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how long will they keep fighting when an armistice is a better option?
truth without bias be told, many people on this thread are too dull. and they're failing this duller woman with their evil advice.

Omar09:


Those who had children out of wedlock should not talk but bow their heads in shame.

But hell! Today's men wanna give them crown!

CeterisXVII:

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Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

Ishilove:

80% of those gloating are not even married not to talk having kids so it is not hard for them to 'advice' her to abandon her son when he needs her the most because of one idiot somewhere. Any man that wants to come between me and the child(ren) I birthed in blood, tears and agony, let the spirit of scrotal elephantiasis locate him by fire.

Mscheeeeeeeew

Afromentalist:

I now understand those who say single moms should be avoided at all costs. The husband will never have priority over the child from the other relationship.

I though it was a joke, but we can now see it live and direct. Thank you Ish.ilove

crackkhaus:

At all available costs...

Also take note:
It's these same women on the thread who preach that no one can come between them and their children that will also turn around to cry blood when their mother-in-law goes the extra length to make sure they don't come between her and the son she birthed in tears, blood, and agony.

OneChanceTaxi:

Well, the irony

Omar09:


Those who had children out of wedlock should not talk but bow their heads in shame.

But hell! Today's men wanna give them crown!

I DON'T KNOW WHY MADAM 70% IS EVEN LOOKING FOR MARRIAGE. FOR HER TO NEGOTIATE WITH A HUSBAND WAS SO HARD, BUT GOING NAKED NOW AND SWEARING FOR HIM IS ABC. THIS IS HOW TO RECOGNIZE EVIL PEOPLE, AND FROM THE FIRST DAY SHE DROPPED HER COMPLAINTS WITH "STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN, I DO THIS, I HAVE MONEY, THIS, THOSE" I KNEW THAT MAN WAS IN CHAOS.
TO EVEN TELL THE MAN THAT HER CHILD IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEIR MARRIAGE IS ENOUGH FOR HIM TO PACK AND GO. BUT NO. HE'LL EVEN BEG TO STAY. I JUST TIRE.
LIKE I ONCE SAID. GETTING MARRIED TO AN SM IS AN EASY TASK. BUT HOW DOES SHE BEHAVE?
I NO FIT BEAR THIS KIND DRAMA. MINOR ISSUES SHE DON BEGIN POST HER CHILD FOR STATUS "MY WORLD". "MY ALL". "THE ONLY MAN IN MY LIFE". SHE'S FLAUNTING HER "ASSETS" WHILE YOU'RE BY THE CORNER FINDING A WAY TO MAKE PEACE.

Winneygirl:


Should the men who had children out of wedlock bow their heads in shame too?
I just want to know how this works

Afrosage:
@Op..no matter what anyone says or does just know that you are one courageous woman.You did something so many people couldn't have done...you risked doing it alone all over again for the second time cos of your child, you are a good mom dear and God will bless you...take solace in that.
He made promises to you and he broke them ....who writes off on a 12year old,not like he is a convicted hardened criminal.He is a little boy for crissake (probably acting out) and still in his formative years and can be taught better...some of us did worse at that age and was never abandoned so why does she get to abandon her baby, why should we expect that of her? just so she would stay married? just so she wouldn't be single or be judged, mocked and condemned just cos she choose her son over everything...lols.
And those saying she should beg and all sort of things...okay...lets assumed she begged, and begged..and kept begging and the man refused vehemently..what would you have her do?
lets say she was your mum and your were the little boy, you would have grown up ecstatic knowing that your mom bundled you away to relatives or to people that never wanted you in the first place just so she could keep a man when she could have comfortably taken care of you. The kind of man that doesn't have the slightest human decency to accommodate a little boy with no where else to go......God give us kids to look after them,nurture them, make sacrifices for them e.t.c and nothing whatsoever should stop us from doing that OP....it might look and feel like hell right now but doing the right thing is never easy. Dnt mind those gloating, Time takes care of everything.

Afromentalist:

I now understand those who say single moms should be avoided at all costs. The husband will never have priority over the child from the other relationship.

OneChanceTaxi:
It finally ended in tears and crying naked at midnight.

Thanks he is the one that should leave because I just renewed the rent for six months this January no way I will leave the house for him.

SO WHY SWEARING NAKED WHEN HE FINALLY LEFT AS EXPECTED?
NONSENSE VICTIM MENTALITY.
THE MAN SEF NA PURE MUGU.
TO RECOVER HIS LOSS HE CAN DO WELL BY SELLING THE DAUGHTER FOR A TOKEN. AT ALL AT ALL.

