dominique:
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Why does it pain you people so much when a woman posts that she makes her own money and spends for the family? Is it because it doesn't conform with your narrative that women are money hungry leeches that bring nothing to the table? Men come online all the time to post that they bear the family expenses, did you ever call them rude or proud? FYI, a lot of households are being funded or co-funded by the wife and the women have the rights to come online to post about it. If it bothers you so much, rat poison is just N100

Vyvyanvyvy:

Thank you my sister this is what I will do for him while he is waiting to start schooling, I will be spending more times with him to build up his mind so he could be happy again

crackkhaus:

Good one.

But what did your husband say/do after he saw you had brought your son to the house?

Your story is not complete without this information.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He didn’t do anything to him when we got home he was in the parlour watching tv and my son greeted him he stares at him and didn’t respond back. When my son was playing with both his sisters he tried to keep our 2 years old daughter away from him he took her to the bedroom and locked the door I decided not to say anything because I knew he wouldn’t keep away from him for long because he won’t take her to work with him and after like an hour my baby was crying to go in the parlour because she wanted to be with me and her siblings so he let her in and locked himself in the room. I decided to ignore his childish behaviour and slept in the same room with my children. Nothing bad has happened really

Digmygold:


Sh*t happens.

There's one Ubunja moniker on this forum. He gets women pregnant, dupes them of their hard earned money and takes a walk because senseless idiots will always think it's the woman's fault. Good thing is Karma is teaching him a lesson. Worse thing is this animal was brought up by a single mother, hates his father like hell yet his past time is the raw wickedness of turning innocent women into single mothers.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He didn’t do anything to him when we got home he was in the parlour watching tv and my son greeted him he stares at him and didn’t respond back. When my son was playing with both his sisters he tried to keep our 2 years old daughter away from him he took her to the bedroom and locked the door I decided not to say anything because I knew he wouldn’t keep away from him for long because he won’t take her to work with him and after like an hour my baby was crying to go in the parlour because she wanted to be with me and her siblings so he let her in and locked himself in the room. I decided to ignore his childish behaviour and slept in the same room with my children. Nothing bad has happened really

Jman06:
And the single mothers were DUMMIES to have allowed themselves to be impregnated and used by the irresponsible man

I'll start taking ladies serious the day they start taking responsibilities for their actions and not blame men for whatever happens to them

Blessing642:
What is the brouhaha about a woman been a single parent. There are single fathers too.

Some women were victim of circumstances, some were in an abusive marriage, got divorced/separated and chose to be single. Some are even widows.

Amberon11:
That is the nature of your own mother, not women.
There is a 15 year old living with us, he is not our relative but we take him as a member of the family. My cousin also lived with us and is in university today. My mom has been a mother to both of them so speak for your mother only.

crackkhaus:

Lol, this your husband sef. Such a passive response given the way you described how vehemently he opposed this new arrangement.

I thought he would be bringing the house down by now.

Perhaps he's really not as bad as you have successfully painted him to be here.

sweetdude001:

Nigerians r so stupid, attaching sentiment to every little thing, she successfully painted d guy bad, right I even feel d husband didn't really refuse as she claimed, maybe d man jus ignored when she suggested bringing her corrupt boy... D man's action shows wat his was trying to protect in d 1st place n if u all blame a man for protecting his own den Oyo is ur case..
Madam ur boy is now back home, do d needful, if DAT boy corrupts d oda kids den u go no say ur husband get werey

Jonathan:

That stupid line of "man up" has put many men in trouble. You should please steak it into your black smehlie ass and NEVER use it again.

CeterisXVII:


God bless you big time, every single day!! I have seen those who would gladly bring up kids of extended family members, for many years....and those kids turned out well.

