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Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 11:03am On Mar 15, 2020 |
Feminism is a movement that by it's definition aspires for the goal of achieving equality for women. This movement by it's very definition is sexist and has given rise to misandry in this modern dispensation. Now whilst I do not deny that there are women who are suffering under patriarchal tyranny especially in traditional and Islamic settings and are in dire need of emancipation from child marriages, female vaginal mutilation (FGM) etc. Feminism and feminists (especially in Nigeria) has been very mum about their travails. If we are going to look at it in reality, the textbook definition of feminism is different from the reality of its practice. This has led to the coining of the term "Feminazi" after the exclusivist German national party of the Third Reich headed by Chancellor Adolf Hitler. Whilst the goals of feminism are lofty and idealistic in theory, many Nigerians ladies who claim to be it's proponents and adherents (like Christians and Muslims) have ignored the unsavoury parts of it and have only chosen advance the parts that suit them. For example, feminists may rail against female rape, sexual and psychological abuse, cheating by men, house chores, childbearing etc. but keep quiet or even celebrate when women cheat, rape or abuse their male counterparts etc. In the true spirit of feminism, how many women will gladly become a breadwinner so that the men sit at home, not because they can't find a job but because their wives do not want them to work? In Nigeria, if we still have women who want a man to pay their way, to buy them expensive gifts, to bankroll them, to pay their brideprices (something they should be fighting against), to pay for dates etc. Then we do not have true feminsts in the majority in Nigeria. If feminism has deteriorated to who washes dishes in the home then it should not be taken seriously. There are real feminists in Nigeria but you'll hardly find them chestbeating or spewing expletives on social media and rather sadly they're in the minority. Feminists in Nigeria need to take a step back and ask themselves if feminism is about who does dishes in the home, or if it's about women who are slaving under the boot of patriarchy that may never ever be educated or empowered enough to access social media and understand it's message. Please read and digest this post before rushing to comment. Thank you. 6 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by liljboy(m): 11:43am On Mar 15, 2020 |
The idea of modern feminism is a scam. It tells women they have rights to the traditional male role BUT refusing men any right to the traditional female role. See the outrage if a man tells his wife that he wants to stay @ home, looking after the children while she supports him. Feminists lie that they're advocating for gender EQUALITY but in REALITY they're fighting for gender ADVANTAGE. All feminism has done is give women the BENEFITS of being a man but non of the RESPONSIBILITIES. She won't submit to you BUT will submit the BILLS to you. You cant hold on to gender equality & still expect a man you are dating to foot your bills. Be equal to your bills. It's ridiculous to see women tweet a man should have money yet they're "independent". We are equal now right, so why can't you be the rich one & take care of him. Feminism has misled millions of women to want equality with men & prove that they can do what men can do & do it even better. Feminism has robbed women of their UNIQUENESS & failed to realise that women were created to do what men can't. Women are now more like men without the � Toxic Feminism will destroy chivalry and the kind acts of gentlemanliness. Equality is bad when you want only the benefits, and non of its responsibilities. The equation has never been balanced. Just as a female child is trained to be a puppet, the male child is trained to be a robotic slowpoke who has been programmed to see his ability to provide as his only sense of value. He will continue to be relevant as long as he can make money and provide, he can do anything as long as he has the cash. When a man's sense of value is attached exclusively to what he has to offer, not only has he been partially condemned, he stands a chance of greater condemnation and humiliation when he is unable to deliver. For a male child he has no chance or excuse to fail, and we all can see where that has led the society so far. The pains a male child suffers. We all have a very long way to go, but the first step is elevating SELF LOVE. Preach Self Love across all genders, no one deserves to be caged. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by CuteEmma(f): 11:47am On Mar 15, 2020 |
Op... Nice write-up I must commend.. I believe it should be properly defined. Most people just think it's war against It should focus more on developing women rather than fighting men. It should focus more on educating women against rape and sexual assault than throwing men who rape in jail. It should focus on stopping child marriage rather than supporting the one who killed her husband she was forced to marry.. Feminism should fight for women's right to prevent patriarchy tyranny. As there's this adage which originated from my village, which says that "prevention is better than cure".. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Lawgod247: 11:55am On Mar 15, 2020 |
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Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 11:58am On Mar 15, 2020 |
CuteEmma: Thank you. |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Nobody: 12:04pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Feminists all over the world are the same. I don't understand why you people always like to attack Nigerians. Feminists are a bunch of people who rant about things they know nothing about 3 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Nobody: 12:06pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
