Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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My dear don’t allow the devil use you against yourself!

You have 95% of what every lady dream of and you want to throw it away for something trivial and temporary? He stays in a rented one bedroom apartment, he isn’t the landlord, he is not squatting with some friend, haba!
He loves you and is honest with you take that is all that matters!
If the plan is marriage, support him to grow in his career or business, the benefits will come back to you in the form of more love and comfort. If it’s not marriage, at least you would have helped your fellow human being. I know so many ladies that have gone the extreme length of giving their man money to pay their bride price(Dude should have borrowed from friends though).

Sister support him! If his a good man like you said, you’ll be better of for doing that.

Have you heard that great song by Cobhams Asuquo Ft Simi titled We Plenti? A part of it says “beans no dey cook forever”

A little patient, a little input, you guys will be fine.

Aside being caring and loving, what are his plans and goals?

More important than all of the aforementioned is a man with a clear set goals and vision. How financially intelligent is he? How hard working is he?


In the end you will find out that without these, love and care will never be enough

You should be more worried about contacting Covid-19

you wanna quit just because he is not living comfortable when he is trying by all mean to keep you nd make u comfortable,remember no condition is permanent its up to you to decide

I stopped reading at the part you wrote: "initially, when i found out, i said i was going to quit"
I want to know the rationale behind this statement??

At your first paragraph, you are the one that showered this same person with encomium due to his qualities and composure. Now you come up with this, Like seriously??

The height of double standard in your post is so glaring and disappointing..


#caLLmeBERG

Lol... Love sometimes is intertwined with infatuations and lust. Have you ever wondered why and how your undying love diminished after sex with the 'love of your life'?

densiks:

You should be more worried about contacting Covid-19

Abiooo. All these fake love stories should be banned for now. What we are facing is a serious issue. May God save us from this monster called covid-19

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSYDbpOuYUE

If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. something came up again, he said how can he have me in the house and we'll be going out to eat? We've been eating out all these while without him complaining, so why complaining now? I told him he doesn't have a kitchen and we can't cook in the room and I can never cook in the passage. I picked my bag and wanted to leave, then he started begging me and he saw me off to my house.I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

So, you only want to come and eat when he has arrived...if he is not doing well and you want to be with him, why not use your support and network to help him get a better job so he can fully move to another place comfortably.

ProtectMyMoney:


So, you only want to come and eat when he has arrived...if he is not doing well and you want to be with him, why not use your support and network to help him get a better job so he can fully move to another place comfortably.

my brother GBAM!

Support him to rent flat na

I'm on an online church now

Bye

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. something came up again, he said how can he have me in the house and we'll be going out to eat? We've been eating out all these while without him complaining, so why complaining now? I told him he doesn't have a kitchen and we can't cook in the room and I can never cook in the passage. I picked my bag and wanted to leave, then he started begging me and he saw me off to my house.I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

oh oh!
that should hurt and open someone's thought procesd

Na dia qualities be dat.

Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

Chisos lol okay. Atleast this isolation is reactivating our subconscious to things that matter.

You self in how many rooms do you live?

proclinician:



Chisos lol okay. Atleast this isolation is reactivating our subconscious to things that matter.

Guys have been doing themselves since Stone age. How can the guy beg her not to go when her only impact in his life is eating his accommodation money. .

Homeboiy:
Support him to rent flat na

I'm on an online church now

Bye

not a good idea and also not advisable depending a number of variables.

not a bad idea and also advisable depending on a number of variables

Ariza:
Guys have been doing themselves since Stone age. How can the guy beg her not to go when her only impact in his life is eating his accommodation money. .

It's all about love. Leonardo Di' Caprio could have saved his life in the Titanic shipwreck but instead switched his life for the lady. I don't want to talk about Jesus Christ. Love look what you made me do. Each day I go to crunches to eat I see a man and a lady on same table and the Lady will be eating food while the man just mopes. Well

cooluzi:
you wanna quit just because he is not living comfortable when he is trying by all mean to keep you nd make u comfortable,remember no condition is permanent its up to you to decide

Yes no condition is permanent but that only works on a hardworking guy with a vision, tho she did not give much details but i dont think hes keen about moving out, which is a problem to her(which shouldnt)
Not all girls like that face to face compound compromising love.

proclinician:


It's all about love. Leonardo Di' Caprio could have saved his life in the Titanic shipwreck but instead switched his life for the lady. I don't want to talk about Jesus Christ. Love look what you made me do. Each day I go to crunches to eat I see a man and a lady on same table and the Lady will be eating food while the man just mopes. Well

Yes... Some Men love sacrificially. You are right.

@ OP, you sound like a lady with a good heart.
My advice: if you feel the need to support him, please do!
Do not let his present predicament to be a barrier to the love you have for him.
Change is a constant!
No condition is permanent, it's just a matter of time, effort, opportunity and God's blessings.

As long as he's making plans to better himself, stick with him, but not blindly.

If after a while, and nothing changes, then feel free to make any drastic decision you deem fit.
For now...be supportive, as long as he isn't deceitful.

Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

Lol...badt mouth

Sincerely speaking, in this time and age, I wouldn't advise anyone to start a family in that condition. You'll end up regretting it.

As per his level, with not up to 30k to start with, OP, you might be wasting your time with such a guy except if you are ready to bear 90% of the cost.

Now, you didn't state the kind of job he does so I'll know if it holds any prospects for the future or you might need to exercise patience until he gets a better job.

If you truly love him and are ready to take the risk and damn the consequence, then go ahead with the relationship. Know that with your frequent sleeping over, belle go soon show. Hmm.. That is when you'll know the importance of comfortability.

NoApology:
Aside being caring and loving, what are his plans and goals?

More important than all of the aforementioned is a man with a clear set goals and vision. How financially intelligent is he? How hard working is he?


In the end you will find out that without these, love and care will never be enough

he's a very hard working person, organized and focused

You don't deserve such a good man...
You deserve those agberos that doesn't have any purpose in life.
The ones that will have no respect or regard for you and would always use u to test their new skills of punching.
If to make money is easy your father would have been a millionaire or a billionaire and you won't be worried about his condition because u would be able to rent a better apartment for him for the so-called love you claim you have for him.
Rubbish!!!

Jewessgratitudd:


Lol...badt mouth

Lol

Ma why did you accuse me of sending you a PM and uploading a picture on ilegend's thread yesterday. That's not a nice stunt to pull on someone you have never had dealings or conversations with. If you wanted my friendship, a quote would have done it all. I'm not pleased with your actions.

Stacyomolola:

Yes no condition is permanent but that only works on a hardworking guy with a vision, tho she did not give much details but i dont think hes keen about moving out, which is a problem to her(which shouldnt)
Not all girls like that face to face compound compromising love.

do u y｀all tink the guy like leaving that way plus how do u knw d guy isnt hardworking,life isnt just fair and its nt abt hardworking its by grace,most ladies are just confuse,i will advice op to leave the poor guy alone nd let him live happily

Where you sef dey stay weh dey make you attract one room men?
Cos I haven't seen one room girls in a while,except when I purposely go after my treasured,sweet 17 uni girls
Up your own game too and leave that vicinity.

proclinician:


It's all about love. Leonardo Di' Caprio could have saved his life in the Titanic shipwreck but instead switched his life for the lady. I don't want to talk about Jesus Christ. Love look what you made me do. Each day I go to crunches to eat I see a man and a lady on same table and the Lady will be eating food while the man just mopes. Well

don't get me started with the nonsense definition of love by Titanic.

this scenario is more incomparable with tatanic .this is about a guy with a lady and a room.so the guy should vacate the room for the girl now