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Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by OlawaleBammie: 8:13am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by Ryocaj(m): 8:13am On Mar 25, 2020 |
I av decided not to Marry.. nobody is loyal.. 90% of d marriages dating back 2 2010 I know of has crashed.. y waste money on something that won't last... n I also get tired of relationships quickly.. I will just do baby mama we I am ready.. Naija women nowadays r not marriageable.. they r not even gf material.. they just wanna bend over n make money to buy make ups, shoes, clothes, bags, live fast life, slay n oppress themselves... Except God appears 2 me or shows me himself live n in HD a particular woman 2 marry.. |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by CsRockefeller(m): 8:14am On Mar 25, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO: Lol Wish you the best is all I can say. The heart is truly the foundation for the issues of life. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:22am On Mar 25, 2020 |
OlawaleBammie: Awesome. So you're not that kind of patriarchal man. Let me clarify that I think love is selfless. It means for me that, when I love a person, I'll put their needs above mine. It only becomes a problem when the other person feels it is his right that I put his needs above mine. As for the cooking part, cooking is something I enjoy doing. If I can cook for myself, it costs me nothing to add extra for whoever is available to eat. A thougutful person, someone with common sense should be able to help out with things within their capabilities, without being told to. Again, problem arises when the other person feels ENTITLED to being cooked for, or assisted with chores... and always demands it. So yeah, we're on the same page. I agree with your post. 2 Likes |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by PAQ(m): 8:22am On Mar 25, 2020 |
"This year, next year or never!" |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by ordovicianonly(f): 8:24am On Mar 25, 2020 |
vickydankal:Sis I can relate with you cos am also on the same page with you . I wish I had married earlier too which means I would have given birth earlier and by the time I am 45 years my children are already 20 (undergraduate/graduate) . By 50 years I will just be resting without thinking about pampers money ,all the same God have the best plan for me 2 Likes |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by Priest111(m): 8:26am On Mar 25, 2020 |
This very year 2020...when I will be 30
by God's grace ❗ |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by smiliyB(f): 8:27am On Mar 25, 2020 |
ehix89:Ehh okay, no problem. |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by unibenakpos(m): 8:31am On Mar 25, 2020 |
All4good:we never achieve anything na marriage... you see 30yrs old guy that does not have a good job ( teaching job ) is saying he his old enough to marry. Age alone is not the only factor to consider when getting married. the new family, the new father and mother, for me 35 is the age i will marry even if i get enough money at age 30. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by silaxx(m): 8:31am On Mar 25, 2020 |
vickydankal: 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by Ginaz(f): 8:31am On Mar 25, 2020 |
I’m 25yrs old but I don’t look my age . I look like 19-21 and it’s amusing when people ask me if I have written waec. The thing dey vex me eh I’d like to get married 26 or 27. So age is still very much on my side, in fact too much sef. I have a voice of a 10yrs old child . I used to be upset but God has blessed me too much with good genes cos people don’t ask me when I’m gonna get married, no talk of “you’re getting old o marry na?” . Except my dad of course. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by funmercy1(f): 8:40am On Mar 25, 2020 |
dadarasak:se1 told me I can find such in nollywood |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by King2019(m): 8:41am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Chi59: I sight you oo |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by funmercy1(f): 8:43am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Ginaz:it does not help,I am 30 now most guys 26 to 27 na dem the come toast you .......one told me I look 22 I carry hand draw e ear...... |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by EnterpriseMan(m): 8:46am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Depends. Right now, i don't really see the need, but that might change later on. if i am fortunate enough to have a kid beforehand, i don't think i will get married |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by OlawaleBammie: 8:49am On Mar 25, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:Lol, but i love oldies alot, like evergreen music, ancient ways and d likes but i try as much as posible to mix it with modern day protocols. Let me clarify that I think love is selfless. It means for me that, when I love a person, I'll put their needs above mine. It only becomes a problem when the other person feels it is his right that I put his needs above mine.Yea, absolutely yes, infact it wil later be a burden to you at the long run. As a lady, u re not obligated to do so AS I TINK OO. Tho at times, compromise is inevitable and dis is to both parties, cus there are times in which one needs wil supersede the other's and d one with minor needs would hav to compromise. This is not mumurity but exhibition of ur professed love. As for the cooking part, cooking is something I enjoy doing. If I can cook for myself, it costs me nothing to add extra for whoever is available to eat. A thougutful person, someone with common sense should be able to help out with things within their capabilities, without being told to. Again, problem arises when the other person feels ENTITLED to being cooked for, or assisted with chores... and always demands it. The problem is Vague entitlement we have. Buti oo, me i dont like cooking oo, in fact i hate entering the kitchen, if i marry and u find me in ur kitchen just know that i went there to steal ur meats and friend plantain Rsason why is said dis is cus relationship is always different from marriage, even in marriage i dont tink i need the entitlement cus i hate it, but dont expect me to go to kitchen oo cus a no sabi cook. If u find me in ur kitchen, na ur meat a go thief chop o |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by OlawaleBammie: 8:52am On Mar 25, 2020 |
funmercy1: |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by saraki2019(m): 8:52am On Mar 25, 2020 |
vickydankal:explain pls, you might help me. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by tonididdy(m): 8:53am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Definitely this year by Gods grace and courage. I am 32 already btw. I feel I am ready, maybe |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by dododawa1: 8:58am On Mar 25, 2020 |
best time is the coronavirus period,just indoor marriage with less than 10k. |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by vickydankal(f): 9:00am On Mar 25, 2020 |
