truly love someone, their problems become your own problems, and you would find a way to solve it, because of the love you have for them... A man's true colour always comes out when he has a bit of money....so I will always advise women to be careful of marrying men who are poorer, than they are. Their mentality changes once small change, enters their hand. That is when such men will realise their older, richer girlfriends are ugly or unfashionable. Then they start looking for younger, finer, dumber girls to settle down with....dem full ground for Naija. 3 Likes |
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