crackkhaus:

That beg she didn't want to beg since, she go beg am now... excessively

He has left the house she's paying the rent for.
And you can't accuse a father of kidnapping his own daughter.

Maybe her supporters can come together to help her seek justice.

obakovich:

Abi oooo. And if he tenders her writing here as she say her pikin na thief. The unborn child sef e go take am

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

Omar09:


You are sick in the head! Your husband has as much right as you do to your kids I mean the ones he had with you. You are now playing victim at what you started.

Well I blame men who give single mothers a chance to talk like they had right. In a saner society, so long as you had children without a man to call yours, whether through divorce or baby mama shit unless death, you do not have right to speak in public. I hope your husband learns his lesson.

Men out there, we do not hate you when we tell you never to marry a single mom. Most of you out there who think it's okay to marry single mom just like me were raised by a single mom. And I will not because mom raised me alone with my dad alive and does not care about me marry a single mom. It just doesn't work. It is better to start with someone on same pace than with someone who's got a head start. It is always their kids before any new man. Hell it's always their kids before their biological father let alone a step dad. My mom never remarried do you know why? It's cause of us! She didn't want us to be with another man as a father! She wanted us to be for her, we were her closure.

To you Vivian, that prayer will backfire if your hands aren't clean, so you better stop it, swallow your pride and call your husband and stop victimizing your husband. He's done nothing wrong. Like you brought your kids into your home without his consent, he's taken his kids without yours. So in a subtle word, FVCK OFF!

ableguy:

Women always claiming victim

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

Afrosage:
@Op..no matter what anyone says or does just know that you are one courageous woman.You did something so many people couldn't have done...you risked doing it alone all over again for the second time cos of your child, you are good mom dear and God will bless you...take solace in that.
He made promises to you and he broke them ....who writes off on a 12year old,not like he is a convicted hardened criminal.He is a little boy for crissake (probably acting out) and still in his formative years and can be taught better...some of us did worse at that age and was never abandoned so why does she get to abandon her baby, why should we expect that of her? just so she would stay married? just so she wouldn't be single or be judged, mocked and condemned just cos she choose her son over everything...lols.
And those saying she should beg and all sort of things...okay...lets assumed she begged, and begged..and kept begging and the man refused vehemently..what would you have her do?
lets say she was your mum and your were the little boy, you would have grown up ecstatic knowing that your mom bundled you away to relatives or to people that never wanted you in the first place just so she could keep a man when she could have comfortably taken care of you. The kind of man that doesn't have the slightest human decency to accommodate a little boy with no where else to go......God give us kids to look after them,nurture them, make sacrifices for them e.t.c and nothing whatsoever should stop us from doing that OP....it might look and feel like hell right now but doing the right thing is never easy. Dnt mind those gloating, Time takes care of everything.

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

crackkhaus:

Next time, when people with sense are giving you advise, you will pay attention.

I hate to gloat, but I'm probably the only one on this thread who has been asking you for an update all this while, and that entire time, these silly women who are all about a fantasy life have been going on & on with their infantile rants.

When some of us were telling you to ONLY make a move with the approval of your hubby, beg if possible until he changes his mind, you chose to go with the twerps here telling you the opposite all because you dey pay rent.

Enjoy your rent na and call them to come cry with you please..perhaps some can send you a PM so they can use their influence to help you find a way to get your daughter back.

I can't pity you, sorry.

I see one of them is still busy displaying idiocy, even after your latest update.

Who the gods want to destroy, they first make mad.

Life is not a fantasy or movie you can just write to suit your ideals, and it will teach you lots how to be sensible las las.

Ishilove:
Op, ignore the insults of the ignorant ones here and get family and the law involved. He is the father of the girl but he has no business taking away that child from you. I'm not sorry to say that you married an idiot of the first order.

Madam fight for your children. When you are old and grey they will be the one to cover you. Don't give up. Fight.

CAPSLOCKED:

by the time this one learns her lessons, e go don late. she took the advice of these women on this thread, most which have never been married?
when all world women know how to do best is destroy other women's marriages and relationships?
the olodo say she's been praying all night, asking God to deal with her husband.
this thing called LOVE is not in this person's dictionary and I realized it from the first day she came here to complain. e nogo hard her to give the man rat poison chop. tufia!

Winneygirl:
I followed this thread from the beginning.
They had not reached a compromise. She told the man that her son was more important than him. She said he was acting childish.
Then she goes and brings the child to the house, a house they share, without his approval.
No one is asking that she abandons her child. Together, they could have decided where to put the child.
But she confronted the matter like a bull, going head first, and now she is wailing naked at night, trying to place inconsequential curses on him that would not hold water.

How much longer should she continue to beg him, after pleading with him for weeks, that her son is in danger of being thrown out of her relative's house? Is the so-called husband, a god?