ordovicianonly: You are correct. I’d wanted to say my view on the reason why early marriage is important, but some people here had made themselves judges as though this is a political debate arena. I had an experience and I am entitled to my own opinion. Is delaying marriage always the best path, though? While getting married young isn’t for everyone, there are actually some distinct benefits to doing so. I believe too much Un-arrange and unbalanced knowledge causes people to be very choosy about marriage. I was raise by a single mum and she taught that a woman should be self dependent. As good as that is if you are not careful to balance that truth, you will become a low key feminist. When you marry late you will understand that there are many things you could do and even get better preference when you are married. We (Women) need a man in our lives. Let me make controversial statement but truthful. A woman job and fulfillment is truely tied to her assistant to her man’s assignment (Vision) This is not to say that without a man you are not fulfilled but to say that there’s a level of favor you release when you come into a man’s live and that feeling is fulfilling . Had I married by 25 by now I would be done with child labor. My advice , look for a place in your life and struck a balance. What do you want and what’s your motivation in life and about marriage. But take it from me, if you wait till 30 and above you will want to get it right, and that feeling of getting it right will make you choosy and years are counting. That’s when you marry for necessity and not love. That’s when you hear all man na man. With less criticism I could share some personal experiences I had for marrying late. In respect to child bearing, marital life, career issues and financial problems not to talk of comparisons that comes with it. Please we are all self isolating. Don’t give me BP. If you curse me I will come to your house and beat you . 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by bigthink(m): 9:04am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Beolly: You must be a funny being for asking that question, do you really think marriage all about age... marriage has to do with mind and mentality maturity |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by bigthink(m): 9:05am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Beolly: You must be a funny being for asking that question, do you really think marriage is all about age... marriage has to do with mind and mentality maturity |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by lanrywalex(m): 9:05am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Mine was 8 years ago, @ age of 28. Then some of my friends said i dnt have sense just because i was staying in a room (lol) but i and my fiancee had vision. Today we are bless with two beautiful girls and a boy, living happily together in a flat, i hang my booth @ 35. Just enjoying ourselves now. My point is, no matter your present situation, do not let that stop you from getting married as you do not know what God have in plan for you. Keep praying while working Hard. You will surely get there. 6 Likes |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by SyrusdeHansome(m): 9:05am On Mar 25, 2020 |
GermanMelania: You're 50% right 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by evil1: 9:06am On Mar 25, 2020 |
ladyGKilaBCrueD: See the reason you gave. There are good Nigerian men out there even on nairaland but the economic conditions won't allow most of us settle down and to make it worst the type of demanding women we have this days worsens the whole deal. I'm looking forward to settling down next year ending. I can bet you if u HV this type of idea, ur marriage will be like Telemundo kind of marriage and will end up in divorce. I would not like to get married either but I found out that with the right person you could enjoy life whether your both rich or poor. How do u do these. 1) her playing the part of been submissive 2) both partners understand each other 3) apologizing on time and never sleeping till another day with a pain or anger in mind. 4) going on vacation with your spouse - yes I have seen couples do that even with less income. 5) knowing each others flaws 6) assisting each other financially, emotionally and mentality 7) never using the other persons weakness as a defense or against the person. Yes we have issues with our partner but These are few things I and my partner talk and plan to do when we get married whether to her or someone else. I guess your not a slay queen and Even at that your not getting married to a stranger except na arrangeee marriage and neither is it not worth it cos marriage to me is good with the right person that understands you, can protect you and defend you likewise same for you. The truth is as a man if ur 30-35 n I'm 40 or 45 n want to get married I will never marry you cos I would be wondering what you were doing during your youthful age. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by NamelessOGBENI(m): 9:11am On Mar 25, 2020 |
vickydankal:We plenty here wey no too sabi anything, abeg shake am... |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by Torie8(f): 9:12am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Maybe when am 23 or 24 which is in a year or two |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by Ginaz(f): 9:13am On Mar 25, 2020 |
funmercy1: Hahaha yes o sis, it can be really annoying I swear. Just last week someone I’ve been talking a lot with on phone told me he is 22. I was shocked to my bones, we never talked about age till that fateful day, I stopped picking his calls cos he’s too small for me . He looks 26-28 facially . The struggle no be here especially when they treat you like a kid cos you have a young look . 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by vickydankal(f): 9:13am On Mar 25, 2020 |
saxxyb: I wanted to throw the home training of my mum and give you the insult of your life, but nah I won’t come to your level. Why call me insane when I’m entitled to my opinion. Can’t you intelligently air your view without throwing stones? I believe you have understanding to know there are differences to working and pursuing career. The first is a working class lady who earns her salary etc The second is a working class who determined that no marriage until She is the director, PhD holder, regional manager etc this is what we call career . I have been working years way before but starting pursuing career when I was already comfortable for marriage in every wise, and this I’m still paying for it some how. 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by ladyGKilaBCrueD(f): 9:17am On Mar 25, 2020 |
Hon I won’t want to get married to a 40-45 year old man either because that tells me he is grossly irresponsible and trifling evil1: 1 Like |
Re: Mention The Year You Will Like To Get Married And At What Age by ehix89(m): 9:23am On Mar 25, 2020 |
smiliyB:Good morning and hope you're observing the sit at home instruction. How do i reach you outside this platform by the way. |
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