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Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Chimasoka: 9:29am On Mar 16, 2020 |
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Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by healthserve(m): 10:12am On Mar 16, 2020 |
bukatyne: Roough estimates. Anyone life offers a partner that gives peace don't know what's up. To e marriage is luck, pure luck. This being said, like i say always, na bad woman them dey take sabi beta wife, na bad husband dem dey take no good one. Sometimes people dn't know the value of what they have till they see another hellish being. In all, to me, marriage is luck, and like you said all of these are randomized estimates. The angel today can transform to the devil next week 4 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Belafonte(m): 10:20am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO: Will she teleport? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by kapelvej: 10:23am On Mar 16, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:Nothing to add. Don't ever leave the leadership of a home to a woman 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Belafonte(m): 10:23am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Arsenate: Awo moju ni epa inu igo fun adiye. Amadioha strike your eyes with apollo dia. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by kapelvej: 10:25am On Mar 16, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:Lies. Marry a wo.an that is not content and see how bitter marriage is |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Belafonte(m): 10:27am On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Great point. They should whatever lessons they claimed to have learnt to the test. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by GreatResearcher: 10:58am On Mar 16, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:Why should a woman be treated like a queen? 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Bomgirl(f): 11:51am On Mar 16, 2020 |
healthserve: Stop calling me. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by healthserve(m): 2:18pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
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Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Kamani8: 6:54pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
GreatResearcher:Simple. Because the man wants to be treated like a king. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by GreatResearcher: 7:05pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
Kamani8:How is a king treated? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 7:37pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
crackkhaus: @bold: Thank God you know it's unhealthy. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Arsenate(m): 8:46pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
Belafonte:Za mu gani ai. Wannan fada da ni da kai ya Fara kenan. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 11:46pm On Mar 16, 2020 |
bukatyne:Well I just basically repeated her words. I don't believe it's unhealthy, at least not in the sense that it is destructive. As much as you people will not admit it, you are benefitting from patriarchy, she is benefitting from it, women are benefitting from it. The alternative is not something any of you want, let's not kid ourselves. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Belafonte(m): 10:36am On Mar 17, 2020 |
Arsenate: Osese bere. Waa to maa so payan |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Kamani8: 1:24pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
GreatResearcher:Sorry I quoted u in d first place. Error |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:58pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Enlighten me, How do I, Bukatyne, benefit from the Nigerian version of patriarchy? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 9:16pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
bukatyne:Simple. You live in Nigeria, you were born and grew up in Nigeria, your socialization and education is Nigerian-based, you got married by Nigerian cultural standards, you're not restricted from any movement, your rights are not trampled on, you're not dead yet... all of this has happened and still happening within this so-called unhealthy Nigerian version of a patriachal system. I also know for a fact that as you are now, you don't practice the alternative which is matriarchy, in your home, in your family (extended & nuclear), in your workplace, in your social interactions and gatherings... so unless you're suffering some kind of life-threatening mentally-degrading social injustice right now in your life Bukatyne, then the patriarchy has been of immense benefit to you as far as your earthly existential journey is concerned. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 9:43pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
crackkhaus: These are not personalized benefits of 'Nigerian patriarchy' neither are they for women only. This thread has deviated from the point I was trying to bring out. |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 9:53pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
bukatyne:But with benefits to women nonetheless... And my point was made. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by emmaodet: 9:54pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Also, the so called patriarchy, backward african mentality, uncivilized and oppression of women are also the factors that created a way or strategy for men to be backward, uncivilized and stupid anyway by putting a gf on monthly allowance, coming back to nigeria to pick a local wife to UK, canada, US etc, sending gfs/women to school on sponsor, catering for inlaws before and in marriage thereby bringing wife brothers and sisters to home, the man if bouyant sponsoring them, giving inlaws financial support, men asses been hurled to war front to defend the soooo called ungrateful women etc and the list goes on and on and on. They are only blind and too selfish to see the gains outweighs the loss but has most women think, they all want it all, always gain, gain and gain but No loss. By the time they get this civilized life they all are yearning for, they will all look back 50 years from now and really appreciate the so called Patriarchy they all are demonizing now. They all want Freedom, they all want to be free from been accountable to men so that they can live their life the way they want and to the fullest. Unfortunately, Freedom is not that cheap as they thought, freedom is Expensive because when freedom goes into a room, Commitment exits the room at the same time. They both can't be in the room together. If a boy is crying for freedom from his parents so that he won't be accountable to them, so that he can have his apartment and go out and in whenever he likes, then he should also be prepared to feed himself, pay nepa bills, house rent, clothing etc because Freedom is Never Free nor Cheap. ubuja Martinez39s Pansophist franchasng 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 9:57pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
emmaodet: If catering for one's bills is the exit to Nigerian patriarchy, many women have exited the door tete! |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 10:04pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
emmaodet:Splendid submission bro.. It's typical dissociative cognitive dissonance that is the problem of those Nigerian women who complain about patriarchy. Offer them the chance to experiment with the alternative, and they would rather die than practice matriarchy. Truly, this freedom they seek is too expensive... even for them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 10:06pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
bukatyne:With everything that guy typed up there, the best you could do is to simplify it all to just catering for bills? Do you even know what matriarchy implies? |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 10:09pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
emmaodet: @crackkhaus, what did the highlighted speak to? And I am talking 'Nigerian patriarchy' |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 10:16pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
bukatyne:The first set of bold letters have absolutely nothing to do with bills. Those are cultural behaviours/expectations foistered on men by a patriarchal system, which women enjoy. Only the second set dealt with bills...which is why I said, how is it you summarized the entirety of that post into just bills? That's besides the point anyway. The important question is, are you as a woman ready to practice matriarchy in all its healthy glorious beautiful form? This is what I want to know. 2 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by Martinez39s(m): 10:25pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
bukatyne:You are just rotting in the victim mentality. Emmaodet and crackkhaus are spot on. You bleat and whine about patriarchy (which you cunningly changed to "Nigerian patriarchy'' when confronted by emmaodet) like all feminists. If I may ask, 1) what rights and opportunities do YOU not have under this "Nigerian patriarchy" that Nigerian men have? 2) In what way does this "Nigerian patriarchy" prevent you from making it in life and being who you want to be as a woman? You women always create something to whine about and make yourselves victims even when there is no reason to. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by crackkhaus: 10:30pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
Martinez39s:Maybe PrimadonnaO can also help shed some light on this. She's the one who first called it unhealthy.. Perhaps she might be willing to practice matriarchy instead. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 10:38pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
crackkhaus: You sure? Sponsoring a girlfriend in school, marrying a wife, putting girlfriend/wife on allowance, catering for in-laws etc. while cultural expectations all revolve around money. If the woman in question is willing to spend her own money and do those stuffs, what other 'cultural obligation' does this man have? It is not about what I want or do not; God has instituted already Patriarchy. I studied what it meant according to the Creator and married someone we both aligned. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Woman In Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:45pm On Mar 17, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Lol. Please, leave me be. I've had a long day. Going to bed. |
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