Ishilove:

The op didn't even have the kids out of wedlock but from a previous marriage that didn't work out.

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WITH HER 70% MENTALITY, WHY DON'T SHE STAY SINGLE? SHE WILL GET MARRIED 50 TIMES AND NONE WILL WORK OUT.

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

Ishilove:


The man came to the marriage with his preek and that is what he is contributing to the marriage, nothing else. Why shouldn't she beat her chest that she is mostly the breadwinner in a union where the man is supposed to be the head?

The way some people reason amazes me

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I DON'T KNOW WHY MADAM 70% IS EVEN LOOKING FOR MARRIAGE. FOR HER TO NEGOTIATE WITH A HUSBAND WAS SO HARD, BUT GOING NAKED NOW AND SWEARING FOR HIM IS ABC. THIS IS HOW TO RECOGNIZE EVIL PEOPLE, AND FROM THE FIRST DAY SHE DROPPED HER COMPLAINTS WITH "STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN, I DO THIS, I HAVE MONEY, THIS, THOSE" I KNEW THAT MAN WAS IN CHAOS.
TO EVEN TELL THE MAN THAT HER CHILD IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEIR MARRIAGE IS ENOUGH FOR HIM TO PACK AND GO. BUT NO. HE'LL EVEN BEG TO STAY. I JUST TIRE.
LIKE I ONCE SAID. GETTING MARRIED TO AN SM IS AN EASY TASK. BUT HOW DOES SHE BEHAVE?
I NO FIT BEAR THIS KIND DRAMA. MINOR ISSUES SHE DON BEGIN POST HER CHILD FOR STATUS "MY WORLD". "MY ALL". "THE ONLY MAN IN MY LIFE". SHE'S FLAUNTING HER "ASSETS" WHILE YOU'RE BY THE CORNER FINDING A WAY TO MAKE PEACE.

Winneygirl:


Should the men who had children out of wedlock bow their heads in shame too?
I just want to know how this works

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YOU HAVE ARRIVED AT THE CONCLUSION FROM A SMALL CORNER OF YOUR HOUSE?
YOU SHOULD BE MORE AMAZED WITH THE WAY YOU REASON, IT'S EVEN EMBARRASSING TRYING TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU.

oyoolima:
From what I gather,she's swearing and crying because the man left with her other child NOT because he left so I don't understand what people are saying abi they're trying to twist the story?

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

Omar09:


Does the men who get children out of wedlock find it difficult to get married too?

I just wanna know how this works.

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

oyoolima:
From what I gather,she's swearing and crying because the man left with her other child NOT because he left so I don't understand what people are saying abi they're trying to twist the story?

Ishilove:

The op didn't even have the kids out of wedlock but from a previous marriage that didn't work out. What I've been reading on this thread thus far is nauseating. My skin is crawling.

Winneygirl:


It is his daughter too.
When you were talking about "you and your children", did you forget that the child does not belong to you alone?
Why are you crying naked at midnight?
You said you were willing to sacrifice your marriage for your children.
He is willing to sacrifice the marriage for his child too.
You are not the victim here.
He is the victim.
You cannot do as you please just because you earn money.
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You say he is on nairaland. He has been seeing your posts here on nairaland saying that your children are more important than your marriage.
Well, his child is more important than the marriage.
Stop following the wrong advise here on nairaland. Do what you should have done from the onset. Put sentiments aside and call for a meeting.
Communication and compromise.

Afrosage:
Like eeh, most of these comments are just heart wrenching. I wonder if their parents hadn't put them first in everything if they would be here now typing shit.
A mother's love is unconditional, a good mother can literally walk through fire and take on the whole world for her children talk less of one single man.
This issue shouldn't even be up for a debate, I don't know why she even brought it here. She already made the sacrifice of leaving that boy where he wasn't really wanted cos of house issues( and there are some women that would have insisted that the boy should live in that small house with them too)but she compromised and now they have moved to a bigger house and he can't compromise....even if he couldn't do it for the woman he married and claimed to love at least he should have done it for the little boy who desperately needs his mother and has nowhere else to go.
I wonder if the bashers have taken just a minute to think about that helpless boy that has nobody but his mum, a boy that has already being labelled a thief at 11, how has he been coping, how does his little mind process all these....its not fair to him....any decision taken should be in the child's best interest and not the adults....Damn

Pemivy01:
OP wipe away your tears and trust in God. I want you to know that you did the right thing by not not abandoning your child.

ornicus:
all the hypocrites abusing single mothers - i hope you all know it takes two to make a child - put your dicks in your pants ans stop going raw.