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Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Arsenate(m): 9:58pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Belafonte:Fuuckk off man she's mine. Have had my eyes on her |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Yewandequeen(f): 10:23pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
healthserve:hi hi. I v been around, trust ure good? Mathemacian? Lol wat do I know? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by healthserve(m): 10:35pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by emmaodet: 10:40pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Over the years, men have always been sweating, thinking and running around about what to do to keep a woman. Is it sooooo stressful? Have you ever wondered why women don't think same? Bro, live your life to the fullest, always put yourself first and be selfish. You are the one marrying with your money, let the woman be the one running around to impress and keep you. Life is stressful enough, don't let us add to it bcus of sexx, it's not really worth it. As a rule, i prefer doing my own homework of been comfortable, that way the women will be the one obsessed with how to impress and keep me in marriage or relationship not the other way round. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 10:51pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
emmaodet: Master Pae Mei approves. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Amanda4life: 11:34pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
GreatResearcher: He has explained everything. Study the person and give respect. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Amanda4life: 11:39pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by GreatResearcher: 12:10am On Mar 16, 2020 |
faithfull18:For future purpose' how does it mean i want to marry? And yeah i would want to marry for 1 reason. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:46am On Mar 16, 2020 |
healthserve: In the first instance, a toxic partner shouldn't be married. What's the point marrying someone you can't love wholly and treat right? A woman who's treated like a queen will never perceive her man as weak, except she's inherently damaged or has never been loved right. The thing about treating a woman right is that she'll submit easily and return your care in a hundred folds. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:51am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: The words in caps drew my attention. When y'all call yourselves feminists so proudly, it makes me wonder. Is it some form of fancy movement you feel like identifying with? Are you a Christian? Do you realize that feminism and a marriage the way God ordained it to be can't work? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:53am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: It would seem that they learnt what they should have done after it was all lost. It happens. Didn't they say experience is the greatest teacher? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:56am On Mar 16, 2020 |
GreatResearcher: "I'm," please. Not "am." |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 4:00am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Belafonte: So many things about marriage aren't easy or necessarily convenient, but we have to do them, anyway. The effort has to be made. So what if the wife works, too? Is she allowed to come home at whatever time is convenient for her just because she commutes Sangotedo-VI? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 4:09am On Mar 16, 2020 |
emmaodet: You shouldn't get married with this kind of warped mindset. Sometimes, y'all on this Nairaland will be saying things like you're agents of darkness. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by healthserve(m): 5:01am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO: Tired |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 6:54am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:That's right, but the way I see it...death is the only finality. Since they have finally learned what they should have done and they're not dead yet, shouldn't they go back to being married to put it to practice? 2 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 7:07am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:But is he not right? A man does everything to toast you, buy you stuff, take care of you, then he engages you, still does everything to marry you and give you the wedding you desire. The honeymoon is on him, the bulk of the finances inside the marriage even if you work, is supposed to come from him, etc.. I can go on and on. So why shouldn't the woman be the one running around to impress and keep him? Or do you want local man to die young after doing all the above and still running around to impress you? In fact, give us just one reason why a man who has paid his dues should still work overtime to keep a woman. No need to get sentimental, just give us one reason. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by telemployer: 7:31am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Money doesn't keep a marriage , what keeps marriage is commitment , are both partners really committed to make to make it last? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by telemployer: 7:33am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Money doesn't keep a marriage , what keeps marriage is commitment , are both partners really committed to make to their marriage last? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:38am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Did you read where he said the man should be very selfish? That's a most potent ingredient for a marriage to fail. And about impressing, are you really sure men try to impress their wives? What I see most often is the wife living the rest of her life to please hubby, children, the in-laws... 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:41am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Perhaps it's too late to go back. It's already broken. Their case is one of the reasons I feel divorce should be a very last resort. The procedure for divorce should be made more stringent. If people knew that once they get married, an escape would be really difficult, they would be more deliberate in ensuring they marry the right person... and then making the marriage work. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Opiizy(m): 7:58am On Mar 16, 2020 |
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Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 8:00am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:1. I figure you may have given a whole other meaning to selfish different from what he meant, but I'll let him clarify that for you. 2. That's how it's meant to be as far as Nigerian marriages are concerned. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 8:06am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:Only in death can anything be too late. Whatever they have learned is irrelevant if they absolutely can not be together again. 2 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:13am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: Hahahahahahahaha! Such jokes this tiring Monday morning. How old are you? 10? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:17am On Mar 16, 2020 |
healthserve: Very true. But again, why would a man marry a toxic woman? Anybody that doesn't give me peace is out of the window fast. I don't have the energy or patience for drama or as it said in pidgin 'dem say, dem say'. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by healthserve(m): 8:27am On Mar 16, 2020 |
bukatyne: You don't get the point. How would you know the one you're treating with all the niceties in the world today won't transform into a monster tomorrow is the point. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:30am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: That's how it's meant to be? I won't tackle that. But if that's what it's meant to be, then it means you agree that's what's obtainable in Nigerian homes. It means the wife is already selfless. If she's selfless, what's the need... what justification does the man have to be selfish? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:42am On Mar 16, 2020 |
healthserve: Often times, There are markers of people's behavior. For instance, if someone is a bully or timid, you know they have low self esteem. It is in your interest to help them boost their self esteem and/or research on the personality traits of low Esteemed people and see if you can deal. If a person believes in traditional roles, you find out the likely expectations and roles and see if they align with your own vision of marriage. Etc. Etc. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 8:58am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:You're finally agreeing with the guy's initial stance, but only having a problem with the 'selfish' part of his comment. Women should be the ones doing more to impress and keep the marriage given the cultural dynamic of our marriage system. As for what justification a man has to be selfish, he has none... but again, I think you misinterpreted what he meant by being selfish. My interpretation of it is that a man should be selfish by putting his own mental and emotional health first. Not overworking himself running around to impress and keep his marriage when it's the woman who should be doing that because she has more to lose (the realistic context here is on Nigerian marriages). It's not that he should not make his marriage work, but he mustn't do it at the expense of his peace of mind. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 9:08am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: This view of yours just reeks of unhealthy patriarchy. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 9:20am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:That view of mine is the reality of the country you live in, whether you like to admit it or not. I don't exist on a fantasy alternate reality. Watching Hollywood movies and trying to act western should not automatically change how you perceive the world around you. The best you can do is hope that you find someone who has the exact kind of western-based ideology that you do...and then hope to God that all his friends and family around him are also like him, or else they will be able to make him think/act like them and you'll be back facing the same unhealthy patriarchy inside your own marriage. 6 Likes |
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