I don't know why the children of wickedness are now saying a mother must not be allowed to bring home, her biological son to care for him!

sweetdude001:

Nigerians r so stupid, attaching sentiment to every little thing, she successfully painted d guy bad, right I even feel d husband didn't really refuse as she claimed, maybe d man jus ignored when she suggested bringing her corrupt boy... D man's action shows wat his was trying to protect in d 1st place n if u all blame a man for protecting his own den Oyo is ur case..
Madam ur boy is now back home, do d needful, if DAT boy corrupts d oda kids den u go no say ur husband get werey

Oyindidi:

Jman06:
But honestly speaking bro, a 12years old boy shouldn't be described as a thief. He's just suffering from juvenile delinquencies which will pass with time. We all passed through that phase.

I'm not against the boy at all even though I'm against marrying a single mum. My initial anger on this thread was with the man who married a single mum despite knowing her status and even agreed to accept the woman and her baggage but is now trying to renege on the agreement.

sweetdude001:

Olosho, u don born 2 kids for 5men u kon dey look for man to treat u like a queen.

Oyindidi:
Here is a tank for your tears
You think sey olosho na insult my brother na compliment that one be now

Psoul:


You are right.
The little money she is making is making her feel that whatever she says, the man must do.
If she feels she can handle all her bills, then she should go get her own house and live with her kids.

martowskin1:


Men make una hustle o, this is the kind of insult u get from a woman, when u are broke and can't fulfill ur husband and fatherly role.

No matter how broke u are, don't let a woman pay ur rent, don't allow a woman feed u, inshort, don't allow a woman pay ur bills

If u let them, u have totally lost ur voice in that relationship.

Secondly, this woman issue should be a lesson to every single guy out there reading.

Single mothers have baggages, don't allow love cover ur brain. Single mothers need husband and fathers for their kids.

Ask ur self, can I deal with it, can I handle the excesses. Can u accept the fact that her kids(children of another man) happiness come b4 urs.

This shit is very deep, if u can't absorb all the load of single mothers, Mr men,, don't venture in unless u are ready to become single father ur self....

kaziblake:
You people are pained because she pays her own bill herself including her hubby own�

Dexlomo:


Are you pained you can't just grow up to become a man in all sense of what it means? You don't need to hate the player, hate the game. I would tell a fellow man as me to man up. I have in many situations and I have never regretted it. It has given me much joy to do that again and again.

Oyindidi:
And your balls are getting smaller cos you're crying right now. Drop your tears here

dayorich:
Back to sender.
I rebuke you in Jesus Name (Amen).

Jonathan:

Shut your shǐt

What the fûck does it mean

Who's the fool that defines what it means?

You better woman Up and start using your brain.

Jonathan:

Shut your shǐt

What the fûck does it mean

Who's the fool that defines what it means?

You better woman Up and start using your brain.

Purifiedsoul:
Does that make sense to you?
She don't know where his relatives are ahbi?

revolt:
madam you dont have to alienate or ignore the kids before your spouse can come first. Whether africa or Asia, if you dont put your spouse 1st, the kids will even be forced to choose btw both parents at old age based on who they think favored them more. So your dad took you guys first above his wife or vice versa....... madam grow up.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He didn’t do anything to him when we got home he was in the parlour watching tv and my son greeted him he stares at him and didn’t respond back. When my son was playing with both his sisters he tried to keep our 2 years old daughter away from him he took her to the bedroom and locked the door I decided not to say anything because I knew he wouldn’t keep away from him for long because he won’t take her to work with him and after like an hour my baby was crying to go in the parlour because she wanted to be with me and her siblings so he let her in and locked himself in the room. I decided to ignore his childish behaviour and slept in the same room with my children. Nothing bad has happened really

crackkhaus:

Lol, this your husband sef. Such a passive response given the way you described how vehemently he opposed this new arrangement.

I thought he would be bringing the house down by now.

Perhaps he's really not as bad as you have successfully painted him to be here.

clintwine:
I understand the feeling you have for your son especially if he is suffering.
The bolded above lies your problem and Solution. Don't let pride deprieve you of your joy and your son's future.

There is what is called co-parenting. No matter how angry you are, don't let your child suffer especially for the sins of the parents.
A Child is raised by a village and not one person.
Whether you like it or not, the father or the kids will look for themselves, when they are older and you won't have control over it.

Get in touch with his father and in a calm way explain what is going on. It's both your responsibilities to stop another anini in the making