CuteEmma:what's tyrannical about patriarchy? |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by CuteEmma(f): 12:11pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Lilbest3:Women not being allowed to go to schools, not being allowed to vote, not being allowed to protest, the list goes on.. Another example is quoting one line in my post that's kinda against modern day feminism ![]() |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 12:20pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Lilbest3: That's because this is where I live and I come in contact with them all the time. One funny part of this we must know is that when we want to talk about the institution of patriarchy. Women are as much a participant as the men are. For example, is FGM carried out by men? Absolutely not. It's women who hold the circumcision razor blade. Have we seen anyone attack such women? Absolutely not. It's the fault of So yes, there are feminists around the world as well as here who do work spreading awareness amongst young girls, providing sanitary pads and sexual education to secondary school girls. But the overwhelming majority are toxic individuals who either have failed in relationships or are unable to hold one down for one reason or the other and are now looking for any single opportunity to attack the opposite gender. One was saying the other day on Facebook that women should be paid by their husbands for childbirth and chores. So in the spirit of equality, how much should men be paid for being providers and protectors of the home? I mean real men, not deadbeat ones. Do you see the irony? In any case advocating for equality is not the best idea. Advocating for equality will further disempower women. Advocating for equity in distribution is the best choice. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 12:24pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
CuteEmma: Now in western or civilized countries, women are allowed to all of these. Women can even become presidents as we've seen in Brazil and Sweden. Feminism in the west doesn't have any concrete reason to agitate about as the system is set up to favour them hence they've delved into trivialities. In the divorce system, no matter who's doing the divorcing, the woman gets custody, a good amount of the marital resources and on top of that, the father has to pay child support and if he defaults, he's going to jail. If a man reports harassment or abuse, he'll need to provide clear evidence but if it's the other way round, he'll be promptly arrested and will still need to provide evidence to clear himself. Where's the inequality for women in that? It's (Feminism) deteriorated into misandry. Hence women who need emancipation are ignored while feminists talk about mansplaining and manspreading. Or why certain pronouns or nouns are used in everyday conversation. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by gbami(m): 12:46pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
atheistandproud:Good write up..The feminist movement are group of persons that just wants to Cherry-Pick Men's Benefits as if they are in a grocery store but refuses the disadvantage of being men... "Give me this and this, that. No, I don't like this, aww take that." There is no feminist in a house fire... Immediately there is a fire emergency, And there is a need to evacuate people... Women and children goes first, Then men last...No feminist including Chimamanda will want to leave last to follow other men... They( She) will drop her feminist Crown to join women and children first... Air-conditioned office?...Yes!...Go work under the sun carrying block ...hell No... Bunch of Cherry Pickers... 8 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Nobody: 1:01pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
CuteEmma:it would have been easier for me if I could record all I wanted to say and upload it here because I can't type the epistle now. There was nothing tyrannical about women not going to school. Women didn't need to go to school. The reason men went to school was because that was the job of men, to somehow find a way to get a job and work for the rest of his life to provide for his wife and family. Women's job wasn't to provide, women's job was to care for the children and build homes. Women still benefit from this up till today which is why they get custody in 98% of divorce. Even till today, in 2020 you can never ever see anyone mocking a woman for not building her own house but a man who can't build his own house is mocked and treated as a nobody which is why men had to do anything; go to school, learn mechanic, do yahoo, push drugs or do anything at all. Women don't need to do any of these all they need is to get married to the right partner and they can live in presidential villa even without doing a single thing or losing one minute of sleep. As for voting, there were certain responsibilities that were attached to voting like registering for draft women normally did not like the draft. In the US now, women can vote without registering for draft but a man who isn't registered for draft can't vote have you seen any single man crying about it? Nobody is allowed to protest. You only do that at your risk. Where's Sowore? All the pictures of people shot dead during protest that litter frontpages, how many women are there? 5 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Nobody: 1:15pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