It takes two people willing to reach a common ground, to arrive at a compromise.

obakovich:

Hope you know he is reading this where she said her son is a thief
If she decides to go hard na she go loose well,no judge will see a single mother whose husband over looked all and still took her in as a bad person

obakovich:

You think its easy to take another mans kid moreover a boy?? From her words you can tell she might have been rubbing it in his face that she is shouldering his responsibilities. Cases like this you beg the man and make him see reasons. You said she did well now he has gone with the girl and will come for the unborn boy too

ableguy:

God bless you for telling her the truth, all those people misleading her will not be there to assist her ooo.
She was forcing everything on the man and expect him to swallow it anyhow, she turned the whole thing to war and it have become war so she should be ready for the consequences.
I always knew the husband will react

obakovich:
I tell her for here oooo. All the women dey advice her to go ahead. She said her son steals, who will leave his daughter and unborn son with a thief
She ought to have begged him at night and explain to him how her son will suffer. After then talk to her son to change his ways. Rather she halla say she dey feed am

veykey:
I just read someone's post now on Nairaland and the person ended with not all women are mothers. I'm dumbfounded by the man's action and I know most guys here will support him but it isn't fair. Probably, his friends or comments that were written, made him decide to "man up" to the detriment of his family. I don't see why a 12-year old boy whose only fault is being borne out of wedlock should cause a man to harden his heart. There's always two sides to every story but he's going too far. Nothing beats a mother's love. My advice is just take it easy, look after the kids you're with, let go of your anger and pray. At least you're sure he's taking good care of his daughter and the other kids are being looked after by you. Don't make the kids think they're the reason for the ongoing predicament and once again pray. It's well with you.

crackkhaus:

Next time, when people with sense are giving you advise, you will pay attention.

I hate to gloat, but I'm probably the only one on this thread who has been asking you for an update all this while, and that entire time, these silly women who are all about a fantasy life have been going on & on with their infantile rants.

When some of us were telling you to ONLY make a move with the approval of your hubby, beg if possible until he changes his mind, you chose to go with the twerps here telling you the opposite all because you dey pay rent.

Enjoy your rent na and call them to come cry with you please..perhaps some can send you a PM so they can use their influence to help you find a way to get your daughter back.

I can't pity you, sorry.

I see one of them is still busy displaying idiocy, even after your latest update.

Who the gods want to destroy, they first make mad.

Life is not a fantasy or movie you can just write to suit your ideals, and it will teach you lots how to be sensible las las.

If that same boy turns into a criminal tomorrow, because his mother abandoned him, it is evil people like you that will clap hands and judge her for being a bad mother!!

Richy4:
I can just imagine what that boy will be thinking and going through at the moment psychologically

... he might be thinking that his mother is alive yet he was living as if she was dead... She prefer the other siblings and no one loves him
--- that might even be the reason why he was acting out the way he was doing.
---Try and sit your husband down and explain things to him in a cordial and rational way. if not, you gonna have a 'damaged Adult Young Man" in future with excess baggage.. Who might become a threat to the society. This is the right time to shape him.. he might be the pillar of your household some day.. tell your man not to right him off.. It is still early..

If your man was being unreasonable, then swallow your pride and send him to his own biological dad... Make out time and visit him every fortnight.. It's better instead of him being homeless or a street kid

Omar09:
You are sick in the head! Your husband has as much right as you do to your kids I mean the ones he had with you. You are now playing victim at what you started.

Well I blame men who give single mothers a chance to talk like they had right. In a saner society, so long as you had children without a man to call yours, whether through divorce or baby mama shit unless death, you do not have right to speak in public. I hope your husband learns his lesson.

Men out there, we do not hate you when we tell you never to marry a single mom. Most of you out there who think it's okay to marry single mom just like me were raised by a single mom. And I will not because mom raised me alone with my dad alive and does not care about me marry a single mom. It just doesn't work. It is better to start with someone on same pace than with someone who's got a head start. It is always their kids before any new man. Hell it's always their kids before their biological father let alone a step dad. My mom never remarried do you know why? It's cause of us! She didn't want us to be with another man as a father! She wanted us to be for her, we were her closure.

To you Vivian, that prayer will backfire if your hands aren't clean, so you better stop it, swallow your pride and call your husband and stop victimizing your husband. He's done nothing wrong. Like you brought your kids into your home without his consent, he's taken his kids without yours. So in a subtle word, FVCK OFF!

ornicus:
95% of the time, any child who is not living with his parents will be treated like a second class human being. it does not matter if it is blood relatives he is living with. please get your son out of there before they destroy his life completely.

worworbabe:
So you mean that the family has more right to the Child than his own Mother?

The best person to care for a child is his own Mother. She is not dead, why would she move him to relatives who would end up maltreating him?

How many people even want to take another person's child in at this time and age? If you are thinking about the wellbeing of this child, you won't have this thought.

CAPSLOCKED:
by the time this one learns her lessons, e go don late. she took the advice of these women on this thread, most which have never been married?
when all world women know how to do best is destroy other women's marriages and relationships?
the olodo say she's been praying all night, asking God to deal with her husband.
this thing called LOVE is not in this person's dictionary and I realized it from the first day she came here to complain. e nogo hard her to give the man rat poison chop. tufia!

CeterisXVII:


See this irrational cretin! What manner of useless advice is this one?!

Did anyone hold a gun to the head of the man to marry a single mother with 2 kids? Didn't he see those kids there, living with her in her house, before agreeing to marry her?

Didn't he promise he had accepted them, BEFORE he even married her, set? Didn't he agree that both kids will love with them after marriage?

He could have gone ahead to marry a single girl without any kids, if he didn't want to be bothered by a single mother's children.

Or was he blind and couldn't see single girls without any kids, to marry? Tell us, o!

Omar09:


No one held a gun to his head! If you read well, you'd see where I wrote I blame the man for marrying a single mom. They had an agreement, it was broken by the man, not fair! But then should she because she's the financial pillar do things without the approval of her husband? Even tho her husband refused, she should have used the same manipulative skill she used on him to get married to him, why choose to be autocratic?

You make the bed, you lie on it.

ambient:


In your write up you said single mother have no right to talk,can you explain that sentence?