Afrosage:

A mother's love is unconditional, a good mother can literally walk through fire and take on the whole world for her children talk less of one single man.
This issue shouldn't even be up for a debate, I don't know why she even brought it here. She already made the sacrifice of leaving that boy where he wasn't really wanted cos of house issues( and there are some women that would have insisted the boy should live in that small house with them too)but she compromised and now they have moved to a bigger house and he can't compromise....even if he couldn't do it for the woman he married and claimed to love at least he should have done it for the little boy who desperately needs his mother and has nowhere else to go.
I wonder if the bashers have taken just a minute to think about that helpless boy that has nobody but his mum, a boy that has already being labelled a thief at 11, how has he been coping, how does his little mind process all these....its not fair to him....any decision taken should be in the child's best interest and not the adults....Damn

Afromentalist:

we are not abusing them. They are abusing themselves. Just read what they are writing here.

How can you marry a lady that claims her children from another man will have priority over you? Who wants that kind of an ungrateful wife? If her child is so important, why come trouble my life in the name of love when the child can give all the love she wants.

Say no to single moms or live to regret it all your life. From now on, na to Bleep them and move on.

A word is enough for a mentalist.

oyoolima:
From what I gather,she's swearing and crying because the man left with her other child NOT because he left so I don't understand what people are saying abi they're trying to twist the story?

Madam you made the right decision by sticking up for your child.Your husband also did well by leaving as he would have re traumatized your son with his behaviour.

While he reneged on your agreement,at least it is obvious to you that he cannot love your son.It's not his fault that he cannot ,he is not obligated to so perhaps it is in your best interest for him to find his own way than live with him causing irreparable damage to the boy.

Adults should keep their issues away from children.

Why are you leaving everything to God instead of going through the court? I don't really understand this way of thinking.You should be able to see your other child or you risk her thinking you abandoned her.

I don't understand why people remarry.You have money,you have child,why marry again?

Companionship can be bought or can be on part time basis to scratch certain itches.

A child did not ask to be brought into this world,every parent worth their salt knows this.

It is very dangerous to have a spouse who views a child as a competitor for attention. Children have their place,spouses have their place.Till a child grows up fully,it is reasonable for their interests to be put above yours as a parent to a certain extent until a balance is struck.


Nawa

CeterisXVII:


The lousy husband reneged in his earlier promises, and decided to be wicked to the woman and her son, by refusing to let the boy into the house. There is God!

Afromentalist:

[s]baba you have no case.

They made a deal, but did the deal mention that the boy is a thief ? when there is a change in circumstances, there should be renegotiations. The boy is a thief, and there could be little hope that he changes.

Has the husband refused to take the daughter too? the fact that he took the daugther which is not his signifies that he nas no issue with taking her children, but his particular issue is with the boy. Moreoever, she openly and unapologetically claims that the husband will never have priority over the son. Then the game is over. Noboy wants to marry a daughter of jezebel who only think about her own interest and cant respect the husband.

That lady is unfit to be called a wife. She is arrogant and stubborn, maybe because she has some money.

She shoud now get married to her money[/s].

ornicus:
you better wake up to reality, small boy. once your wife has a child, her priorities will change. once any reasonable human being has a child, their priorities change. i said reasonable, because some people will have a child and think they can still continue life as before

Vyvyanvyvy:

He didn’t do anything to him when we got home he was in the parlour watching tv and my son greeted him he stares at him and didn’t respond back. When my son was playing with both his sisters he tried to keep our 2 years old daughter away from him he took her to the bedroom and locked the door I decided not to say anything because I knew he wouldn’t keep away from him for long because he won’t take her to work with him and after like an hour my baby was crying to go in the parlour because she wanted to be with me and her siblings so he let her in and locked himself in the room. I decided to ignore his childish behaviour and slept in the same room with my children. Nothing bad has happened really

Afromentalist:
Moreoever, she openly and unapologetically claims that the husband will never have priority over the son. Then the game is over. Noboy wants to marry a daughter of jezebel who only think about her own interest and cant respect the husband.

That lady is unfit to be called a wife. She is arrogant and stubborn, maybe because she has some money.

She shoud now get married to her money.

Afromentalist:

Hey you simp, if the priority of MY wife is MY child, then I can tolerate that. MY child is an extension of ME.

If the priority of MY wife, is SOMEONE ELSE's child, then she should go and marry that SOMEONE ELSE or STAY ALONE WITH HER CHILD that is her priority.

