Oyindidi:
I don't understand

Davash222:

Maybe you should ask... Never mind.

Oyindidi:
Mind explaining to me? I'm waiting

Davash222:

You go wait taya.
Lol

Oyindidi:
Like you wait tire cos the woman husband no go strike
Explain joor!

Davash222:

DM that woman, she will explain to you personally what she's going through now.

Oyindidi:
Nothing dey happen

Davash222:

Life wasn’t easy for Linda hence she developed herself first before having a baby.
After having Children from different men, now you want her to develop herself on a beer budget.
Let’s be realistic here, please. We’re adults.

CeterisXVII:

If you cannot offer a sensible solution, why not keep quiet? Must you utter nansense?

CeterisXVII:

If you cannot offer a sensible solution, why not keep quiet? Must you utter nansense?

Psoul:


I don't want to keep responding to some of these little girls who have bn quoting me up and down especially @LadySarah cos I have seen that they lack common wisdom and understanding.

The fail to see the main issue in this whole thing. They believe that the problem with the woman is that the man was angry with her wife cos she is making money.

I told them severally that that was not the problem with the man. The man was just scared of the stories he heard about the boy but the woman, instead of working on the man based on that, she was telling the man that she has enough money that will take care of the boy.

Well, she has decided to force the boy on the man. Reasonable men have a way to handle such women. It's not by fighting the woman. The woman and other low brain Nairaland girls will be hailing the woman and feeling that she has won the battle.

What will happen if there is a case where a presence of a man is needed in that boy's life and the man refuse to stand in?
What of in case of some traditional rite?

The woman has succeeded in creating a kind of enmity bw the man and that innocent boy. Also, as a woman, I know she will be feeding the boy on how the step dad hates him to an extent he refused to let her bring him to the house. This will make the boy to love her mother and hate the step dad.
When this fire starts burning, the woman will be the one that will feel the heat more.

The woman failed to work together with her husband to have a mutual agreement on bringing the boy home. This would have helped to creat a better bond btw the boy and the step dad.

yeyeosoronga:


You're talking of traditional rites?
Don't be funny please.
You say she's feeding the boy on how the step dad hates him? How do you know that?
And you say she has created enmity between him and stepdad? How did she do that?
To be honest, I think the step dad truly hates the boy and I'm not even a family member.
Hates him enough to see him homeless when his mother can take care of him.
So if I were her, I would watch my son like a hawk when with his step dad.

kid7soccer:
are you okay. Are you the op ? Hunger is a bad thing chia.

Davash222:
DM that woman, she will explain to you personally what she's going through now.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

GoodFaith:


hopefully after this pregnancy
you will stop being baby factory

veykey:
4 kids, with 2 being for her husband and that's baby factory? I never knew tell me more.

silibaba:
still cant phantom why women cant stay away from premarital sex.

Just imagine marrying second hand woman

loshybab:

It's quite disturbing. Yet,they will never admit majority of the societal problems we all are having now is born outta premarital pleasure.

More worrying is d fact that it's not gonna stop anytime soon,rather on the exponential increase.

Our society is in for some big shit.

yeyeosoronga:


Are women sleeping with themselves?
Who are they sleeping with then?
Perhaps the group more concerned about women's virginity and body counts should do something about this?
Women don't mind losing their virginity and having as many body counts as they want , so don't ask them to do anything about it.

loshybab:

@first bolded, the earlier women realise they call the shots in this premarital sex of a thing,the better for us all. No man or very few will force you to do what you don't want,if you say NO and firmly stand by it,but the warped mentality of thinking you could trap men with some mid-body orifice or force yourself on him some with pregnancy is the bane of it all.

@the second emboldened, the first step to this decadence is not believing your virginity is your dignity and pride as a woman,once lost on a cheap,forget it. That's why we found ourselves in this sorry situation. It's quite pathetic.

I still maintain women wield the most power,and until they realise this and begin to use it in the most subtle manner,the ugly situation cannot be remedied.

loshybab:

@first bolded, the earlier women realise they call the shots in this premarital sex of a thing,the better for us all. No man or very few will force you to do what you don't want,if you say NO and firmly stand by it,but the warped mentality of thinking you could trap men with some mid-body orifice or force yourself on him some with pregnancy is the bane of it all.

@the second emboldened, the first step to this decadence is not believing your virginity is your dignity and pride as a woman,once lost on a cheap,forget it. That's why we found ourselves in this sorry situation. It's quite pathetic.

I still maintain women wield the most power,and until they realise this and begin to use it in the most subtle manner,the ugly situation cannot be remedied.

silibaba:
still cant phantom why women cant stay away from premarital sex.