gbami:look at the new coronavirus bill that was passed in the US Congress, there is a special chapter for provision for women and children you will never hear anybody talk about it. Imagine if Congress dedicate a chapter to specially cater for men during health crisis 6 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 1:23pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
gbami: Aptly put. They want the benefits without the responsibility. It's always something else's fault. With the rise of political correctness in mainstream conversation, if you go opposite the flow, you become a bigot. 7 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Martinez39s(m): 1:33pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
The feminist movement is not about equality. It's a misandric and women supremacy movement. It's a movement that wants the rights and opportunities of men, the privileges of a woman, and the responsibility of none. I always tell men that feminists are not their friends. Feminists are filled with the natural feminine hubris of women superiority and indispensability, and the deep loathing and envy of men and masculinity. Feminists are the embodiment of hypocrisy, self-centeredness, ego, wickedness, and double standards. 11 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by liljboy(m): 1:41pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Martinez39s:but won't push for more female soldiers in the army like their male counterparts... Na the good stuff dey hungry them lol ![]() ![]() 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Martinez39s(m): 1:58pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
liljboy:I stand to be corrected, I read where it was stated that in California, it is mandated by law that 50% of board members in any company must be female. Feminists don't want equality, they crave power even over men. How come there is no law that 50% of coal miners or garbage men should be women? 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by liljboy(m): 2:04pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Martinez39s:exactly what we're debating about. You are seeking for equality but it's my duty to Kneel and propose To woo you To cough out my feelings first To take you out and spend on you To share my salary To know when you need to change your hair To read your minds and moods To walk close to the main road to shield you etc It's laughable 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by gbami(m): 2:14pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Lilbest3: None will protest... |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Idontgiveafuck2: 2:18pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
I DON'T DISCUSS FEMINISM BECAUSE THERE'S NOTHING LIKE IT ANYWHERE....ALL WE HAVE ARE BITTER WOMEN WHO WANT THE EXTINCTION OF MEN FROM THE universe.. 4 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by MJBOLT: 3:02pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
nigerian feminists are men haters Lilbest3: |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Nobody: 3:28pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
MJBOLT:they are all the same 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by kongolo(m): 4:05pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Martinez39s:Men in the west fell for the shit tests of the feminists/women in their societies.Let the men in those societies face the dire consequences of their silly actions since they lack backbones 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Martinez39s(m): 4:17pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
MJBOLT:Feminists everywhere are the same. Feminism is a global phenomenon. |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by angelfallz(m): 4:39pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
kongolo: Lol. it is gradually happening here in nigeria 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by atheistandproud(m): 4:53pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
angelfallz: Like play like play |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by freethinker01: 5:58pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Martinez39s:The ones over there(western feminist) there are worse. Divorce u and take half of your possession. I read how trashy they treat their man on a daily basis, I just cringe and cower, they are despicable. 3 Likes
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Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Martinez39s(m): 6:26pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
freethinker01:Gbam. |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Trex4(m): 6:41pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Funny how feminism says it's not the right of a woman to take care of the kids and cook, but I've never seen any red pill or malenism tell men not to provide for their families. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Magnoliaa(f): 4:15am On Mar 21, 2020 |
![]() Wtf? See how worked up they all are lmao. 2 Likes |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Ogbotobo77(m): 10:51am On Dec 22, 2020 |
atheistandproud:No truer words have been said OP! SPOT ON!....personally I advocate for equal opportunity for both sexes,but that isn't the case anymore,this women want equality of outcome which isn't possible, that's what's happened in Scandinavian countries.they're trying to make d outcome of both sexes equal.. That's y there is a gender equality paradox over there..u can't maximize choice and opportunity and expect equal outcome,personality differences widens btw men and women that's y they have implemented quota systems,political correctness and affirmative action to achieve their aim..still it won't work. |
Re: Feminism And Nigerian Relationships by Shortyy(f): 11:25am On Dec 22, 2020 |
Keep crying. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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