Second, the day my wife relegates me to the background, is the day I will be free to go and find another woman who will give me priority. Women are not a scarce resource.

Now you can continue a be a simp and beta for life and remain a woman wrapper, I dont really care. Some of us are bosses, and don't accept foolish women. We only Bleep them and delete their numbers afterwards.

ornicus:
thank you for proving exactly what i said - you are nothing but a Bleep boy driven by his prick. better find your way to the sexuality section. small boy. you think life is nothing more than fking.

this is your aspiration - an absentee sperm donor. small wonder. internet alpha male. hopefully you will grow up shed this juvenile childishness and lean what it really is to be a man

Afromentalist:

You are very stupid

At what point did I talk about fucking? Are you not the one that is sex deprived here? So priority to you means bleeping ? You should try and get laid, there is more to life than sex!

I am talking abour respect, attention, care and yes fucking! This lady decides on her own to bring her son and openly confesses that her son is more important than her husband. It is an insult, and I will not take any insult from those daughter of Jezebel.

If she is not ready to respect me and compromize, let her find her way out with her children. If her priority is the children of an absentee father, let her meet that father and marry him! If she wants to marry me, she must respect me and give me priority over anyone else.

Afromentalist:

is the child not his child too? Did he take a child that is not his?

When will you women stop this egoistical mentality ?

oyoolima:


Are you bothered because I said the OP isn't concerned that the man left?
She said it in her write up,I didn't.
How is that a bad thing?
She went nak ed because he left with her daughter.
I guess in her list of priorities,his leaving the house doesn't rank highly.

I don't understand why it is important to you that she is in pain because he left the house?

It is what it is.

Afromentalist:

I am not concerned dearie, I could not care less.

What I am saying is that, the OP has as much right to take the daughter as she is. He is the father of the child too.

Concerning her love for her husband, it is clearly not high, she was likely a desperate evening newspaper looking for a mugu to marry her and endure the havoc that made her first husband to run away in the first place. Eyes don clear, mugu don wise up and ran for him life. I can't blame him. He waited too much sef

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

crackkhaus:

At all available costs...

Also take note:
It's these same women on the thread who preach that no one can come between them and their children that will also turn around to cry blood when their mother-in-law goes the extra length to make sure they don't come between her and the son she birthed in tears, blood, and agony.

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

CeterisXVII:

Which dirty husband's relative? Can you guarantee that they will take him in?

Do you know the condition of those relatives, and if they can afford to cope with an additional person in their homes?

Did these relatives ever look for this woman and her kids, to check on their welfare? What if the boy turns into a criminal, while staying with those relatives?

Her current husband is just being totally selfish and cruel. He had an ulterior motive, for marrying her. A person that truly loves you will see your problems, as his own and will be looking for ways to help you solve it.

There are many men who take care of extended family members and even send them to school under their roof, without asking for any payback. Those kids grow up respecting them, and even taking care of them, in old age.

So what is the big deal, in this case? The boy is NOT a parcel to be thrown about like an unwanted garbage. His mother is still alive and wants to take care of him. She should NOT be denied that right.

Acidosis:

God won't answer this prayer. The decision to take your child in without his consent is not intelligent. The only man that will tolerate such on earth is your baby daddy.

Omar09:


No one held a gun to his head! If you read well, you'd see where I wrote I blame the man for marrying a single mom. They had an agreement, it was broken by the man, not fair! But then should she because she's the financial pillar do things without the approval of her husband? Even tho her husband refused, she should have used the same manipulative skill she used on him to get married to him, why choose to be autocratic?

You make the bed, you lie on it.

Graxie:
Madam, this is not the time to pray, put out your daughter pictures on net as a missing child, report to police and all necessary institution. He can not steal a child that is not his.

Afromentalist:

What is wrong with some women?why always egoistic? It is his child too!

Vyvyanvyvy:
A lot of bad things has happened in the past week, my husband and I are no longer together. He has left the house with my 2 years old daughter so I have decided not to take matters into my own hands, have reported him to God to judge and deal with him. I have been praying naked at midnight crying on his name whenever he is he will not have peace nothing shall be well with him until he brings my daughter back. I know he is here and he will be reading. Mark my words

LadySarah:


This boy stole foodoo, not money not a break in just to quench Hunger.If there was food he wouldn't dare it.
90 percent of children do not have good experiences living in relatives homes, how much more a mum alive, capable n willing leaving her Child going through hell.