Just imagine marrying second hand woman

loshybab:
It's quite disturbing. Yet,they will never admit majority of the societal problems we all are having now is born outta premarital pleasure.

More worrying is d fact that it's not gonna stop anytime soon,rather on the exponential increase.

Our society is in for some big shit.

CeterisXVII:


Are the women' having sex by themselves? Is it not the men that chase these women up and down to have sex with them, by using sugary words and toasting skills? How can you now blame a woman for engaging in premarital sex, and ignore the man's active participation in such a thing?

You people are just myopic jokers....mtcheeew

yeyeosoronga:


[s]Women want to have sex, so they are using the powers you claim they have to do so. Simple as ABC.
I can never see an anatomical piece of mucosal tissue/hymen as my pride or dignity.
NEVER.
There are more things I take my pride in, and that I find more dignifying. My hymen was never one.
It seems some of you think you love women more than they love themselves. Stop feeling that way, because you can never love me more than I love myself.
Perhaps for your own sake, you may continue to preach about keeping my virginity, but don't say it's for my pride and dignity. I'm not keeping it because you want me to, as it's got nothing to do with you in the first place.
If it affects you so much, then work on those taking away the virginity. Majority of women don't care, as most feel it doesn't define them.
Sex is enjoyable, whether premarital or in marriage. Let women also enjoy sex, as men have been enjoying it too. If you want women to stop, kindly ask men to keep their peepees in their trouzees.[/s]

TheArchangel:
The excuses men gives to support their wanton and uncontrolled sexual lifestyle. It itches the hell out of my brain.
Your post just refer to all men as brainless lots. Goats too, you will always lock your barns or they will mumuishly knock it over to eat your yam.

loshybab:

With all these grammar you wrote up there,it still doesn't change the fact that little piece of mucosal tissue deserves to be kept for the right man and broken at the right time. It remains your pride and dignity,albeit,not the only one. It's even better you have other dignifying things,but pls,don't downplay the God-given one.

No one is stopping women from having sex,it's been ordained. All I'm saying is DONT do so under some premarital conditions. That simple misuse of power is why many of you cried,still crying and will cry foul when the consequences stare at you in the face.

Psoul:


My dear, I can believe from the way you talk, you have no experience of what you are arguing.
By the time you grow up and stand on the same platform with other matured men, you will start seeing things the way we see them.
Whatever we say now will make no sense to you or it may sound Greek to you cos your brain and inexperience cannot handle nor decode it. It's not ur fault. It'e the level u are now. We were once like u.

Let me still help u clear ur eyes a little more (though you may still not see any point in this).
I talked about traditional rite, you termed it funny.
Well, remember that the child we are talking about here is a MALE child.
Remember the child is an African and also in an African country.
A point will come when the question of "who is ur father" will come up.
If there is a very good cordial relationship bw him and his step father, the weight of that question will be lesser.(Let me stop for far for that)

You asked hw I know that the woman has bn has bn feeding the boy with bad things about the man. Well, I never directly accused the woman of that. I said, based on what experience had taught us concerning this kind of woman, that there is tendency of her doing that. From experience, when there is this kind of problem, the tendency of the woman spoiling the mind of the child just to gain his/her love and to show the child that she is the one suffering cos of him/her is high.

The way the woman created enmity bw the boy and the man is by imposing the boy on the man instead of working hard to get the man on her track and making him do what she want him to do. I don't want to beliv u that the man hated the boy.

asksteve:



U have spoken very matured.
It truly is not easy for immature minds to graps what u've said but its plain truth.

My sister in-law has similar problem and to tell the truth, the boy currently lives alone in their family house in the village.
Out of fear from all the stories i heared about his escapades, I refused to accept him, and likewise his uncle and co.

Now you'll be tempted to ask, how did it get to this?

From what my mother in law (in her eighties) whom the boy stayed with told me it was due to the non challant attitude of her daughter.
She said when the grand son started showing signs of sturbonness n co, she would send for the mother to come and scold him but she would respond that they should deal with themselves. This happened for years until the boy got to the point he started threatening and hurting his grand ma.
A particular incident occurred that we had to evacuate my mother in law from their family house and she stayed with us for almost three years before going to her sons place.

So blaming OPs' relatives is wrong, she is to blame as in when she started hearing of how her son was been maltreated she should have move him then, instead she allowed it to deteriorate.
Who will want to accomodate him now that things have gone haywire?

Forcing him on her husband will only strain their relationship. The man might not say anything now but it would have been better she got his consent before bringing him into their home.
Yes she futes 70℅ of the bills but it doesn't give her the right to take decisions into her hands.

My advice to her, go on your knees, beg your husband until he succombs, it might take more than we think or maybe less but don't stop till he succombs. Else its bye bye to that once loving home.

Wishing u the best.